I HAD NO CLUE WHAT THE CONSUL'S DECISION WAS.. I JUST HAD MY INTERVIEW TODAY. I GOT HUMILIATED...,

[SuperDuper! 230]

How is your Petitioner's Job and financial situation. When My girl had interview this week, the AFfidavit of Support was the only thing they asked for, besides Pinay ID docs of cenomar, NBI and BC. Does he have a record of stable income? THis is the first thing USEM looks at.

[movingsoon2 0]

Brij, I am sorry to hear your experience. Just think, you have a wonderful, caring fiance who will fight for you in this. that is what it's all about. The visa will arrive. Stay strong.

[brij 0]

I know how you feel,just keep on praying and hope it wont take so long!!!i was in the same situation before..

So what's your experience about this?

[brij 0]

GUYS, I DONT KNOW WHAT A SENATOR IS? CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME THIS? SO I CAN TELL MY FIANCE ABOUT CALLING THE SENATOR.

[Dennis&Dane 0]

GUYS, I DONT KNOW WHAT A SENATOR IS? CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME THIS? SO I CAN TELL MY FIANCE ABOUT CALLING THE SENATOR.

just ask your fiance' to contact his U.S. senator or congressman.. He will know who they are or he can find out easy enough..

You dont need to know who they are really.. but a senator or congressman is an elected official that is a lawmaker in the US..

Dont worry.. If you just maintain telling the truth and supply them with all the docs that they might request then there should be no problem... and even if you do get denied there is still an appeal process so dont give up hope!

Good luck!

[abbynorm2 0]

GUYS, I DONT KNOW WHAT A SENATOR IS? CAN SOMEBODY TELL ME THIS? SO I CAN TELL MY FIANCE ABOUT CALLING THE SENATOR.

It is a state representative, your Fiancé will know, I ended up writing to my Senator back in late June and his response came while I was in the Phils.

Back home, I still had jet-lag when her visa arrived because the Senator knew who to press.

Just understand that USEM is one of the toughest embassies in the world because of the amount of fraud. I think you have nothing to worry about.

[brij 0]

I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.

CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.

CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..

CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....

ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?

ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?

ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?

ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?

ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there

ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.

ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...

CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.

CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.

ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?

ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?

CO: yes..

ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.

ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.

CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.

>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?

ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)

But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?

ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?

ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.

CO: Are u sure?

ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)

ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.

--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....

Edited December 18, 2009 by brij

[scotty's girl 1]

Just hang in there. I know you're in a really bad situation right now, but the best thing for you to do is to pray. Don't lose hope and be positive.

[brij 0]

i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..

[SuperDuper! 230]

i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..

You did not answer yet: What is your petitioner's job and financial situation? Manila looks to assess his ability to support you and not make you a public charge to the US tax payer. This is a primary consideration to the US consulate when granting a visa or not. If his job or income is shaky and not SOLID and above the poverty line, they will put you under review or deny the visa.

[mariposang_gala 1]

i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..

You did not answer yet: What is your petitioner's job and financial situation? Manila looks to assess his ability to support you and not make you a public charge to the US tax payer. This is a primary consideration to the US consulate when granting a visa or not. If his job or income is shaky and not SOLID and above the poverty line, they will put you under review or deny the visa.

Hopp,she said he's assistant manager of BOA...

Dont know what BOA means though...

[brij 0]

i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..

You did not answer yet: What is your petitioner's job and financial situation? Manila looks to assess his ability to support you and not make you a public charge to the US tax payer. This is a primary consideration to the US consulate when granting a visa or not. If his job or income is shaky and not SOLID and above the poverty line, they will put you under review or deny the visa.

Hopp,she said he's assistant manager of BOA...

Dont know what BOA means though...

>> Bank of America

i am trying my very best to stay calm and dont shed a tear today. im trying to eat a lot but still it lingers... it hurts so much..

You did not answer yet: What is your petitioner's job and financial situation? Manila looks to assess his ability to support you and not make you a public charge to the US tax payer. This is a primary consideration to the US consulate when granting a visa or not. If his job or income is shaky and not SOLID and above the poverty line, they will put you under review or deny the visa.

His job is stable as an assistant branch manager of bank of america ...

