Im in shock and I dont know what to do

[Veemer 0]

Would you get involved with a hooker here? Poor is no excuse for prostitution. Most everyone there is poor.

Hate to be the one to ask, but have you considered being tested for stds now?

Yeah being poor is not excuse, and h3ll no I would not get involved with a prosty.

the more i think of it now the more anger i feel, i think im going to kick her to the curb

theres more fish in the sea

I don't understand why we (myself included) look at prostitutes like they are less than human? The only thing that differentiates them from women who sleep around or have casual sex or one-night stands is the money that is exchanged. There are plenty of women in this world who sleep around.

To me it's kinda like the girls whom work in Topless or totally nude bars in USA.

Most of these chicks are either - Coke Whores, Speed Whores, Lesbians, or they are just Fvcked Up in the Head. Bottom line they have low moral and have made poor choices, and will probably continues these poor life choices in their future.

Im thinking and hoping............ that she might be playing a test on me to see how genuine my love is for her. I hope that is the case, why did i ever have to find this out when I already love this girl.

[sara..... 371]

i think that your the only one that knows if you love this girl or not and your the only one that can tell if you an get past what she has told you..........there is no one on this forum or any other forum that can or should tell you what to do when it is your own heart involved.........people can give you advise from their perspective ..........ultimately you are the one that has to live with what ever choice you make.....i dont know how long you have been together as a couple .........but seems to me if you can fall out of love with someone that made some mistakes that easly maybe you are not that in love with her after all?

Maybe she will be like some of the others are suggesting......but what if she trusted you and loved you enough to tell you what was eating at her..........

when i was looking for my life partner i wanted someone as innocent as i am........and made that one of the priority.....after five years if perviz came to me and told me he had lied........i dont think i could break our relationship because of it but i would be more careful in what i believed from that point on........trust is hard to get back in a relationship.......you have decide for yourself what you can and can not forgive.......

just my own opinion

sara

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

speculation posts removed and posts quoting those removed also. try to provide helpful answers or don't post. it's that simple.

Edited December 6, 2009 by charles!

[lbounds 16]

Veemer I'm sorry you have this problem. There are a few private investigative services that will check your girl out for you without her knowing. From what I understand this one does work in all of Philippines. http://pointmanpi.com/

I hope whatever you decide it works out the best for you.

Edited December 6, 2009 by lbounds

[tallcoolone 102]

I hope you find peace in your quest.

Listen to this song, it may help you.

PM me if you need to talk

[luv2uallday 1]

here goes,

My Fiancee fessed up to me on the phone just earlier, she comes from a poor family for Hilongos Leyte, she left and went to Manila to find a job, when I met her she was working at a waterstation. Now here is the kicker, she said its been on her mind for a very long time and wanted to tell me this so she can clear her conscience. During our conversation out of the blue she told me that she needed to tell me something, she said she used to work at a BEER HOUSE and would have sex with men for money, she claims she only went out 3 times till she no longer can take it as she was starting to lose respect for herself. Should I be affected by this ? should I lose sleep over this ? right now I am in a world of confusion and so much thoughts are racing thru my mind.

WHAT DO I DO ?

WHAT would you guys do ?

ADVISE ME PLEASE ?

You know if she was a scammer or had bad intentions for you and had deciet in her heart why would she bring this up? It takes something else to bring this to you. She done somethning in her life that has been burden to her. She has a great amount of courage to do this in my opinion. It takes courage to risk everything to give you the truth. It takes courage to take the most shameful thing of her life and bear it out to you. I respect her honesty. especially when she could of just kept this from you.

To me it takes a great amout of character to confess such a dark secret. We all do things that are bad some big some small in our lives. But it's how we deal with it that defines us. Only you know her and only you know what you feel about her. Thus only you can take the chance and make a decision.

None of us has the inside knowledge to give you an honest answer. Only YOU have that knowledge. All i can say is TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL.

I understand your confusion. This is a shock. it changes everything. But you have two choices. You can choose to accept this and forgive her? or you can choose to cut ties and end it. Listen to your heart and what you know of her character and heart and make a decision.

Also, remember this is just as hard for her just as it's hard for her. Take care.

[Dakine 26]

Before going any farther have her get a NBI check. If she's been busted for prostitution or drugs she'd not going anywhere.

If so move on and look for a nurse or student nurse from Luzon as the tallcoolguy mentioned.

Makes things a LOT easier if you petition someone from Luzon. Don't have to go thru the hassels of interisland plane flights and hotels.

Yeah sounds a bit premeditated but it's just as easy to fall for someone with those qualifications. Maybe a rich one naman!

Hint! Next time use a condom!!

Edited December 7, 2009 by Dakine

[Kevin-n-Merlaine 14]

Would you get involved with a hooker here? Poor is no excuse for prostitution. Most everyone there is poor.

Hate to be the one to ask, but have you considered being tested for stds now?

Yeah being poor is not excuse, and h3ll no I would not get involved with a prosty.

the more i think of it now the more anger i feel, i think im going to kick her to the curb

theres more fish in the sea

I don't understand why we (myself included) look at prostitutes like they are less than human? The only thing that differentiates them from women who sleep around or have casual sex or one-night stands is the money that is exchanged. There are plenty of women in this world who sleep around.

