my husband broke up with me...before start the process =(

[yumishi 0]

hi everyboby .well i was new in this website, i was excited becuase i found information about the k3. well my name is pamela and i´v been married to michael for almost 10 months, we decided to star the process, i came to my country and he stay in usa, we were excited at least that´s was i thought , i was making plan to getting married in ca church with my family here, i designed my weeding dress, for the religious weding, i was excited, we talked by phone and emails, but after 2 weeks he decide to broke up with me, he sent me a nice email on tuesday and i call him wednesday and he broke up, i called him today and he said no again. he lie to me, he admited, i dont understan how a person can do that. he said that he doesnt love me anymore, that he was never happy with me. and now we are done. i dont know what to do, i feel so lost, so depress, im sorry i dont wanna complain but its not fair, how can you married someone for 10 month and just like that said i dont love you and broke up...i dont understan. im only crying, what im gonna do without him. oh god..i dont know what to do or said.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I am so sorry to hear this happened to you. Be strong.

[Summer75 16]

hi everyboby .well i was new in this website, i was excited becuase i found information about the k3. well my name is pamela and i´v been married to michael for almost 10 months, we decided to star the process, i came to my country and he stay in usa, we were excited at least that´s was i thought , i was making plan to getting married in ca church with my family here, i designed my weeding dress, for the religious weding, i was excited, we talked by phone and emails, but after 2 weeks he decide to broke up with me, he sent me a nice email on tuesday and i call him wednesday and he broke up, i called him today and he said no again. he lie to me, he admited, i dont understan how a person can do that. he said that he doesnt love me anymore, that he was never happy with me. and now we are done. i dont know what to do, i feel so lost, so depress, im sorry i dont wanna complain but its not fair, how can you married someone for 10 month and just like that said i dont love you and broke up...i dont understan. im only crying, what im gonna do without him. oh god..i dont know what to do or said.

I´m really really sorry... Now u r so sad and broken, but time is gonna make u feel better. Be strong, maybe it is better to happen now than to happen later, maybe when u have kids or after some years marriage. U r so young so u can find a good man who really loves u. Obviously he was not ready to get married, I dont know why he did it. Now try to keep your time busy, work, study, whatever.. is not easy, I know..but.. try.. at least..

My question is.. can u go back to the USA? maybe going there u can talk to him face to face... u really need an explanation...

Good luck girl... u r broken now, pray our God to make u stronger....

[DedicatedWife 4]

hi everyboby .well i was new in this website, i was excited becuase i found information about the k3. well my name is pamela and i´v been married to michael for almost 10 months, we decided to star the process, i came to my country and he stay in usa, we were excited at least that´s was i thought , i was making plan to getting married in ca church with my family here, i designed my weeding dress, for the religious weding, i was excited, we talked by phone and emails, but after 2 weeks he decide to broke up with me, he sent me a nice email on tuesday and i call him wednesday and he broke up, i called him today and he said no again. he lie to me, he admited, i dont understan how a person can do that. he said that he doesnt love me anymore, that he was never happy with me. and now we are done. i dont know what to do, i feel so lost, so depress, im sorry i dont wanna complain but its not fair, how can you married someone for 10 month and just like that said i dont love you and broke up...i dont understan. im only crying, what im gonna do without him. oh god..i dont know what to do or said.

So sorry to hear! This too will pass. Heartbreak is never easy and I can only imagine the pain you're in. Take time to focus on you and heal!

[meowmeowmeow 1]

that really sucks...so sorry to hear that...i hope you will find love again one day

[Dakine 26]

hi everyboby .well i was new in this website, i was excited becuase i found information about the k3. well my name is pamela and i´v been married to michael for almost 10 months, we decided to star the process, i came to my country and he stay in usa, we were excited at least that´s was i thought , i was making plan to getting married in ca church with my family here, i designed my weeding dress, for the religious weding, i was excited, we talked by phone and emails, but after 2 weeks he decide to broke up with me, he sent me a nice email on tuesday and i call him wednesday and he broke up, i called him today and he said no again. he lie to me, he admited, i dont understan how a person can do that. he said that he doesnt love me anymore, that he was never happy with me. and now we are done. i dont know what to do, i feel so lost, so depress, im sorry i dont wanna complain but its not fair, how can you married someone for 10 month and just like that said i dont love you and broke up...i dont understan. im only crying, what im gonna do without him. oh god..i dont know what to do or said.

