The Vent - Part Trois

[darkchilde794 5]

You know what's kind of gross? People with "status updates" on FB/Twitter who constantly go on about their significant others. It's all fine and dandy that you love them. But you don't need to constantly try to convince the rest of the world. It's just as bad as making out in public. *barf*

So it IS an effective way of irritating people? That's awesome. I usually put updates about my man several times a week as a passive, non-verbal #### you to my future WIL, who stalks my facebook account like a hound dog.

Good thing you are not in my fb, Sprailenes, or you'd be barfing a lot

That's a nice tip Sapphire...I think we've all learned that no matter you think you know about someone before you marry them, living with them is a whole other ball of earwax (yes I meant that )

Agreed! It is really hard to live with another person, no matter how long you've been together. But you just have to work together, have a lot of open ended discussions, constantly remind yourselves that you're a team now! And in spite of all of that, there will always be kinks and issues, but nothing that you and your hubby cannot resolve.

My husband and I dated for 4 years before getting married. At the start of our dating years, we made decisions independent of each other, and gradually grew to consulting each other and then really discussing decisions together. But now that we're married, it's like starting from day 1 again, because it's a whole new dynamic from when we were dating.

[SapphireDreams 71]

^^ I agree with the dynamic thing. No one can prepare you for marriage and what it really means to live with eachother. I think it's taken time for us to both realize (actually me more than him) that everything I do, affect BOTH of us If I work late, then it affects him too, if I buy myself a new top, even if I use my own money, it still affects us BOTH. I think we even have it especially bad because we come from long distance relationships, where we are so used to doing things alone and not having to be around eachother constantly... therefore getting away with thinking just about ourselves.

The few months were so great - the honeymoon phase is soooo sneaky! I know as every day passes for us, the reality seems to set in more and more. Every major event or new thing in our marriage is something new to work through. Hate to sound corny, but marriage really is HARD WORK.

[lgg 2]

I agree with this Saph... my husband and I have been together for 7 years and neither of us is 'young'... but I was/am so used to doing everything on my own all the time that it took a bit of getting used to. I am just now settling into the, oh yeah... it's US! This is what WE do, independent of what we both do as individuals -- I believe that that needs to be maintained as well.

I've been here two months nearly and it's only this past week or two that i can honestly say, I LOVE it. I am very, very happy to be here. That being said, a lot of that has to do with the fact that I am getting MY stuff sorted out and feeling more put together as LGG, you know? It's only then can I expand and see the 'US'. It's pretty great but it takes work and yeah, living together IS work and you have to still respect someone for who they are and love them "earwax" and all, the whole ball of it. It's a nice experience but not without its trials and tribulations.

I think the situations that we're all in are slightly unique. tons of time being together but a whole lot of time apart and when we finally are in the same dwelling, it's as new as it is old, if you know what I mean?

Hope that makes sense.

^^ I agree with the dynamic thing. No one can prepare you for marriage and what it really means to live with eachother. I think it's taken time for us to both realize (actually me more than him) that everything I do, affect BOTH of us If I work late, then it affects him too, if I buy myself a new top, even if I use my own money, it still affects us BOTH. I think we even have it especially bad because we come from long distance relationships, where we are so used to doing things alone and not having to be around eachother constantly... therefore getting away with thinking just about ourselves.

The few months were so great - the honeymoon phase is soooo sneaky! I know as every day passes for us, the reality seems to set in more and more. Every major event or new thing in our marriage is something new to work through. Hate to sound corny, but marriage really is HARD WORK.

[Bern. 3]

All I can say is I'm still getting used to this whole married thing...

[Sprailenes 47]

Yea I'm pretty used to it. We're more friends than we are husband/wife and thats what I always wanted to marry my best friend.

K enough of that sappy #######.

The events planner at work is really mad at me because I talked to the GM about her lack of communication last week. So she actually told my boss that they're grooming me for HER job and to watch out. Yea can we get a little more petty? Grow up.

I have talked to her many times about communication, obviously she doesn't get it, so I went to our superior.

[The_Dude 1,142]

Yea I'm pretty used to it. We're more friends than we are husband/wife and thats what I always wanted to marry my best friend.

