Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)

[*JG* 2]

Yeah, that is me. Suspicious of all motivations now. Sort of sucks to saddle someone else with that baggage.

Yeah it does and my friend tells me that all the time like your punishing me for their actions. I don't mean to but I can't help it. I felt like I was a fool not once but twice no sir re you won't get me again… I never in a million years thought I would feel this way.

I've learned to be a lot more vocal. If I'm not happy, you know it. That's sort of my motto.....if I don't tell you then you don't know. If I tell you and you did/do it anyhow, shame on you.

[MRStee 19]

I guess I'm not scared to share anymore on here! Den would kill me....he so shy and all...

Oh well, he knew what he was getting into with me and he knows I'm so worth it! So I appreciate being able to share on here with you guys. Our love is not perfect but its a perfect love for us!

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

[*JG* 2]

Maybe you will tell me to STFU, you are too nosy; but here it goes.................What does the baby's mother think of you bringing the baby here?

No I wouldn't say that to you...I shared stuff on here can't get mad at questions, etc. Well that conversation has not happened yet. For right now, its my understanding that she will raise the child there and he of course, would do his part. I can't see anyone allowing their newborn to go and live in another country! If that time came though, we would gladly take it own with some adjustments of course.

OK. That I understand. I thought in a previous post you were asking about birth papers in order to bring the child with him. I'm sorry; but I will never understand a mother giving up a newborn like that. (Other cirucumstances, pershaps) So, that was my confusion.

Thanks for answering.

[MRStee 19]

lol i would do it again

Girl not me I was slipping and sliding all ova the place. Then you know how you have to walk up it in a chain. Well some of those rocks I couldn’t climb so the guy in front of me was pulling me and the guy behind me was pushing me. I know I made there experience dreadful. I bet they will neva stand in line next to a woman with full curves like me again. I was so out of breath I felt as though I ran a marathon. I made it to the top but it was nuh easy at all. Whoo I’m losing my breath right now just thinking about it.

who's got food? what's for lunch peeps?

im having chinese and its delicious

[sus 70]

who's got food? what's for lunch peeps?

Me....me steamed shrimp, mini crab cakes, steamed rice, sausage and hush puppies....oh yeah kale

Dens Wife - I met my husband on the dancefloor too.

Hi Shemmy! How you doing? Looks like we have some movers and shakers here on Yardie Thread! Hey now, I'm over here dancing at my desk.

I guess you could kinda say I met DJ at the club too - although he stood back watching me brush men off all night long - He told me later on that he and his cousin were betting that my friend and I were lesbians - especially after my friend shot his cousin down

[Shemmy 4]

Well of course I am fighting with my Mom about the whole situation, I put my foot down and told her they are my kids and this is my decision OH Lawd I thought we had drama before well this is the next episode. She just emailed me I am gonna let her sit on ice for a minute cause I am trying not to eat another bread bowl stressing over these family issues!

Philly - I also think your son should go. Sorry your mother is giving you such a hard time. We're here for you.

[sus 70]

Off topic - I found a new Finesse Smilie:

Finesse missed her smilie -

Found another one:

[phillyfashionista 8]

JG - *shoe update* - You will be happy to know - I think you spoke with my dad's wife because she said she is buying my shoes! I guess she was tired of waiting on me too!

( As she claps her hands)

Dens nice story....

When I was dating we met on the dance floor too and he was so not my type. I think your wedding colors defiantly need to include the color gold ... LOL

So after meeting him how long before you went back?

LMAO @ Dada with the wedding colors

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LOL No the only gold better be our wedding bands...

It took me 4 months to return. I knew that I loved him right away...I know that sounds crazy but it took a minute for me to accept that this was real. I've been back now a total of 5 times since our first time meeting. We used them 4 months to get to know each other...talking on the phone, e-mails, and letters, cards...awww

His dang gon ex was lurking...wanting to get back together with him...so I was trying to not get caught up being anyone's rebound girl! We didn't find out until months later that his ex was preg with his son...thus the whole issue with him having a son just being born in September...

Damn, damn, damn!!!!!!! I have to give him credit because since day one he and I have always said no matter what let's try our best to keep it real and be honest...and even though I know it was hard for him to tell me that early on somethings, he did tell me! Then it was up to me what to do about it, stay or walk it out!!!!

Dens, does the ex cause any issues at all in your relationship now that there is a child involved?

