Advice I Gave My Husband ...

[verde 0]

If they ask the same question 20 times, you give the same answer 20 times.

Never change your answer to the same question, even if they ask it in different ways.

If they try to ask you a vague question, or if they try to be tricky, ask them to please repeat the question.

If you still don't understand, ask them to clarify.

And if you still aren't sure, say "I don't understand what you are asking, or what exactly are you asking?"

You can ask them to clarify.

If they put words in your mouth, you politely correct them.

If you make a mistake, correct it immediately.

If they ask a question you don't know the answer to, you just say you don't know the answer.

Always, always pause for a few seconds and take a deep breath before answering any question.

Never rush or get upset or excited.

Remember, they are a person just like you.

This is an important interview, you deserve to take time, be careful, and be sure of your answers.

Never blurt out anything that pops into your head. Always think about what you about to say before you speak it out loud.

Only pay attention to the question at hand, the one they are asking at that moment, don't think back or ahead.

If you need time to gather your thoughts or recall something, then say so.

Always look them in their eyes.

You have a right to these things.

You should not be treated with disrespect.

You should be treated with dignity.

Always, always tell the truth.

Always tell them, when you do have written evidence with you, that you have documentation of that statement/fact/event/etc, and offer it to them at that moment.

If they refuse to accept the document, ask them at the end of the interview if they would like to take the copy of your documentation you made for their convenience, so that they can review it if they have questions later.

Edited November 16, 2009 by verde

[~PalmTreeGurl~ 154]

thats alot of advice, hopefully he has this all memorized

[Inky 1,110]

thats alot of advice, hopefully he has this all memorized

All that plus everything else he needs to remember about his wife, her family, their family, her life and everything else ! I think its a bit much.

[Anh map 2,098]

Hasn't the interview already occured?

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Hasn't the interview already occured?

It has.... at this point in time I am so confused about the entire thing I don't know what to say...

[Malrothien 6]

Hasn't the interview already occured?

It has.... at this point in time I am so confused about the entire thing I don't know what to say...

You're not alone in that feeling, Sister Len.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Hasn't the interview already occured?

It has.... at this point in time I am so confused about the entire thing I don't know what to say...

You're not alone in that feeling, Sister Len.

hola!

good to know.. I was feeling dizzy without even drinking

[verde 0]

The interview did occur already. But, once we submit the I-864s (in place of the I-134s) and re-submit our evidence of bona fide relationship, there will be another interview.

If you think your head is spinning, you should see mine! : )

Edited November 16, 2009 by verde

[verde 0]

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[What Happened? 4]

Hasn't the interview already occured?

It has.... at this point in time I am so confused about the entire thing I don't know what to say...

To OP:

What's making you think there will be another interview?

[Old Dominion 26]

I hope your husband is also advising you to be patient and let matters take their course. There is not one thing you or an attorney can do until they have reviewed the material you were asked to provide. Further aggressive action will only boomerang. Sad to say, it is the way government operates at all levels.

[verde 0]

Hasn't the interview already occured?

It has.... at this point in time I am so confused about the entire thing I don't know what to say...

To OP:

What's making you think there will be another interview?

Sean Cooper told us there would be another interview, once they receive the I-864s (same information and documentation as the I-134's with a different name and a little more legally binding). He said that interview will address the validity of our marriage.

[verde 0]

I hope your husband is also advising you to be patient and let matters take their course. There is not one thing you or an attorney can do until they have reviewed the material you were asked to provide. Further aggressive action will only boomerang. Sad to say, it is the way government operates at all levels.

We're trying - but we also don't want to sit back and do nothing, particularly when we know at least some mistakes are being made. I just wish there was some way to talk to a regular person and have a regular conversation and get the information you need and get anything corrected that needed to be - without having to beg and plead and antagonize. They don't respond to email, and they don't answer their phones (try it for yourself if you don't believed me). But good advice and we are working on it.

Thanks

[Y's_habibitk 2]

Check out our photos - we're real people ... and even better ... we're not ogres!

ok... for some reason, that made me at my desk right now!! cute btw

Im glad you are calming down and know you'll get another interview

[brlukath 1]

It might have been given too late, but it is GREAT advice. If the relationship is real, remembering all the details of it shouldn't be an overload to the memory, but putting on your game face is important especially in certain countries...