The Vent - Part Trois

[Sam and Ben 2]

Yea, needles aren't a pleasant thing for me. I'm quite the fainter. Unfortunately, I would have the ability to work myself up so thoroughly before acupuncture that I would never be able to go through with it. I actually panic for days prior to getting a vaccine and the like. It's awful.

I've always been cursed with incapable doctors, it seems. My one blessing was an ear, nose and throat specialist as a child. But my GP is an incredible idiot, so most of my ailments through the years have been either natural or just incorporated into my daily routine.

Though I stopped the journals after that, I do keep general patterns on a calendar of my health and know that weather plays a definite role in that, and other issues. (Florida's summertime rain does such terrors to my head.) I can preemptively take medication to try to keep it at bay, but there's little I can do. Thankfully the ones where I actually need to curl up on the couch and feel my brain split in two are usually a couple of months apart.

Wyatt, I daresay that thing could cause a seizure. Haha.

[Wyatt's Torch 45]

I miss The Kids in the Hall! They were the greatest!

"I'm crushing your head! I'm crushing your head!"

Yeah, it was so great! As with all sketch comedy, some skits didn't work...but some were just rolling-on-the-floor hilarious. Chicken lady got me every time...

[Sprailenes 47]

You shouldnt have to mediate at all. I'm sorry to hear about this.

I don't know what I would do, and I'd be upset too.

*big hugs*

I really need to vent for a second.

My parents are going to put me in a mental instutution. Since I was 10 years old their relationship has been so up and down. One day they are madly in love, the next day they hate each other and wish they never met. They say this stuff to each other too. I wish I never met you, you're a bad person, you're lazy, you use me, I never want to see you again... just incredibly hurtful mean comments. As I started to get older I stopped caring, because I knew that they would just forgive and forget like nothing ever happened. Well Sunday night I get a call from my 15 year old sister, completely bawling on the phone. She told me that my dad walked out after a huge fight with my mom and said he wants a divorce. He packed his bags and dissapeared. At first I told her that he would be back, he always comes back, but she told me it was different and they were really done this time. My mom called me about an hour later and said the same thing. They are getting a divorce, she doesn't want to be with him anymore, and she is scared and doesn't know what to do because she feels alone and I'm not around. So obviously this makes me feel like a horrible person. It also makes me feel like its my fault since I've been the mediator all my life. Now I'm not around and there is nobody to keep the peace and what happens? Things just fall apart I guess.

So, needless to say I was very upset. I blamed myself, I felt so bad for my sister and my mom made me feel like I abandoned her. I spent most of Sunday night crying, and I don't ever cry. So I get a call yesterday from my mom. She just wanted to tell me that he came home and everything is ok. Now I'm just so angry. Why do they feel the need to drag me into this? I thought when I moved down here I could just leave that behind, but no. Its even harder now that I'm gone. And the sad reality has sunk in that I'm going to have to mediate fights between my mom and dad, my sister and dad, and my sister and mom for the rest of my life. Its just over a phone now.

Sorry to bother you guys with this. Too much personal information, I know, but I just needed to get that off my chest.

[trailmix 77]

I really need to vent for a second.

My parents are going to put me in a mental instutution. Since I was 10 years old their relationship has been so up and down. One day they are madly in love, the next day they hate each other and wish they never met. They say this stuff to each other too. I wish I never met you, you're a bad person, you're lazy, you use me, I never want to see you again... just incredibly hurtful mean comments. As I started to get older I stopped caring, because I knew that they would just forgive and forget like nothing ever happened. Well Sunday night I get a call from my 15 year old sister, completely bawling on the phone. She told me that my dad walked out after a huge fight with my mom and said he wants a divorce. He packed his bags and dissapeared. At first I told her that he would be back, he always comes back, but she told me it was different and they were really done this time. My mom called me about an hour later and said the same thing. They are getting a divorce, she doesn't want to be with him anymore, and she is scared and doesn't know what to do because she feels alone and I'm not around. So obviously this makes me feel like a horrible person. It also makes me feel like its my fault since I've been the mediator all my life. Now I'm not around and there is nobody to keep the peace and what happens? Things just fall apart I guess.