LDR are hard to begin with and to have extra things added to it are even harder. I didn't believe Steve either at first. What still amazes me about him is that he has no children, he doesn't smoke, hardly drinks and his ability to love me so fast - He is so boring! But I LOVES me some him!!! All 6ft 4 of him! mmmmmmmm such a tall drink of water... whew, let me calm down... lol.. Anyway Im very happy for you DW!!!

LOL @ Mstee my Hubby is 6"5 LOL youll see I look so short next to him

I guess I'm not scared to share anymore on here! Den would kill me....he so shy and all...

Oh well, he knew what he was getting into with me and he knows I'm so worth it! So I appreciate being able to share on here with you guys. Our love is not perfect but its a perfect love for us!

LOL Den, yes we all share on here see we won't bite LOL I love that last statement Our love is not perfect but its a perfect love for us! Yes yes yes!

[DedicatedWife 4]

Maybe you will tell me to STFU, you are too nosy; but here it goes.................What does the baby's mother think of you bringing the baby here?

No I wouldn't say that to you...I shared stuff on here can't get mad at questions, etc. Well that conversation has not happened yet. For right now, its my understanding that she will raise the child there and he of course, would do his part. I can't see anyone allowing their newborn to go and live in another country! If that time came though, we would gladly take it own with some adjustments of course.

OK. That I understand. I thought in a previous post you were asking about birth papers in order to bring the child with him. I'm sorry; but I will never understand a mother giving up a newborn like that. (Other cirucumstances, pershaps) So, that was my confusion.

Thanks for answering.

Oh yeah that's right...well I was asking because on the DS-157 I think it ask you to list all children and provide a copy of their birth certificates so that's why I was wondering if it would be an issue. There is no plans for baby to follow him anytime soon and he was just born, didn't want it to hold us up since they already gon be in our tails about the timing of the baby being born and everything.

[Shemmy 4]

who's got food? what's for lunch peeps?

Me....me steamed shrimp, mini crab cakes, steamed rice, sausage and hush puppies....oh yeah kale

Dens Wife - I met my husband on the dancefloor too.

Hubby making sure you eat your greens? :rofl: Gotta get those vitamins in!

Sus - you should see this big a** bowl of kale He cooked and made my lunch last night but the seafood in the cafeteria looked alot better...don't tell him .

[MRStee 19]

Dens nice story....

When I was dating we met on the dance floor too and he was so not my type. I think your wedding colors defiantly need to include the color gold ... LOL

So after meeting him how long before you went back?

LOL No the only gold better be our wedding bands...

It took me 4 months to return. I knew that I loved him right away...I know that sounds crazy but it took a minute for me to accept that this was real. I've been back now a total of 5 times since our first time meeting. We used them 4 months to get to know each other...talking on the phone, e-mails, and letters, cards...awww

His dang gon ex was lurking...wanting to get back together with him...so I was trying to not get caught up being anyone's rebound girl! We didn't find out until months later that his ex was preg with his son...thus the whole issue with him having a son just being born in September...

Damn, damn, damn!!!!!!! I have to give him credit because since day one he and I have always said no matter what let's try our best to keep it real and be honest...and even though I know it was hard for him to tell me that early on somethings, he did tell me! Then it was up to me what to do about it, stay or walk it out!!!!

Amen!!! What I’m hoping to find in my next relationship is honesty Whether it will hurt me or not always be honest and just tell me!!!

I’m kind of talking to someone now. A blast from the past and well I need time to get myself together so we are just friends and taking it really slow but I can already see I’m going to have issues. I no longer trust. I was never before afraid to be in a relationship but now I find myself scared to ever trust again. I no longer want to put my all into anything. I believe in time this might pass but right now my guard is up in full force!!

Wait der I go getting off track. As I was saying I hear you at the end of the day just tell me!!!

Look Dada, you have to be able to trust again because that is a key element of a relationship. State what your needs are from the beginning, let him know what you will and won't tolerate and in your mind (give him two chances to f up). Keep communications open, tell him about your aspirations and have him share his. If you see early on its not working, kick dat azz to the curb and keep it moving...If you about to start a relationship, ask God to show you if this is the man for you. Don't be afraid to ask God to send ya whatcha need!!!

