Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)

[thisislove 0]

bway...mi no know, but my son is 6 years old and we don't have any problems between him and my husband. My son did spend 3 weeks with us in Jamaica a few times, not sure if that has a lot to do with it. If my husband tells him no, it's no. His father tried to run interference many times by telling my son that he should not listen to any other man but his father, thank God my son has my personality, mannerism and respect for people because I don't play. I'm 39 years old and I cannot answer another person WHAT! I just can't -- I think it's rude. My grannie taught me things like that and to always say good morning, please, excuse me or thank you those things jus buried in me.

you and your husband have the same ideas about how kids should act... that helps!

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

Hey, Shemmy.....do you think you really move on? Or do you harbor stuff that later surfaces? Just wondering. My ex and I had different parenting styles. He has since learned my way was actually the better way cause trying to actually control their every movement was not working for him.

We had a lot of recurring arguments over the same damn stuff.

exactly.. that why it will never REALLY be resolved UNLESS one parent takes on the ideas of the other,the only thing you can hope for when you compromise is that both parent is WILLING to give and take, w/out holding any resentment

if BOTH parents are okay w/ that, it can work..

but if one parent feels his or her way is the only RIGHT way, then

[thisislove 0]

parenting done...MI HUNGRY...MI A STARVE I SWEAR

i just stuffed myself w/ mac and cheese, fry fish, cabbage AND porkand beans UMMMM

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

This is our biggest issue yet. The smaller issues, yes we moved on. I do not harbor stuff...Damien does.

[*JG* 2]

All I can say is it is tough. Things started out great, I NEVER thought Louis and Tierra would not get along.

I know Tierra can be jealous of Louis and now she has to share me. I do my best to make this a happy family.

There has to be a mutual respect between Louis and I. We will not always agree on everything.

Exactly...I feel the same way. Things are always not going to be easy. We discuss, find a solution and move on.

one person can't be the only one working on a happy home...if i'm pulling and ur pushing where does that get us?

Chiney - My family means EVERYTHING to me. Nothing is one sided..unless you are with us 24/7...it's easy to judge.

where am i making judgments?

Hey, Shemmy.....do you think you really move on? Or do you harbor stuff that later surfaces? Just wondering. My ex and I had different parenting styles. He has since learned my way was actually the better way cause trying to actually control their every movement was not working for him.

We had a lot of recurring arguments over the same damn stuff.

This is our biggest issue yet. The smaller issues, yes we moved on. I do not harbor stuff...Damien does.

If it's a new issue, then you are just learning your way. It's okay to disagree. It's okay to learn from this one, Shemmy. Then, next time or next one, you will know a better way to handle it.

Kids are tough. Hard headed men are even tougher!

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

parenting done...MI HUNGRY...MI A STARVE I SWEAR

i just stuffed myself w/ mac and cheese, fry fish, cabbage AND porkand beans UMMMM

damn!!! yuh no hear mi sey mi hungry..chaaa

[DaDa 1]

Well my kids treat Steve better than they treat me!

Yeah but MsTee its still new too. They might like the idea now but once they see Steve isn’t going anywhere it might change. All I can say is keep your fingers, toes and legs crossed that it doesn’t change. Well maybe not your legs but you know what I mean …

[*JG* 2]

Hey, Shemmy.....do you think you really move on? Or do you harbor stuff that later surfaces? Just wondering. My ex and I had different parenting styles. He has since learned my way was actually the better way cause trying to actually control their every movement was not working for him.

We had a lot of recurring arguments over the same damn stuff.

exactly.. that why it will never REALLY be resolved UNLESS one parent takes on the ideas of the other,the only thing you can hope for when you compromise is that both parent is WILLING to give and take, w/out holding any resentment

if BOTH parents are okay w/ that, it can work..

but if one parent feels his or her way is the only RIGHT way, then

OK, here is where I am going to completely disagree. Maybe sometimes one needs to take on the idea(s) of the other. But, on a whole, I think compromise is the way to go. No one wants to be agreed or disagreed with ALL The time.