K enough of that sappy #######.

The events planner at work is really mad at me because I talked to the GM about her lack of communication last week. So she actually told my boss that they're grooming me for HER job and to watch out. Yea can we get a little more petty? Grow up.

I have talked to her many times about communication, obviously she doesn't get it, so I went to our superior.

Workplace drama.... gotta love it. It takes me back to high school.

[Sprailenes 47]

It's sooo stupid.

She's soo hilariously stupid. She's the one thats from North Jersey but tries to talk with a British accent.

[The_Dude 1,142]

It's sooo stupid.

She's soo hilariously stupid. She's the one thats from North Jersey but tries to talk with a British accent.

God I hate people who do that. I had a friend who lived in the UK for 2 years, she comes back and has the most irritating fake cockney accent. She tells people that she is British and that she is only moving back here for her work and intends to go back to her home. #######, Manhattan Beach, CA is your homeland. I can't even speak with her anymore.

[Sprailenes 47]

Apparently her accent comes from her trying not to have a North Jersey accent... so I like to say to her sometimes: "Wow.. I just looove your Jersey accent! Are you sure you're not from Long Island???"

[The_Dude 1,142]

Apparently her accent comes from her trying not to have a North Jersey accent... so I like to say to her sometimes: "Wow.. I just looove your Jersey accent! Are you sure you're not from Long Island???"

You should call her a chav and see if she knows what it means.

[Sprailenes 47]

Give her a burberry hat and send her on her way.

[The_Dude 1,142]

Give her a burberry hat and send her on her way.

Well there is one thing that chavs have in common with north joisey girls..... the big hoop earings.

[Rhiannercakes 14]

I hate it when people say "plz, pls, plx". Especially when people ask for help.

Is it so hard to spell out "please"?

[OBX 51]

Oh man, OBX, you just gave me a shiver! Cannot wait to get there! I feel settled with the dress decision -- it was NOT a lot of money and it's not like I'm broke with a lot of debt -- I have none. I have a hard time sometimes justifying silly things -- comes from growing up poor, I think.

Are you going to OBX this year? Or is this the year that you are going to have to miss. I believe we're in Corolla, right on the beach.

I am a natural born beach comber and I grew up on vancouver island so, this is gonna be a treat for me.

Thanks all for your gentle dress encouragement -- everyone needs a pretty, flowy sundress.

lol

I had this image of myself standing there in jeans going, "flow pant legs, FLOW, damn you!"

We always stayed beachfront as well but were further south in Kitty Hawk and Nags Head. Drove up to Corolla a few times...beautiful rentals there!

Sadly we will most likely not be going this year Too many renos required in our "new" (to us) 40 year old house as well as a step-son that has decided to live in the city (NYC) this summer and has a non-paying "job"!! Mom (the ex) thinks it's a good idea but Dad is paying the bills. Let's not get started on that vent.

Edited April 23, 2010 by OBX

[Sprailenes 47]

So it IS an effective way of irritating people? That's awesome. I usually put updates about my man several times a week as a passive, non-verbal #### you to my future WIL, who stalks my facebook account like a hound dog.

Good thing you are not in my fb, Sprailenes, or you'd be barfing a lot

Agreed! It is really hard to live with another person, no matter how long you've been together. But you just have to work together, have a lot of open ended discussions, constantly remind yourselves that you're a team now! And in spite of all of that, there will always be kinks and issues, but nothing that you and your hubby cannot resolve.

My husband and I dated for 4 years before getting married. At the start of our dating years, we made decisions independent of each other, and gradually grew to consulting each other and then really discussing decisions together. But now that we're married, it's like starting from day 1 again, because it's a whole new dynamic from when we were dating.

It's like making out publicly! What's worse is when its family doing it! EWW!!!!! I have to hear my cousins wife talk about their love life... I am like: TMI!

Why does your WIL like your husband or something? If so that's kind of disturbing.

I hate it when people say "plz, pls, plx". Especially when people ask for help.

Is it so hard to spell out "please"?

It's an extra 3 letters... yea in this day and age every second ads up.

thx.