Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)

[DaDa 1]

aftanoon massive!

when ppl have 2 different ideas about raising children, im not sure what can be done besides trying to find some middleground..

i had this problem even w/ my kids biological dad, he stayed on them, sometimes unnecessarily in my eyes, and my idea was that "they are good kids overall, you don't have to be so strict"

we fought sometimes about it, but not enough to cause a major rift.. well not that issue anyway lol

roger believes i should punish my youngest more than i do, he has mentioned it a few times, "steph needs a whooping" . and in those instances he was right, i don't notice until she is out w/ others.. becuz she is such a smart and mature child, i try to give her the benefit of the doubt, but in the end she is still a child and i can't let her act so dyam grown.. i may not put my hands on her as much as roger would on his kids (HE SAYS) but i am gnna start laying the smack down more often..

good luck finding ur middle ground irie

Hey Love I see you got " told " in the e-mail..lol

[Shemmy 4]

I feel 'ya but in our situation...things slowly changed over the years. Like he still treats her like a baby...he doesn't want her to walk around the mall by herself (even when we're at the same mall). At 17...she's old enough to drive to the mall.

I'm not sure if D met your dawtah before he came to the US some couples don't have that option -- with me, I couldn't move forward until my son met my husband a few times.

Why doesn't he want her to walk around the mall alone? Why does he feel that way?

No, he didn't meet her before. Not sure if would make a difference at this stage...we've been living together as a family for 5 years. I've know plenty of couples who kids met their spouses before and things did not work out. As times goes by, things change.

My daughter has never given us a reason not to trust her...he just feels like if something happens to her (kidnap) he will be responsible.

[thisislove 0]

lol dara.. ya nuh guh vex me tideh

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Well my kids treat Steve better than they treat me!

Yeah but MsTee its still new too. They might like the idea now but once they see Steve isn't going anywhere it might change. All I can say is keep your fingers, toes and legs crossed that it doesn't change. Well maybe not your legs but you know what I mean …

Umm by time they realize it the will be OUTTA MY DAYUM HOUSE! My way or NO way...

I moved out at a young age, not because I didn't get along with my parent, but because I felt it was time. My parents didn't want me to go. It made me uncomfortable when I went out to party and I came in when did duppy dem shouldah deh sleep... I was 20 years old and it was sooooooo hard, but I survived. My parents were strict. I didn't argue with them -- I don't dare talk back. I just did what I was suppose to do. Go to school, keep out of trouble, help out your siblings and whatever else we ask.

[phillyfashionista 8]

Mrs.Phillyfashionista mi seh -- -mi musah afi wait 'til watti kill phillip before mi get a e-mail fram oddah day mi perch like one pigeon n all now nutin naw reach mi mailbax it nearli reach one month

LMAO mi just sen yuh a link and mi see yuh response Drama as always.....

I think kids are the devil! Just kidding.

Raising kids is hard and there is no right or wrong way to do it. Everyone has different styles.

I have been criticized for how I have raised my kids by some people. They say I am too lenient on them. Why, I ask? Cause my kids (17 year old boy, 14 year old girl) make straight A's? Cause my son is taking his first year of college courses FREE in high school? Cause my son got a job the very day he turned 16? Cause they take/have taken care of their elderly great-grandmother, aunts, grandparents, my little nephew? Cause they show respect to everyone.....even if I have to remind them sometimes? Cause they actually talk to me and ask my opinion on important issues effecting them?

My kids are good kids. How we got here was a struggle sometimes. I didn't want little robots (although they are surprisingly like me in many ways!). I wanted them to have interests and minds and whatever else all their own. I just wanted them respectful, hard working, and loving children. I wanted them safe and secure. I say I have done a fine job.

But, as long as you know YOUR rules and somehow get them to obey them, you can take a different path to get there. You will all find your way.

Thanks JG,

[MRStee 19]

I was feeling very angry today and this whole topic of children help me to release and feel better. It also made me realize that we are not alone in this.. This is the MOST crowded I have seen this forum in a LONG time. At the end of the day, I will keep all of us parents in prayer. That God helps us to raise our children to the best of our abilities

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

No, he didn't meet her before. Not sure if would make a difference at this stage...we've been living together as a family for 5 years. I've know plenty of couples who kids met their spouses before and things did not work out. As times goes by, things change.

My daughter has never given us a reason not to trust her...he just feels like if something happens to her (kidnap) he will be responsible.

