Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)

[nyseness 0]

I posted a quick pic of me on Yahoo...will post more soon

I could try (I am a born Jamaican) to get it but the last time I checked they said i need to have the certificate number for it.

They only one I have is teh one from the state, seeing I got married there at the court house. I was just trying to eliminate speanding and other $30 to get another one from them.

Hummmmmmm......I <believe> the reason why they want a certified birth certificate is to prove that "you" are an American citizen who was born in America. I don't even know what to say in your case....I completely forgot you were born in Jamaica....sorry. I am clueless on that one.

I always go with "better safe than sorry" when it comes to what they are asking you for. Personally, I would spend the $30 and get the certified copy. If you don't give them what they want they will just RFE you and tell you what you need to provide. It's not the end of the world....if you are willing to take that chance and get "held up" in the process for a while.....

Hi Marsha,

Mindy is correct you won't need your birth cert since you wasn't born here unless you are a citizen through your parents. In your case you will need a copy (front & back) of your Certificate of Naturalization.

Hope that helps.

[tenika 0]

Just wanted to say hello everyone

I have been sooooo busy, I got transferred to another office, and with new added responsibilites, the work load is stresssfull, I barely have time to breathe, but Thank the Lord for employement.

Darah- I am glad u finally told your family. You did the right thing. When you are married sometimes the family we were born with cause to much tenision, which inturn affects the marriage. Thats why in the bible it says when a couple is married they must 'leave father and mother' and cleave to eachother. I am a born Black American, with Siksika (native American) and Italian bloon. My famly although Black still had stong opinions against my now husband because he is Jamaican. Sometimes I had to 'put my mom in her place' and let her now this is my life and I love him and going to married him. Yes, sometimes you may feel like an outcast, sometimes, in the rocky times, you may even think they were slightly right. but hold on to your man, cause when it is all said and done he is the one u made a vow to and will be there when ur parent are not. Stay strong and stick by your man.

Mrs Squitto- Congrats on Squito's job

Elizabeth...that was funnnnyyy

Everyone else.. WHAT AH GO AHN?

[kimlbs 0]

Good morning everyone,

I've been reading parts of the notes I see here to my sweetie. Its really helped calm the nerves a bit. He asked me to ask all of you exactly what to expect in the interview - what questions will he likley be asked, etc. Sometimes I think he views this as a test that he can fail. I try and reassure him that if the paperwork is in order, we will be fine. Because anyone who sees us together knows we are the real deal

Can any of you provide a few examples of questions or the specific process on interview day so I can share them with him?

Thanks

O, BTW, I still have a few paperwork questions (getting a bit paranoid before the big day)!

I have a marriage and divorce certificate. Both were provided with the original packet. I provided copies. The packet says they need certified copies of marriage and divorce decree. Do I really need to bring certified copies? My divorce paperwork is a certified copy - so I guess I can get another certified copy of that. But I don't have a certified copy of my marriage certificate.

I am going to get my I-134 notarized this week. Will bring copies of an employment letter, my last 3 pay stubs, and my last 3 years 1040 filings (with W2s attached). I am also going to get a bank statement. But on top of all of this, the I-134 talks about providing information on investments and life insurance. I feel that is really excessive. What am I supposed to do, copy all my 401k stuff?

Thanks again.

Hello Ladies! It has been a long time since I have written but I have been creeping the forum watching all of your beautiful moments unfold. So much has happened in the past year for all of us, it's so amazing! I am writing now because I need some immediate support.

We have had on and off again discussions about our families and their support (or lack of) in the past. Now it is time for my confessions if you will. I have done all of this immigration and marriage stuff without any of my family members being aware of it. I am close to my family but so distant from them at the same time. My parents and sisters (one of them is starting to understand) have never approved of mine and Henry's relationship for more reasons than racial...over the years it has almost completely vanished from our conversations. When I made the decision to go through with the K1 I made that decision on my own and with the support of my very best friends who knew that I was doing what I had to do. I got married to Henry under the same pretense. For the past year I have had the most wonderful life. I speak with my family every week or so and chit chat about this and that, they never ask me about him and I constantly try to drop his name or talk about things that we have done..etc. My parents live in TX and I have a sister in Boston and Vermont. I have actually only seen them once in the past year so "lying" has been easy but the haunting of this has not.

Yesterday was our one year anniverary and while it was such a rewarding day for us and so accomplishing there was this lingering feeling of major anxiety. I am telling my family today that we eloped yesterday. The idea of telling them that we have been lying for the past year is too excruciating..especially as my mother recently got diagnosed with breast cancer. I don't want them to be too hurt. We have decided that this is the best immediate solution in order to get the truth on the table and keep everyone's feelings in check. Now I am struggling with how to go about this confession. I am making the phone calls tonight. First I will call my parents, then my most opposing sister and finally my happy sister. I'm not even thinking about the immediate family and family friends yet as this is the main priority.

I am so excited to get everything off my chest but also terrified to hear the reactions. I have made a few jokes that I'm going to sit with my bottle of Jack Daniels and just bite the bullet...

If anyone has any advice to offer or is in a similar situation...please share your thoughts. I am waiting for 7PM to come for the first of the three dreaded phone calls.

I don't have any great advice - but I can empathize. My family is not exactly thrilled that I'm bringing "a Jamaican" back to the states. This is not at all racial in my case because we're black. I think a lot of this is classist. He is poor, I am not. I am educated, he is not. I am older than him. By about 10 years. And in the end, no one can "understand why I'm DOING this". And they "don't want to see me get hurt". I think the hardest part of this is not being able to talk to them about all my feelings during this process. There are times when I worry or get down or doubt. And the people who are usually my "go to" people - are just not there. In fact, if I were to express any concern or doubt during a bad moment - they would jump on it and use it to try and convince me, yet again, to reconsider. "You can always change your mind" they all say. Sigh.

