Immigrant's Nightmare Continued

[babybunny 2]

Just one simple question shon, have your read the entire thread? And I mean, from the start?

no I dont read it all because, its too much endless Dubage.

however, I do see a marriage that is being torn apart. no amount of whining

and hen pecking on a PC is gonna sort this out.

I have been there raspberry-maybe you have ,may be you didnt. but, I never want michelle or no one to feel the hurt should craig walk out that door. if that upsets you for me posting- thats your problem. I am concerned just like everyone else.

Whatever you intentions in posting here are, have you considered that perhaps we people are the only ones that Michelle can open her heart to about this? Many of us have been through similar situations to Craig and Michelle and so can empathise and offer support and encouragement. Michelle is not whining or hen pecking so please quit throwing that ####### at her.

I agree with this.

She is not whining. Craig was asking for advice when he started this thread. Thats why this thread is still here, to help people that are having a hard time adjusting. You still have to wait to see how your husband adjusts when he gets here. Its not all a bowl of roses Shon..........To me your not helping things here by saying hurtful things to Michelle. She has enough stuff going thru her mind without people saying hurtful things to her. You may not think your saying hurtful things, but this isnt about your marrage. Just cut her some slack.

she is WHINNING.... she is whinning about her OWN marriage. my god!!!! do something to save your marriage. -a forum is not the way!

thank god I am not THEM. I tell you what i have enough class and respect to my husband

and to our marriage not to air it here. its so wrong.

[Peggy 1]

Dont worry about her marriage anymore Shon, it doesnt concern you.

[MichelleandCraig 1]

That's it. For some reason, when I used the ignore feature on Shon, it didn't work until I came on invisible for a minute..first time I've ever done that. Is that a well-known glitch or am I just doing something wrong? In any case, I'm not normally one to cave so quickly, especially to such irritating people, but I'm not just up to this right now. Have your fun Shon, post fifty more times, with 10 quotes in each one for all I care. I'm out of here. M.

[Fandango 1,439]

Heartless....just absolutely heartless & totally uncalled for...

[Cassie 8]

your objection is duly noted shon, let it be.

[babybunny 2]

its concerns me as it does the rest of the personas on this board. its a public forum. she posted pages of her business so where is it anyone elses concern?

its concerns me as it does the rest of the personas on this board. its a public forum. she posted pages of her business so where is it anyone elses concern?

Good - concentrate on repairing your marital relationship!

[govols 0]

Michelle,

I have read this thread in it's entirety. I'm not one to post too much on the personal threads for fear of someone "bashing' me for my opinion. But here goes...

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this. It must be terrible and I must admit that everyone reading this has probably thought the same thing could possibly happen in their own relationships. ( Yes, Shon, including you )

Craig is going through his own battles with all of this too. He may even be a little hesitant to say exactly how he feels because he may not be able to fully define his feelings.

Michelle, you seem to be such a kind person. Just make sure that you take care of YOU. Just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you as well and I hope that things will work out for you, Craig and Corey. we go through these long journeys in hopes of living our lives together in happiness. I wish the best for you and your family.

Karen

edited to say...Shon, worry about your own relationship!

Edited February 21, 2006 by govols

[babybunny 2]

somethings are meant to be KEPT private between a husband and a wife. its not for the general public to view. if me posting trying to get you to understand- that your marriage is supposed to be placed FIRST and its supposed to be PRIVATE. I am sorry. you dragged the PUBLIC in your marriage. all your so called friends on here are encouraging you to keep posting your marital matters.

[Welshcookie 17]

somethings are meant to be KEPT private between a husband and a wife. its not for the general public to view. if me posting trying to get you to understand- that your marriage is supposed to be placed FIRST and its supposed to be PRIVATE. I am sorry. you dragged the PUBLIC in your marriage. all your so called friends on here are encouraging you to keep posting your marital matters.

You said it Shon....this is a public forum and if there are things you don't like reading then stop coming here and reading it...simple as....If it is helping Michelle in some way, any little way, why is that so bad?? You have made your opinion as you are entitled to....but understand that your 'set of rules' doesn't necessarily have to be someone elses 'set of rules'.

[Jaylen Brit 0]

Word, cookie

[daisy16 0]

Hey Michelle, I've been away from here for a couple of days and look what happens

Sorry things are so rough. I'm really hopeful that the visit home for Craig will have positive results. You guys deserve it.

The physical pain that you are in is also wrecking havoc on your whole situation, I'm sure.

You DON'T owe anyone anything on here! (I know you know that, but I'm saying it any way You don't owe reasons for not wanting to move to the UK, you don't owe others the info they demand.

Take care of yourself hun.

HUGS

Daisy

[Dixie_Peach 1]

It would appear to me that if you were asked... or even hinted at politely to back off... that a person would do so. No... Michelle does not owe anyone anything... other than herself and Craig. But, maybe she is utilizing what she has at the moment... and that is NOT a bad thing. Ya know... I hate to sound like Rodney King... but can't we all just get along?

I don't see it as a necessary act to come into a forum to continually attack someone's frame of mind or actions. If I did not care to know... or did not like the forum... I WOULD NOT COME BACK... but to just keep up the aggravation is not helping. I know that this is a personal thread for Michelle and Craig... but how about if people are NOT really interested... just keep their opinions to themselves.

No, I don't know Michelle or Craig... but, I genuinely wish the best for them. Do I know the answer? NOOOOOOO... but I have a higher power that I choose to go to... to pray too... and I pray that He will intercede to bring clarity and comfort...

Michelle and Craig... I for one am praying for you... and hoping and wishing for the best. God bless you both!

*hugs*

Lynne

[Traviesa 0]

It would appear to me that if you were asked... or even hinted at politely to back off... that a person would do so.

You would think so, but that's not the nature of the people on VJ. I learned that the hard way, which is why I stopped posting personal information. Even some of those on here now offering support should have practiced what they're preaching now a little while back. But that's neither here nor there. Hopefully Michelle will take the advice she's gotten for what it is, use it to make informed decisions as to what to do in her situation, and let us know what happens. I hope she doesn't leave VJ, but maybe, like me, she should keep personal things a little more personal.

[Welshcookie 17]

So what should we do Melissa??.....tell Michelle to stop posting because we don't care enough to listen??

Should we just tell her to go away now and don't come back until she has sorted it out so she can then tell us what she did?

This thread isn't about us offering her advise on what she should do....it is more about supporting her while she makes decisions....she knows there is nothing we can do to make the painful issues go away, but maybe, just maybe she finds some comfort here.

I am just not understanding why PPL are coming on here merely to criticise a thread....one that has become important to alot of others....those that find it depressing or uncomfortable to read or have nothing to add other than make Michelle feel bad should feel free go to another thread....there are plenty.....

[pax 0]

Michelle, I do hope that you and Craig can find a loving solution to all of your problems. I haven't said much on this thread simply because I don't feel I have much to offer, but I do feel like I can, and should, at least offer my best wishes.