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Good Morning ladies....

WOW a lot has happend in the past couple of days!!

Kelly...girl you know how i feel about everything!! i am here for ya!!!! (L)

Ann.....Congratz he is coming :dance: :dance:

well this week has been pretty good...mike found a close resturant and has been walking there to watch some soccer games cause Comcast SUCKS!! and still hasn't fixed my cable...and i am facing the wrong way for Direct TV....so i feel bad for him but at least it gets him out of the house and talking to people!!!

Last night my employers went into Wilmington and got take out Jamaica food....it was YUMMY!!! mike was very happy!!! My boss asked the guy if they had festival cause i asked for it...and they guy looked at him funny...because they don't have it on the listed and my boss is not Jamaican :lol: so he asked how he knew about it and he told him about mike so the man asked my boss to bring mike so he can meet him....and i just found another place that is close....

so tonight if it not ttoo cold we are going to go to Longwood Gardens they have the lights up and is SO pretty!!!!

well we are off to do more christmas shopping....

have a great weekend everyone!!

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The most I can say at this juncture is that you have a bit more...maybe a lot more patience than I do in this situation. I guess I envy your ability to come to the conclusion that he is not a "bad person" just someone making bad choices. I am going to temper my opinion on this quite a bit cause I can sense that you still do have feelings for your man, though not the ones that would suggest that this situation will end well. But, I will say this much. You have a son that you love, that is young impressionable and who is the only child you must be raising at this time in your life. You did not go to Jamaica to adopt a child, cause you already have one. Helping your man grow up, really should not be your responsbility and you should not take on that responsibility. The worlds "selfish", "mean spirited" and "dishonest" comes to my mind when I read the messages you post about how he is treating you. In this life, you deserve nothing but the best for yourself and I could not imagine anyone treating me like this and getting the benefit of me thinking thet they are not a for want of a better word "bad person." i had a dear friend in your situation a year ago. She took the gloves off and dealt with this issue in a not too pleasant manner. the police became involved and at the end of the day, the man was escorted back to jamaica where he rightfully belong. Now was it the best thing to do? I can only say that today she is still single, but enjoying a peace of mind that he tried to steal from her and failed.

You will know when you have reached your breaking point. If you have, my best advice is to make a clean break from this situation and move on with your life. It may mean you have to take the gloves off, but do not let any man try to take advantage of you. As my grandmother would say "your mama ain't raise no fool." This situation is one that will not have a happy ending. He has made a choice by his actions, when the time is right, please make yours and let the child grow up on his own, or go back to jamaica so his mama can raise him right. When you said that he is not the man you fell in love with, my feeling was simply that he was good at hiding his true self.

I had so hoped that this would have gone down differently, but at this juncture, there is really not much you can do to salvage this when the trust is gone.

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Luvtravlin,

The most I can say at this juncture is that you have a bit more...maybe a lot more patience than I do in this situation. I guess I envy your ability to come to the conclusion that he is not a "bad person" just someone making bad choices. I am going to temper my opinion on this quite a bit cause I can sense that you still do have feelings for your man, though not the ones that would suggest that this situation will end well. But, I will say this much. You have a son that you love, that is young impressionable and who is the only child you must be raising at this time in your life. You did not go to Jamaica to adopt a child, cause you already have one. Helping your man grow up, really should not be your responsbility and you should not take on that responsibility. The worlds "selfish", "mean spirited" and "dishonest" comes to my mind when I read the messages you post about how he is treating you. In this life, you deserve nothing but the best for yourself and I could not imagine anyone treating me like this and getting the benefit of me thinking thet they are not a for want of a better word "bad person." i had a dear friend in your situation a year ago. She took the gloves off and dealt with this issue in a not too pleasant manner. the police became involved and at the end of the day, the man was escorted back to jamaica where he rightfully belong. Now was it the best thing to do? I can only say that today she is still single, but enjoying a peace of mind that he tried to steal from her and failed.

You will know when you have reached your breaking point. If you have, my best advice is to make a clean break from this situation and move on with your life. It may mean you have to take the gloves off, but do not let any man try to take advantage of you. As my grandmother would say "your mama ain't raise no fool." This situation is one that will not have a happy ending. He has made a choice by his actions, when the time is right, please make yours and let the child grow up on his own, or go back to jamaica so his mama can raise him right. When you said that he is not the man you fell in love with, my feeling was simply that he was good at hiding his true self.

I had so hoped that this would have gone down differently, but at this juncture, there is really not much you can do to salvage this when the trust is gone.