How did you meet and how long did you know each other before you married?

[thongd4me 69]

Very sorry to hear this. I've given a great deal of thought about the questions

surrounding divorce as mine took entirely too long.

The problem is that you are both still married and not free to marry anyone else.

After 10 months there may not much of a case to get a divorce settlement

that would compensate you for ALL your pain and emotional suffering,

as you entered into the relationship in good faith while he did not.

This being said, you are not without options.

I think time is on your side in this case (in the sense of delaying the divorce)

UNLESS you have someone else in mind that you want to marry right NOW.

The way I see it is that he has decided that you are not for him.

Don't worry about that, you're GREAT. Don't let him drag down your self-esteem.

He may be letting the "little head" control the "big head" as he may have found

someone else that he thinks will serve his NEEDS better than you.

If he comes across as if he is IMPATIENT for you to divorce him,

DO NOT give him what he wants until you get an equitable settlement -

that shouldn't mean years of alimony, just a reasonable lump sum to

help you get on with your life.

He thinks he is the smartest person in the world by letting you go back to

Mexico and not able to sue him for an equitable divorce in an American

court. He may even MAIL you divorce papers prepared by HIS lawyer.

Do not sign anything until you have spoken to a lawyer yourself, as

you probably have a lot more options than he thinks. You are BOTH

still married and he can't marry anyone else until the two of you are

divorced.

I may have said some things others would hesitate to say, but that's my style

[milimelo 4,486]

Very sorry to hear this. I've given a great deal of thought about the questions

surrounding divorce as mine took entirely too long.

The problem is that you are both still married and not free to marry anyone else.

After 10 months there may not much of a case to get a divorce settlement

that would compensate you for ALL your pain and emotional suffering,

as you entered into the relationship in good faith while he did not.

This being said, you are not without options.

I think time is on your side in this case (in the sense of delaying the divorce)

UNLESS you have someone else in mind that you want to marry right NOW.

The way I see it is that he has decided that you are not for him.

Don't worry about that, you're GREAT. Don't let him drag down your self-esteem.

He may be letting the "little head" control the "big head" as he may have found

someone else that he thinks will serve his NEEDS better than you.

If he comes across as if he is IMPATIENT for you to divorce him,

DO NOT give him what he wants until you get an equitable settlement -

that shouldn't mean years of alimony, just a reasonable lump sum to

help you get on with your life.

He thinks he is the smartest person in the world by letting you go back to

Mexico and not able to sue him for an equitable divorce in an American

court. He may even MAIL you divorce papers prepared by HIS lawyer.

Do not sign anything until you have spoken to a lawyer yourself, as

you probably have a lot more options than he thinks. You are BOTH

still married and he can't marry anyone else until the two of you are

divorced.

I may have said some things others would hesitate to say, but that's my style

The OP is from Peru, not Mexico.

[thongd4me 69]

The OP is from Peru, not Mexico.

That doesn't change my advice but (my bad) I guess I need my glasses adjusted.

Madame Yé-Yé of Beatles fame is from Mexico, OP is from Peru.

Case of mild dyslexia there. My apologies.

Edited December 11, 2009 by thongd4me

[Zee's Boo 0]

It's his lost don't worry about it, if he doesn't want you then you don't want him either. Its hard I know but time heal all wounds and when things go wrong in our lives we should look at it as a learning experience and move on. There is someone out there that will love and cherish you like you deserve to. Cheer up and good luck.

[Twisted K 2]

i am sorry you are going through this. time does heal a broken heart

[MRStee 19]

It's his lost don't worry about it, if he doesn't want you then you don't want him either. Its hard I know but time heal all wounds and when things go wrong in our lives we should look at it as a learning experience and move on. There is someone out there that will love and cherish you like you deserve to. Cheer up and good luck.

Agree

[~ameriptian~ 54]

I'm very sorry this happened to you... Look at it that you have been saved from being with a person just like him... He doesn't deserve you... Be strong (F)

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

I believe after a very short marriage with little or no c o habitation the amount of money he wiull need to give her is NOTHING. He can simply file and get a divorce in most states.

[thongd4me 69]

I believe after a very short marriage with little or no c o habitation the amount of money he wiull need to give her is NOTHING. He can simply file and get a divorce in most states.

You may want to check with an attorney if 10 months is "little or no habitation" -

In any case you are better off without him. Divorce is more painful the longer

the relationship.