Should the 90 days time limit to get married extended to 365 days?

[Jenn! 918]

Yes. Sure, people should know each other well enough to marry w/in 90 days, but they often do not. Think of all the people who marry w/in the 90 days and AOS only to divorce shortly after and ROC on their own.

[Saddle Bronc 124]

Yes. Sure, people should know each other well enough to marry w/in 90 days, but they often do not. Think of all the people who marry w/in the 90 days and AOS only to divorce shortly after and ROC on their own.

On the corollary...there's also lots of couples where both members are USC's who don't need the 90 days at all to get married--and who also divorce.

[Jenn! 918]

Yes. Sure, people should know each other well enough to marry w/in 90 days, but they often do not. Think of all the people who marry w/in the 90 days and AOS only to divorce shortly after and ROC on their own.

On the corollary...there's also lots of couples where both members are USC's who don't need the 90 days at all to get married--and who also divorce.

Sure, but we're not talking about them - they wouldn't benefit from an increase in the 90 day period.

Some people (myself included) don't feel comfortable marrying after living together for such a short time. No, the K1 is not supposed to be a try-it-on visa, but I would argue that it is necessarily for some people because they find they're just not compatible once they have to conduct their relationship "in real life".

[MRStee 19]

I voted no... I think 120 days would be great

[SunShineFL1012 0]

No.. 120 days to 180 days IMHO

[Dr. Obvious 49]

I'd go with 180 days.

[CaMic 0]

I voted 'yes' because I certainly wouldnt want to make any wedding arrangements until I had the K1 visa in hand and likely until I landed in USA. Personally I want a small, private wedding and so the 90 days is no problem to me but if there was lots of family attending and I wanted a big, lavish wedding I'd certainly want more than 90 days to prepare for it.

[Jay & Beverly 0]

And now for something not already considered... (I hope I'm not misunderstanding this, tho)...

It is my understanding that your 90 day timer doesn't start ticking until the beneficiary passes through the POE. So for those of you saying 90 days isn't enough time to plan or reserve the place of the ceremony or reception because booking requires greater than 90 days, then you could delay the POE until after you've booked the place you desire. What I'm suggesting is perhaps doing the scouting for the place of your desire while before while waiting for your NOA1.

I also voted no and feel that 90 days is sufficient to have whatever service that is necessary to meet the requirements of a legal marriage, be that a civil service in front of a judge or a small or large ceremony. It would be nice to pick your own wedding date like USC's who marry other USC's and not feel the burden of the 90-day time frame but if picking a wedding date is your only reason for needing more than 90 days, then perhaps you should have looked for love with naturalized citizen within your own shared borders.

As our own K1 application is processing I feel like my life is on hold and I'm living by someone else's schedule because my I fell in love with someone living 100 miles on the other side of the US border. And while that is a crumby feeling at times, it has strengthened my resolve to endure so that I can spend happily ever-after with the woman I love. It is ironic to hear from so many people (including family members on both sides) that they just couldn't do what we are doing because they couldn't be so far apart for as long. And then I think to myself how those that couldn't do what we're doing are already on their 3rd or 4th marriages. And so I'm alright with whatever time it takes because my fiance and I have known each other for over a decade as friends on-line. We didn't meet in person until 2004 and since meeting we've spent almost 4 months during each the years prior to now together. We've honed our communication skills because of the distance and have lived together enough to know that if waiting for this Visa application to be processed is the hardest thing we ever have to do endure then we've already won the lottery of love.

If I were to change any of the requirements for K1, I wouldn't change the 90 day limit. I would change some of the application requiments to read:

"You must provide proof of having met in person at least 2 years ago (instead of within the last 2 years) and provide proof of an on-going relationship during that the last 2 year time frame."

I would also exclude the meeting in person exemptions granted to persons applying based on arranged marriages due to cultural or religious notions in other countries. I'm not suggesting that based on a prejudice, I'm suggesting it based on 2 of my close friends and co-workers from who were both required to take brides they had never met until the day of their wedding. While I'm sure there are millions of couples for with whom that works quite well, it has one been a nightmare for each of my friends and their culture forbids divorce.

The moral of the story is... it is better to have ONLY 90 days to marry the person of your choosing than to marry someone you've never known or met and be forced to spend the rest of your life with them.

[Der Bücherwurm 1]

I think 6 months would be a fair compromise.

[PhiLandShiR 18]

To argue that 90 days is not enough time to plan a wedding is not a valid argument. You have years to plan it if you want. Why not? What is to stop you from taking all the time you want?

Go see the JP. Sign a paper and take the next 10 years to plan if you want...

To complain that 90 days is too short when you yourself rush the wedding is absurd...

-P

Um quite a few? Alot of wedding vendors and venues need more then 90 days.

No civil court or JP does

Yes and of course that works (and thats what we did) but if you want "that big wedding" it is difficult EVEN if you do hold on to your visa because its not ideal to plan a wedding when people are in separate countries.

[toma1 10]

It should be at least as long as they give people who come here on a tourist visa from a friendly country: 180 days.

[RBAL_TN 0]

I vote No as I think 90 days is enough, BUT I do think filing for an extension to a max 180 days would be warranted too.

[Nikita2Charles 32]

A year would be WAYYYY TOO MUCH

6 months might be more reasonable. 180 days is enough time to go through a couple of fights, and get to know exactly what did you get yourself into, specially for couple who haven't had the chance to date and really spend a lot of time with each other in person.

Edited December 21, 2009 by Nikita2Charles

[NVC FAN :( 18]

fiancee visa is for ppl already decide to marry. also if you dont have the funds to apply for aos , you should put the whole thing off till you do. i think this is common sense

[NatPatBen 3]

I'd vote for 120 days, if that were an option.

I voted Yes though I think 365 days is a bit too much, maybe 120 or 180 days.

I agree with those two.

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I very much disagree with Jay & Beverly's statement about requiring couples to have known each other for 2 years before applying. Relationships develop at different speeds.