My anniversary of arrival....

[Anastassia 0]

I can't believe I have been here for a year. It was a long year. A lot to go through, a lot to get used to. I still don't feel this is my home, but I feel much better than a year ago.

At least a few things got taken care of. I really hope next year I will feel even better.

Anybody wants to share their thoughts ?

Regards,

Ana

[Vi Mazzella 4]

I live in NYC and last July 3rd was my anniversary of arrival, as you said before I don't feel this city as my home (my home sweet home is in Peru) I still talking about Peru all the time missing everything and looking forward to go back for Christmas, I'm having some problems with my husband right now 'cause he doesn't want to go, he wants us to stay and celebrate with his family . If you can call to that a celebration.

Yesterday my father in law asked me why I don't call him DAD and his wife mom ('cause my husband calls my mom mommy ), NO WAY!!!! they are not my parents.

There are some times when I just want to pack and leave but I know that I'll never find a man like my husband I love him and adore him but I still feeling that this is not my place.

Vi

[chri'stina 190]

Happy 1 year of being in the US!

I know it might never be able to replace your home country as home, but I hope you continue to feel more and more at home here.

[Moon9393 0]

I can't believe I have been here for a year. It was a long year. A lot to go through, a lot to get used to. I still don't feel this is my home, but I feel much better than a year ago.

At least a few things got taken care of. I really hope next year I will feel even better.

Anybody wants to share their thoughts ?

Regards,

Ana

I know how u feel,its hard to adjust!

[JenT 0]

If you had to pick ONE THING that's been the hardest, what would it be?

Jen

[JRluvsLhyn 0]

Wish you all the best & Happy one year anniversary of being here

[Moon9393 0]

If you had to pick ONE THING that's been the hardest, what would it be?

Jen

The feeling of being a fish out of water

[flossiefus 0]

I m sorry to hear that others are feeling the way I do, I thought it was only me. I know it's probably a great place for most people, I must just be one of the ones that doesnt suit the US.

I find the lack of friends and family much more daunting this time around (I migrated to Australia, and went through all the culture changes etc etc, before) How do people make new friends here? I dont find people as friendly here and recently moved apartments, without any help from anyone, compared to friends giving a helping hand with the packing and unpacking and deciding on the best place or home for everything, when I left my old home, to come here.

I worry constantly about what will happen with my health because of the lack of insurance. I will look for work once i have a car and a licence, maybe that will help. I just hope an employer will forgive me for taking off on a trip. I thought I was a positive person and wouldnt be phased by all this, but I'm tired and cranky, and cant wait to go home.

I am really hoping in another 12 months I wont still be feeling this way. my green card arrived on Friday at the end of a horrendous 2 weeks so it may all be the anticlimax, hopefully I will bounce back and find the happy me, that I am used to.

[MandR 0]

Anything in this life is easy...a new life take time and adaptation to a new environment. My country will be Peru for the rest of my life, but UsA is a new country to love too, cause it's giving us new opportunity to grow in every aspect of our life. I think that it will take time and that we have to do the best to get used to a new family. Everything is possible...

[Kotenochek 0]

some people think they do favours bringing women to the US,they do not understand how much closer people can be in other countries,how much culture and traditions we have and how we care of our family.

I am lucky to have a Man that completely understands me.I wish you all patience and happy life with your Men:)

[Jasman0717 9]

The time sure goes by a lot faster once you are together. Claudeth has been here over two years now and it has been a ton of fun

[TexaswithLove 0]

I am One Year Older for living here in Texas, USA!!!!!

Indeed, life here in Texas isn't perfect but I am very happy that everything turns out well.It's not very easy to adjust with the environment, the food, the culture, being married and almost everything. But i am very happy that i was able to get through with our situation here.

But I consider El Paso, Texas as my second home. My first home will always be "Tagbilaran City, Bohol,Philippines".

[Aroha 0]

some people think they do favours bringing women to the US,they do not understand how much closer people can be in other countries,how much culture and traditions we have and how we care of our family.

I am lucky to have a Man that completely understands me.I wish you all patience and happy life with your Men:)

This is so true --- many Americans don't seem to understand that the US means a LOWER standard of living for me, not only when it comes to family but material stuff as well. In Finland I have a better house/apartment, make more money even with no-profession jobs (or do grocery store workers with no previous experience or special skills, you know the "new people" make 15 to 30 bucks an hour, depending on the time of day? if they do, I am mistaken), I have FREE COLLEGE and practically free health care and dental... A lot of things are better in Finland. And some are better in the US, and I'm sure I will learn a lot once I actually live there. But I can't stand the attitude that says "oh girl, you are so lucky to be here, we'll save you from all those commies and cold winters back home".

Edited October 12, 2007 by Aroha

[Mrs.J06 4]

I've been here almost two years now, time passed quickly.

We've had (and still have) our ups and downs. I have an interesting job and that helps me a lot. Colleagues are great and social contacts are slowly, very slowly coming...

It takes time. I still sometimes feel like I really don't know my husband very well yet. We've been together almost 2 years before filing the K1, and he spent a lot of time with me in Germany - so we knew each other a lot better some people here, still he sometimes surprises me.

Well, that too, will take time, for both of us.

I have never gotten the "lucky you" attitude from anybody here, I'd like to add. The people I talked to seem to have a fairly good grasp of standards of living in Germany, I was positively surprised!

Good luck to everybody - have patience!

@Jen: the hardest for me was giving up my independence when I first came here, sitting at home without a job and not making my own money. I'm so glad that time is over now.

[Reba 2]

This past week was my 3rd anniversary of being in the US, and honestly it passed me by with hardly any notice. Life has gone on, despite the topsy turviness of the first couple of years. While I wouldn't call this place "home", its where I live and where my husband is, so I'm here for the duration. There are some things that bug the ####### out of me about this town, this county, this state, this country, but I've learned to live with it. And there are a lot of things back home that used to bug the ####### out of me, just as a native, I knew how to deal with them better. I suppose that maybe after I've lived here in the US for 37 years I'll know how to better deal with the ####### that bugs the ####### out of me