why do Pinays

[SuperDuper! 230]

For all your quirkyness, Galt, I must say I agree with your accurate perception of the older white USC with young Pinay. The woman is wired to find a male who offers a (financially) stable nest, so that she can raise the children in a suitable environment. The older, financially stable divorced man has most of all the material things he wants.

Young Pinay offers him the love, care and supple, flexible sexy body that all older men desire. Pinay gets lifted out of abject poverty and this also helps her family back home. Some simpletons may call this mutual exploitation, but really it is just a couple meeting each other's needs in a more traditional relationship context.

Also, the Phils and US have a close and intertwined history, so it only makes further sense that Pinay and Puti would get together and make a great life and mad loving relationship together, and have a lot of fun along the way. To those who don't get it or criticize it, just go do your own thing, and make your life the best it can be. Peace and happy new year!

[Kevin-n-Merlaine 14]

When my cousin Debbie was a teenager she told everyone that she was going to marry a doctor. After high school she started working as a candy striper at the local hospital and immersed herself in that circle of people. A few years later she was married to Dr. Thomas. I think people like to look for alterior motives or an underlying story...some kind of devious reason for an action. I have to agree with both Galt and Hopp. Years of a relationship between our countries and an attraction to caucasion men just make it easier where Fil/Am relationships are concerned. If you don't think they're attracted, take a walk through any city in the Phils (or with your husband if you're the wife) and you'll see I asked my wife point blank many times and got all of the answers that Galt and Hopp said along with, "I dunno, we're just attracted to fair skined men". 2 of her nieces already told her she was the "hero" and after meeting me they intended to find an Amerikano..lol

Lots of reasons, some monitary and some not, just like any other woman on the face of the planet.

[hopeful pinay 0]

I am American Girl, I married my husband who is from Philippines. It just turned out that way. I didnt go" looking" for a foreign guy.....we just met eachother I never thought I would marry a foreign guy or an Asian guy, it just happened. .........its called LOVE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

I agree with you...it is called LOVE...I had a great life in Philippines, beautiful family, successful career but I left everything for my husband. I call it LOVE:) Where is your husband from? Is he working now? How was his adjustment?

[loveaboo 0]

Marrying a white guy isn't going to automatically grant you beautiful children. Ugly Brown + Ugly White does not equal beautiful babies. Skin color should not even matter. If you want beautiful children you or your husband/wife will have to be beautiful as well regardless of skin color. I find you first answer very demeaning to filipinos.

Sorry I didn't read this thread for quite awhile.

Anyways, sorry if you find my answer very demeaning to filipinos. That's not my intention. I'm answering the OP's question and just being as honest as I can be.

I believe that combination of white and brown make pretty, cute babies, same as black and brown, or any combination. There's something about the combination of the features which makes the result somehow exotic and pretty. So even ugly brown + ugly white is equal to pretty babies. i'm sure you've seen some of those kinds...

And yes, it's possible to have cute, pretty babies also even if the parents are both filipinos. I should know cause I have 2 beautiful nieces and 1 gorgeous nephew back home. But I have to give credit to the fact that my brother and his wife are both fairly good-looking people.

Edited December 28, 2009 by loveaboo

[SuperDuper! 230]

When my cousin Debbie was a teenager she told everyone that she was going to marry a doctor. After high school she started working as a candy striper at the local hospital and immersed herself in that circle of people. A few years later she was married to Dr. Thomas. I think people like to look for alterior motives or an underlying story...some kind of devious reason for an action. I have to agree with both Galt and Hopp. Years of a relationship between our countries and an attraction to caucasion men just make it easier where Fil/Am relationships are concerned. If you don't think they're attracted, take a walk through any city in the Phils (or with your husband if you're the wife) and you'll see I asked my wife point blank many times and got all of the answers that Galt and Hopp said along with, "I dunno, we're just attracted to fair skined men". 2 of her nieces already told her she was the "hero" and after meeting me they intended to find an Amerikano..lol

Lots of reasons, some monitary and some not, just like any other woman on the face of the planet.

Kevin, I agree with and resemble that remark. Congratz on finding a great girl!

Edited December 28, 2009 by Hopp

[Kevin-n-Merlaine 14]

Can't thank you enuff Hopp

[Cherry&Ed 4]

Ok I will weigh in here. I too married a Pinay by accident and purely for love. So, I commend you for your answer and I hope you have the love of your lifetime. I was not looking for a filapina, nor ever expected to marry someone like her. But here I am and I am very happy.

With regard to white women I have married, dated and worked with lots of white women in the USA and I have the utmost respect for them. I work daily with white women in my office who are brilliant and professional and very talented. These women are beautiful, smart, sexy and intelligent - and very successful.

However, there IS a difference when it comes to relationships. In general (and there ARE exceptions) white women in the USA have never experienced true hardship. They do not really understand the concept of community and relationships. They often do not appreciate discipline and sacrifice and are very materialistic. They are focused on careers and a new car - not on a husband and family. I am not even saying this is all bad - just reality. But they tend to be spoiled and driven by their careers. Relationships are a distant second for many. Consequently, it is hard for men who want a more traditional marriage and relationship to find a woman in the USA that meets their needs.

I will use you as example with my apologies. I initially thought your login name was a bit strange for a filipina. Now I see that you are not from the Philippines and it makes more sense to me. In fact, no filipina would use a name like that. They are too discrete, honorable and conservative. If that does not make sense to you then you really do not understand what a filipina is. What do you imagine that most people think when they read your login name? Immediately, I discounted as someone only interested in partying and selfish physical/material pleasures - someone who does not really understand relationships and the importance of family and relationships. That is absolutely typical for most women in the USA and is exactly why most of us appreciate the values, beauty (physical and otherwise) and unconditional love we found in the Philippines.