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Luvtravlin,

The most I can say at this juncture is that you have a bit more...maybe a lot more patience than I do in this situation. I guess I envy your ability to come to the conclusion that he is not a "bad person" just someone making bad choices. I am going to temper my opinion on this quite a bit cause I can sense that you still do have feelings for your man, though not the ones that would suggest that this situation will end well. But, I will say this much. You have a son that you love, that is young impressionable and who is the only child you must be raising at this time in your life. You did not go to Jamaica to adopt a child, cause you already have one. Helping your man grow up, really should not be your responsbility and you should not take on that responsibility. The worlds "selfish", "mean spirited" and "dishonest" comes to my mind when I read the messages you post about how he is treating you. In this life, you deserve nothing but the best for yourself and I could not imagine anyone treating me like this and getting the benefit of me thinking thet they are not a for want of a better word "bad person." i had a dear friend in your situation a year ago. She took the gloves off and dealt with this issue in a not too pleasant manner. the police became involved and at the end of the day, the man was escorted back to jamaica where he rightfully belong. Now was it the best thing to do? I can only say that today she is still single, but enjoying a peace of mind that he tried to steal from her and failed.

You will know when you have reached your breaking point. If you have, my best advice is to make a clean break from this situation and move on with your life. It may mean you have to take the gloves off, but do not let any man try to take advantage of you. As my grandmother would say "your mama ain't raise no fool." This situation is one that will not have a happy ending. He has made a choice by his actions, when the time is right, please make yours and let the child grow up on his own, or go back to jamaica so his mama can raise him right. When you said that he is not the man you fell in love with, my feeling was simply that he was good at hiding his true self.

I had so hoped that this would have gone down differently, but at this juncture, there is really not much you can do to salvage this when the trust is gone.

:thumbs: Kelly please listen to Stephen; because what he has said(all of it) is so eloquent and rings so true. Stephen for those who are "visitors" or who have not yet filed or who are going through the same thing that Kelly has gone through- your words should give them pause to seriously consider if this is the right decision for all involved. And for those who have found themselves in the same positon as Kelly (and others here on VJ) your words should give them the encouragement to get on their lives and live.

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:blink: Well, today is finally the day. George's flight leaves MoBay at 8:50 this morning, connects in Newark, and arrives in Rochester at 5:00 this afternoon. I'm so nervous! I just keep obsessively cleaning the house. Whatever happens after today, I am so grateful for the information and support of all of you. I know I shouldn't complain about the process--I mailed the petition on September 1st, and he's arriving today--but this has been the most stressful 3 and half months of my life I think, worse than having breast cancer. Trying to build a life with someone while you shout over a lousy overseas connection into a cell phone, taking out the same photos to look at over and over, laying in bed at night and wondering, how long Lord, how long? hoping your kids will accept him, and that he'll feel the same about them. Well--the whole thing has been quite a ride! I'm gonna stay busy and wash a chicken to make brown stew. THank you, VJ friends.

Ann (and soon, George)

Congrads!!! :dance::dance: Your case moved very fast!! Enjoy the brown stew.

USCIS

06-28-2011-Mailed I-130

07-03-2011-NOA1

12-08-2011-NOA2

NVC

12-19-2012-NVC Received Case

01-06-2012-Case Number

01-25-2012-Case Completed

02-21-2012-Medical

03-06-2012-Interview--APPROVED

03-13-2012-VISA RECEIVED

03-16-2012-POE ATL

ROC

02/24/2014-Mailed I-751

02/26/2014-Package Received

02/28/2014-NOA1 Hard Copy

02/28/2014-Check Cashed

03/25/2014-Biometrics Appt

06/04/2014-RFE Sent more info back on 07/29/2014

09/04/2014 ROC Approved

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Jamie-we knew what you meant girl. Kelly has asked for honest opinions and she knows the personalities of many of us that have been around for a while, so I knew she didn't think we would sugarcoat anything. I think your equation is funny for anyone who fits the formula. I knew that you were not taking Kelly's situation in a light- hearted manner. Most of the time short and sweet(or sour) makes the best statements and has the most impact; rather than long and winded (like me :blush:).

I think what Jamie said is TOTALLY hilarious and I shared it with Craig.....he didn't think it was that fun, but....whatever!!! He made his bed now HE has to lie in it !!

Yes, I'm TOTALLY sick and exhausted of this entire situation, yes I guess I could call the police, yes I could PAY and have the locks changed, yes I could make TOTAL drama in my NOSEY apartment complex by calling the police and get my son WAY upset and yes I could put Craig out in the cold. We don't have shelters in our area like that.....but Craig is NOT a bad guy. He just makes really SH***Y and immature choices. He NEEDS to grow up and be a responsible man, husband and stepfather......."I" canNOT MAKE that happen, he has to learn and grow on his own. Like I've mentioned before, he has TOTALLY changed since he's been here. He's soooooooooo NOT the man that I fell in love with and now, I'm not in love with him. I do love him .....but the feelings are not there anymore.

