For Couples Who Met Online...

[Susita 175]

I agree Wyatt's Torch.

It was the same with my husband & I. We talked on the phone every day, we knew more about each other than I had ever known about any other guy I had dated. However, we didn't (openly) set high expectations of our first meeting although it was awesome.

I flew to Peru to meet him and we totally hit it off.

Now it's been 3 years. Proud to say we're still together, happy and expecting a baby

[marklovetina 52]

For Couples Who Met Online..., ...first face to face meeting

uhmmm for me and hubby.. well i fetched him on the airport and bcoz he is an american army i asked my uncle to accompany me who is an army to here in phil. and with my grandma hehehe... when we met at the airport he first kissed the hands of my grandma and he just say hi to me whehehhe.. at the car hon and my uncle is the one chatting i am shy and i dont know what to say to him bcoz that is the first time we met in person... we went to our home and had an early breakfast bcoz mom prepared a good meal for all of us.. then chatting-chatting... then we went to the hotel and i fixed our things.. and we had a shower then.... :whistle: :whistle: :luv:

[sara..... 371]

we are not near as exciting as some of the stories lol.......about the time i turned 18 i decided i wanted to find my own life partner so with a lot of mmmmm shall we say discussions with my family i got permission to put my profile on a muslim matrimonial site with out my picture........( i have never dated ) so many people answered my profile my family helped me weed out the jerks .....the visa searchers.......and the ones that were not so nice .......it came down to three people after talking to all three i decided that if felt most comfortable with perviz.....so we both agreed we felt it was a good match and started communicating .......i seriously thought he weighed 300 pounds cuz that is what his profile said we exchanged pictures after accepting each other.....very nice surprise not 300 pounds lol....then some time later we did web cam he could not talk...... he just kept looking ........anyways to make a very long story short......three years ago he was going back to india from working in saudi.....he didnt know but we were booked on the same plane from delhi to srinagar.....he only knew i and my mom was arriving the same day.....he saw me sitting on the plane......for some reason he was last person he stumbled and just kept walking .......when we landed my mom and i were filling out the papers for when u land in kashmir......he came up to us........ran into the stand with his cart with his luggage all his luggage fell off.....and asked us where we were staying.....took him three days to get to our hotel .......he was scared .....after that he took us out of the hotel and to his family's home we spent three weeks together with his family........then saw each other again almost three years ago.......

when can i say i really fell in love with him? that first visit we went to a resort area we were sitting outside on the lawn he sneaked a kiss and promptly fell over back wards out of his chair.......when his family and my mom turned around hearing the noise they were concerned are you hurt what happened? all i could do is laugh and of course we could not tell them what had happened

ta da that is

sara

Edited December 10, 2009 by estadia

[rebeccajo 14]

This is what I don't understand about meeting and becoming intimate with someone on the Internet, possibly even becoming engaged to marry them, without ever having met them. It just seems like an a$$-backwards way to go about things. These "quirks and mannerisms" are a big part of why you fall in love with someone, in my opinion. How can you commit yourself to someone prior to having experienced that? What's it like to have your first kiss with your fiancé, when that person became your fiancé before you ever kissed them, let alone met them in person?

What squirrelly times we live in.

It's okay, Uncle Wally. By the same token, I don't understand how someone can get completely drunk and meet and become intimate with one's eventual wife THAT way.

I can't speak for other cultures with language barriers etc., but for me, there was such a depth of character I learned about my eventual wife when we first met. I was quite active in the local dating scene, was on LavaLife and eHarmony before meeting her etc., but when I first met my eventual wife on an internet forum, there was an initial spark... Then we exchanged a number of PMs. And a couple of days later, we were talking on the phone. And I'm being literal when I say there hasn't been a single day since late February of '08 that we haven't talked on the phone. Fortunately I've got digital phone service with free long distance...

I can't really explain it...but her and I both just knew early on that we would get married and be together. Meeting in person for the first time was important, yes, but seven months of getting to know each other made the importance a bit more superficial.

I was mad for my husband before we met face-to-face. We told each other we loved each other. We felt we knew a lot about each other - we should because we spoke on the phone every day for hours.