[chinese_mutt 11]

I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.

CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.

CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..

CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....

ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?

ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?

ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?

ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?

ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there

ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.

ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...

CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.

CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.

ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?

ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?

CO: yes..

ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.

ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.

CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.

>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?

ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)

But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?

ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?

ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.

CO: Are u sure?

ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)

ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.

--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....

Here's how it looked to me (MY own opinion only).

1. The CO knows you have relative in US, your mother went there as a tourist/worker whichever it is and got married.. probably adjusted status there. It would look to a regular CO that you are doing the same to escape your life here. Hence, he might think that your relatives 'arranged' this meeting for you to meet this 'cano' so you can be reunited with them.

2. The CO was probably testing you about the website. You should've been wiser and brought a printed copy of both your profile in the said website. Or an early communication of both of you where it can be established that you two met totally on your own ways.

3. You are not denied. Like the person said, PRAY that nothing comes up negative. If what you tell us true (you are not married, this was not arranged by your relative, your relationship is real) then sooner or later they will issue the visa. Be prepared to wait at least a month. Continuously have contact with the embassy or USCIS.

Good luck to you. You are in AR, some embassy would even take 6 months... as far as I know the one in the Phil. works pretty good.

[brij 0]

I AM ACTUALLY LOOKING NOW WHERE I POSTED THE WHOLE INTERVIEW.. I GUESS I JUST DID LAST NIGHT BUT IT'S MISSING HERE..ANYWAY..HERE IS THE WHOLE INTERVIEW..

>> When my kid and I entered the room, we greeted the CO.

ME: Good morning sir.

CO: Just nod and didnt greet back.

CO: Sit down pls.

CO: Raise your right hand and blah blah..

CO:State your name please.. birthday and where do u live?

>> So I stated all those.

CO: Who is .....

ME: My daughter sir.

>>>My kid was sitting in front of me. So we were both in front of the consul. super near him.

CO: Who is petitioning you?

ME: (name of fiance) .. he's my fiance sir

CO:What does he do in US?

ME: he works as an assistant manager of BOA

CO: I see. Where and when did you meet him?

ME: ONLINE SIR

CO: What site?

ME: Filipinaheart sir.

CO:and what is he doing there

ME: Trying his luck to find his the right girl for him and same goes with me sir.

CO: Hmmm... I know that site.. that is actually a site offering and helping people with their visas.. or getting people visas quickly.

ME: huh sir? That is a dating site sir. Not a visa something...

CO: No, for what I know it is a site for people seeking to get visa fast.. blah .. blah (The tone of his voice was quite high already and his ees were looking at me sharply.)

>> I didn't get super scared at first, coz i know he was like bluffing about the site. Coz as far as I know and I know the truth because I met my fiance there.. I corrected him again.

ME: Sir, I dont know what you're talking about. and you're calling it whatever you want. As far as I know, it's a dating site where you can send interst to those whom you like and curious about or you want to communicate with. Coz i met my fiance there sir.

CO: And you're telling me i'm wrong? I know it! ( his voice is kinda irate already.. He was in a debate mode already, wherein i wasnt. But with that kind of attitude, I was nervous already. But stood still for what i believe is right. Instead of crying in front of him. . i told myself I need to speak up.. which i did.)

ME: Sir, I am sure it is not what you seem to see it. It's a dating site sir.

CO: I guess you dont know this site well. And maybe you didnt meet him online.

ME: I swear i met him there sir.

CO: Ok, did you and the father of your daughter lived together.

ME: No sir, because when i got pregnant he just disappeared.

--> Note: My ex bf appeared again in the hospital when i delivered the baby just to acknowledge the kid. the paternity. But my kid's name is still after my name. I wasnt married at all. Im' single ..just FYI vj peeps.

CO: hmm.. so how low you've been with your kid's dad?

ME: Uhmmm sir we didnt live together.. or u mean how long i've been in a relationship with him?

CO: yes..

ME: Sir, we've been bf and gf for 3 years before i got pregnant.

CO: So, you got relatives in US.

ME: YEs sir, sister , brother and my mom. But we dont have communication with my brother already for quite a long time.

CO: I see..

