Holiday Hoopla...the good, the bad and the ugly...share stories, ideas, recipes etc

[Carlawarla 1]

This would be the first Christmas we will have as a married couple. Im really, really excited. We've decided that we will do the Christmas/New Year in rotation, spend it in Maryland this year and in Toronto next year, etc.

We originally had not planned to decorate the house for Christmas, cause we were going to stay with my in-laws. But my MIL had this great idea of getting everyone of our guest to bring a small ornament as a tiny token gift during our wedding, so now we own a lot of tree ornaments that we just have to hang

So my plan is, next weekend, we'll cut a tree up and spend the afternoon/evening getting it ready. We'll go to the local AMC before noon and watch Christmas Carol for 6 bucks each , bake some Christmas cookies, make dinner and play Christmas songs!

This year's Christmas will actually be in my MIL's house and since we've done parties together (well she's done them and Ill stay over to help out), I know its gonna be fun. I think Ill actually stay the day before and the day of the event to help her get ready and since the party will have overflowing booze, we'll prolly stay the night of as well

The only wrinkle to this wonderful, festive, holiday plan is the future WIL. Man, have I told you guys how much she hates me? Well, she hates me. Like HATES me. She never RSPV'd for my wedding and just showed up, all in black. She didnt even say, "Congratulations", just exchanged an obligatory semi-hug with me, ignored my ENTIRE family (even though my mom was being really friendly with her), and walked around like a basket case the entire event. I almost wanted to go up to her and say, "Who died?", cause man, was she one sad puppy on the happiest day of my life And on my reception, she basically was super 100% fawning over my husband's cousins and basically ignored me Biaaaatch.

So we will see what she does in the weeks coming up... it will definitely be interesting

WIL = Witch in law? On a more serious note now....what IS a WIL?

[Varba 0]

WIL = Witch in law? On a more serious note now....what IS a WIL?

Pretty sure you nailed it Carla.

Dark's WIL is a very evil person too.

[Krikit 1,164]

WIL = Witch in law? On a more serious note now....what IS a WIL?

Pretty sure you nailed it Carla.

Dark's WIL is a very evil person too.

I think it's her sister-in-law though, right?

[Varba 0]

WIL = Witch in law? On a more serious note now....what IS a WIL?

Pretty sure you nailed it Carla.

Dark's WIL is a very evil person too.

I think it's her sister-in-law though, right?

Either sis in law, or future sis in law. I do not remember if the hitching happened in the past or future.

[Sprailenes 47]

Why do in-laws have to be this way though? I mean why does it have to be this way?? It doesn't. I hate it when my MIL is one of her moods and I feel like I have to walk on egg shells. Why can't things just be simple?

I don't think they realize how awful they can make things and how their moods put a bit of a strain on a marriage, not much but its still a strain that any married couple could do without.

I am hoping that I am a good MIL to my son's significant other. I think I will be just from the experience I have had with my in-laws but who knows. Maybe my future daughter in law will be writing about how much she hates me all over the interwebz too.

Edited December 2, 2009 by Sprailenes

[Krikit 1,164]

I met my son's girlfriend when I was there at Thanksgiving. Finally. lol. We got along great! I really really like her. My daughter really really doesn't. lol

[Sprailenes 47]

Yea I know there are clashes of personalities. But sometimes its just not necessary like darkchildes WIL... I mean who does that? It's her brother... is she jealous of her brothers wife? Ugh disturbing.

[Peachey 10]

I think it's dark's husband's brother's fiance. That's why she's a future WIL.

Varbas sister flew in to Lancaster last night for a few days and I guess the fam went out for supper. Varba's mom and Sister spent the whole time planning out like every minute of our trip to NC. I plan on relaxing, since they didn't ask for my input

[darkchilde794 5]

Yes, it is Witch-In-Law. If you see her picture, her nose is pretty right on

She is my husband's brother's finacee. *tears*

Why do in-laws have to be this way though? I mean why does it have to be this way?? It doesn't. I hate it when my MIL is one of her moods and I feel like I have to walk on egg shells. Why can't things just be simple?

