Annulment Anyone??

[worndown1 0]

Hello All,

My husband came here on a K1 we have lifted conditions and he now has a 10 year GC.

Since shortly after he arrived, he has been cheating, internet, phone, txting....IDK if he has been physical with anyone. (does that matter? phone sex is still sex)

To make a long story short, he took a job in another state, started his cheating BS, (each time gets closer to a physical interlude) He refuses to give me his address he has not been home in almonst 2 months and i dont know when he will come home. Most recently he does not want me to call him #######?????

I was researching online and I discovered that I can get an annulment based on fraud if I do it in the next 6 months.

Has anyone done this? I dont care about the GC and all that #######, I just cant take this anymore, since he came here my life has WAY too much drama. And it is getting worse.

I have told him if he does not want to be married to divorce me, but he wont.

I would like to pursue the annulment route, I was just wondering if anyone else has done this.

I am NOT trying to get him deported, I just cant take this ####### anymore. Quite frankly I dont think he wants to be married anymore either, he just does not have the balls to do anything about it.

***no criticism just answers about my questions appreciated***

[Scott and Mhay 57]

weather you do an annullment or divorce, he will have to answer. I believe with the annullment it would be like when i did disolusion ... you both will have to agree. You can try this route and if he fights it, just go divorce...depending on your state you just have him served and then he has so many days to reply on it. if he dont reply, get a lawyer, or show up to the court date, you will get what you ask for in the divorce...which in your case is probably just ending it. Maybe this will wake him up and show you are serious.

Sorry this has happened. You just need to be strong on this.

[worndown1 0]

Problem is I have no address to serve him with..... I was hoping they would let me post it in the newspaper??? I dont even know if that is possible.

No not trying to harm him or send him home I just cant take anymore.

[rmncm 0]

It sounds like you were used for the GC. Start the process for the divorce, I don't think you can do a annulment, if I remember reading right about this, you have a very short time frame after marriage to do that. In most states I do beleive when you dont know the address of your soon to be ex, you can just run a add in the paper for like 2 weeks or something.

[worndown1 0]

I have 6 months from the time of discovery of the fraud to file for annulment. I only just realised that was his ultimate plan. So I do think I qualify, I have read of others doing this succesfully, I was hoping someone on here would have more nfo about it.

[Penguin_ie 5,996]

From what I understand, an annulment is difficult to get and takes time. You'd need a lot of proof, and with the marriage having gone on for 2+ years (as you mention he has a 10 year greencard), I think it would be very difficult o get approved for an annulment. A divorce would be quicker and easier, especially if you cannot contact him to answer.

[Scott and Mhay 57]

what i was told is you need to make every attempt possible to serve him. You need to document all this. He needs to keep his address updated with the USCIS. Talk to a lawyer. they were telling me that you can even hire an investigator to find him. He has to have some sort of phone/utilities that are under his name hopefully. You will just need to show the court that you made every attempt to find him.

[Anh map 2,098]

Your question would get a better answer from a family law attorney. From what you say there is nothing to do with immigration.

Find a qualified attorney in your area and discuss the details of your situation with him/her.

[Enlighten one :) 5]

This is similar to my friends story. Courtship ws one way. Once he arrived he was someone different.

To get the annulment you have to show proof of fraud is what i believe.

Sounds like he is playing games with you, at the expense of you and yoru family. MIght be easy to just divorce and move on.

6 months from discovery is good news to me. I am considering filling an anulment on that bases.

He has to report where he lives to the USCIS at all times. If he doesn't he could be deported on those grounds. hint hint. LOL

I want peace for your heart.

Edited December 14, 2009 by Enlighten one :)

[Amoon 0]

If you happen to know where he is employed, would it be possible to contact the employer and get his address that way? I know there is the privacy laws in place...etc so it might be hard to get the address out of anyone. I filed with Child Support Service Agency to get them to get the back-support owed to me....a week or so after I filed, my ex changed his address. I called to notify Child Support of his new address. When I called months later to inquire on the status of my case, they said that he had been served and I asked what address they sent the sheriff to & they told me that they couldn't give me the address due to privacy laws----I was the one that gave them the new address!!!!

