I HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,

[brij 0]

I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.

CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.

CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..

CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....

ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?

ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?

ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?

ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?

ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there

ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.

ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...

CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.

CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.

ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?

ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?

CO: yes..

ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.

ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.

CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.

>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?

ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)

But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?

ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?

ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.

CO: Are u sure?

ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)

ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.

--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....

Here's how it looked to me (MY own opinion only).

1. The CO knows you have relative in US, your mother went there as a tourist/worker whichever it is and got married.. probably adjusted status there. It would look to a regular CO that you are doing the same to escape your life here. Hence, he might think that your relatives 'arranged' this meeting for you to meet this 'cano' so you can be reunited with them.

2. The CO was probably testing you about the website. You should've been wiser and brought a printed copy of both your profile in the said website. Or an early communication of both of you where it can be established that you two met totally on your own ways.

3. You are not denied. Like the person said, PRAY that nothing comes up negative. If what you tell us true (you are not married, this was not arranged by your relative, your relationship is real) then sooner or later they will issue the visa. Be prepared to wait at least a month. Continuously have contact with the embassy or USCIS.

Good luck to you. You are in AR, some embassy would even take 6 months... as far as I know the one in the Phil. works pretty good.

by the way.. my fiance is not "kano" he's a pinoy too...

[TripleG 3]

After reading your account of the interview, it seems like your mom's status really raised the red flag to him. I think he acted very disrespectful and could have handled it alot different. I guess that was his technique, but it sure seems hateful. I met my wife while working in the RP, so I wasn't familiar with the dating sites. After reading your story, I went to filipinaheart to check it out, and you can tell just by the front page without signing up its a dating site. Surely he has interviewed other filipina's that met there fiances from this site and is aware of it. So basically he just used that as a scare tactic. Like others said, your just in review so hang in there. I wouldn't be suprised if you have your visa within a month.

P.S. Good job not crying. Way to stand firm, that took guts.

Wyatt

[brij 0]

After reading your account of the interview, it seems like your mom's status really raised the red flag to him. I think he acted very disrespectful and could have handled it alot different. I guess that was his technique, but it sure seems hateful. I met my wife while working in the RP, so I wasn't familiar with the dating sites. After reading your story, I went to filipinaheart to check it out, and you can tell just by the front page without signing up its a dating site. Surely he has interviewed other filipina's that met there fiances from this site and is aware of it. So basically he just used that as a scare tactic. Like others said, your just in review so hang in there. I wouldn't be suprised if you have your visa within a month.

P.S. Good job not crying. Way to stand firm, that took guts.

Wyatt

Thanks for the support Wyatt.

And yes I guess that CO didn't just want me in anyway to talk more. Maybe .. he tried his best to intimidate me.. but you know I almost did cry. But my daughter was there and I didn'l like her to have this impression that her mom is being harassed by an american. And my daughter might be scared of him as well. Actually, my daughter did understand that this guy hates her mom. She even told me this morning.. "mom, that guy is a monkey. why did he talk toyou that way? Do you know him mom? Im scared of him."

See, it's not only me who was traumatized ...

[brij 0]

well... i hope i can sway my mind into a more positive outlook.. but right now.. geez so hard.... even my fiance got severe headache after hearing these things.. more work for him too. I hope it'll be worth the wait as others said earlier.. but what if you wait for long then.. at the end.. denied.. whoa.. then you appeal.. meaning lots and lots of work .. time ..effort and MONEY. :crying:

[paris2011 0]

well... i hope i can sway my mind into a more positive outlook.. but right now.. geez so hard.... even my fiance got severe headache after hearing these things.. more work for him too. I hope it'll be worth the wait as others said earlier.. but what if you wait for long then.. at the end.. denied.. whoa.. then you appeal.. meaning lots and lots of work .. time ..effort and MONEY. :crying:

I think your case will be okay...they took your passport and its a good thing =) Divert your attention to other things..focus on your relationship.. continue to do the things that both of you do before - have a date, an online date. =) My fiance and I watch the same movie together while on the phone (with the popcorn, fries etc,and lights off =)..just to feel the movie theathre atmosphere) We eat together while on skype. Mushy =) but these things makes the waiting time bearable. Have more fun with your fiance, and soon the visa will be on your hand =)

[brij 0]

I think your case will be okay...they took your passport and its a good thing =) Divert your attention to other things..focus on your relationship.. continue to do the things that both of you do before - have a date, an online date. =) My fiance and I watch the same movie together while on the phone (with the popcorn, fries etc,and lights off =)..just to feel the movie theathre atmosphere) We eat together while on skype. Mushy =) but these things makes the waiting time bearable. Have more fun with your fiance, and soon the visa will be on your hand =)

I hope so. Well, as of now.. me and my fiance both are stressed. We couldnt even tell jokes for now. And we both barely smile on cam. But he is more optimistic than me. And telling me that we'll get over this. In fact, his giving me enough courage. But my heart as of the moment is in pain. YEAH<ONLY PRAYERS AND MIRACLES CAN SAVE US.

