The Vent - Part Trois

[Revenesque 2]

Sometimes, even though blood related, some people are not meant to get along.

Sorry you have to go through this during a time of great joy.

Thanks, Igg. The thing is I do get along with my mother. :-( I just want her to be there for me and it hurts when she doesn't approve or doesn't care.

Here is a kitty.

This made me smile! :-) Thanks.

[antda 13]

Ravenesque-Sorry to hear that you got that type of response from your mom....((hugs)))

Maybe she's in some sort of shock, denial, or whatever else, at the moment and couldn't think of what else to say..

Has she ever acted like this around you before?

Don't worry, she'll eventually change her mind about this, especially when she sees that little bundle of grandchild joy in her arms..

Congrats about seeing the hearbeat too...That is certainly a great feeling to have to know that the baby is ok...

Wait until you get the ultrasound photos too (in week 16-20 or so)..Now that is extra comforting there...

Good luck too with the rest of the pregnancy....

And we on vj will be there for you, even if your mom isn't..

Lol..If it makes you feel any better, my mom/dad was kind of the same way with me before too..(and in ways still is...oh well..time to move on..lol..)

So I told my mom today that I'm pregnant (first pregnancy), that I'm due in Aug 21st. Her response?--Indifference. She said, "Yeah yeah. I don't care what you do with your life."

"Well...I'm done." Then I went upstairs and .

It does take the sting out of it a bit. I'm still hurt but I'm putting it aside for now cuz I just got back from my first ultrasound and am relieved baby is doing fine and has a heartbeat. :-)

Team J and B- Congrats about your pregnancy!..

All the best to you and your baby for a happy and healthy pregnancy!

Btw..Cute pic of your son too. And good luck with the Canadian Citizenship for both of your children later on too.

Ravenesque -

Sorry to hear that! I'm due a month before you. I won't tell anyone till I start showing.

Aiya...

Ant

Edited January 11, 2010 by Ant+D+BabyA

[Krikit 1,163]

My vent. It has been almost 6 weeks since my wife got her green card, and we have been asking her parents to send her ROE and a copy of her resume that was saved on her parents computer ever since. All they have to do is click half a dozen times in an email and send it off. But now I have to go and ask her to call and remind them yet again because they have forgot. I know she hates asking them, but we are really kind of stuck.

Can you access it remotely? (the resume)

This made me smile! :-) Thanks.

I had to check your name history because I was sure I used to call you Raven! lol

Give your parents some time. The only way for them to overcome their biases is for them to get to know your husband and realize he is a good man. Eventually, they will come to terms with the direction your life has taken. Sometimes when people hurt, it comes out in ways that don't make sense. If they were formerly loving parents, they'll come around.

[lgg 2]

That's good thing then, Reven...

I hope you and your mom work it out -- I am pretty sure if you guys get along that she cares, though.. .

Thanks, Igg. The thing is I do get along with my mother. :-( I just want her to be there for me and it hurts when she doesn't approve or doesn't care.

This made me smile! :-) Thanks.

[Revenesque 2]

I'm due a month before you. I won't tell anyone till I start showing.

Congrats on your #2! :-)

I'm showing a little already--gained 10 lbs over 8 weeks!

[SapphireDreams 71]

My vent. It has been almost 6 weeks since my wife got her green card, and we have been asking her parents to send her ROE and a copy of her resume that was saved on her parents computer ever since. All they have to do is click half a dozen times in an email and send it off. But now I have to go and ask her to call and remind them yet again because they have forgot. I know she hates asking them, but we are really kind of stuck.

If she's ever emailed it to someone, it could still be in her sent box. That's where I found mine. She could also just start from scratch. It's a pain, but might be worth it instead of just waiting.

[Revenesque 2]

Ravenesque-Sorry to hear that you got that type of response from your mom....((hugs)))

Maybe she's in some sort of shock, denial, or whatever else, at the moment and couldn't think of what else to say..

Has she ever acted like this around you before?

Don't worry, she'll eventually change her mind about this, especially when she sees that little bundle of grandchild joy in her arms..

Congrats about seeing the hearbeat too...That is certainly a great feeling to have to know that the baby is ok...

