another one to add to the visa fraud list

[elkfarmer 4]

My wife arrived in USA in August from Colombia. We have been married almost two years. She has made many new latino friends from work. She went out with friends a couple of times and came home late and drunk. Of course I was not invited with her latino friends. She ran my phone bill up so high I couldn't pay it. Men calling all times at night. Going into bath room and making private calls. I had cel shut off. Still looking for amigos on Latin and Colombian Cupid. I put her name on my bank accounts. She has her own from work and will not put me on hers. I bought her a car. I am paying all the bills, car payment, insurance, Utilities, rent, and she will not help with anything. She is stock piling her earnings. Tells me "We want to move to Florida, don't we". Stays on computer all night chating, goes to bed with out saying a word usually. Pushes me away at night. No embrassing, no kiss, no sex. She has two boys. When they start talking their Espanol, it's 3 against 1. They go off by themselves. Maybe I'm just being paranoid and nothing is going on. How do you prove fraud after getting the green card? Because this woman is GOOOOD. I have never seen a more scheming woman in my life.

[Kathryn41 3,205]

I am so sorry that you are having problems. I wish there was something more supportive I could say .

[justashooter 430]

My wife arrived in USA in August from Colombia. We have been married almost two years. She has made many new latino friends from work. She went out with friends a couple of times and came home late and drunk. Of course I was not invited with her latino friends. She ran my phone bill up so high I couldn't pay it. Men calling all times at night. Going into bath room and making private calls. I had cel shut off. Still looking for amigos on Latin and Colombian Cupid. I put her name on my bank accounts. She has her own from work and will not put me on hers. I bought her a car. I am paying all the bills, car payment, insurance, Utilities, rent, and she will not help with anything. She is stock piling her earnings. Tells me "We want to move to Florida, don't we". Stays on computer all night chating, goes to bed with out saying a word usually. Pushes me away at night. No embrassing, no kiss, no sex. She has two boys. When they start talking their Espanol, it's 3 against 1. They go off by themselves. Maybe I'm just being paranoid and nothing is going on. How do you prove fraud after getting the green card? Because this woman is GOOOOD. I have never seen a more scheming woman in my life.

if you don't have sound evidence of fraud, you just don't.

if you do have sound evidence that she regards you as a tool to be used in acheiving her goals, and nothing else. you do.

if i were you i would take her name off the bank and credit card accounts without comment (sly like a fox), and begin divorce proceedings. how you arrange seperation is dependent upon your living circumstances, and should be discussed with an attourney immediately. you need to avoid domestic abuse charges at all costs, so timing of your actions is critical.

your best bet might be to give her a few bux and tell her to find a house in florida for "the family" while you tidy up a few things related to your old house...like changing the locks and filing an abandonment claim in your divorce action. if you hold all the evidence she could use in filing a removal of conditions application, that is as good as getting her deported for fraud. she will be on her own, and will have to go home, or illegal (assuming K1). this sounds like dirty pool, but it's standing on equal ground with the footing she has chosen.

it's up to you, my friend, but there are some of us here that will support the idea of you regaining your dignity and self respect.

[Scott and Mhay 57]

Sounds like my ex. She was really good until the conditions were removed, then she started everything like that. (yes i did a K1 for her almost 9 years ago)

of course I just took it as a loss...I know it isnt all part of the culture.

Edited December 4, 2009 by Scott and Mhay

[taurean 0]

Not to be flip, but what would it matter at this point if your wife committed fraud to get her green card? If you are unhappy with the situation, then take steps to remedy that. You could always take steps to investigate, but again, what will it help at this point? Acquiring solid proof that your wife may have committed fraud (i.e., duped you) to get her GC might help to assuage your misgivings, but as far as the GC process is concerned what does good does it do?

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

I second what JustaShooter said. You are not in a happy, loving union with the person you enjoy spending the rest of your life with. Life is too short to be miserable and there is no need to stay in such a marriage. Separate financially right away and divorce her.

[thongd4me 69]

From what I've seen here, after 2 years and you divorce there's not much that can be done

to prevent her getting the AOS on her own should you divorce. Preventing that should

not be your priority, but do what you need to following "Justashooter's" guidelines.

Yes you can contact USCIS & whatever, but your neck is much more important

than her status.

You need to cut your losses NOW.

[Darnell 8,478]

there are some forensics to be done on 'that computer' also can get logs of text msgs from cell provider.

I'm not gonna tell you how to do all, here, but suggest you use the yellow pages, see under private investigators' and then see who lists 'computer forensics' as a specialty.

The 'adultery' is not so much 'visa fraud' but - you may find chat logs and email trail of her 'partner' or 'handler' , or a trail of her intent - if the dates align, then you have evidence of visa fraud, and can submit that to ice.

a scots phrase - 'go canny, aye?' seem appropriate here, as well.

Good Luck, however it turns out.

Edited December 4, 2009 by Darnell

[dirtyweebesom 8]

a scots phrase - 'go canny, aye?' seem appropriate here, as well.

There's no such phrase as "go canny". It's "ca' canny". It's bad enough being mistaken for English all the time without being misquoted as well!

[SunDrop 59]

a scots phrase - 'go canny, aye?' seem appropriate here, as well.

There's no such phrase as "go canny". It's "ca' canny". It's bad enough being mistaken for English all the time without being misquoted as well!

lol

What does he ken - or something like that

[justashooter 430]

a scots phrase - 'go canny, aye?' seem appropriate here, as well.

There's no such phrase as "go canny". It's "ca' canny". It's bad enough being mistaken for English all the time without being misquoted as well!

somebody is still wearing the war tattoo, i see.

[meowmeowmeow 1]

if you don't have sound evidence of fraud, you just don't.

if you do have sound evidence that she regards you as a tool to be used in acheiving her goals, and nothing else. you do.

if i were you i would take her name off the bank and credit card accounts without comment (sly like a fox), and begin divorce proceedings. how you arrange seperation is dependent upon your living circumstances, and should be discussed with an attourney immediately. you need to avoid domestic abuse charges at all costs, so timing of your actions is critical.

your best bet might be to give her a few bux and tell her to find a house in florida for "the family" while you tidy up a few things related to your old house...like changing the locks and filing an abandonment claim in your divorce action. if you hold all the evidence she could use in filing a removal of conditions application, that is as good as getting her deported for fraud. she will be on her own, and will have to go home, or illegal (assuming K1). this sounds like dirty pool, but it's standing on equal ground with the footing she has chosen.

it's up to you, my friend, but there are some of us here that will support the idea of you regaining your dignity and self respect.