Tanya and Mohamed no more!

[Ban Hammer 13,293]

Forget Arab. Compared to women, aren't ALL men pretty lazy? /generalization

Anyway, sorry to hear about that, Tanya. Take care of yourself.

hey i resemble that remark!

my condolences to the op for what happened.

[KarimaG 2]

I just wanted you to know that I do not feel insulted by your thoughts. You are experiencing something very hard, and its normal to be angry and say things, even some things you dont mean. And its ok. Everyone has bad relationship experiences, doesnt matter what nationality, men can be butts in any country. But remember, the actions of one person is the result of that person and not a country. Your prince charming is out there... so dont stop looking! In morocco employment is difficult to find, so you will see alot of men not working. My fiance works hard, he is a manager of his uncles restaurant and he works anywhere from 12-15 hours a day. I know how hurt you must feel, and how hard it is to lose your dreams. It hurts, so I understand your need to vent and express your feelings. My prayers are with you, and just remember, dont give up!! ok?

[visa4habibi?? 0]

Thank you nice people for your nice words! I appreciate them.

And about insults: I didn't insult anyone! If someone's looking to pick a fight they'll find it anyway. I just asked if that was true because I never heard something like that. And about Moroccan women I haven't seen any walking a yard behind her man and taking s...t from anybody. I like and respect Moroccan people and I haven't have any problems over there just here with my husband who happens to be from Morocco. Guess I can't say anything anywhere and I apologized from the beginning. Now I know why I left.

[Kenza 1]

Thank you nice people for your nice words! I appreciate them.

And about insults: I didn't insult anyone! If someone's looking to pick a fight they'll find it anyway. I just asked if that was true because I never heard something like that. And about Moroccan women I haven't seen any walking a yard behind her man and taking s...t from anybody. I like and respect Moroccan people and I haven't have any problems over there just here with my husband who happens to be from Morocco. Guess I can't say anything anywhere and I apologized from the beginning. Now I know why I left.

haha, no worries! With the internet, it's often difficult to discern the emotion with typed words. Take Care!

[merijan 0]

Thank you nice people for your nice words! I appreciate them.

And about insults: I didn't insult anyone! If someone's looking to pick a fight they'll find it anyway. I just asked if that was true because I never heard something like that. And about Moroccan women I haven't seen any walking a yard behind her man and taking s...t from anybody. I like and respect Moroccan people and I haven't have any problems over there just here with my husband who happens to be from Morocco. Guess I can't say anything anywhere and I apologized from the beginning. Now I know why I left.

Actually I think it should be ok to vent a little. Who else can u vent to? I mean this should be a good support group and many times it is. I think I stated many times about Palestinian men to many people I knew some similar things after I left my first husband. But it passes. And what he did gives u the right to be so angry. And it feels good sometimes to vent even though you know you dont really mean it all.

Sometimes you can remember the things you thought you loved about him that those things are the part of the culture and so on you were attracted to. There are good men in all places and BAD ones in all places.

I hope you can move on in time.

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

I'm the member formerly known as Visa4habibi! Since I couldn't log in after not using my account for so long had to re-register to tell everybody this: my Moroccan husband SUCKS! HE RUINED OUR MARRIAGE!!! All this wait, all the tears, all the money and effort spent for absolutely nothing! If he's from a country that looks like it's still in 17th century - it's because it is and so is he and his mind! There's no more Tanya and Mohamed!

October 19, 2009 - he's finally out of the house! Oh joy! No more being treated like a piece of meat!

November 15, 2009 - went for counseling and as I suspected there's nothing to be done! Yes, the marriage counselor worked today since he was away for when I needed him the most, all three weeks since we got separated!

The marriage's been dead since he came over here! I got somebody else baby from another country that just wanted to do his own thing and live his own life in my house on my dime and not help with anything! There's no happy ending here! All the attention all the promises I got in Morocco meant nothing!!! I was his star, his Moon, his Queen and now he's not my slave and how dare I want his paycheck to pay our bills?

Now I hate him, hate my life and mostly myself for letting him do all this to me! God knows I've tried and tried and tried but they do know their job in Casa and age difference plus cultural differences is way to much for one adult and one man-child to handle! I was mad at the consulate all the time they kept us apart, but they do know a thing or two about lazy people who never worked a day in their life and can smooth talk others into spending time and money they don't have on them. Just so they come over here and be as lazy as before and help with nothing!

Don't mean to offend anybody's culture but we are what we are and I'm not a Moroccan woman to take abuse and follow my man a yard behind him! Or pretend like he was pretending that we have no problems and hide from them!

Tanya

Tanya, I totally relate to your situation, just last week this all happened to me, except he did not make it here, but as you, I was used, and promised the world, and spent more money on him and this process then the national debt. Im bitter, deeply hurt, but I dont hate MENA men, you and I both got the wrong ones, I dont hate Algerians or think they are filthy as my husband acused me of that I will post all over internet of this. He is wrong, he is just the bad apple.

So,...... I learned a very hard lesson , the money I dont care about, its money, my heart has began to heal, now I just need to work on forgiving myself for being stupid and seeing the signs which I choose to ignore. That is all my fault.

One day you will wake up and say "Glad thats over". All things DO happen for a reason, Im still asking myself that, "WHY" but we go on, we get out of bed everyday, and remember to breath, and soon we wont have to remind ourself to get out of bed and to breath, things will fall back in place for you.

All the Best,

Beth AKA Paris Heart

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Thank you nice people for your nice words! I appreciate them.

And about insults: I didn't insult anyone! If someone's looking to pick a fight they'll find it anyway. I just asked if that was true because I never heard something like that. And about Moroccan women I haven't seen any walking a yard behind her man and taking s...t from anybody. I like and respect Moroccan people and I haven't have any problems over there just here with my husband who happens to be from Morocco. Guess I can't say anything anywhere and I apologized from the beginning. Now I know why I left.

I'm not a Moroccan woman to take abuse and follow my man a yard behind him!

*Ahem* Just in case you didn't notice, this implies that you think Moroccan women put up with abuse and follow their men around. If you don't want to be understood, don't generalize.

[Ban Hammer 13,293]

If you don't want to be understood, don't generalize.

[sachinky 465]

I'm sorry for your heartbreak. What happened exactly?

[Minya's wife 24]

If you don't want to be misunderstood, don't generalize.

Fixxored...I think.

[Cool_Together 0]

I feel for you & understand how a heart can hurt. I was lied to and hurt badly by someone who said he wanted to marry me long ago but I found out the hard way he was a pathological liar. I had given up on finding a true love. Who knew that I had him all along.....my friend beside me I talked to for hours that was there all along. Sometimes I think maybe going thru bad things makes us stronger to appreciate the wonderful things that will come to us when we least expect. I hope your heart heals in time.

Kristie

[Sofiyya 1,687]

If you don't want to be understood, don't generalize.

You're the second one to do that to me tonight, Chuck I'm on a roll!

Edited November 16, 2009 by Sofiyya

[Darnell 8,478]

I think it's great you 'flushed him'.

Take the time to adjust.

Good Luck with whatever else is coming up....

Warmest Regards..

[Chica Yeyé 41]

Sorry to hear about this.

However, not cool to use generalizations. Not cool at all. And even more so uncool to say stuff like that in a site like VJ. We get it, your husband is an a-hole. Him being Moroccan has fvckall to do with that.

p.s. what can I say? I am that cool B)

[waleed's girl 0]

Im sorry this has happened to you and all of this after this hard work and time you have put in to help him get here and he does all that to you.

Good Luck!!

You will find some that will treat you like a QUEEN and he will mean it.