Coming to America!

[Twisted K 2]

laura, i really do hope that this is not something that your husband will do to you. i am now officially scared for you. if how his father treats his mother is the only way of life he knows. children most likely follow by the example placed in their homes when they become adults. be careful. if he hasn't shown you his true colors there, then beware of coming to america, when his past is the only way of life he has known. he may have just been on his "best" behavior.

[JeanneVictoria 55]

I guess I was very lucky as Wael adapted so well to the states. He will be here 2 yrs Dec 23. He enjoys the lifestyle here. I know he misses his family and friends, but with working and taking 18 units in college he doesn't have time for many other things right now.

He has traveled before, so flying wasn't difficult. He's an adventurer like me!

Wishing you and your hubby the best of luck here! I know you are thrilled about coming back

stateside!

[msheesha 548]

laura, i really do hope that this is not something that your husband will do to you. i am now officially scared for you. if how his father treats his mother is the only way of life he knows. children most likely follow by the example placed in their homes when they become adults. be careful. if he hasn't shown you his true colors there, then beware of coming to america, when his past is the only way of life he has known. he may have just been on his "best" behavior.

I couldn't agree more! I'm unclear what being a wonderful husband by Tunisian standards is. But, if it involves having your wife live in filth and vermin and being exposed to domestic violence (as described), it sounds absolutely horrid.

[Staashi 371]

laura, i really do hope that this is not something that your husband will do to you. i am now officially scared for you. if how his father treats his mother is the only way of life he knows. children most likely follow by the example placed in their homes when they become adults. be careful. if he hasn't shown you his true colors there, then beware of coming to america, when his past is the only way of life he has known. he may have just been on his "best" behavior.

My concern isn't for his best behavior - my concern is when he suffers from the tremendous culture shock, depression, homesickness, and utter despondency that will take over his life when he does not have any friends or family around, he will get ugly and if his ugly side knows violence, then sister, watch out!

[Twisted K 2]

good point, sister staashi

[me_4_musa 1]

I couldn't agree more! I'm unclear what being a wonderful husband by Tunisian standards is. But, if it involves having your wife live in filth and vermin and being exposed to domestic violence (as described), it sounds absolutely horrid.

I agree....what a terrible way to live. Such a shame.

[JeanneVictoria 55]

laura, i really do hope that this is not something that your husband will do to you. i am now officially scared for you. if how his father treats his mother is the only way of life he knows. children most likely follow by the example placed in their homes when they become adults. be careful. if he hasn't shown you his true colors there, then beware of coming to america, when his past is the only way of life he has known. he may have just been on his "best" behavior.

My concern isn't for his best behavior - my concern is when he suffers from the tremendous culture shock, depression, homesickness, and utter despondency that will take over his life when he does not have any friends or family around, he will get ugly and if his ugly side knows violence, then sister, watch out!

Very good! I do wish her luck, but deep down I think she is extremely at risk. Bothers me.

[Tunisia216 2]

Best wishes and luck to both of you.

My husband is Tunisian and a good husband by any standard. His family is not rich, but the home was clean (though basic) and 7 people in one house were never fighting or violent. They talk really loud, but it's their way and what they are saying is not mean or anything. My hubby spent time at the cafe with his friends and his father had the same behavior, but it was typically for a few hours in the evening and he always came home to converse with his wife and help out in the house.

I understand that children typically follow the lesson set by their parents, but perhaps that won't be the case and her husband is very different! I'm sure he will come to appreciate the cleanliness and modern amenities that your American home has. incha allah el kol labes.

[lauramajri 0]

Best wishes and luck to both of you.

My husband is Tunisian and a good husband by any standard. His family is not rich, but the home was clean (though basic) and 7 people in one house were never fighting or violent. They talk really loud, but it's their way and what they are saying is not mean or anything. My hubby spent time at the cafe with his friends and his father had the same behavior, but it was typically for a few hours in the evening and he always came home to converse with his wife and help out in the house.

I understand that children typically follow the lesson set by their parents, but perhaps that won't be the case and her husband is very different! I'm sure he will come to appreciate the cleanliness and modern amenities that your American home has. incha allah el kol labes.

yes everyone here often says they think my husband is adopted because he is so different from the rest of his family lol. the bugs just come with the territory i think. qll doors open to the outside. my sis in law cleans every morning so it is clean. Kamel is good by any standards but maybe i am just demanding. if he goes out at night i don't mind, but if has been working all day i do prefer he spend 3 hours with me and 1 with them instead of the opposite lol. but alhumdulillah really. his mom and sisters are sooooooo good to me. his father is wonderful to me as well. but he isnt to his actual daughters. idk its all confusing to me lol. i have heard that the people in the south are a bit different then those in the north.

anyway :c) maybe i should not have said those things about my husband. but about his father, my husband does not like him. often times he will say he never wants to see his face, strictly bc how he treats his family. it has been my husband to pay for all the surgeries his mother needs etc...and her medicine. and when i first came and got VERY sick, (we think from bad chicken) and was in the hospital, my husband never left my side and was the ultimate care taker mashallah. he wont even let me walk on the outside of him when we walk in the street. he always takes me hand and leads me away from the side the cars come on. so alhumdulillah and inshallah i don't think he will follow in his father's footsteps :c)