I ask for others opinions, advice and suggestions ....because I want to hear what everyone says...good, bad or ugly. I am a very strong woman, I keep busy (more than usual) through all of this and I've had an absolutely amazing (you know who you guys are) support system that has helped me !!!! My son does NOT see (or hear) what me and Craig have been going through because he's not in the house when we get into our discussions, etc. When my son is home, Craig has been spending time with him. I did talk with my son the other night and told him that I've asked Craig to leave and told him a likkle bit about what is going on and he said, mommy I haven't said anything to you because I know this is your decision and I know you'll make everything okay in the end. I just LOVE that boy !!!!

Jamie, absolutely no offense taken....I think it was great !!!

We all do NOT live "perfect" lives and if anyone thinks this process was "easy"...or GOING to be easy....living with someone who has never ever traveled out of their 3rd world country is ....well, I don't even know what to say...

I live every day to the fullest. I've been sent down this path for whatever reasons and I'll just keep on truckin B)

Have a great weekend........stay warm!!

My heart goes out to you. Whatever decision you make.... I'm sure it will be the right one.

USCIS

06-28-2011-Mailed I-130

07-03-2011-NOA1

12-08-2011-NOA2

NVC

12-19-2012-NVC Received Case

01-06-2012-Case Number

01-25-2012-Case Completed

02-21-2012-Medical

03-06-2012-Interview--APPROVED

03-13-2012-VISA RECEIVED

03-16-2012-POE ATL

ROC

02/24/2014-Mailed I-751

02/26/2014-Package Received

02/28/2014-NOA1 Hard Copy

02/28/2014-Check Cashed

03/25/2014-Biometrics Appt

06/04/2014-RFE Sent more info back on 07/29/2014

09/04/2014 ROC Approved

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:blink: Well, today is finally the day. George's flight leaves MoBay at 8:50 this morning, connects in Newark, and arrives in Rochester at 5:00 this afternoon. I'm so nervous! I just keep obsessively cleaning the house. Whatever happens after today, I am so grateful for the information and support of all of you. I know I shouldn't complain about the process--I mailed the petition on September 1st, and he's arriving today--but this has been the most stressful 3 and half months of my life I think, worse than having breast cancer. Trying to build a life with someone while you shout over a lousy overseas connection into a cell phone, taking out the same photos to look at over and over, laying in bed at night and wondering, how long Lord, how long? hoping your kids will accept him, and that he'll feel the same about them. Well--the whole thing has been quite a ride! I'm gonna stay busy and wash a chicken to make brown stew. THank you, VJ friends.

Ann (and soon, George)

Ann and congratulations all the best!

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We all do NOT live "perfect" lives and if anyone thinks this process was "easy"...or GOING to be easy....living with someone who has never ever traveled out of their 3rd world country is ....well, I don't even know what to say...

I am sorry that your husband from a "developing nation" is treating you badly. Please take the advice of Stephen and send the him back to Jamaica.

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3/27/06 Got Married - Whopeee!!!!!

4/06/06 Mailed I-130 only (Not ready to mail other documents yet)

4/12/06 NOA1 on I-130

7/20/06 Mailed AOS Package (I-485, I-765, I-864, no medical documents)

7/25/06 I-130 Approved

7/27/06 NOA1

8/15/06 Biometrics

8/21/06 Completed Medical - $250.00 - Yikes!!!!

8/24/06 Received Medical report from Doctor

8/28/06 Mailed RFE to Lees Summit - Medical

9/05/06 Touched (I-485) - Received Medical

9/09/06 Touched (I-485)

9/23/06 Touched (I-130)

9/23/06 Touched (I/765) Approved

9/28/06 Touched (I-765)

10/2/06 Received EAD Card

10/3/06 Touched (1-765)

10/21/06 Received Interview date - 12/06/06

12/04/06 Touched I-485 & I-765

12/06/06 Approved pending name check - bummer!!! - So the AO says

02/03/07 59 days and counting since interview....

02/09/07 Best touch ever!!!! Got welcome notice emails!!!!

02/12/07 Touched (I-485)

02/13/07 Touched (I-485)

02/14/07 Touched & Emails ("We ordered the production of your card...")

02/20/07 Card received in the mail!!!!!! Yay!!!!

Lifting Conditions

12/09/2008 Mailed package

12/18/2008 NOA 1

1/06/2009 Biometrics

1/07/2009 Touched

5/17/2009 Approved!!!!

6/12/2009 Card produced. No status change on the website.

6/20/2009 Received card in the mail

Citizenship (Final Leg)

11/16/2009 Mailed package

11/18/2009 USCIS received package

11/20/2009 NOA1

11/24/2009 Check cashed

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03/01/2010 Interview - Passed!!!