To me it's kinda like the girls whom work in Topless or totally nude bars in USA.

Most of these chicks are either - Coke Whores, Speed Whores, Lesbians, or they are just Fvcked Up in the Head. Bottom line they have low moral and have made poor choices, and will probably continues these poor life choices in their future.

I think you summed it up just right here. It's not the fact that she's had that "experience", it's the character she exhibited by doing so. Very sad deal OP..sorry to hear all this

[robbie jeannet 5]

at least she did it for money, they have others give it away for free. its a hard decision to make but at least she told you, puts doubt in your mind on what might happen in future, but some people are worth a second chance. YOUR CHOICE. CHOOSE WISELY.

[George&Hazel 1]

The more think about it the more believe it becomes a personal choice for you. There are quite a few men that are dating or engaged to Filipino women that have multiple boyfriends giving them money. No ladies not just a woman thing. Sadly would imagine there are quite a few guys cheating also only for not as noble a reason as feeding their family.

You can not judge someone for things that were done before you met. Not to say that there may not be some difficulties caused by her past. You have a higher risk of disease. Legally she can never come to this country. So you would need to move there. This is not really a question anyone can answer for you. The best thing anyone could do if find their self in this situation is talk it out with significant other. Not a group of strangers that have no vested interest in your happiness.

Most of us posting are kanos, and quite honestly never experience the true Filipino life. Yeah maybe we stay with the family, but in the end. We never live like they do, or experience the true Philippines.

[hellINTIM 9]

She has put your life in danger by sleeping with men for a living.

If she told you it's 3 men, more than likely it's 30 or 300.

What other thing is she gonna tell you in the future

Kick this one to the curb, and go fishing in PI.............

hahah i like this answer lol -.- u think its easy to him to get a new one his inlove remember

[hellINTIM 9]

I don't understand why it so hard to be the woman. Anything that happen from the past is always a big deal. Well, we do have what we call woman's self respect. Try to put yourself on her shoes. Why did she do that? Did she do that for selfish reason?

I know poverty is the main reason for some girls who work in the clubs and beer house. We can't blame them because they want to earn money. But not in a decent way. Laziness is the second problem probably. Look at those webcam girls on different sites. They earn it faster. But look at what they are doing. Show off their body and cling cling cling, $$$. "Here is your money baby!".. But try to find out who are watching these babes and "buying" these babes.. None other than...men, and mostly foreign men. Admit it, thats not fact but thats the truth.

No one is perfect dude. We are human, we made bad decisions in life but we can always make things right.

Look at yourself in the mirror and ask that person, are you strong enough to take risk of finding the real love?..

hint: the answer is how you talk to her.

nice advice .. bcoz some people cant accept the past is past just leave it the past and face the future ......

[Pinay Wife 47]

To me it's kinda like the girls whom work in Topless or totally nude bars in USA.

Most of these chicks are either - Coke Whores, Speed Whores, Lesbians, or they are just Fvcked Up in the Head. Bottom line they have low moral and have made poor choices, and will probably continues these poor life choices in their future.

Men being men, I'm sure that most of you guys have been to topless and nude bars. So what do you think of the morals of these men?

[Loolie 56]

here goes,

My Fiancee fessed up to me on the phone just earlier, she comes from a poor family for Hilongos Leyte, she left and went to Manila to find a job, when I met her she was working at a waterstation. Now here is the kicker, she said its been on her mind for a very long time and wanted to tell me this so she can clear her conscience. During our conversation out of the blue she told me that she needed to tell me something, she said she used to work at a BEER HOUSE and would have sex with men for money, she claims she only went out 3 times till she no longer can take it as she was starting to lose respect for herself. Should I be affected by this ? should I lose sleep over this ? right now I am in a world of confusion and so much thoughts are racing thru my mind.

WHAT DO I DO ?

WHAT would you guys do ?

ADVISE ME PLEASE ?

i think it would be better if you give yourself space and time to think about what she said to you... and if you truly love her then learn to accept the fact that she did that and just try to forget about it. everybody isnt perfect...but if you think that it can affect your relationship with her in a long run or when your together already then just let her go now...and move on...thats it.

[Lancelotte25 1]

In your situation right now, no one can help you to decide which decisions you are going to make but your self.

Asking us here will just lead you to confusion and depression, some folks here will not even give you a proper advice but to give you more things to think about.

The best thing you can do is to follow what you think is right for this situation, if you two are going to continue with your relationship do you think everything will turn things right? Will you trust her again once you are together and bonded with the sacrament of marriage?, I already see the future situations right now. There will be times that you are going to have misunderstanding along the way and I am sure once you are together you will never give her the key to unlock the doubts within your self.

This will be very hard for you, I am sure if she is not around your sight you might think that she is fooling around and sleeping with another man, with this kind of situations do you think it will work for the both of you?

Some men are open minded enough to understand her situation, albeit some might call them stupid or martyr in the name of love, at least the decided based from what they believe is right from their heart and not from the opinion given by other people.