Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)

[Shemmy 4]

Today is Damien's birthday. I put a gift bag and a cake in his car while he was working. He always listen to music in his car during lunch. He was so surprised

[*SunRay* 1]

LadyC: I don't have any idea why your e-mails are going in my junk box. I guess I have to check it everyday. lol

[DaDa 1]

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!

roger just tell me, he got the green card in the mail .. HOOORRAHHHHHHH

this feels GREAT he is legit.. he is finally ----TECHNICALLY-- Legally--- here..

i don't know how to explain it.. it just all feels real now even tho ive had him here for 6 mnths..

i am so thankful today for finding vj 2years ago.. most of those ppl are gone, but i really wanna share how much this site has helped me, made me laugh, i really could not have done all this paperwork/relationship/drama and otherwise w/out the information and support.. i prolly would never have made it this far

thank you Lord for VJ

Cough Cough Excuse me ova here......

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

Good Morning ladies

My son's b-day party is today, on Wednesday we had cake and ice cream and a few presents with my dad and my step mom and the kids. But today is the real party. Cant wait for it to be over, around 8ish my kids are leaving the party with my dad and hubby and I will have sexy parties all weekend.

Den's wife..do u know why Jamaica is a high fraud country? did u know Jamaica is a high fraud country? If I were ur man's childs mother, hell would freeze over before u or my childs father would take my child....madness

Whats this all about somebody please fill me in Cause im lost or give me the link to the comment cuz i cant find it.

Good morning JQ! The comment has to do with the conversation yesterday regarding my SO's son that was born in September. I never said we had any intentions of bringing the baby over here to live with us. I did state that if it ever came up we would adjust and do what was needed to do if we needed to bring the child here. The Mama needs to do her part and Den needs to do his part.

Oh ok because Im in that situation now and as soon as the NVC says case complete this month I will get the interview date and will be in jamaica some time next early year to get my baby.

The situation with her is different (she wants my baby to come to me) and that is what I want too, and my hubby cant function with out her anyway so we all win.

But its kind of great being the only woman in the house

[*SunRay* 1]

Today is Damien's birthday. I put a gift bag and a cake in his car while he was working. He always listen to music in his car during lunch. He was so surprised

Awww, how nice. I'm sure he just loved that. lol

[DaDa 1]

already dillon!!!!

we were already going out w/ some friends for a bday party, BUT everyone will think its OUR bday.

i swear, we always taking over somebody event!! LOL

thanks denswifey!!!

thanks everyone..

i wish i was w/ him right now.. he actually used exclamation points on the email!!! he is so laid back, i wanna see what this looks like LOL

Oh dats right 2day is Zee's B-Day..

[NatPatBen 3]

Felt so good not be alone in my bed any more.

I know that's right!!

Finesse I will be winterizing the house and working on my inside amazon Banana trees everywhere is a jungle in there. Maybe hit the malls I have a Secret Santa and I just want to shop haaaa.

What's involved in winterizing your house?

[My4rmylife 0]

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!

roger just tell me, he got the green card in the mail .. HOOORRAHHHHHHH

this feels GREAT he is legit.. he is finally ----TECHNICALLY-- Legally--- here..

i don't know how to explain it.. it just all feels real now even tho ive had him here for 6 mnths..

i am so thankful today for finding vj 2years ago.. most of those ppl are gone, but i really wanna share how much this site has helped me, made me laugh, i really could not have done all this paperwork/relationship/drama and otherwise w/out the information and support.. i prolly would never have made it this far

thank you Lord for VJ

Q THATS GREAT NEWS I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU

[Shemmy 4]

Congrats Quana

[MRStee 19]

Visit to the SSA office to change name on social security card: 1 hr

Visit to the DMV to change name on driver's license: 1.25 hrs

Knowing I won't have to visit those offices again for a while: PRICELESS

Nat LMAO.. I liked this!

On another note, why did I catch myself dozing at my desk. I mustve slept a good 15 minutes hahahahahaha

[LadyC 1]

Felt so good not be alone in my bed any more.

Mama I know the feeling. I have been getting up later and later since G got here. Having a live blanket in bed is GREAT....

[My4rmylife 0]

Ells, what ended up happening with Lehi's visit with his father/sister?

good morning everyone ... my ortho appt is today plaease pray that my injury will allow for a walking shoe or cast ... hope everyone has a wonderful day ,..

How'd it go, My2?

Oops, it merged my posts - the LMAO was for the cartoon

Glad you clarified! (j/k I figured as much)

THANKKS I ENDED UP WITH THIS SHOE THAT HAS A REALLY HIGH HEEL BUT A SMAILL SURAFCE UNDER THE FRONT SO I AM WALKING ON MY HEEL SO MY BREAK WIILL HEAL ..THE BEST PART IS NO CRUTCHES THE BAD PART STILL NO DRVIVING FOR AT LEAST EIGHT WEEKS

[LadyC 1]

LadyC: I don't have any idea why your e-mails are going in my junk box. I guess I have to check it everyday. lol

Sunny Mi know seh di Govt dont like mi...