So, needless to say I was very upset. I blamed myself, I felt so bad for my sister and my mom made me feel like I abandoned her. I spent most of Sunday night crying, and I don't ever cry. So I get a call yesterday from my mom. She just wanted to tell me that he came home and everything is ok. Now I'm just so angry. Why do they feel the need to drag me into this? I thought when I moved down here I could just leave that behind, but no. Its even harder now that I'm gone. And the sad reality has sunk in that I'm going to have to mediate fights between my mom and dad, my sister and dad, and my sister and mom for the rest of my life. Its just over a phone now.

Sorry to bother you guys with this. Too much personal information, I know, but I just needed to get that off my chest.

It's not too much personal info huggles - sorry to hear about your weekend call, it's not nice to be put on an emotional roller coaster.

[Revenesque 2]

I really need to vent for a second.

My parents are going to put me in a mental instutution. Since I was 10 years old their relationship has been so up and down. One day they are madly in love, the next day they hate each other and wish they never met. They say this stuff to each other too. I wish I never met you, you're a bad person, you're lazy, you use me, I never want to see you again... just incredibly hurtful mean comments. As I started to get older I stopped caring, because I knew that they would just forgive and forget like nothing ever happened. Well Sunday night I get a call from my 15 year old sister, completely bawling on the phone. She told me that my dad walked out after a huge fight with my mom and said he wants a divorce. He packed his bags and dissapeared. At first I told her that he would be back, he always comes back, but she told me it was different and they were really done this time. My mom called me about an hour later and said the same thing. They are getting a divorce, she doesn't want to be with him anymore, and she is scared and doesn't know what to do because she feels alone and I'm not around. So obviously this makes me feel like a horrible person. It also makes me feel like its my fault since I've been the mediator all my life. Now I'm not around and there is nobody to keep the peace and what happens? Things just fall apart I guess.

So, needless to say I was very upset. I blamed myself, I felt so bad for my sister and my mom made me feel like I abandoned her. I spent most of Sunday night crying, and I don't ever cry. So I get a call yesterday from my mom. She just wanted to tell me that he came home and everything is ok. Now I'm just so angry. Why do they feel the need to drag me into this? I thought when I moved down here I could just leave that behind, but no. Its even harder now that I'm gone. And the sad reality has sunk in that I'm going to have to mediate fights between my mom and dad, my sister and dad, and my sister and mom for the rest of my life. Its just over a phone now.

Sorry to bother you guys with this. Too much personal information, I know, but I just needed to get that off my chest.

Huggles, don't put yourself through this--you are NOT responsible for your parents/sister's happiness/unhappiness. And don't try to mediate--they have professionals who do that. Next time they call to dump on you, listen and offer the suggestion to see a counselor. To do more than than would drive you to insanity!

[Hugglebuggles 60]

Thanks guys

I guess I've just always had a problem saying no. I'm always the listener and everyone I've ever known has always used me as a sounding board to help solve their problems. The problem is that I don't always have the answers, nobody does, and it ends up being a waste of my time and emotional energy. I wish they would understand what it does to me when they put me in that position. Unfortunately when I try to pull away I upset everyone. "You don't care about me?" or "I just wanted someone to listen."

Edited December 8, 2009 by Hugglebuggles

[Autumnchik 6]

Comnputers! Blech!!! And stupid people like me who kept putting off backing up the hard drive .... blech! I've probably lost all of Declan's pics from birth until now. I am soo mad at myself.

There are specialists who can retrieve data off of damaged hard drives. My sister had to do that about 8 months ago for the exact same reason. It cost her about $250 for it.

Okay, so here is what happened to the computer. I downloaded Norton, had a problem installing it and contacted their tech support. The guy said that I needed a newer version of XP and asked me to allow him remote access to my computer so he could download and install that. I did, he did a whole bunch of things on the computer (I was watching him go in and out of programs, etc.). Then he went to restart my computer and when he did, it stopped working. I just got an error message and nothing he tried to do would fix it. He said it wasn't his fault, that there had been something wrong with my conmputer obviously, and told me to call Dell. So, the Dell tech tried walking me through repairing it, but it would not work. She said the version of XP the Norton tech downloaded was incompatible with my computer and that is what she thinks caused the px. She said that the only thing left was to reinstall XP, which would wipe out everything. She suggested I take my computer in to get someone to retrieve data from the hard drive. So, we brought it to Staples last week. They called yesterday and said my hard drive was fried and they cannot access data. They could ship it off for $1500 and there is no guarantee data can be recovered. I took it to another computer specialist in the town and am waiting to see.

