I 134 question

[pushbrk 13,043]

Ok,

I would like to say a few things.

First, Pushbrk has been a great resource for many VJ members. He offers great, knowledgeable advice and probably is one of the best people to ask a question with on VJ he has helped many other members (myself included). I would like to thank him for being a valuable asset to the VJ community and I look forward to seeking his and other senior members council in the future.

My intent was not to add stress or rock the boat. I was just asking for some thoughtfulness with the advice. I am about at the same place in my journey as the OP an can say the last thing I would want to hear after asking a question would be "You should read the directions better". So I took a little offense at the initial statement. It was not my place to be offended here and I offer an apology to Pushbrk if I have anyway offended you or made you feel that you had to take a defensive stance ,I am truly sorry.

I'm sure everyone knows or can remember how very high strung before their interview is and emotions are at their peak.

I understand directness, I was in the Navy. No matter how good the info anyone can give being too direct can be perceived as harsh and not all ppl respond positively to this type of direction. We are still dealing with humans and not sailors/soldiers and a little bit of humanity and understanding is needed with this great info as well. That was the gist of what I mean when I said "Let's not jump down anyone's throat." No-one is asking to candy coat the truth, just have some empathy. That is all I was trying to convey.

This thread has gotten a little silly for us as adults to go back and forth when the intention of all of us was to help the OP.

I am offering an olive branch of peace. I do not want to argue with anyone on here. I hope in the future we can solve our differences in constructive manner.

Agreed...very good post

.. Pushbrk 'is' a good adviser in most part, I haven't any doubts about that.

The problem with the I-134 question is that it is a very common confusion that so many here have and still are experiencing, that the guides do not alleviate their concerns due to the conflicting info from other sources such as the web and Embassy websites. And this is where and why patience is very much needed. I could relate to this because I myself just recently went through the same confusion, so I understood very well why Zahid had asked this question.

Your offering of the Oilive Branch is first class and wish I had thought to use this as well before losing my patience and had 'thought' before I wrote, so to speak. It is a lesson that would be well for all to learn.

Thank you for it.

Again, if any indication had been given by the OP that he was asking about conflict between the instructions and a website, my reply would have been quite different. I don't find it productive to imagine all the possible reasons a question might have been asked. My concern is for people's success, not just to answer questions BECAUSE I know that learning the process takes a lot more than asking questions. If we don't do everything needed to learn, we won't know what questions we never thought to ask. That's what I've learned over the years in dealing with this process.

I appreciate the apology and change of attitude and hope this incident and/or anything similar from the instant parties is behind us.

When a question is asked that indicate to me in my best judgment that the instructions or guides have not been adequately studied, I'm going to continue to encourage people read and study guides and instructions because it is critical to their success and I'm more concerned about their success than their tender feelings.

[k.loveh 0]

Again, if any indication had been given by the OP that he was asking about conflict between the instructions and a website, my reply would have been quite different. I don't find it productive to imagine all the possible reasons a question might have been asked. My concern is for people's success, not just to answer questions BECAUSE I know that learning the process takes a lot more than asking questions. If we don't do everything needed to learn, we won't know what questions we never thought to ask. That's what I've learned over the years in dealing with this process.

I appreciate the apology and change of attitude and hope this incident and/or anything similar from the instant parties is behind us.

When a question is asked that indicate to me in my best judgment that the instructions or guides have not been adequately studied, I'm going to continue to encourage people read and study guides and instructions because it is critical to their success and I'm more concerned about their success than their tender feelings.

Pushbrk!

Thank you for the clarification. We are aware of your desire to assure others of their success, have no doubts, and do appreciate your earnest efforts of same. A rose for you to brighten your day.

Zahid, I hope you and Margarita are feeling more confident now about the I-134.

Talk to you soon!

[Lost Love 0]

Sorry i am posting after a couple of days gap. was too busy with work

I just went through all the comments here and m really sorry for creating confusion and some arguements.

My confusion started when i recieved packet 3 in mail and in the checklist it clearly says to get the I 134 notarised and then i looked at the embassy website which says the same and being very honest i dint read the instructions on I 134 which is given on USCIS website. That was the reason why i posted the question here and i am very thankful to everyone who helped me.

Now i am confident I 134 needs not to be notarised and learned a good lesson of reading the instructions carefully.

PEACE

Thank you all

[pushbrk 13,043]

Sorry i am posting after a couple of days gap. was too busy with work

I just went through all the comments here and m really sorry for creating confusion and some arguements.

My confusion started when i recieved packet 3 in mail and in the checklist it clearly says to get the I 134 notarised and then i looked at the embassy website which says the same and being very honest i dint read the instructions on I 134 which is given on USCIS website. That was the reason why i posted the question here and i am very thankful to everyone who helped me.

Now i am confident I 134 needs not to be notarised and learned a good lesson of reading the instructions carefully.

PEACE

Thank you all

You're welcome. I'm confident that lesson will serve you well as you prepare even MORE government forms and evidence to file to adjust status after your successful visa process and marriage in the USA.

[Lost Love 0]

Sorry i am posting after a couple of days gap. was too busy with work

I just went through all the comments here and m really sorry for creating confusion and some arguements.

My confusion started when i recieved packet 3 in mail and in the checklist it clearly says to get the I 134 notarised and then i looked at the embassy website which says the same and being very honest i dint read the instructions on I 134 which is given on USCIS website. That was the reason why i posted the question here and i am very thankful to everyone who helped me.

Now i am confident I 134 needs not to be notarised and learned a good lesson of reading the instructions carefully.

PEACE

Thank you all

You're welcome. I'm confident that lesson will serve you well as you prepare even MORE government forms and evidence to file to adjust status after your successful visa process and marriage in the USA.

TYVM Pushbrk for your lovely words. Now your comment has made me even more confident of a successful visa process

[k.loveh 0]

Sorry i am posting after a couple of days gap. was too busy with work

I just went through all the comments here and m really sorry for creating confusion and some arguements.

My confusion started when i recieved packet 3 in mail and in the checklist it clearly says to get the I 134 notarised and then i looked at the embassy website which says the same and being very honest i dint read the instructions on I 134 which is given on USCIS website. That was the reason why i posted the question here and i am very thankful to everyone who helped me.

Now i am confident I 134 needs not to be notarised and learned a good lesson of reading the instructions carefully.

PEACE

Thank you all

Aww, You're welcome Zahid! Bless your sweet heart....we're all rooting for you!

Edited November 13, 2009 by k.loveh

[Lost Love 0]

Sorry i am posting after a couple of days gap. was too busy with work

I just went through all the comments here and m really sorry for creating confusion and some arguements.

My confusion started when i recieved packet 3 in mail and in the checklist it clearly says to get the I 134 notarised and then i looked at the embassy website which says the same and being very honest i dint read the instructions on I 134 which is given on USCIS website. That was the reason why i posted the question here and i am very thankful to everyone who helped me.

Now i am confident I 134 needs not to be notarised and learned a good lesson of reading the instructions carefully.

PEACE

Thank you all

Aww, You're welcome Zahid! Bless your sweet heart....we're all rooting for you!

Thank you Karen. You really are too sweet.