Amen to you, brother!

[muñequita linda 0]

To the topic starter, I can't answer your question as I'm not married to a white guy. My husband was a flame in the Philippines from almost 10 years past. Most Americans with ties here at VJ would never measure up to my standards and expectations!

[skidivawannabe 2]

????

While I'm not married to a white guy (I'm actually married to a Filipino, if you're curious) I find this question a bit condescending, if not racist. You have to put into consideration to that people just happen to fall in love with people who are not of the same race, nationality or citizenship as them.

I'm sorry to the one who said she wanted to improve her gene pool by marrying someone non-Filipino. I beg to disagree . My peers are 100% Filipino and they still look better than a lot of mixed-race children. At the risk of sounding arrogant, I'm pure Filipino and I think I still look better than some mixed-race children. And yes, I've seen not-so attractive mixed-race folks - - they only look "striking" at first with their light skin, brown eyes and light hair but when you look at their faces they're still unattractive. If your genes are bad, your genes are bad and no mixing of race can mask it.

I know there are inappropriate, politically incorrect answers to the thread starter's questions that are nonetheless true, but hey, I will not be the one to blurt them out because until the end results happen, then we cannot really say for sure...

My apologies for coming across as a biatche. Peace to you all.

[SuperDuper! 230]

To the topic starter, I can't answer your question as I'm not married to a white guy. My husband was a flame in the Philippines from almost 10 years past. Most Americans with ties here at VJ would never measure up to my standards and expectations!

Speaking of flames....

[skidivawannabe 2]

For a woman coming from a Third World country, if a man has a stable job, a modest house and a car parked in his garage, he's rich...at least in their eyes.[/i]

[*]Economic mobility - a woman from a Third World country will have a much better chance to move up the economic ladder here in America than back in her home country. There are many many Filipinos (men and women) around the world, working in different countries for that reason. It also provides them with an opportunity to help lift their families out of poverty back home. My brother-in-law, who is Filipino just moved his wife and children to be with him in Canada after working there for a couple of years away from them. Before that, he worked in Saudi Arabia, away from his family, in order to support them.

Let me break some misconceptions and generalizations:

I'm sure I'm not the only one who is in the same situation as me and shares my thoughts. I have a inkling that one or two of you may agree with me...

1) I'm Filipina. Obviously, born and raised in a third world country but it takes more than modest house and car to think a man is rich. Please.

2) For the record - - I left a pretty charmed life to be with my husband. My husband left a charmed life in the Philippines as well. However, living in the U.S allowed him to grow, mature and be more independent financially and he values that more than anything - - even if meant having to simplify his life by leaps and bounds.

So, please, while there are women who see marrying a USC as ticket to freedom or opportunity, one shouldn't generalize all women from third world countries think that way.

[Señora Bonita 0]

Let me break some misconceptions and generalizations:

I'm sure I'm not the only one who is in the same situation as me and shares my thoughts. I have a inkling that one or two of you may agree with me...

1) I'm Filipina. Obviously, born and raised in a third world country but it takes more than modest house and car to think a man is rich. Please.

2) For the record - - I left a pretty charmed life to be with my husband. My husband left a charmed life in the Philippines as well. However, living in the U.S allowed him to grow, mature and be more independent financially and he values that more than anything - - even if meant having to simplify his life by leaps and bounds.

So, please, while there are women who see marrying a USC as ticket to freedom or opportunity, one shouldn't generalize all women from third world countries think that way.

I echo your sentiments. My husband is a G.I (Genuine Ilocano), lives alone in a four bedroom house in California, drives 2 cars, and has a nice paying job as a white collar professional. Yet, I don't think he is rich and neither does he think that he is rich, as he still considers himself as middle class. Hence, Gallstone's statement, that a woman from a third world country perceives the average American as a rich man, is just a myth!

[Armenia 18]

So, please, while there are women who see marrying a USC as ticket to freedom or opportunity, one shouldn't generalize all women from third world countries think that way.

Having lived in Canada for over five years as a graduate student, and stayed in the US several times, and been to many North American message boards, it pains me that the rest of the world seems to see a Filipina as someone who is so deprived and desperate (as in I'd-sell-my-soul-if-I could desperate) to go to the US/Canada. I was actually asked by a professor how many Filipinos I think would want to be in my place. Good God! Not that it doesn't provide me with some amusement. I do find it entertaining to watch white people's facial expressions when I tell them "horror" stories like two (drunk) Filipinos stabbing each other because one hogged the microphone in a karaoke bar.

Not that some white people are entirely to blame for concluding that Filipinas are a desperate group of people. In my first year here, there would be at least one Filipino I'd meet each month who would eagerly tell me that her husband has this friend who owns this blah blah blah property, is ancient (mostly in their 70s) but wants a young Pinay girlfriend to go traveling with... That doesn't include the conversations among Pinays during small dinner invites where the conversation would eventually veer towards how to catch a white guy. It's very difficult to be polite while saying "No, thank you. I am not looking for a white man with properties. I do not need to be "saved". I can take care of myself just fine."

The stereotype of the Filipina stays but, like a lot of stereotypes, it's true for some and not for others.

[Tahoma 2,292]

Most Americans with ties here at VJ would never measure up to my standards and expectations!

Of course they wouldn't.

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