[sus 70]

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

bway...mi no know, but my son is 6 years old and we don't have any problems between him and my husband. My son did spend 3 weeks with us in Jamaica a few times, not sure if that has a lot to do with it. If my husband tells him no, it's no. His father tried to run interference many times by telling my son that he should not listen to any other man but his father, thank God my son has my personality, mannerism and respect for people because I don't play. I'm 39 years old and I cannot answer another person WHAT! I just can't -- I think it's rude. My grannie taught me things like that and to always say good morning, please, excuse me or thank you those things jus buried in me.

you and your husband have the same ideas about how kids should act... that helps!

Believe it and it more than helps. I can't even say hell in front of my parents...I would feel horible and shame!

[*JG* 2]

Ha ha.....no diet ####### for me!

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

Hey, Shemmy.....do you think you really move on? Or do you harbor stuff that later surfaces? Just wondering. My ex and I had different parenting styles. He has since learned my way was actually the better way cause trying to actually control their every movement was not working for him.

We had a lot of recurring arguments over the same damn stuff.

exactly.. that why it will never REALLY be resolved UNLESS one parent takes on the ideas of the other,the only thing you can hope for when you compromise is that both parent is WILLING to give and take, w/out holding any resentment

if BOTH parents are okay w/ that, it can work..

but if one parent feels his or her way is the only RIGHT way, then

OK, here is where I am going to completely disagree. Maybe sometimes one needs to take on the idea(s) of the other. But, on a whole, I think compromise is the way to go. No one wants to be agreed or disagreed with ALL The time.

not the point..for me at least

[thisislove 0]

OMG! I just had the best sandwich for lunch... fresh mozzarella, mesculin, sweet onions, yellow peppers and this spicy apple pepper chutney! I want more!!

Philly... I am sorry about your family stuff. You know Louis and I have been arguing about Tierra lately. He gets on her about EVERYTHING and when I ask him to cool out it usually ends up in a big argument. I am not sure what to do. I have tried to tell him that he needs to show more love, patience and caring... dont sweat the small stuff. Of course he thinks my way is all wrong... * sigh * .... one day at a time!

I feel the same way about my oldest son and my ex husband. My younger three were by him but my oldest is not. I feel like he gets on my oldest about every little thing. He never says anything good but yet he is always playing with the younger ones. That is not fair even though he is older and he has more responsibilities still don’t always look like the punisher or enforcer. Say nice things, take him on an outing just the two of you and talk men things.

thats my issue.. but to be honest, i don't think he acts this way w/ his kids either, ive heard him on the phone.. i asked him does he tell them he loves them, he said they are big boys.. (6 and 8) i was like, they still wanna hear it.. i am a hugger and a "i love you" person, but if he is not, i guess i gotta deal wid it..

[*JG* 2]

bway...mi no know, but my son is 6 years old and we don't have any problems between him and my husband. My son did spend 3 weeks with us in Jamaica a few times, not sure if that has a lot to do with it. If my husband tells him no, it's no. His father tried to run interference many times by telling my son that he should not listen to any other man but his father, thank God my son has my personality, mannerism and respect for people because I don't play. I'm 39 years old and I cannot answer another person WHAT! I just can't -- I think it's rude. My grannie taught me things like that and to always say good morning, please, excuse me or thank you those things jus buried in me.

you and your husband have the same ideas about how kids should act... that helps!

Believe it and it more than helps. I can't even say hell in front of my parents...I would feel horible and shame!

I was watching "Pulp Fiction" with my mom and I had to leave the room when they started cussing. I don't smoke in front of her either.

It is so engrained into my life too, Tre.

Hey, Shemmy.....do you think you really move on? Or do you harbor stuff that later surfaces? Just wondering. My ex and I had different parenting styles. He has since learned my way was actually the better way cause trying to actually control their every movement was not working for him.

We had a lot of recurring arguments over the same damn stuff.

exactly.. that why it will never REALLY be resolved UNLESS one parent takes on the ideas of the other,the only thing you can hope for when you compromise is that both parent is WILLING to give and take, w/out holding any resentment

if BOTH parents are okay w/ that, it can work..

but if one parent feels his or her way is the only RIGHT way, then

OK, here is where I am going to completely disagree. Maybe sometimes one needs to take on the idea(s) of the other. But, on a whole, I think compromise is the way to go. No one wants to be agreed or disagreed with ALL The time.

not the point..for me at least

Explain then. You are speaking a different language.

[IrieCat 2]

Ha ha.....no diet ####### for me!