Good luck...I pray you get relief soon. Oh & the divorce route is quick if you don't share any property...etc. I did my divorce myself and I was divorced within 1 month of filing. I do live in NC & I don't know how much different the laws are where you are. In NC you must be separated for 1 year & 1 day before you can file for divorce...but you don't have to provide documentation on separation date here. I can send you the "template" documents I used and tell you more about it if you need any help. Just PM me!

Amanda

[Gemmie 142]

I have 6 months from the time of discovery of the fraud to file for annulment. I only just realised that was his ultimate plan. So I do think I qualify, I have read of others doing this succesfully, I was hoping someone on here would have more nfo about it.

What you described is your husband being unfaithful and abandoning your home. How do you know that fraud was his ultimate goal?

[Gaynto 0]

Hello All,

My husband came here on a K1 we have lifted conditions and he now has a 10 year GC.

Since shortly after he arrived, he has been cheating, internet, phone, txting....IDK if he has been physical with anyone. (does that matter? phone sex is still sex)

To make a long story short, he took a job in another state, started his cheating BS, (each time gets closer to a physical interlude) He refuses to give me his address he has not been home in almonst 2 months and i dont know when he will come home. Most recently he does not want me to call him #######?????

I was researching online and I discovered that I can get an annulment based on fraud if I do it in the next 6 months.

Has anyone done this? I dont care about the GC and all that #######, I just cant take this anymore, since he came here my life has WAY too much drama. And it is getting worse.

I have told him if he does not want to be married to divorce me, but he wont.

I would like to pursue the annulment route, I was just wondering if anyone else has done this.

I am NOT trying to get him deported, I just cant take this ####### anymore. Quite frankly I dont think he wants to be married anymore either, he just does not have the balls to do anything about it.

***no criticism just answers about my questions appreciated***

If you know where he works, he can be served at work...

[panamania79 2]

Hello All,

My husband came here on a K1 we have lifted conditions and he now has a 10 year GC.

Since shortly after he arrived, he has been cheating, internet, phone, txting....IDK if he has been physical with anyone. (does that matter? phone sex is still sex)

To make a long story short, he took a job in another state, started his cheating BS, (each time gets closer to a physical interlude) He refuses to give me his address he has not been home in almonst 2 months and i dont know when he will come home. Most recently he does not want me to call him #######?????

I was researching online and I discovered that I can get an annulment based on fraud if I do it in the next 6 months.

Has anyone done this? I dont care about the GC and all that #######, I just cant take this anymore, since he came here my life has WAY too much drama. And it is getting worse.

I have told him if he does not want to be married to divorce me, but he wont.

I would like to pursue the annulment route, I was just wondering if anyone else has done this.

I am NOT trying to get him deported, I just cant take this ####### anymore. Quite frankly I dont think he wants to be married anymore either, he just does not have the balls to do anything about it.

***no criticism just answers about my questions appreciated***

You can't do an annulment,you have to file for divorce.So what if he doesn't want to,if you want to get a divorce,he can't force you to be with him!

[worndown1 0]

I have 6 months from the time of discovery of the fraud to file for annulment. I only just realised that was his ultimate plan. So I do think I qualify, I have read of others doing this succesfully, I was hoping someone on here would have more nfo about it.

What you described is your husband being unfaithful and abandoning your home. How do you know that fraud was his ultimate goal?

His ultimate goal not to come home....not GC fraud, I am not saying visa fraud, I am saying a fraudulent person, as in cant be faithful to a marriage.

I plainly said I did not care about the GC. This is not about that.

I really am not going to give details here, but I have all the proof I need.

Thanks for the advice everyone, I am going to take my chances.....

[BRB 6]

He is suppose to register his address with the government every time he moves. If he fails to do this he is in violation of his visa. You should be able to contact USCIS and find out where he is or let them know he has disappeared.