Immigrant's Nightmare Continued

[MaryandMian 1]

Michelle,

Also now I am not taking sides here at all,but I was brought up that it doesnt matter where you live,even in a tent!!!! as long as your together and I think just think that the point shon is trying to make.

So come on girlie,think positive and stay strong,wishing you both the best I do feel your pain

Agreed Margy, Shon is just trying to say to stay together. It is not easy with any marriage and international seems to have some extra hurdles. Most marriages take a good two years to get on some type of track. It is a learning curve that both parites have to adjust and work extra hard to keep moving in the right directions. As far as longevity marriage I had it so I have been there done that and gotten the tshirt. I think marriage couseling and maybe some help for depression on both parties here might make a world of difference. I also worry of how all of this is effecting Corey as well. So instead of two lives in the mix we have four. We have Michelle, Craig, Corey and Daryl and all of these parties to me have emotions invested in this marriage. May you all find peace and happiness and work thru this family crisis. Hope I did not step on any toes and this is just MHO.

Mary

[MichelleandCraig 1]

Thank you everyone, and I did! find that ignore button. No problems with the message, but some people just have to learn to have a bit of tact and not be insulting...I don't care who it is or what it's about. I put up with a lot of ####### from people on this board in the past(Wog, for instance)before I ever said anything remotely insulting to them. I try to avoid that, and especially with people I can see are having a difficult time already. My life is very full right now, thank you very much, and as I see Shons posts ever increasing on this thread(or shall I say, I DID) I think she must be sitting on her duff in front of the computer at least as much as I am if not more. Also, I think plenty of people have said good things about this thread so if a couple select ones think it's just whining and dubyage or whatever the heck that word was, then ...hmmmm...oh well. there. rant over.

Just to clarify something, I never ever imagined that Craig would just not come back. He is coming back; I'm not worried about that. What does concern me is that after a couple weeks or a month it will be the same way again. I have my reasons for not wanting to move, and let me reiterate AGAIN that I am not going to defend them again...I already did earlier in this thread, and on the old thread. There are a lot of things that bother me(nothing menacing or anything if you know what I mean!!! ...just relationship stuff..nothing like drinking, abuse..strictly relationship issues) aside from what I've even posted on here, but even I'm not willing to share ALL. I appreciate those of you who have been supportive...both those who agreed with me and those who gave me other things I should be thinking of. Thanks. Michelle

[babybunny 2]

Thank you everyone, and I did! find that ignore button. No problems with the message, but some people just have to learn to have a bit of tact and not be insulting...I don't care who it is or what it's about. I put up with a lot of ####### from people on this board in the past(Wog, for instance)before I ever said anything remotely insulting to them. I try to avoid that, and especially with people I can see are having a difficult time already. My life is very full right now, thank you very much, and as I see Shons posts ever increasing on this thread(or shall I say, I DID) I think she must be sitting on her duff in front of the computer at least as much as I am if not more. Also, I think plenty of people have said good things about this thread so if a couple select ones think it's just whining and dubyage or whatever the heck that word was, then ...hmmmm...oh well. there. rant over.

Just to clarify something, I never ever imagined that Craig would just not come back. He is coming back; I'm not worried about that. What does concern me is that after a couple weeks or a month it will be the same way again. I have my reasons for not wanting to move, and let me reiterate AGAIN that I am not going to defend them again...I already did earlier in this thread, and on the old thread. There are a lot of things that bother me(nothing menacing or anything if you know what I mean!!! ...just relationship stuff..nothing like drinking, abuse..strictly relationship issues) aside from what I've even posted on here, but even I'm not willing to share ALL. I appreciate those of you who have been supportive...both those who agreed with me and those who gave me other things I should be thinking of. Thanks. Michelle

I sit here online. I post while I am at the office. < love my glam job >

you sit there air your business. about your Personal family life things that should be discussed

between a husband and wife. you got personas lurking in your Marriage. your post about your husband are forever increasing. you have the NERVE to start a second thread if one was not enough. my husband would be very offended if I wrote stuff like this about our marriage and things about him. see instead of worrying about my postings - my dear..maybe you need to invest energy in making your marriage work and making it strong instead of hen pecking this old DUBAGE. its old michelle. you not wanting to move thats your right ... rember your marriage should matter more than ANYTHTHING..... I dont care if you ignore me- I dont know you. you dont know me or anyone on this page for that matter.

its this old chat stuff you need to be ignorning and fix your marriage- woman! its up to you. no matter how hard times get You need to be by his side and he needs to be by yours. if you cant understand that- you will when he is gone.