[*SunRay* 1]

Felt so good not be alone in my bed any more.

Mama I know the feeling. I have been getting up later and later since G got here. Having a live blanket in bed is GREAT....

I still get up late and it's been over a year. LMAO

[Ellsinlove 2]

Dillon, glad to read your Dad is out of ICU & they are figuring things out. Still praying for him!

Maybe its just me but I don't see why everyone is saying Ells shouldn't be upset. She has every right to be if that's how she genuinely feels. We all react to things differently. Sometimes our emotions just take over like that. Maybe she is thinking about all the time she was "away" from Lehi while going through the process and she feels like being a little selfish and not sharing him. I think its great that Lehi's dad wants to come into his life, he just needs to be a bit more respectful and do things at a more appropriate time, for ALL parties involved. It seems like he is not taking Ells feelings into consideration and Lehi is caught in the middle of it all. We can all sit here and tell her to be calm about it but unless we are in her shoes we can't judge. We can only pray that the outcome will work in everyone's favor.

Just my opinion.

THANK YOU Mstee! That is EXACTLY my point & a big reason I was so upset! I have no problem with them doing their thing...I think it's important but there has to be some boundaries or people will keep stepping on you.

From my view point - not saying she doesn't have a right to be upset - But she has to allow her husband to make the decisions - To make him call his father back last night and tell him not to come is treating him like a child - I probably would have been annoyed to, and thought how ridiculous this is - But at the end of the day, my husband is a grown man and he has to make his choices - if he doesn't decide how much of a relationship he wants with his father, whatever - there is a potential that one day he could flip it and resent Ells for interfering, which would cause bigger problems down the road -

We also don't know the full story of why his father didn't have contact for all those years - There could have been a zillion reasons why - including that possibly he tried and hubby's Mom blocked it - We can't place blame on the man when we don't know why -

But ultimately, the decision needs to be up to her husband to decide how much of a relationship he wants with his father, and to speak up to his father for himself - He is a grown man - Sometimes our SO does something in a way we don't agree with - but they are grown - we have a right to share our concerns with them - We don't have a right to tell them what to do - they aren't our child.

I didn't 'make' him do anything....I did however put some things to him in a way that made him understand my anger & he made the decision to call him back on his own. And I've thought about this 'resenting' thing....if he wants to resent me for whatever interference he thinks I may be throwing, that's fine. I'm not so attached to anything in life (except for my Mom & my own well-being) that I can't let it go. If he has a problem in the long run with the way things have gone, he can choose to do whatever he wants about it, including leaving. I don't want that to happen, but I also am not going to walk on eggshells to make sure my man stays with me even when something really bugs me. I've been there & done that. Those days are over.

His dad didn't have contact with him because it wasn't convenient for him, plain & simple. His Mom would've been happy for her son to have some support & help through life but since it wasn't easy, he chose to ignore that he existed. How you can provide for all your other offspring & send them off to school & what not & leave one kid out of the mix (probably because his mom was a poor country girl that came from a poor family....since we all know that happens) is beyond me. But that's neither here nor there. However, far as I'm concerned, he doesn't have the right to manipulate him by threatening (without actually threatening) not to hang out with him & to get mad when he doesn't get his way. Last night when he called him to say don't come, his dad's response was, "see you around then!" ####### IS THAT???

awww.. i answered w/out even reading ells post..

ellsybug.. i feel for you mami,

are you afraid of something? are you this doting in other relationships or is it just lehi??

I'm not doting really & I'm not afraid....except of course of them getting in a car wreck late at night on a slippery highway because the driver is tired or something....that kinda thing is just not necessary. Come as planned originally & do it at a decent time.

I never said Ells had no right to be upset I just think she needs to tread lightly. Family is always a sensitive issue. I see Ells point, that is crazy to come in the middle of the night and take my hubby on the road with you but I think it should have been Lehi’s decision. Obviously he was o.k with it or he would have told his dad “Naw pops I can wait until tomorrow.” If I was in Ells shoes I think I would be upset no doubt about this but family you just have to be careful. We have to think of Lehi’s feelings too and how do we really know he wants to be with his dad or not. I personally think Lehi has to be the one to make the choice to go or not to go. I think the dad is trying to compromise he’s not trying to take him away Xmas weekend he’s shooting for two weeks before it.

His Dad manipulates him & tells him he has to work so he can't come get him after all so if he wants to come this weekend, he'll need to come get him tonight....and then the pick up time gets later & later & LATER! I didn't force him to tell his dad to turn around but I did ask him to put himself in my shoes & see if he would like if someone came to pick me up in the middle of the night like that. He decided he wouldn't be too pleased with it & that he'd fret. He says himself 'don't do to someone else what you don't want for yourself'! His Dad is not compromising at all....he does what he wants, when he wants & doesn't consider the other parties involved. The original plan (THEIR PLANS, NOT MINE) was for him to pick him up some time on Friday & bring him back on Sunday. I had NO problem with this.

Anyway, I'm just repeating the hell out of myself & saying the same thing....I think ya'll get my point by now.

Edited December 11, 2009 by Ellsinlove