@ Huggles - It is not TMI at all, you needed to vent and that is what this thread is for. Sometimes you have to set boundaries with family members in order for you to survive. I imagine they are going to replay this pattern over and over again. I agree with what other people said, you do not need to be the mediator. That is such an unfair position for you to be in.

[Peachey 10]

Wow, some people are so rude! I made a reservation at a restaurant for my boss to have a meeting, and the person on the phone took a credit card to confirm because it was a large group.

My boss asked me to cancel, so I called and left a message yesterday, and said if they have any questions they can call me back. My boss asked that I call and confirm the cancellation. So I call, and I guess I got the owner, told him I need to cancel the reservation and he said "We do not accept canceled reservations in December". I said I was not aware, that no one told me. So he starts YELLING at me on the phone. Eventually I tell him that I'm going to get my boss to call him and hung up.

So my boss calls him and he screams at her on the phone, saying she was nobody, and he's a business owner, and she doesn't know how to run a business.

I WILL NOT go to that restaurant ever again. I don't suggest any of you ever visit Alexandria's in Sudbury if you're ever here.

Aumtchick, that sucks about your computer. Hopefully they can get some stuff back.

I can suggest some free anti-viruses that run with any version of xp or vista if you would like.

[Peachey 10]

Urg, my doctor's office are retards

When I asked for a referral in June, I specifically told my doctor I was moving at the end of the year, and if it couldn't be done before then I would get it done in the US.

So my doctor's office emailed me today saying they've set up an appointment for me on December 15, 2010 with a specialist! #######!? A: Usually when you refer someone, the doctors office that you've been referred to will call, B: I"M MOVING AND I TOLD YOU THAT.

So I emailed my doctor's office back and told them to cancel the appointment cause I'm moving, they tell me I have to do it, because they've done their part and made initial contact. #######, I didn't ask them to do this.

So I called the doctor they made an appointment with and the machine says they're closed and to call back during normal business hours. Isn't normal business hours between 9 and 5? It was 4:20 when I called.

Man I'm having a bad day.

[Rhiannercakes 14]

My doctor's like that too.

I hated having to deal with my doctor's office.

[Sam and Ben 2]

Ugh, Peachy, I hate that.

My doc's office did the same to me. I told them I couldn't book any appointments after December of this year, and they booked an appointment in the city for August of next year. And then they said I should've told them that I didn't want an appointment booked if I was just going to waste their time... Oi.

I'm sorry your having a bad day.

Huggles, I'm so sorry. ((hug)) It's kind of you to be the sounding board for everyone you know... but when it gets to the point where it's truly weighing on you, hard as it may be, you can't take that much on. It's not helping them to hurt yourself emotionally.

[Hugglebuggles 60]

Yeah you're right Sam. You guys are all right... Sprailenes, Trailmix, Raven, Autumn... Thanks for the support, I really appreciate it!

Peachey- why not tell them to kiss your bum and just not show up? I would, but I'm a rebel like that

[MapleLeafBaby 1]

I have a vent...GRRRR!

I thought we were all done with all this vaccination mumbo-jumbo after immigration, but I guess not!

I got a call from my son's school nurse...first of all, let me say that I opted to have my son vaccinated for everything, and he is up to schedule with everything. They even made me get him vaccinated for Hep B to immigrate here...so I did...

well, now the school is saying that the State does not recognize 'Twinrex' as it is a Canadian product and want him to get the US Hep B vaccination...#######???? 3 shots in the past 6 months and now they want to give another 3???? No flipping way! The only way out of it, is to get a blood test to prove he has immunity to it...and they also want a TB test done (I thought this is part of his normal routined vaccinations from birth???), and they also want a 'Lead Test' which is also mandatory????? I said to her 'how is that contagious?????' she said they want to ensure he does not have it, because of learning disabilities and brain damage????

These things were not required in Canada (the lead test)....

So now, I need to subject my son to unnecessary blood testing and potential further vaccines...it will also cost a small fortune, as we do not have that type of health coverage!

Like seriously? and the only waiver, is a religious one

So now I need to get on the phone with his doctor in Toronto to try and sort out some info

Why do they make this so hard??? I hate having to subject my son to this, and I will be mad as all Hell, if I have to do the Hep shots over!!!

