Divorced and affidavits to support I-751

[ShariNYC 0]

- Naomi, I can feel the stress and confusion from your post; try to relax and think straight (I know is easyer to say then to do ..)

1. The affidavits are ment to support and substantiate/verify/proof your claim: that you were in a real marital relationship and people knew about it.

(How come that you are not together anymore, you can explain it in your own affidavit).

2. Expiration date?! No. Just make sure is not dated before the marriage took place

3. No need to submit post marriage bills (that would only show/proof where you live, your address).

Also, May I ask who were the plaintiff in your divorce case? I was the plaintiff for mine, under the ground of constructive abandonment by the defendant for more than one year. I can not afford a lawyer now and still very confused about how this ground works.....the truth is, marriage just didn't work out, didn't feel right staying together, changed of heart, and so we decided the divorce is what we needed. Just wondering by being a plaintiff, does this make me look like I'm trying to commit a marriage fraud? or rush to get GC sooner than having to wait for 3 years....

Thank you for the answer in advance....

[resilient 2]

thanks Anamaria, very helpful.

I am not sure I will have that many affidavits. I am not that social, we did not interact with too many people beside personal friends.

Is it okay if I get 2 from my friends, and is it a really good idea to get one from my ex? I spoke to 2 lawyers, and each said something completely different: one that I should, that it's really important - and the other that I shouldn't get one (as I don't think my ex will admit he left me because of his family pressure... and it will be a red flag if our stories don't match exactly.)

Then, I might get only 2 friends affidavits. =(

What should be included in husband's affidavit? Super details or just one page stating how we met, got married, why separated etc.?

<<But I was hoping that someone would post extraordinary affidavits as well, i.e. ex-husbands affidavits, etc...>>

- I had about 8 affidavits supporting my claims: bonafide marriage and good moral caracter.

For the bonafide marriage, any person that knew you as a couple can write an affidavit describing when and where he/she met you, socialized with you ... Your ex could testify that you lived as a married couple. That's what bonafide marriage is. You lived a love story and you were married, shared everithing. Nobody has the right to judge you why you aren't married anymore and even the reasons why you broke up. It's your life!

I wrote an affidavit describing the entire history of my relationship with the USC from the very begining until the very end. I believe that's the most important affidavit of all.

Regarding good moral character: anybody that is somebody in the community and know you, can write and affidavit (a priest, a college profesor, congresman ... ) I had affidavits from my employers, president of a club that I belong to, a profesor.... and don't forget to get one from the local police also (stating that you don't have any criminal record).

Hope this helps.

[Anamaria2009 1]

<<Also, May I ask who were the plaintiff in your divorce case?>>

Sure, see my story by checking my profile. ... there is a list - index - of what I submitted.

Just wondering by being a plaintiff, does this make me look like I'm trying to commit a marriage fraud?

- I guess you just have to wait and see what will happen. Nobody can predict what will happen in your case.

Each relationship is different, every person has his'her own story. Jut try to do your "homework" good and hope for the best.

Yes, I was quite surprised that it took only 4 months to have my application approved (considering the fact that was a waiver and a huge documentation...).

[Anamaria2009 1]

<<as I don't think my ex will admit he left me because of his family pressure... and it will be a red flag if our stories don't match exactly>>

Yes, you don't want anything that "doesn't match". The picture that you create with the supportive documents has to be crystal clear.

<<What should be included in husband's affidavit? Super details or just one page stating how we met, got married, why separated etc.?>>

- As you can see in my profile, in my case ... wasn't the case ... ... I dealt with a World Class As****.

You and your ex-spouse (if is so cooperative ...) could write and affidavits stating how you met, fell in love, decided to get married, lived together and tried to build a relationship, to have a family - had a true marriage - ...then what went wrong?!, did any of you tried to reconcile!? explain how you came to the conclusion that the marriage is impossible and decided to split for good.

Whoever will read the story has to realize that you didn't marry only to gain immigration benefit (residence) - this is the whole point. You wanted a family - emphasize on that - if is true, ofcourse.

[ShariNYC 0]

Thank you for the advice, now I'm working on my cover letter. Do you think it's necessary to include all the details since before I entered the U.S. by K-1 visa (How we met, feel in love and got married) Even though I've already done that during the K-1 process?

Please let me know, thanks so much!

naomi