But neither of us just 'knew' with 100% certainty that we would get married and be together. There was quite a bit of anxiety between the two of us the few weeks leading up to his first journey to the US. He would say "if things go according to plan" we'll file for a visa and would be married. We mutually worried about our feelings translating over to "real life". We were pretty certain that if it didn't work out, we wouldn't be able to maintain an international "friendship" because the disappointment would just be too deep.

I've always said it is quite backwards to finally lay eyes on someone you feel you are in love with. Even though I knew Wes was tall, it was startling to realize it in person. And to hear his voice without the 'hum' of an international call - exhilarating. To finally hold that person in your gaze, and see your feelings returned - it is the very stuff of romance.

The 'quirks' and all that jazz - maybe if I had met him face-to-face first I would not have been interested. He is a geeky guy and I'm so not a geeky girl. What if I had judged him by all that? I would have missed the person inside. And that would have been my greatest loss.

[chri'stina 190]

I used to say I wouldn't marry someone I met online, and I wasn't even looking online for someone(I don't care if other ppl were, I'm just saying it happens even if you didn't want it to happen that way lol). I still feel after all this time that after talking for 2 years online(that's a long time!) I knew I was going to marry him before I went to India, and he knew he was going to marry me.

We didn't get engaged until after we met in India, but we just knew it would happen. And I guess we were right since we've been married over 5 years now. We of course wish we actually had time to be like other couples and go on dates and such or see each other more. I only went to India once, then it was 11 months until we saw each other again and then we got married a couple weeks later(he came on fiance visa). So I would not say that is the ideal way to have to go about a relationship. Who really would wish for separation like that? Not me, ever. But I did it. And I do wonder if we had met in person originally, what would have happened? I'm not sure because he doesn't just tell a lot of personal things to people and it would have probably taken much long to get to know each other instead of being able to chat for hours.

[Jenn! 918]

It's okay, Uncle Wally. By the same token, I don't understand how someone can get completely drunk and meet and become intimate with one's eventual wife THAT way.

touche

[Wyatt's Torch 45]

The 'quirks' and all that jazz - maybe if I had met him face-to-face first I would not have been interested. He is a geeky guy and I'm so not a geeky girl. What if I had judged him by all that? I would have missed the person inside. And that would have been my greatest loss.

Excellent point!

I wonder the same thing. I might not have fell in love with my eventual wife had I simply met her in a bar first. She wasn't what I thought of as my physical "type", if you know what I mean. But she has certainly become it, and I can't imagine loving someone more deeply.

[NickD 203]

I told my gal that I loved her, always responded by saying, you can't mean that, you didn't meet me yet. So had to justify, okay, I love chatting with you or talking to you on the phone, and we certainly have a strong platonic relationship going on, for months. But she only told me that she loved me once, really didn't make any difference, she was always there for me and I for her. But since we met and after almost six years of a very happy marriage, can't get her to shut up, she is always telling me she loves me. Being in love is not having to say your are in love. Or is it not having to say you are sorry?

All I can say, it was great to have the world open to you to meet that person. That gal next door? Forget about her. Did attend a singles club with over 500 eligible females, you would think one out of 600 would be close. Not even close.

[Azzudiin 26]

Second time is the charm

I met a woman online who lives in China, we decide it would be good idea to meet so off I go on my first trip to China. I land in Beijing and get my luggage and start walking out and run into this mass of people, so I am trying to find her and no luck, she is not anywhere to be found.

Speaking very little Chinese I manage to get a phone card and try calling her, no answer after repeated tries. This goes on about an hour and a man walks up who speaks English and asks me if he can help. He is illegal taxi driver of course but I had few options so I told him to take me to the nearest hotel. He does and gets me checked in, even lets me use his cell phone to try and call a few more times.

Finally in the room I decided I am here, the next day I will find my way around and start seeing the sites and make the trip at least some kind of vacation.

About 4 hours later I am awakened out of a sound sleep by the phone and when I answered it was the woman I planned on meeting, she was in the lobby and they wouldnt let her have my room number until I agreed.

She had my time of arrival written down wrong and showed up at airport about the time I was leaving, after she figured out I was on the plane and had actually arrived, she started searching all the local Hotels. She actually found me by looking at cellphone and using caller ID to call the taxi driver and pay him to tell her where he dropped me off.