03/26/2010 Oath Ceremony

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Today my husband and I decided that he will go to the interview alone. So I am making him a binder of material this week he can take to the interview. I just can't afford to go back to JA again when I have to get him a ticket to come up here. I think we can do it this way because we have 9 years of evdience.

I also have heard from some of you that your significant others didn't have to tough of a time going alone.

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:blink: Well, today is finally the day. George's flight leaves MoBay at 8:50 this morning, connects in Newark, and arrives in Rochester at 5:00 this afternoon. I'm so nervous! I just keep obsessively cleaning the house. Whatever happens after today, I am so grateful for the information and support of all of you. I know I shouldn't complain about the process--I mailed the petition on September 1st, and he's arriving today--but this has been the most stressful 3 and half months of my life I think, worse than having breast cancer. Trying to build a life with someone while you shout over a lousy overseas connection into a cell phone, taking out the same photos to look at over and over, laying in bed at night and wondering, how long Lord, how long? hoping your kids will accept him, and that he'll feel the same about them. Well--the whole thing has been quite a ride! I'm gonna stay busy and wash a chicken to make brown stew. THank you, VJ friends.

Ann (and soon, George)

i am so happy for you and you do deserve happiness. Everything will work out. I'll be seeing you when we do the AOS part OMG another VisaJourney. :whistle: .

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See I am the kind of person who wouldn't let a person who disrespects me even to stay in my house. I would of found him the nearst shelter and took him there. Then I would of changed all my locks on my house. Even if he was from here or wasn't. I don't deal with disrespect at all. I would of found him a shopping cart too so on cold days he could walk around with all his stuff in the cold.

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:blink: Well, today is finally the day. George's flight leaves MoBay at 8:50 this morning, connects in Newark, and arrives in Rochester at 5:00 this afternoon. I'm so nervous! I just keep obsessively cleaning the house. Whatever happens after today, I am so grateful for the information and support of all of you. I know I shouldn't complain about the process--I mailed the petition on September 1st, and he's arriving today--but this has been the most stressful 3 and half months of my life I think, worse than having breast cancer. Trying to build a life with someone while you shout over a lousy overseas connection into a cell phone, taking out the same photos to look at over and over, laying in bed at night and wondering, how long Lord, how long? hoping your kids will accept him, and that he'll feel the same about them. Well--the whole thing has been quite a ride! I'm gonna stay busy and wash a chicken to make brown stew. THank you, VJ friends.

Ann (and soon, George)

I/ we know how you feel. No worries mon. the worst is over and you now have your man at your side Congrats :dance:

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Yippe!! I just called NVC and it left me the message that it sent the last package of work to the petinor. So hubby has already sent me the forms using James Shortcuts. So I will be sending in the last step for NVC on Monday Whoopie. Then 2 to 4 weeks of NVC reviewing the work and the case goes to Kingston! :dance: Dancing for joy that my side of the work is mostly done. Then its his turn and he is a big man so he can do the interview by himself. Hopefully he will be here in March :dance::dance: or earlier! Getting happier each moment and VJ is the best this yardie site and a few other CR1 friends I meet giving me the info on all the shortcuts..

Did I say I was happy happy joy joy - sorry for the repeat!!! ahaha :dance:

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Yippe!! I just called NVC and it left me the message that it sent the last package of work to the petinor. So hubby has already sent me the forms using James Shortcuts. So I will be sending in the last step for NVC on Monday Whoopie. Then 2 to 4 weeks of NVC reviewing the work and the case goes to Kingston! :dance: Dancing for joy that my side of the work is mostly done. Then its his turn and he is a big man so he can do the interview by himself. Hopefully he will be here in March :dance::dance: or earlier! Getting happier each moment and VJ is the best this yardie site and a few other CR1 friends I meet giving me the info on all the shortcuts..

Did I say I was happy happy joy joy - sorry for the repeat!!! ahaha :dance:

GREAT NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!! :dance: :dance: :dance:

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:blink: Well, today is finally the day. George's flight leaves MoBay at 8:50 this morning, connects in Newark, and arrives in Rochester at 5:00 this afternoon. I'm so nervous! I just keep obsessively cleaning the house. Whatever happens after today, I am so grateful for the information and support of all of you. I know I shouldn't complain about the process--I mailed the petition on September 1st, and he's arriving today--but this has been the most stressful 3 and half months of my life I think, worse than having breast cancer. Trying to build a life with someone while you shout over a lousy overseas connection into a cell phone, taking out the same photos to look at over and over, laying in bed at night and wondering, how long Lord, how long? hoping your kids will accept him, and that he'll feel the same about them. Well--the whole thing has been quite a ride! I'm gonna stay busy and wash a chicken to make brown stew. THank you, VJ friends.

Ann (and soon, George)

Congrats :dance:

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