[brij 0]

To those who experienced same thing.. pls tell me more about it.

Thanks

[Gumbolette 58]

I'm sorry about the whole interview experience.

I don't know if that consul was the little chubby, because if he was, I have heard that he really does scrutinize peeps.

IMHO, You, having your mom and brother here in States really raised a red flag especially when your mom has a US cit husband.

Some takes like a month or two to be out of AP. Just keep your hopes high.

[The_Sage1 2]

I met my fiance on Filipina Heart...I am sure there are others here that went through the USEM that met on Filipina Heart as well. That consulate doesn't know what he's talking about . It's just a dating site.

[liraC 2]

The CO sometimes are really mean,i got 221g also during my interview just only because my fiancé now my husband has 2 kids from same woman, and have their custody.She was asking me a statement from my fiance/husband about the story behind of why having 2 kids the same woman and never been married...Just keep on praying!!!

[one...two...tree 2,762]

I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.

CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.

CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..

CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....

ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?

ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?

ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?

ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?

ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there

ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.

ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...

CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.

CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.

ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?

ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?

CO: yes..

ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.

ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.

CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.

>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?

ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)

But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?

ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?

ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.

CO: Are u sure?

ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)

ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.

--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....

Ok, brij - in my opinion, you should NOT have argued with the CO about his knowledge of filipinaheart.com. He more than likely is telling the truth, at least from his perspective, that they have had many fraud cases from that site. You should have replied in defense of your specific experience with the website - how long you were you a member before you met your fiance, how many other men did you correspond with, how long was your fiance a member, why he chose that site, his past experiences with relationships. For example - he tried unsuccessfully dating local women and decided to give international dating a try...or he is interesting in meeting people from other cultures. You would just need to be honest as to why the both of you decided to search for a partner that way.

I know it's a bit too late for you, but for anyone who might read this who hasn't yet had your interview - you are going into that interview to convince the CO that your relationship is real and sincere and you can't do that by just sticking with cold hard facts...you need to tell them the LOVE STORY between you two, the circumstances that brought you together...in a way that shows an emotional element to the relationship.

By becoming defensive of filipinaheart.com website, you put the CO in a bad mood which probably led to him suggesting that you had your relatives connect you with your fiance.

It's important for any couples who've met through such dating sites to really give the CO a heartfelt background as to what was so special between the two of you. And if the CO says he's seen a lot of fraud from the site you met from, you just say what your genuine experience was like.

In spite of your combativeness with the CO, it sounds like they're just going to review your case further before granting you a visa. Take a deep breath, relax and wait to hear the results...and then let this be a learning experience for your next interview (whether it be for a job, or with the immigration officer at your POE).

[Nelly228 0]

As a few others have asked? Did they keep your Passport? If they did, then you need to give them what they want. The white slip should say what is needed....

As I stated earlier.. they didnt put anything. The white paper.. which is a size of the whole bond paper...

they just check

_ WAIT UNTIL YOU HEAR FROM US....

no check at all above.. they didnt put check what doc/docs.. as in nothing... that's why im confused now.. and left super clueless

hi, i had a white paper before too..no check in any box with "wait until you hear from us" and i was approved. they just need to check your documents.. that is what my CO said to me after my intertview. dont worry..you will be approve..enjoy christmas with your family while you are there. Good luck.

Really Nelly? I hope you can share with me your experience with this. How long did you wait for their letter?

i got my visa and passport after 2 months because i was not be able to pay the "docs. verification fee". i had no idea during that time that i need to pay for it. so, it toke 2 months for me. try to call them if they still allow applicant to contact them. before only the petitioner is allowed to call, pero ako mismo tumatawag swerte ko nalang sinasagot nila ako kasi minsan di ka nila i-intertain. advice mo nalang fiance mo to call them. mabait sila pag petitioner ang mag follow-up. good luck to u. dont worry too much..just pray..ako nag novena ako sa lahat ng mga santo...kaya answered prayer lahat. tc.

[sweet angel 5]

I'll add u in my prayers sis.God will always be with u.Just keep ur faith on Him.Godbless!

[SuperDuper! 230]

I met my fiance on Filipina Heart...I am sure there are others here that went through the USEM that met on Filipina Heart as well. That consulate doesn't know what he's talking about . It's just a dating site.

I agree. FH is just another widely used dating site. And if you put up a thread about it, im sure you would get many responses from people who met using it, and never were questioned about it at embassy interview.

Hope they give you an answer soon.

[joe_guillen 0]

Dont worry for now we had our interview 9/25/09 and was put on AR, and was approved 12/21/09. I think it is to soon to contact senators, but I will give you the fax #s for the fraud unit. I faxed everyday after the month the USEM told us to wait. AR happens everyday, I know it is easy for me or anyone else to say "dont worry" We too felt the sameway when it happen to us....but it is not as bad as it is.....