Made a Mistake

[Behind the mask 0]

First I am a member but posting under another name as my Fiancee read's this site and has many friends here also.

Okay here is the situation. My fiancee arrived a short period of time ago and it is not looking good for our future together. I will not go into particulars, but the the question is this. Funds are really tight and I am unable to purchase airline tickets for her to return home, what are our options?

[Otto 83]

what are our options?

Friends, family members, charitable organizations...

[happywifeymom 4]

First I am a member but posting under another name as my Fiancee read's this site and has many friends here also.

Okay here is the situation. My fiancee arrived a short period of time ago and it is not looking good for our future together. I will not go into particulars, but the the question is this. Funds are really tight and I am unable to purchase airline tickets for her to return home, what are our options?

Borrow money from friends, do whatever you need to..That is your responsibility to buy her a ticket back home.,remember u signed the affidavit of support for her.

[elkfarmer 4]

Not sure of your time line, but it seems to me you are not married, if she is your fiancee'. You brought her to the US on a K-1 visa?

You have 90 days after her arrival to get married. Don't do it if you don't want to. She will have to go back to here home country. Not sure how Immigration handles that. They may send her back and give you the bill or a free trip. I just do not have the answer.

[Lansbury 19]

Funds are really tight and I am unable to purchase airline tickets for her to return home, what are our options?

Tough. You are responsible for her being here now you are going to have to step up and makes sure she gets home OK. Funds might be tight but the decent thing is to make sacrifices and buy the ticket.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

First I am a member but posting under another name as my Fiancee read's this site and has many friends here also.

Okay here is the situation. My fiancee arrived a short period of time ago and it is not looking good for our future together. I will not go into particulars, but the the question is this. Funds are really tight and I am unable to purchase airline tickets for her to return home, what are our options?

Did you guys get married already? Have you filed for AOS yet? If so, that changes whichever advise we can give you?

[Krikit 1,164]

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[MikeMc 38]

First I am a member but posting under another name as my Fiancee read's this site and has many friends here also.

Okay here is the situation. My fiancee arrived a short period of time ago and it is not looking good for our future together. I will not go into particulars, but the the question is this. Funds are really tight and I am unable to purchase airline tickets for her to return home, what are our options?

Borrow money from friends, do whatever you need to..That is your responsibility to buy her a ticket back home.,remember u signed the affidavit of support for her.

And another misconception, the I-134 affidavit of support for a k1 process does not in any way make the petetitioner liable for the beneficiary's expenses until an I-864 is filed with the AOS, then the petetioner is legally responsible for the beneficiary.

So with that said, it is both of their responsibilities to make sure that the beneficiary is out of the country before the visa expires, not just the petitioner's.

[leith@Ievgeniia 8]

it is hard for me to belive after a year of all the ####### we have to go through to get a k1 and all the proof to show we are real couple. you now wnat to send her home because money is tight???

dud man up and and become a man. if it is over pay for the ticket home. if problems are overr money get a job and make things better. remember you asked her to marry you and you wnated to take care of her!!!

[Teffah 5]

He said their relationship didn't look good, and I believe he was referring only to purchasing the plane ticket; not that he wanted to send her home because money was tight.

[SuperDuper! 230]

OP: Sorry things are not looking good to make a future together. Sometimes, you just dont know if things are REALLY what you thought they were. You have to come up with the $$ to send her back home, if you are sure things wont work out.

BTW, How did you expect to pay for even a modest wedding and reception party, take her around town, have fun and show her around, and perhaps take in some local vacation spots to spend quality time together. Oh, and another little detail, the AOS which is $1010 USD? Point being, unless the petitioner has about $10K in the bank on her arrival day, you are not going to be financially ready to take on a foreign bride without this financial cushion, which is used up faster that you can imagine. Poverty moves in, and love moves out, the old saying goes.

Do the right thing, and take care of her, whichever decision you make. Aren't you glad that you did not get married and make this a legally-bound relationship when you really weren't ready? Going the K1 Route offers this last-step confirmation of the relationship before tying the knot, so all is not lost. Best Wishes, and God Bless.

[TBoneTX 45,583]

BTW, How did you expect to pay for even a modest wedding and reception party, take her around town, have fun and show her around, and perhaps take in some local vacation spots to spend quality time together. Oh, and another little detail, the AOS which is $1010 USD? Point being, unless the petitioner has about $10K in the bank on her arrival day, you are not going to be financially ready to take on a foreign bride without this financial cushion, which is used up faster that you can imagine. Poverty moves in, and love moves out, the old saying goes.

...Aren't you glad that you did not get married and make this a legally-bound relationship when you really weren't ready?

Although this advice is not untrue on its face, assumptions are being made. The OP may have had plenty of money available during the process but then suffered severe or unexpected setbacks, or had to help family members who were in crisis, or medical expenses came up -- the OP provided inadequate information to inspire a lecture.

[TBoneTX 45,583]

it is hard for me to belive after a year of all the ####### we have to go through to get a k1 and all the proof to show we are real couple. you now wnat to send her home because money is tight???

dud man up and and become a man. if it is over pay for the ticket home. if problems are overr money get a job and make things better. remember you asked her to marry you and you wnated to take care of her!!!

The OP intentionally has not provided the information necessary for the quoted poster here to draw such conclusions -- much less such accusatory, inaccurate assumptions that are typed so illiterately (= disrespect to other readers).

[SuperDuper! 230]

Well TBone, instead of unloading criticism of other responders, why not lay down some of YOUR sage advice. We're waiting....

[Krikit 1,164]

Unless you are directly responding to the OP's query, please stop derailing the thread. Thank you.