Before I proceed... ( let me tel you my vj peeps of the background of my family there living in US) My mom left us when i was 8. She went there i guess tourist or work. Either of the two. I was young then. My brother and I didnt know why mom really went to US. We never questioned our parent's decision then. Until we heard mom got married already to a US cit. Because she heard that my dad had a mistress that time and also got married in Louisiana with his mistress. So we havent heard from my mom since then. WE never got the chance to question both of them. While my brother and i lived with dad. Mom left 1992. Then I saw her 2004, when i graduated from college. So it was a long time already since we didnt talk and see each other. I dont know her at all then. mom and dad had separate lives already since mom went there 1992. So, I dont know much about my mom's status there and my sis and brother's real condition. But 2007 and 2008 .. my mom and sis visited us again.. but nothing too personal between us. I dont even asked them too many questions for we're not really that close. But what I know base from what my sister told me.. my mom is just legal permanent in US and can't memorize stuff already for her to become a citizen. That's what i know..

So this story wasnt known to the consul of course.. im just sharing this to you so you will understand my answers to the CO after.

>>>

CO: So is your mom a US citizen?

ME: No sir, she's just a legal permanent there. (that's what I know)

But she got married to an american sir.

CO: hmmm.... who is _____?

ME: her husband sir.

CO: Are us sure your mom is not a US citizen?

ME: Im sure she's not sir.

CO: YOU KNOW PEOPLE WHO HAVE RELATIVES THERE ARE HIGLY TO BE INTRODUCED TO SOMEONE TO GET MARRY... AND I BELIEVE YOUR RELATIVES TOOK PART IN YOUR MEET UP.

ME: No sir, they didnt have anything to do with this. I met my fiance online in filipinaheart.

CO: Are u sure?

ME: Yes I am sure.

CO: I don't think so. i guess you're not being honest with me.. ( his voice was even irate than before.)

ME: S(raising my right hand) Sir, I swear to God im telling you the whole truth.

CO: Hmm...

.. The CO was just looking at his monitor clicking his mouse hundred times. I was really upset of how he accused me of not telling him the truth. My God, I am very honest with all of these. And never would I lie about something.

CO: Ok, just wait for your name to be called outside.

--> He returned the pics, some wetern union receipts, letters and chat transcripts to me.. The rest.. remained to him.

Me: Ok sir thanks.

.. so upset he didnt even care to say bye and he didnt even greet my daughter or even say hi to her.. he was so cold and so unfriendly even to the kid.

So there.. i waited for my name to be called at window 37. The pinoy guy told me... " Your case needs review, well let's hope nothing negative to be seen in it ok? go to air21 booth and fill up the form there.. so i went to the booth and filled up forms. but they said not to pay it there.. I will just pay it here at home once i received something. then my daughter and i went home.. while i was in the taxi i was crying already.. my daughter was asking why.. she's just 4years old and didnt know what was happening.....

Here's how it looked to me (MY own opinion only).

1. The CO knows you have relative in US, your mother went there as a tourist/worker whichever it is and got married.. probably adjusted status there. It would look to a regular CO that you are doing the same to escape your life here. Hence, he might think that your relatives 'arranged' this meeting for you to meet this 'cano' so you can be reunited with them.

2. The CO was probably testing you about the website. You should've been wiser and brought a printed copy of both your profile in the said website. Or an early communication of both of you where it can be established that you two met totally on your own ways.

3. You are not denied. Like the person said, PRAY that nothing comes up negative. If what you tell us true (you are not married, this was not arranged by your relative, your relationship is real) then sooner or later they will issue the visa. Be prepared to wait at least a month. Continuously have contact with the embassy or USCIS.

Good luck to you. You are in AR, some embassy would even take 6 months... as far as I know the one in the Phil. works pretty good.

yeah you're right. I should've printed the copy where we met.. but too late.. our accounts there were deactivated already.. and im sure we both deleted things there since we met.. and esp when we're bf's g'fs already.. our rule is.. deactivate our account there and never go back there. since we found each other already.

[brij 0]

I called the Embassy a while ago and said.. that they dont need docs for now and it'll be in review. Then give them one month at least and wait for a letter ...

sigh...

gosh 1 month is already long .. how much more if it'll take 3-6 months

i dont know until when i can hang on

gosh...