got news, discouraged, another 6 month wait

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

Hello fellow VJ's,

I posted last week about our denial that has spread out over almost 2 years with no movement. Supposdly the consulate held one of the two approved petitions for a year after our interview, or so they say.

The senator contacted about our case and were told that we need to wait another 6 months and call back, they are not done. I'm numb but I have to believe in the end justice will be. I don't know why we're having so many difficulties, from the beginning, I've just been in shock the whole time - right about the time they wouldn't let my husband in the gate for his interview. I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

I don't know what more I can do. I feel so helpless. I can pray. I can worry like mad. I can eat chocolate and egg nog. Clean the house in the middle of the night. None of it is replacing the completion of my family however I've got a clean place and some lovely new plus size clothes. lol.

I have had a huge number of people ask why I just don't immigrate to my husband's country. There is quite a few reasons that are well known to me and my family, as to why it's not possible, I am tired of hearing that question - it is discouraging a bit.

I am also tired of the question "just will your husband ever be able to come here?" "does he exist for real?" - not fun.

[*JG* 2]

I'm so sorry

There is a plan here.....even if you don't see it yet. Hang in there.

[Matana74 0]

This is a hard thing. I have not waited as long as you have but the late night cleaning is one thing that we do have in common. In praying we have to leave it truly in God’s hands. When we worry we are taking it from His hands. Right now that only thing that is keeping my feet and faith grounded is saying out loud…”God you know what is best…and this is hard please help me maintain for the rest of the day...” or night or moment…I pray this all day long. I cannot say it is easy because it ain’t but it will remind you to appreciate and be patient with each other once you are under the same roof. This process makes warriors and I mean that. It makes you stronger. I just wanted to encourage you…keep going…

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

JG,

I was thinking in general of the thought you just wrote here to encourage me. Thanks for your words of kindness. The news this morning left me heavy but I feel I can cope later today.

Take Care,

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

Dear Matana74,

I love your pic by the way! Thank you for these words of encouragement. I too believe in leaving the problems in God's hands. My husband too relies on God and reminded me that he knows all things and we were married in his eyes. Thanks for grounding me, your words just really hit me. I can hear the positive loving energy you have, you really have a lot of positive strength. I too believe this process makes you stronger. It will be interesting to look back and see things differently.

lol Gotta go get some more cleaning products just in case something needs some fixing tonight. *smiling/a chuckle.

Thanks so much.

[princessC 0]

Hello fellow VJ's,

I posted last week about our denial that has spread out over almost 2 years with no movement. Supposdly the consulate held one of the two approved petitions for a year after our interview, or so they say.

The senator contacted about our case and were told that we need to wait another 6 months and call back, they are not done. I'm numb but I have to believe in the end justice will be. I don't know why we're having so many difficulties, from the beginning, I've just been in shock the whole time - right about the time they wouldn't let my husband in the gate for his interview. I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

I don't know what more I can do. I feel so helpless. I can pray. I can worry like mad. I can eat chocolate and egg nog. Clean the house in the middle of the night. None of it is replacing the completion of my family however I've got a clean place and some lovely new plus size clothes. lol.

I have had a huge number of people ask why I just don't immigrate to my husband's country. There is quite a few reasons that are well known to me and my family, as to why it's not possible, I am tired of hearing that question - it is discouraging a bit.

I am also tired of the question "just will your husband ever be able to come here?" "does he exist for real?" - not fun.

Hi,Im sorry to hear the bad news.I am in a similar situation. I was married in Nigeria Nov 2006 and my husband is still not here.USCIS,had my file for 2years,saying that my case was undergoing FBI checks.Then they sent my case to my local office so that i could have an interview here.The reason being,my birth certificate looked forged.Which it did,but i guess back in the days,they wrote your name and typed the rest.

So i had to bring another copy of the same thing.It still took 6 months for them to finally send it to the NVC.

Once at Nvc we thought everything was fine,but NO.I received an email saying that they need original marriage certificate.And my husband needs original birth certificate.Both of these things were sent,I told them.Then they told me he forgot to fill his residence from age 16.

So we are in the process of filling another DS230.

I know what you mean,I get asked almost daily"how far now".Its frustrating.I got so tired of that question,that I told everyone,If i hear any news they will be the first to know.

As far as gaining weight,i have gained so much that my old clothes look extra small.Had to buy a new wardrobe.

Hope Hubby likes'em BIG.

But I do believe that God is perfecting things for us so that every thing else will go smoothly.

All we can do is pray.

[Afrilaskan Queen 0]

Hi PrincessC,

What a relief to hear of someone with a similar experience. I sent you a personal message. Thank you very much!