Is this causing argument between the two of you? I think it's a bit much, especially if ya'll are at the same mall. It's not like she's 6 years old, come on.

[thisislove 0]

chiney for aftanoon snack mi ave pumpkin bread from the box...

[MRStee 19]

Well my kids treat Steve better than they treat me!

Yeah but MsTee its still new too. They might like the idea now but once they see Steve isn't going anywhere it might change. All I can say is keep your fingers, toes and legs crossed that it doesn't change. Well maybe not your legs but you know what I mean …

Umm by time they realize it the will be OUTTA MY DAYUM HOUSE! My way or NO way...

I moved out at a young age, not because I didn't get along with my parent, but because I felt it was time. My parents didn't want me to go. It made me uncomfortable when I went out to party and I came in when did duppy dem shouldah deh sleep... I was 20 years old and it was sooooooo hard, but I survived. My parents were strict. I didn't argue with them -- I don't dare talk back. I just did what I was suppose to do. Go to school, keep out of trouble, help out your siblings and whatever else we ask.

Thats the way I feel it should be also. Im trying to teach my children independence and responsibility so they can understand what the world is all about. Im just preparing them. Its up to them to succeed. I think Ive been a hell of a role model. Raising them alone, going to school for 6 years, working at my job for 21, never arguing around boyfriends or even bringing men in and out my house for that matter or never talking bad about their absentee a** fathers!!! I just wanted the best for them.. When they realize that, we will be better as a family

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

chiney for aftanoon snack mi ave pumpkin bread from the box...

Quanna u eat bluedraws? I'm having some now, my aunt brought them up lastnight...she can't wait to leave for TX...she say it's too cold up here...don't look like she going anywhere if we get bad weather tomorrow.

[thisislove 0]

No, he didn't meet her before. Not sure if would make a difference at this stage...we've been living together as a family for 5 years. I've know plenty of couples who kids met their spouses before and things did not work out. As times goes by, things change.

My daughter has never given us a reason not to trust her...he just feels like if something happens to her (kidnap) he will be responsible.

Is this causing argument between the two of you? I think it's a bit much, especially if ya'll are at the same mall. It's not like she's 6 years old, come on.

i know alot of men that OVER protective of daughters, the ooman usually hush them up

[Shemmy 4]

No, he didn't meet her before. Not sure if would make a difference at this stage...we've been living together as a family for 5 years. I've know plenty of couples who kids met their spouses before and things did not work out. As times goes by, things change.

My daughter has never given us a reason not to trust her...he just feels like if something happens to her (kidnap) he will be responsible.

Is this causing argument between the two of you? I think it's a bit much, especially if ya'll are at the same mall. It's not like she's 6 years old, come on.

Naw...the argument is a little deeper than that. This is a example one of our discussions. I'll write it out lata so I won't get fired.

[thisislove 0]

chiney for aftanoon snack mi ave pumpkin bread from the box...

Quanna u eat bluedraws? I'm having some now, my aunt brought them up lastnight...she can't wait to leave for TX...she say it's too cold up here...don't look like she going anywhere if we get bad weather tomorrow.

never had them yet.. alway hear yall talking bout them..

TX is cold now.. altho i know yall gonna throw a brick at me if i try and complain bout 40 degree weather

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

No, he didn't meet her before. Not sure if would make a difference at this stage...we've been living together as a family for 5 years. I've know plenty of couples who kids met their spouses before and things did not work out. As times goes by, things change.

My daughter has never given us a reason not to trust her...he just feels like if something happens to her (kidnap) he will be responsible.

Is this causing argument between the two of you? I think it's a bit much, especially if ya'll are at the same mall. It's not like she's 6 years old, come on.

i know alot of men that OVER protective of daughters, the ooman usually hush them up

I guess, my dad didn't have to worry bout that, cause I'm a daddy's girl, still am and I always wanted to be everywhere with my dad! I call my parents everyday...sometimes I sit on a teen peer counseling group at church and I ask them what's the rush to grow up...dem caan ansah mi...I said look...clubs, malls, boys, girls, dances, parties --- will always be there...I remember the first time I went into a club I was 18 and I was like WHAT THE HELL is the hype all about...tinking dutty bway a try rub dem cratches up against my big A$$ dat ain't happening...

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

chiney for aftanoon snack mi ave pumpkin bread from the box...

man..mi LOVE pumkin bread from the box..mi can eat thewhole loaf