Wait until you get the ultrasound photos too (in week 16-20 or so)..Now that is extra comforting there...

Good luck too with the rest of the pregnancy....

And we on vj will be there for you, even if your mom isn't..

Lol..If it makes you feel any better, my mom/dad was kind of the same way with me before too..(and in ways still is...oh well..time to move on..lol..)

((Huggs)) Thanks Ant. :-)

[antda 13]

My vent for today...

The entire left side of my body aches and is numb all over with some chest pain too...

And my teeth ache still....

I can barely move....

It comes and goes....and is worse at night...

What is causing all this pain?...

Blah....

Also been having probs with VJ...

Can't seem to access some posts/threads with multiple pages..

(which show up as "blank" when I refresh them)

And am having problems with PM again....

(says there is an error when I try to send a message...)

Lol..It took me awhile to get on the vent thread here...

But I made it....to vent about VJ...lol...

Blah....

Ant

Edited January 11, 2010 by Ant+D+BabyA

[ValerieA 350]

My vent for today...

The entire left side of my body aches and is numb all over with some chest pain too...

And my teeth ache still....

I can barely move....

It comes and goes....and is worse at night...

What is causing all this pain?...

Blah....

Ant

You REALLY need to go see a doctor! This does not sound good, Ant! Go TODAY.

[Revenesque 2]

I had to check your name history because I was sure I used to call you Raven! lol

Give your parents some time. The only way for them to overcome their biases is for them to get to know your husband and realize he is a good man. Eventually, they will come to terms with the direction your life has taken. Sometimes when people hurt, it comes out in ways that don't make sense. If they were formerly loving parents, they'll come around.

I'm still Ravenesque but I got a little worried about my internet fingerprints under that name, lol. I post under that name in another unrelated forum and I don't want nosies from that forum to piece my life together and out me, lol.

Krikit, I hope so! That's gonna take some time too--they know my hubby from the first time we dated...5 years ago!

[antda 13]

((Huggs)) Thanks Ant. :-)

No problem...

Understandable..As "been there, done that..."

Lol..Btw..My parents wern't too cool about me marrying my husband either....

But I married him anyways..and didn't invite them....

And told them after the fact.."I'm going to the USA to start a new life...got eloped/am married....am staying..."

The rest is history.....

Ant

[Revenesque 2]

No problem...

Understandable..As "been there, done that..."

Lol..Btw..My parents wern't too cool about me marrying my husband either....

But I married him anyways..and didn't invite them....

And told them after the fact.."I'm going to the USA to start a new life...got eloped/am married....am staying..."

The rest is history.....

Ant

So long as you're (in a general sense) happy, than it's right for you. Take care of your aches and pains, Ant. I agree that you should see a doctor too.

[antda 13]

You REALLY need to go see a doctor! This does not sound good, Ant! Go TODAY.

Val-Lol..That's what my husband said....Before he took the car and went off for the day...

Methinks its just a pinched nerve or something, along with the wisdom teeth growing out....

Maybe its my son bit down on me really hard with his teeth while nursing...ouch...

Or it could be "weather related arthritis" (anyone else ever get that too?..It's pain when one feels before bad weather comes...)

Or could it be something else...

But yeah, I'll monitor the situation as the day/night progresses...

Lol..There's always 911 if need be......

And I have the doctor's number handy too....

Meanwhile, am trying painkillers...maybe that would help for awhile..lol...

Ant

[ValerieA 350]

I don't think chest pain is a symptom of a pinched nerve. Just saying.

[antda 13]

So long as you're (in a general sense) happy, than it's right for you. Take care of your aches and pains, Ant. I agree that you should see a doctor too.

Reven-Same for you too..As long as you're happy in your life, so be it...

After all, we all deserve to be with the ones we love, regardless of whaever eeryone else says....

And yes, you should be extra happy too, now that you are with you have a baby along the way too!

More to grow around, indeed!

Ant

P.S. My guess..For some weird reason, I think it's going to be a girl for you..lol...(though I could be wrong..50/50 chance there...)

By the way, are you going to find out when you do the ultrasound later on?

As long as it is happy and healthy, then so be it, boy or girl...regardless....