Husband Called Cops on me

[Pman's Wife 0]

Well, it sure is raining!

My word... I never saw this coming . I'm glad you and your son are okay. Things could be much worse. You are blessed to hold it together through such a surprise storm and to have so much revealed to you so you're not confused and trying to piece things together. You've been through so much and you've been so supportive of others on the journey. You deserve better and better will come.

[LOLAs 1]

At the time I said, i would work with him to ROC, I was in denial. I wanted to pretned that our relationship just did not work out. DENIAL as many people stay in the relationship. Less embarassing to say it was cultural or just didnt' work out.

When he called the cops that caused me to open my eyes. Pull out the evidence I had collected and tucked away for a rainy day. Then hyjacking his email just solidified everything. A man who remained so quiet and cooperative in person and verbalized differently when communicating to his brother is just a pure manipulater.

I will submit my proof and evidence and let the chips fall where they may. I coudl care less if he stay, after what he did to me and my son he will never enjoy his stay here in America.

it is sad when people repay kindness and love with disappointment, may the lord give you victory in this case. It is even more disgusting that he portrays himself as a man of God, I am not too surprised about that because he was dismissed from his congregation that shows that he was never truthful. Plus there are lots of them fake pastors in Nigeria that I have no faith in any of them that describes themselves as men of God, I just hold my faith in the supreme being and serve him directly not through any pastor or ustaz. I think you have thought things thru and you should be fine in this journey. If u ever have any specific question in regards to divorce in Nigeria feel free to PM me and I will be glad to let u know the truth. Good luck, i hope you get him, the e-mails should send him back to his past in Nigeria and I hope that you were not in on this with them at any level. Keeps us posted on the outcome.

Edited November 11, 2009 by LOLAs

[anitacastillo 0]

He did not post our marriage legally on the board has his country requires. I am sure he palmed some hands to get this marriage done.

Can I deny the marriage is legal?

Thanks for any feed back.

Years ago I was married in Lagos at a courthouse. Some lawyer friends of my ex helped us. For an extra $20, our license was not posted for the required 21 days. I remember seeing the other postings outside the courthouse.

I know my ex wasn't into the GC because when our relationship fell apart he went back to Nigeria.

Sorry about your crappy situation!

[momov31 2]

First let me say how sorry i am ur relationship ended like that. Secondly i cant judge anyone nor take anyones side in something i was not there to witness. But it has been my experience that if u start a relationship with doubt it will end on that. Now as for me if im being used for a gc so be it, but i intend to enjoy all of it because i stayed in a marriage to someone who used me for a lot more than the american dream. Im praying u both find peace and happiness.

[Enlighten one :) 5]

Thanks Pman and Lola. Wonderful things are to come. God is good and faithful. When you experience things like this you know amazing thigns are to come. Well of course if you learn from them.

Lola we were married in Nigeria. My prides made, Who just seemed like a wonderful friend and Angel at the time, took the pen from me when I went to write my correct name Melissa. I also was going to put my real address and she pu his address.

Well, it sure is raining!

My word... I never saw this coming . I'm glad you and your son are okay. Things could be much worse. You are blessed to hold it together through such a surprise storm and to have so much revealed to you so you're not confused and trying to piece things together. You've been through so much and you've been so supportive of others on the journey. You deserve better and better will come.

[rlogan 2,036]

Such cruelty.

You seem to be really keeping it together, and that's great. Good attitude, and you're right. Good things will come.

Got to put even thinking about him behind you. It's not our place to think about vengeance and judgement for sin. We have to just do the best we can for ourselves once we realize the truth of it. Human nature dictates we ponder how they can act like this and think there is no accountability. But you just have to disengage from them as quickly as you can and get on with your life.

I have compassion for you because although I did not get as bad for me, I didn't see the warning signs because I wanted to believe the lies. But now I have a wonderful immigrant wife and a green card and family coming. So I wish you that kind of luck.

Always darkest before the dawn.

[Enlighten one :) 5]

Thanks Rlogan.

You are right. Immidiatly I let a million things run through my mind the how the who and the whats and whens. But that is just torture on me and no not him.

It is in God's hands.

[What Happened? 4]

Good for you!...

I always say, the best revenge against those who would wish you ill..........is to live the best life possible.

People who don't want the best for you, won't be able to stand the fact that you have managed to be happy without them.

So do your thing..........and live a good, fruitful, blissful life........without him.

Edited November 12, 2009 by What Happened?

[Enlighten one :) 5]

Thanks!

I am so proud of myself. I am back to just share my story so that someone might see the trend. I wish other women would tell there story too.

I hope I am an encouragement.

Peace!

Good for you!...

I always say, the best revenge against those who would wish you ill..........is to live the best life possible.

People who don't want the best for you, won't be able to stand the fact that you have managed to be happy without them.

So do your thing..........and live a good, fruitful, blissful life........without him.