Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 21)

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JG, is that you?

Lunch was good but the fancy lunch is next week I think the 15th. Yesterday was movies and Cheesecake Factory. I enjoy the Cheesecake factory their menu is just too darn long. I had Cookie Dough Cheesecake and it was so good I want to go back and get another piece matter of fact I want to buy a whole one now.

That sounds SO good. I'lll have to try that flavor next time.

But Kimora fresh like her mommy.................. No wonda he ave issues!

Whoa! Another blast from the past!

Who? What? Where? When?

I'm trying to change my avatar. I can't see it. If you can, then, yes, it is me.

That's not her!

Are you serious? Did I screw the thing up? I can't see anything but the damn football purse. Maybe I should log off and come back.

JG I love you! -- I just needed a good laugh...it's you.

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

Well all I can do is talk and show by example how it works. Now I know I am not the best mom on the planet but I do my best.

Louis is going to SLU for 2 weeks next month. I am hoping he comes back "refreshed". I think he has quite a bit of anxiety and stress built up. He is worried about his mom and wants to see her and make sure she is ok. I think it will releive some stress.

He needs a vacation, he needs to see his friends. I think all this will help alot.

Ok...u think that will solve it? honestly I doubt it, something else is going on here

Philly... I am sorry about your family stuff. You know Louis and I have been arguing about Tierra lately. He gets on her about EVERYTHING and when I ask him to cool out it usually ends up in a big argument. I am not sure what to do. I have tried to tell him that he needs to show more love, patience and caring... dont sweat the small stuff. Of course he thinks my way is all wrong... * sigh * .... one day at a time!

awwww Cat

That makes me sad... To me it always seems like he is so good with her...

It will work out (((hugs)))

in this American culture its easier to say dont sweat the small stuff..we have to remember the step parent is looked at as the outsider..ur child will play on the fact UR MY MOM and HE"S NOT MY DAD..u have to set the rules and make sur eshe gets it..if he "gets" on for something..make sure u speak about it..don't dismiss his discipline...in the future ur going to need his backing and he wont give it because u have set the pace of "its not that serious"..one day it will be THAT serious..Tierra is a big girl..she understands..

Well why are mine treating me like the outsider? Like I didn't give birth to them?

LMAO..cause yuh strict mommy ..ahhaa

oh I know Shem..Kimora was almost 2 when her daddy came..it has gotten alot better because she is still young, but the biological parents cannot brush off the issue the step parent is having, or minimize it, especially with the child around

But Kimora fresh like her mommy.................. No wonda he ave issues!

he had issues..she was about 20 months..so fresh neva dey dere...LOL..now..she fraida daddy..i stopped gettign involved..she used to run to me..and i would "rescue" her bad thing that was..

[jamerican 2]

awwww, honey I am sorry

I know the older the kids are the harder it is for them to adjust

Time, Philly... give it time

you!

I'm trying I thought we had moved past the foolishness but now its the older son and refuses to accept Damian period end of story and its not helping that my parents are basically entertaining his tantrums. I try to keep them out of my business especially when it comes to raising the kids cause they treat them like babies but my son keeps bringing them into it. I have a feeling someone is gonna get cussed out before the end of the day!

Hey Dad how was lunch?

I’m assuming yuh meant Dada not dad..LOL

Lunch was good but the fancy lunch is next week I think the 15th. Yesterday was movies and Cheesecake Factory. I enjoy the Cheesecake factory their menu is just too darn long. I had Cookie Dough Cheesecake and it was so good I want to go back and get another piece matter of fact I want to buy a whole one now.

Umm never mind my co-worker just told me those things are like 50 bucks and up.

Oops Dada sorry girl, you know my mind is all over the place today.

Hell to the yeah them cheesecakes are expensive but soooo good. Now I'm getting a sweet tooth UGHHH.

Let me eat my darn steamed veggies ( as she cries in the corner) LOL

Philly....so sorry you have to deal with this MESS.....why can't everyone just get along?????DAMN!!! Really?? Well, hopefully you will look back in 3 months and say....wow-we got through it and we all survived! My son (remember I sent him away to Louisiana after he was acting an azz) will be back for good in 2 weeks.....hmmmmm, so I may be with you in the frustration soon.... He was supposed to stay all school year but there were "issues" so home he comes! He did improve his grades and he does realize that home was really not so bad...so we will see....

[Shemmy 4]

oh I know Shem..Kimora was almost 2 when her daddy came..it has gotten alot better because she is still young, but the biological parents cannot brush off the issue the step parent is having, or minimize it, especially with the child around

I understand. It's still not that easy especially with older children. I don't brush off anything...sometimes I don't sweat the small stuff because things could always be a lot worse. At the same time, the stepparent needs to be a parent at all times..not when it's convenient for them.