It was an interesting meeting, and trip, but in the end we did not hit it off, but I did find out I loved China, the people and the food. Now 12 trips later, 5 years of time and I am engaged to another woman from China, and our first meeting was boring by comparison.

[~krakatoa~ 27]

Our first meeting was a bit tragic..lol

I asked my BFF to go with me to the airport as I was somewhat new to the area myself. Lady friend called and told me she couldn't come at the last minute so I had to find my way to the airport, about a 45-minute drive from our house with all the traffic. Got to the airport all nervous and palms sweaty. While waiting for him in the arrival area (on three separate occasions, 3 men asked me if I were so and so that they were meeting for the first time--quite embarrassed by that, one didn't take "no" very lightly so I called security). It took my husband a while before he came out and saw me. A few people waiting in the arrival area were starting to get nosy and I could see that they were more anxious than me to see who I was meeting. Kinda funny but annoying at the same time. And then the man showed up, said my name in person for the first time (I felt like the earth stopped and my eyes were locked into his and everyone else had gone *poof*). We smiled at each other, we were excited to see each other and to spend time together but I had to pull him out of the crowd. I quickly hugged him and held his hand to take him away from the now cheering crowd to my car.

And on the way to the hotel, we noticed a police car following us, turned out I made an illegal turn lol (later I found out there was no sign saying I couldn't make that turn there and saw others doing the same thing without problems) and I was soooo embarrassed. Husband was more relaxed than me, he looked like he was too enamored with me haha. I was asked to step out of the car and I told my husband to stay put while I talk to them. After politely arguing with the police for what seemed like eternity, I got out of the situation with no tickets, just a warning and drove away.

Edited December 10, 2009 by ~krakatoa~

[Dr. Obvious 49]

I used to say I wouldn't marry someone I met online, and I wasn't even looking online for someone(I don't care if other ppl were, I'm just saying it happens even if you didn't want it to happen that way lol).

My mother gave me the 900th degree before I met my first online relationship interest. Then after I came back surprisingly alive and with a good experience to report, she suddenly jumped on board. As far as I know, since then, all the guys she has been in relationships have been guys she has met online either through chat or dating service. Most of them have been decent fellows, far better than what she was fetching for herself before teh interwebz. My sister recently married a guy she met through an automotive interest forum several years back. He's a decent man.

[lizandpat 0]

Our first face-to-face was a VERY short one...lol!

By the time we were able to finally meet, we'd been talking for about 3 months. I was going to be in the UK on vacation with some friends and at the last minute we decided I would fly to the Netherlands. I landed at around 10am on Saturday morning and left at around 3pm on Sunday afternoon!

It was a wonderful first meeting even though it got off to a bit of a scary start! I flew in and since I was only staying one night, I packed just a carry on bag so I wouldn't have to wait for luggage. After waiting for over an hour to get through their customs/immigration line, I finally made it to the doors leading out to the waiting area. Only one problem...the customs officer at the doors pointed me in the wrong direction and I ended up in a totally different area from where my sweetie was waiting! After walking around hunting for him for about 30 minutes I finally made my way to what I would call an information booth. The ladies there were SOOOO nice and paged him over the intercom system! I stood beside the booth for another 10 minutes or so terrified that he had given up and gone home when I finally saw him walking toward me! I called his name (he hadn't spotted me yet..lol) and the look of relief on his face was very evident when he finally saw me. We walked right into each others arms and shared not only our first hug but also our first kiss right there in the middle of the airport! After that, we finally got out of the airport and headed home where we spent a very sweet, romantic day/night together. We had already known before we met that we were falling in love, meeting and spending even that short amount of time together just confirmed what we already knew...we were meant to be together! And now...almost 3 years later we finally are!!!

Edited December 10, 2009 by lizandpat

[sachinky 465]

Cute stories. Real, warm fuzzy-wuzzies.

I guess I don't understand it, though. How can you fall in love with someone you've never met in person? What did you fall in love with? Their typing skills? Their LOLs and Hmms and smiley faces? And this isn't just rhetorical -- I really find this interesting and want to genuinely know/understand.