[Linda&Dave 0]

Just one simple question shon, have your read the entire thread? And I mean, from the start?

no I dont read it all because, its too much endless Dubage.

however, I do see a marriage that is being torn apart. no amount of whining

and hen pecking on a PC is gonna sort this out.

I have been there raspberry-maybe you have ,may be you didnt. but, I never want michelle or no one to feel the hurt should craig walk out that door. if that upsets you for me posting- thats your problem. I am concerned just like everyone else.

Whatever you intentions in posting here are, have you considered that perhaps we people are the only ones that Michelle can open her heart to about this? Many of us have been through similar situations to Craig and Michelle and so can empathise and offer support and encouragement. Michelle is not whining or hen pecking so please quit throwing that ####### at her.

[Peggy 1]

Just one simple question shon, have your read the entire thread? And I mean, from the start?

no I dont read it all because, its too much endless Dubage.

however, I do see a marriage that is being torn apart. no amount of whining

and hen pecking on a PC is gonna sort this out.

I have been there raspberry-maybe you have ,may be you didnt. but, I never want michelle or no one to feel the hurt should craig walk out that door. if that upsets you for me posting- thats your problem. I am concerned just like everyone else.

Whatever you intentions in posting here are, have you considered that perhaps we people are the only ones that Michelle can open her heart to about this? Many of us have been through similar situations to Craig and Michelle and so can empathise and offer support and encouragement. Michelle is not whining or hen pecking so please quit throwing that ####### at her.

I agree with this.

She is not whining. Craig was asking for advice when he started this thread. Thats why this thread is still here, to help people that are having a hard time adjusting. You still have to wait to see how your husband adjusts when he gets here. Its not all a bowl of roses Shon..........To me your not helping things here by saying hurtful things to Michelle. She has enough stuff going thru her mind without people saying hurtful things to her. You may not think your saying hurtful things, but this isnt about your marrage. Just cut her some slack.

[Daisy 0]

Michelle, Craig and Boys.... sending you many {{{{{HUGS}}}}

Wishing you all the peace and happiness you truly deserve,

daisy

[MichelleandCraig 1]

Thanks everyone. Very sweet words and appreciated as ever. I know who my friends are on this board. right back to all of you. We'll get through this, but it's really. really. really, hard sometimes. M. (and I'm aware that a lot of you know firsthand as well...kudos to ALL of us!)

[Fandango 1,439]

I'm sure if Craig didn't want personal business aired, Michelle wouldn't air it.

Craig started the initial thread, not Michelle.

[kc456 0]

this thread is too damn depressing...

[MichelleandCraig 1]

You're right Lisa. I asked Craig when I first started getting more personal, as I felt overwhelmed and he said he didn't care due to the anonymous nature of the Internet. Also, I specifically asked about sharing more intimate details, as there were things that were really bothering me but I wasn't sure how I felt. Got my answer; posted. M. Anyway, why am I STILL defending myself here? I'm done with that bit of it....I will keep all who wish to follow this thread up to date, and those who don't want to follow, ALWAYS have that opportunity. Personally, I choose to take advantages of some of VJ's newer features instead of dealing with ridiculousness (even tho that's a doubtful word there!) that I don't need right now.

and KC I'm sorry..you always do have the opportunity to......read above. M.

Edited February 21, 2006 by MichelleandCraig

[babybunny 2]

this thread is too damn depressing...

I agree to that.

I wish yall get it togeather and be happy!!! I respect my husband enough not to drag

our personal marital life in a forum. that "care due to the anonymous nature of the Internet" is #######

when you show your PICs on your profile- michelle. I tell you my husband would be very disturbed

if he knew I was spreading details like this. like i said its between a HUSBAND AND WIFE.

[kc456 0]

The title of the thread is depressing also. I can't ignore the thread name. Anyway, you're right, I should stop lurking around.

Edited February 21, 2006 by kc456

[Peggy 1]

Why do you two keep coming back to this thread then if its so depressing.

[Fandango 1,439]

this thread is too damn depressing...

I agree to that.

I wish yall get it togeather and be happy!!! I respect my husband enough not to drag

our personal marital life in a forum. that "care due to the anonymous nature of the Internet" is #######

when you show your PICs on your profile- michelle. I tell you my husband would be very disturbed

if he knew I was spreading details like this. like i said its between a HUSBAND AND WIFE.

No offense intended here, but you are not Michelle & your husband is not Craig. What they do is their choice & no one elses.

[kc456 0]

Why do you two keep coming back to this thread then if its so depressing.

Because I see the title every time I come to the Moving Here and Your New Life in America forum. I post here often because the topics interest me. In any case, I did not mean any harm.