I am gonna have to find out if the TB thing is something he got vaccinated for? I thought so, or am I wrong? I will then have to get the blood test to prove immunity for Hep B, and then do the lead test...my poor little guy...I have unnecessary procedures or toxins

Not to mention the stupid bill i'll get stuck with...We came from Canada, with a similar health system and requirements, and his record is up to date...I seriously feel like this has to do more with the large pharmaceutical companies that manufacture these products and make their money...how can a vaccination that is administered in canada, not be recognized in the US? it's not as though this is a Third World Country on the other side of the globe

[DeadPoolX 9]

Okay, so here is what happened to the computer. I downloaded Norton, had a problem installing it and contacted their tech support. The guy said that I needed a newer version of XP and asked me to allow him remote access to my computer so he could download and install that. I did, he did a whole bunch of things on the computer (I was watching him go in and out of programs, etc.). Then he went to restart my computer and when he did, it stopped working. I just got an error message and nothing he tried to do would fix it. He said it wasn't his fault, that there had been something wrong with my conmputer obviously, and told me to call Dell. So, the Dell tech tried walking me through repairing it, but it would not work. She said the version of XP the Norton tech downloaded was incompatible with my computer and that is what she thinks caused the px. She said that the only thing left was to reinstall XP, which would wipe out everything. She suggested I take my computer in to get someone to retrieve data from the hard drive. So, we brought it to Staples last week. They called yesterday and said my hard drive was fried and they cannot access data. They could ship it off for $1500 and there is no guarantee data can be recovered. I took it to another computer specialist in the town and am waiting to see.

Your first mistake was installing a Norton product. I've never had any luck with those and neither has anyone I know. Stay away if you want a functioning computer.

You actually GAVE him remote access?

I have that turned off (I configure the hell out of my system) as I wouldn't trust anyone to take control of my machine.

A "newer version" of XP? There are no newer versions. XP isn't even made anymore. The only thing I can think of is he tried to download and install Service Pack 3 (and it didn't work right, which is really no surprise) or he somehow wanted to run the 64-bit version of XP, instead of the more common 32-bit copy. There are other versions of the OS, but none that'd make any sense for a normal desktop or laptop.

The Norton tech probably said it wasn't his fault because he blamed a piece of software unrelated to Norton. In this case, he's probably referring to XP crapping out on you, which was probably his doing. Even so, he can take that route and claim no responsibility. One of the very many reasons (even beyond standard security practices) why I never allow anyone remote access to my computer.

How could the HD be fried? If the OS screwed up, the HD would still be operational. Hard drives are hardware devices whereas the operating system is software. The two are unrelated in this case.

[Malrothien 6]

I have a vent...GRRRR!

I thought we were all done with all this vaccination mumbo-jumbo after immigration, but I guess not!

I got a call from my son's school nurse...first of all, let me say that I opted to have my son vaccinated for everything, and he is up to schedule with everything. They even made me get him vaccinated for Hep B to immigrate here...so I did...

well, now the school is saying that the State does not recognize 'Twinrex' as it is a Canadian product and want him to get the US Hep B vaccination...#######???? 3 shots in the past 6 months and now they want to give another 3???? No flipping way! The only way out of it, is to get a blood test to prove he has immunity to it...and they also want a TB test done (I thought this is part of his normal routined vaccinations from birth???), and they also want a 'Lead Test' which is also mandatory????? I said to her 'how is that contagious?????' she said they want to ensure he does not have it, because of learning disabilities and brain damage????

These things were not required in Canada (the lead test)....

So now, I need to subject my son to unnecessary blood testing and potential further vaccines...it will also cost a small fortune, as we do not have that type of health coverage!

Like seriously? and the only waiver, is a religious one

So now I need to get on the phone with his doctor in Toronto to try and sort out some info

Why do they make this so hard??? I hate having to subject my son to this, and I will be mad as all Hell, if I have to do the Hep shots over!!!

I am gonna have to find out if the TB thing is something he got vaccinated for? I thought so, or am I wrong? I will then have to get the blood test to prove immunity for Hep B, and then do the lead test...my poor little guy...I have unnecessary procedures or toxins

Not to mention the stupid bill i'll get stuck with...We came from Canada, with a similar health system and requirements, and his record is up to date...I seriously feel like this has to do more with the large pharmaceutical companies that manufacture these products and make their money...how can a vaccination that is administered in canada, not be recognized in the US? it's not as though this is a Third World Country on the other side of the globe

Unfortunately, all states have different vaccination/test requirements. Hell, even some school districts differ. As far as the TB test - it's just an xray of the lungs. I would get the titer test to prove that he won't need the hep b again.