Also, I guess I'm far too paranoid. I can NEVER imagine flying half way across the world to meet someone I have never laid eyes upon. Far too much potential for a disaster. And this is coming from someone who was well versed with the world of ICQ since I was 13. What if they turn out to be completely different from how they portrayed themselves online? And I don't care how long you talk to someone, you can never know them well enough until you interact with them in person -- and the finer nuances that make up their personality. How they deal with stress, how do they handle financial matters, what makes them "tick." You don't see them in natural environment, so to speak -- presumably they are taking a couple of hours out from their day to speak to you online/phone. So you see them at their charming, attentive best. I'm not making my point clearly, am I? My husband (then boyfriend) and I spent every single day together and observed each other, not only at our finest moments but at our worst and not-so-proud-of-it moments. When he got angry. When I threw a hissy fit. When we got on each other's nerves. When someone annoys me online, I can just put him on my ignore list or disconnect the internet. It's very easy to be someone you're not online. Very easy to pretend. And I think physical mannerisms/characteristics are an important part of loving someone. I don't think it's superficial at all. I love my husband's big toe. His nose. The unruly eyebrows. His fingers are so pretty. How tall he is. His red hair. The arch of his back. The way his mouth hangs open in a tiny O when he's watching 24 and Jack Bauer is kicking some serious butt.

But hey, this is just my two cents. Whatever floats your boat, man. I'm not looking to offend anyone, not looking for arguments. At the end of the day, as long as you and your SO are happy then that's all that matters. Good luck to everyone!

Edited December 10, 2009 by sachinky

[The_Dude 1,142]

We had been friends for over 2 years before we finally met in person. We had both been in relationships throughout our friendship, but really got close when we each went through our relationship crumbling. After a few months helping each other get over our messes, I slid in a flirt and she flirted back. A few months later, we decided to meet up. It was february and she had booked a flight to come see me in June. About 3 weeks later, we couldn't take it anymore and I bought a ticket to see her in April. I remember being really excited until I was on the plane from Toronto to London, On.. It suddenly dawned on me "####### am I going to do if there is no chemistry?" London, Ontario is a small airport and my flight was early in the morning so there weren't too many people there. I am not the most observant person and almost missed her at the airport even though she was right in front of me We hugged right away, but she was really nervous. At the time, I thought she was a bit disappointed from her demeanor. The airline had shipped my luggage to New York at my stop over in Toronto, so I was a bit cranky. While we were waiting to see what was going to happen with my luggage, we went outside to get some fresh air. I leaned in and kissed her and that broke the ice and she admitted that she was nervous. We had known each other for nearly 3 years, and had talked about everything with each other, but for some reason, that first meet was very awkward for us.

[NickD 203]

Second time is the charm

I met a woman online who lives in China, we decide it would be good idea to meet so off I go on my first trip to China. I land in Beijing and get my luggage and start walking out and run into this mass of people, so I am trying to find her and no luck, she is not anywhere to be found.

Speaking very little Chinese I manage to get a phone card and try calling her, no answer after repeated tries. This goes on about an hour and a man walks up who speaks English and asks me if he can help. He is illegal taxi driver of course but I had few options so I told him to take me to the nearest hotel. He does and gets me checked in, even lets me use his cell phone to try and call a few more times.

Finally in the room I decided I am here, the next day I will find my way around and start seeing the sites and make the trip at least some kind of vacation.

About 4 hours later I am awakened out of a sound sleep by the phone and when I answered it was the woman I planned on meeting, she was in the lobby and they wouldnt let her have my room number until I agreed.

She had my time of arrival written down wrong and showed up at airport about the time I was leaving, after she figured out I was on the plane and had actually arrived, she started searching all the local Hotels. She actually found me by looking at cellphone and using caller ID to call the taxi driver and pay him to tell her where he dropped me off.

It was an interesting meeting, and trip, but in the end we did not hit it off, but I did find out I loved China, the people and the food. Now 12 trips later, 5 years of time and I am engaged to another woman from China, and our first meeting was boring by comparison.

The woman I met from China didn't look anything close to the photos she sent to me, nor was she was who she said she was. We chatted and talked on the phone for 4 months, but sense something wasn't right, also works that way as well. She confessed the pictures she sent was of a co-worker, never did meet her, and certainly can't build a relationship of trust when lied to. So that ended quick.