I agree Sprailenes! I have to say I have never felt comfortable around but I never went out of my way to be mean to her. And she has time and time and time again done something purposely mean or inappropriate to me. Like, when my BIL finally caved and they got engaged, my first instinct was to destroy all plates in the house. But I resisted the urge and congratulated her, after all, she deserves to be happy. When I got married, I felt as though she was silently chanting curses at me behind my back

You know what's funny though... when she got engaged last June, she basically wanted to marry ASAP. As in, she booked her wedding for Nov 21 Well I dont know what happened but I think the BIL refused to pay for the hall bec it was expensive as it was "rushed", and so she had to move it to June. And of course, completely not intentional, but I got married the week she was originally getting married But it's not like we did it on purpose... it was Montreal's fault BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Seriously though, wouldnt it be much easier for everyone if everyone put their differences aside and tried to get along? I feel that around her, I have to walk on eggshells at all times and even though my husband says just ignore her, it affects how I feel. And I think its awesome if you get along with your future DIL (Krikit/Sprailenes) because it will just make things smooth in every possible way

And I think she's beyond jealous now, she is just hateful

And thus, this month, I have dedicated my facebook status to obnoxious "happily ever married" daily updates.

Peachey/Varba, why dont you just spend Christmas with us WE WILL HAVE SOOO MUCH FUN!!!

And sorry for this being so off-topic! I will stop whining now.

[Peachey 10]

We totally could

Can my mom come tho?

[darkchilde794 5]

We totally could

Can my mom come tho?

Of course not. No outsiders allowed.

Just kidding!

YES!!!!

[Sprailenes 47]

This is soo common when it comes to certain women though. The treble had issues with her future SIL. My cousins wife has issues with her future SIL. It's like a race to the altar for some women I think. Bride wars!!!

With my cousins significant others, you should have seen the ####### they were slinging at one another on facebook. It was BAD! Stuff like: "DIE YOU STUPID B1TCH!!". I asked my mom: "why are they even friends on fb?" if anyone used a status update to tell me to die, I'd for sure delete them.

Yes, it is Witch-In-Law. If you see her picture, her nose is pretty right on

She is my husband's brother's finacee. *tears*

Why do in-laws have to be this way though? I mean why does it have to be this way?? It doesn't. I hate it when my MIL is one of her moods and I feel like I have to walk on egg shells. Why can't things just be simple?

I agree Sprailenes! I have to say I have never felt comfortable around but I never went out of my way to be mean to her. And she has time and time and time again done something purposely mean or inappropriate to me. Like, when my BIL finally caved and they got engaged, my first instinct was to destroy all plates in the house. But I resisted the urge and congratulated her, after all, she deserves to be happy. When I got married, I felt as though she was silently chanting curses at me behind my back

Edited December 2, 2009 by Sprailenes

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Oh yay! I get to post here

Background: many of you know that my SIL (aka the Cow from Calgary-hell) is evil. She and BIL married here in Seattle 13 years ago and not once have come back to visit. Not once. Same cow who showed up at my wedding late and dressed in white.... with not even a congrats card. Same Cow that had the nice sentiment of sending me SAFEWAY gift certificate for Xmas.... you get the pix.

Anywhoooooo.... they always say they are coming for Xmas. And, for the last 13 years, they always canceled the visit. This year, they will grace Seattle and the inlaws with their presence. Conditions:

1. ALL food is to be organic and washed with purified water.

2. House needs to be childproofed to standards (oh yes, there was a checklist).

3. They will stay at a hotel and are NOT to be called on.

4. They posted a Xmas wish list of the gifts they want. bla bla bla.

....and so on and so forth. I know. So I had a long talk with Bren about this and finally we came to the decision that we shall not partake in the festivities, to keep the peace -of mind-. Plus, you know the redhead and I do not celebrate Xmas, Valentine's, Mother's Day, etc. We had done so to make the inlaws happy, and always keeping it super low key.

The sad part is that we love the inlaws. they are super nice and cool people; and breaking the news to MIL will not be pleasant. FIL I am sure would much rather escape as well -since Cow has repeatedly insulted him- but the poor guy has to stick it.

So there you have it peepz.

[Marilyn. 340]

I lucked out with my in-laws.. I get along with all of them ... My MIL was awesome.. I really miss her.. she died a few years ago...

the people I don't really like to be around our my SIL's in-laws... I get along with them but I don't like them,, they are a bit snobby etc...

my mom didn't get along with her MIL.. my mom is a super nice person too .. I am not sure what she had against her.. and she kind of took it out against us kids too... my grandma that is..

Edited December 2, 2009 by Marilyn.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

I lucked out with my in-laws.. I get along with all of them ... My MIL was awesome.. I really miss her.. she died a few years ago...

the people I don't really like to be around our my SIL's in-laws... I get along with them but I don't like them,, they are a bit snobby etc...

my mom didn't get along with her MIL.. my mom is a super nice person too .. I am not sure what she had against her.. and she kind of took it out against us kids too... my grandma that is..

for MIL Marilyn... your suegra was a great lady