Steve and I had the "talk". We agreed that if things don't work out we would part and be friends. I told him he could have everything and I would start over. The things I am saying worked for me. Can you believe Im still friends will ALL of my ex's? Because we had an understanding from day one and we both stuck to it. So it can work sis!

[MRStee 19]

LOL No the only gold better be our wedding bands...

It took me 4 months to return. I knew that I loved him right away...I know that sounds crazy but it took a minute for me to accept that this was real. I've been back now a total of 5 times since our first time meeting. We used them 4 months to get to know each other...talking on the phone, e-mails, and letters, cards...awww

His dang gon ex was lurking...wanting to get back together with him...so I was trying to not get caught up being anyone's rebound girl! We didn't find out until months later that his ex was preg with his son...thus the whole issue with him having a son just being born in September...

Damn, damn, damn!!!!!!! I have to give him credit because since day one he and I have always said no matter what let's try our best to keep it real and be honest...and even though I know it was hard for him to tell me that early on somethings, he did tell me! Then it was up to me what to do about it, stay or walk it out!!!!

LDR are hard to begin with and to have extra things added to it are even harder. I didn't believe Steve either at first. What still amazes me about him is that he has no children, he doesn't smoke, hardly drinks and his ability to love me so fast - He is so boring! But I LOVES me some him!!! All 6ft 4 of him! mmmmmmmm such a tall drink of water... whew, let me calm down... lol.. Anyway Im very happy for you DW!!!

O.k. girl I was like umm Ms Tee whoo hoo come back to us now. I could see you fantasying while typing that… LOL

Gurl I was because I told him about how we talked in this forum about Jamaican men being affectionate. I told him that if he didn't learn to be more affectionate someone else would show me affection He fixed that right away hahahahaha... whew that was a sexy party to remember, so I got lost when I was talking to you guys! lol

who's got food? what's for lunch peeps?

Me....me steamed shrimp, mini crab cakes, steamed rice, sausage and hush puppies....oh yeah kale

Dens Wife - I met my husband on the dancefloor too.

Shem, whats wrong with Kale? Its delicious

[DedicatedWife 4]

Philly to answer you question, about her having a problem with our relationship now that the baby is here.

I know that some part of her has to want them to be a family and to be back together. I think she was thinking that all the love from the years they were together along with the baby would be enough. I think she is still in denial to be honest, although I know for a fact he has told her that its all about his son and that he will be a father to his son. She cool right now but I wonder how she going to be a month from now when he packing up his stuff!! I know if it were me in her shoes I would be extremely hurt, but when you dealing with an ex and they telling you they met someone and moving on...

Edited December 10, 2009 by Dens Wifey

[Shemmy 4]

who's got food? what's for lunch peeps?

Me....me steamed shrimp, mini crab cakes, steamed rice, sausage and hush puppies....oh yeah kale

Dens Wife - I met my husband on the dancefloor too.

Hi Shemmy! How you doing? Looks like we have some movers and shakers here on Yardie Thread! Hey now, I'm over here dancing at my desk.

I didn't move much because I was tired as hell. It was my first night in JA and hadn't slept in days because my friend was getting married. But he kept dancing around me until my hips finally moved...I remember it like it was yesterday

[MRStee 19]

who's got food? what's for lunch peeps?

Me....me steamed shrimp, mini crab cakes, steamed rice, sausage and hush puppies....oh yeah kale

Dens Wife - I met my husband on the dancefloor too.

Hi Shemmy! How you doing? Looks like we have some movers and shakers here on Yardie Thread! Hey now, I'm over here dancing at my desk.

I wish I could learn to be a mover and shaker again These torpedos and all this junk in my trunk is dictating otherwise, come to think of it, I met Steve droppin it like a salt shaker too! He doesn't dance but he sure let me dance on him lol... I had on a black strapless sundress..omg...I forgot all this info.

One of the reasons Steve liked me too was because there was a drunk girl there and I had met her in the bathroom and she was so drunk and so was her friend. But her friend was so busy in the jamaican men's faces, she no longer cared about her drunk friend, so I kept talking to the girl and told to eat something. Steve said "Do you know her?" I said no but I don't want anything to happen to her. So these two jamaican men said they was going to help get her back to her hotel. My crazy azz said to them, "If anything happens to her, I will find you". (Trying to be gansta with it) To this day I don't know what happened. I just prayed to God to take care of her Steve said "See you are a strong woman, who I want to get to know because you didn't have to do that".