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

JG, is that you?

Lunch was good but the fancy lunch is next week I think the 15th. Yesterday was movies and Cheesecake Factory. I enjoy the Cheesecake factory their menu is just too darn long. I had Cookie Dough Cheesecake and it was so good I want to go back and get another piece matter of fact I want to buy a whole one now.

That sounds SO good. I'lll have to try that flavor next time.

But Kimora fresh like her mommy.................. No wonda he ave issues!

Whoa! Another blast from the past!

what past? yuh act like mi no come on in yrs

oh I know Shem..Kimora was almost 2 when her daddy came..it has gotten alot better because she is still young, but the biological parents cannot brush off the issue the step parent is having, or minimize it, especially with the child around

I understand. It's still not that easy especially with older children. I don't brush off anything...sometimes I don't sweat the small stuff because things could always be a lot worse. At the same time, the stepparent needs to be a parent at all times..not when it's convenient for them.

there u go..it maybe alot worse for him....the biological parent must also have the steppy back at all times..no matter how "small" the issue is, especially in the Jamaican culture..it's never small...manners is manners no matter how big or small

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

JG, is that you?

Lunch was good but the fancy lunch is next week I think the 15th. Yesterday was movies and Cheesecake Factory. I enjoy the Cheesecake factory their menu is just too darn long. I had Cookie Dough Cheesecake and it was so good I want to go back and get another piece matter of fact I want to buy a whole one now.

That sounds SO good. I'lll have to try that flavor next time.

But Kimora fresh like her mommy.................. No wonda he ave issues!

Whoa! Another blast from the past!

what past? yuh act like mi no come on in yrs

a who u?

[IrieCat 2]

Chiney, I know it may not solve everything one time. But I can only take it day by day. I would love to go to family counseling but that is not in the budget right now. I also now how stress can effect Louis' attitude.

Louis has no children so this is all new to him. We will have to work this out as a family.

[jamerican 2]

Philly---I am about to order some of the Nollywood movies...The prices are sooo cheap wow!! Any favorites???

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

Chiney, I know it may not solve everything one time. But I can only take it day by day. I would love to go to family counseling but that is not in the budget right now. I also now how stress can effect Louis' attitude.

Louis has no children so this is all new to him. We will have to work this out as a family.

right! but dont u see he has a different view on how a child should behave? stress is no good for anyone..does Tierra say any after he speaks to her or are u the one feeling the "hurt" for her? so ur reacting on his words many children are resilient and until they develop the understanding they will let things "roll" of their shoulders..I see it with Kimora..and she is the only child..and so is Shems daughter

[jamerican 2]

Chiney, I know it may not solve everything one time. But I can only take it day by day. I would love to go to family counseling but that is not in the budget right now. I also now how stress can effect Louis' attitude.

Louis has no children so this is all new to him. We will have to work this out as a family.

Irie...is Louis a "kid" person? I mean, some folks just don't care too much for children--that's ME... I am ok (more than ok but you get what I mean) with mine but you will never see me having no slumber party with a bunch of kids over..... Cause if that is the case....not sure how you are gonna overcome that

[Shemmy 4]

there u go..it maybe alot worse for him....the biological parent must also have the steppy back at all times..no matter how "small" the issue is, especially in the Jamaican culture..it's never small...manners is manners no matter how big or small

Well then I must be a horrible parent. I look at the big picture...not just one incident.

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

a who u?

yuh wuss dyam nightmare

there u go..it maybe alot worse for him....the biological parent must also have the steppy back at all times..no matter how "small" the issue is, especially in the Jamaican culture..it's never small...manners is manners no matter how big or small

Well then I must be a horrible parent. I look at the big picture...not just one incident.

it has nothing to do with horrible parenting....either ur husband has to learn ur way or u learn his...there is a clash

[MRStee 19]

Chiney, I know it may not solve everything one time. But I can only take it day by day. I would love to go to family counseling but that is not in the budget right now. I also now how stress can effect Louis' attitude.

Louis has no children so this is all new to him. We will have to work this out as a family.

I hope you can work it out, the good thing is Tierra is still young so it can be done, not like my hard-headed a** monsters!!!

[DaDa 1]

Shermike has been on this website for years...no name change.

Oh so she's a oldie but goodie...Thanks.....

[Chiney*Eyes 0]

there u go..it maybe alot worse for him....the biological parent must also have the steppy back at all times..no matter how "small" the issue is, especially in the Jamaican culture..it's never small...manners is manners no matter how big or small

Well then I must be a horrible parent. I look at the big picture...not just one incident.

and let me add to my statement..have steppy back if the child is "wrong" obviously..not just because it's not a big deal to you