Immigrant's Nightmare Continued

[Welshcookie 17]

Michelle.....

Thanks for taking the time to check in with us. I will be keeping you both in my thoughts. I really hope Craig enjoys his time in the UK and that he comes back refreshed. I know you are going to miss each other so much...and I hope the brief separation is productive in you moving forward in your life together.

Take care Michelle and Craig and best wishes to you both over the next few weeks.....

[Dixie_Peach 1]

Michelle

*hugs*

I just wanted you to know that I was praying for you... and wishing you all the best. I think that it could be a GOOD thing for Craig to visit him home country right now... not just for him... but for you and for his step-son also. Maybe his step-son won't feel so "abandoned," and will see that his step-dad can and will return for visits... with future intentions of brining him to the USA for a visit. And I think it could be a good time for you to just BREATHE a little... instead of trying to carry the world on your shoulders. You are a strong and loving woman, or so I gather from your posts... and I wish you all the best! Prayers going up for ya'll as as type!

*hugs*

Blessings,

Lynne

[ceriserose 1]

You've both experienced a lot of loss recently, as well as difficulties you didn't necessarily expect to have. I'm sorry that the "important" days haven't been what you wanted/needed. In the big scheme of things, though, it's only a small part of your married life together. My hope is that once Craig gets to the UK he'll be able to put perspective on things here and when he comes back you can both renew the commitment and start having the happiness you both want.

*hugs*

[MichelleandCraig 1]

Thanks everyone. I just forgot to add one more thing...I meant to include it in the first post. Corey is seemingly doing fine..very happy. We try not to shout or get THAT angry with one another when Corey is here and during the FEW times that does happen, Craig is very good to make sure to go by and poke Corey jokingly(something they do) or something similar, to make sure he knows we're not angry with him, and that things really are ok. I can't get across just what I mean, but hopefully you understand. Also, Corey's bedtime is nine pm, and we try to do most of our 'deep' conversational talking later at night when he's asleep. He sees us annoyed at times,of course, but I think that's pretty normal for most couples. I'm talking about our relationship discussions..we try to keep that away from him as much as possible, but I do understand everyone's concern. Hopefully it will do Daryl a world of good to see his Dad in a couple of weeks as well, and Craig has tried to help that situation from the day it first started by not talking to him SO much online(he calls him a couple of times a week for brief convos) and instead sends him emails. M.

[Cassie 8]

Last year I went home for three weeks, Jerry could only stay for a week of that time. By the end of my trip, although I felt bad for leaving Mom in the middle of her chemo treatments, it felt weird to be somewhere without him or without him close by so that he could share in what was going on. Oklahoma still feels "weird" to me, and I still don't feel exactly like home, but that trip helped me to put things into perspective, in that wherever I was, not having Jerry there would be even weirder than how I felt being in OK.

Long story short, I hope the very best for you both, and hope that this trip will put many things to rest for Craig and he can move on a bit.

[meddykomp 0]

Michelle and Craig,

I am rather new her in comparison to a lot of the others who are posting and so I have not been following your situation all along. As a matter of fact I have been sitting here at work reading this thread for several hours now between my tasks at work.

I would like to thank you first and foremost for the thread. My husband is not here yet, but I admit that culture shock is a major fear I have. Sweden is so different than the US and I know it will take some time for him to adjust.

As for advice I would have nothing new to add and I don't really believe that you need any new advice anyway. Instead I will offer to simply be here for you as others have. If you need someone to call just let me know and I will give you my number or I can call you if there is a cost issue on your end.

Angel

[rebeccajo 14]

I think both of you know there are many here that care a great deal about what happens to you both.

Keep us posted. *hugs*

[Peggy 1]

I agree with Rebecca.

Lots of people care about Michelle & Craig.

Hope this trip is what Craig needs. He will miss you Michelle, as you will miss him.

HUGS

[broma25 2]

Michelle

I hope that Craig has a great trip back to England, and that it helps him put his life in perspective. I am sure that once he is back there he will realise that he wants to be in the US (home) with you, and that all the things he thought he was missing in the UK just dont seem that important when he is there (not Daryl of course).

It sucks that he will not be here for your anniversary, but its better to celebrate it later (when he gets back), hopefully it will be a nicer celebration. Right now with his frame of mind its probably not the best time for him to be celebrating anything.

Dont be a stranger to VJ when he is gone!

When my husband used to come back to the states for his little homesick missions, I used to be very upset, but tried to put things into perspective by likening it to people in the military who are separated all the time.

Good Luck to you both, and I really hope his trip makes your lives more complete once he returns.

[daisy16 0]

OMG Michelle! A month is SUCH a long time! He's going to die being away from you both so long! Make sure you have your LD communications in place - chat, text messages, etc.

I know this is brutally hard on you, but you can make it through this. We are here. Come chat, call, whatever. Hopefully this is a great time for you to have mom/corey time. Time to hug yourself, too.

Daisy

[Linda&Dave 0]

Removed by Dave as I decided I had been a bit hard on a certain poster.

Edited February 23, 2006 by Linda&Dave

[Fischkoepfin 1]

Michelle,

I'm glad this thread exists because it helps me work through some of my own issues as a long-term bad adjuster. Hope things work out for you and Craig despite everything.

And for what it's worth, in my own experience, spending some weeks apart is sometimes helpful for the relationship. It sucks to move from living together to LDR again, but it always made me realize how much I want to be with my husband regardless of where we live. Anyway, good luck!

[MaryandMian 1]

Michelle,

I pm'ed you yesterday but wanted to say that I hope Craig comes home refreshed and that you can have a wonderful belated anniversary celebration and revitalized reunion. May the time fly by and you and Corey enjoy some together. God bless you all.

Mary

[MichelleandCraig 1]

Thanks again everyone. I seem to say that a lot here, but I/we really appreciate you all. We booked Craig's ticket last night..found one for 425.00 total on Expedia, which isn't too bad. He will be leaving March 7th(a week from this coming Tuesday) and staying until April 4th..exactly four weeks.I think he needs this entire time, but my favorite mum and dad in law(they're so great) said if he wants to come back sooner they will pay to have the ticket change. I don't anticipate that, but a really sweet thought, hey? Will check in when there's news. Take care everyone. M & C

[munchkins 0]

Lots of hugs and thoughts are with you two