In the Philippines, are rules considered to be suggestions?

[Loolie 56]

A big part of the problem is that my wife is not willing to say no to her mom directly. She's told her sister to tell things to her mom and asked me to try and explain to her mom why she can't come as an immigrant on a tourist visa. But when she talks to her mom, she gets all wishy-washy and tells her what she wants to hear.

I told my wife nicely that she has to put up or shut up. Either she needs to file a petition for her mom now, or she needs to tell her mom in no uncertain terms that it's just not going to happen for the forseeable future. Leading her mom (and her mom's friends here) along while trying to ignore the situation is not going to resolve it.

The one possible advantage to my wife of petitioning her mom is that if her mom could then get a job here, my wife would have some help sending money back home. Now it just seems like she's pouring money into a black hole. It's never enough and just one crisis after another.

i guess you just dont know how to deal with some things coz you just keep on asking pieces of advice about your wife's family...thats too sad.

God bless you.