Last week I told my mom I was going for the interview next week. And she was like "so what will you do with him when he gets here" .... She went on to say: "And when will he leave". I just want to scream HAVENT YOU BEEN LISTENING TO ME AT ALL FOR THE LAST TWO YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Anyway, I didn't mean to make this about me - I just wanted to tell you I understood... and my thoughts are with you.

T

Welcome to the yardie family Belly's Girl!!!!

Tali-

Just like Mindy said, they want certified copies of the birth certificate for both you and your finacee. They will ask for it at the interview along with the no-impediment form. I think you can get another copy of yours at the vital statistics office in teh County you were born and your fiancee needs the new version of his birth certificate (not the hand written one) and can ge received at the Register Generals office.

In regards to questions:

At our recent interview, they asked:

How did you meet?

Have you met any of the family yet?

What does the family think about your relationship?

When are you planning on getting married?

What day of the week is that day?

How many times have you travelled to JA to visit your fiancee?

Has your fiancee ever travelled off the Island?

Please have yur fiancee spell your full name without any assistance from you?

What do you plan on doing for work when you arrive in the US?

Why do you love your fiancee?

Mostly, they are looking at the medical to make sure he does not test postive for marajuana (this would be an automatic denial with 3 year ban into the USA) and any communicable disease.......and they are looking at your finances to make sure that you meet the minimum financial support requirements.

Good luck!!

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Now let's get familiar, answer these questions:

Name : Tamisha

SO's Name: Gregory

Location : Upper Marlboro, Maryland

My Significant Other Hails From : St. Ann's Bay, Jamaica

Where is he now?: In St. Ann's...Missing me!!

Wedding Date: Tentatively scheduled for July 2007

At What Point of the Visa Journey are you?: Filed the I-129F petition July 12, 2006...received NOA1, waiting on NOA2

What's your JA connection/How did you meet?: He and I met while I was on a "Girls Only" vacation to Jamaica in 2005. We stayed at Breezes in Runaway Bay and he worked in the Water Sports Department...the rest is history!

Do you have a pic?: I do, but they are not posted anywhere but in my bedroom!!

What is your most memorable yardie thread moment?: None yet, other than reading you guys posts!! Who's next?

[rhondapayter 0]

Hello Night shift checking in. It was awfully quiet in here today. I have to work tomorrow and then I'm off for 3 whole days Yippee!!!

What are everybody's plans for the weekend?

Edited August 2, 2006 by rhondapayter

[Shemmy 4]

Now let's get familiar, answer these questions:

Name : Tamisha

SO's Name: Gregory

Location : Upper Marlboro, Maryland

My Significant Other Hails From : St. Ann's Bay, Jamaica

Where is he now?: In St. Ann's...Missing me!!

Wedding Date: Tentatively scheduled for July 2007

At What Point of the Visa Journey are you?: Filed the I-129F petition July 12, 2006...received NOA1, waiting on NOA2

What's your JA connection/How did you meet?: He and I met while I was on a "Girls Only" vacation to Jamaica in 2005. We stayed at Breezes in Runaway Bay and he worked in the Water Sports Department...the rest is history!

Do you have a pic?: I do, but they are not posted anywhere but in my bedroom!!

What is your most memorable yardie thread moment?: None yet, other than reading you guys posts!! Who's next?

Welcome.

[kimlbs 0]

Hello Night shift checking in. It was awfully quiet in here today. I have to work tomorrow and then I'm off for 3 whole days Yippee!!!

What are everybody's plans for the weekend?

It's about time...you need a day off girl!!!

So...I am working overtime tonight too...my son and Duane are going to go play basketball!!! How sweet!

So...D was walking in town today and some girl tried to pick him up..she stopped him, asked where he was from and made a comment about how she loved his accent and how sexy he was.......

Okay..then the girl had the nerve to ask him if he had a girlfriend and said that she did not mind if he did!!!! He told her that he was getting married in two weeks and then she backed off..... I know he is is hot and sexy... but why are women sooo agressive........go find your own man lady!!!

[Jamaica to CT 0]

I posted a quick pic of me on Yahoo...will post more soon

Nice to see you Anna.

[Shemmy 4]

Name : Shemanya

SO's Name: Damien

Location : Fort Washington, MD (right outside DC)

My Significant Other Hails From : born, raised and lived in Mo Bay

Where is he now?: Right here....talking my had off But wouldn't trade for the world

Wedding Date: January 7, 2005

At What Point of the Visa Journey are you?: Waiting to lift conditions in two years

What's your JA connection/How did you meet?: We met in Margaritavilla on the floor dance August 2003 while on vacation with my friends. It was suppose to be my last trip to JA.

Do you have a pic?: Soon come

What is your most memorable yardie thread moment?: Meeting wonderful people.

[brownnskinn 0]

So...D was walking in town today and some girl tried to pick him up..she stopped him, asked where he was from and made a comment about how she loved his accent and how sexy he was.......

Okay..then the girl had the nerve to ask him if he had a girlfriend and said that she did not mind if he did!!!! He told her that he was getting married in two weeks and then she backed off..... I know he is is hot and sexy... but why are women sooo agressive........go find your own man lady!!!

This happens to us all the time Gets some class why don't they.

[iceyspots 0]

wow that's terrible......hitting on a soon to be married man... some girls did that in algeria.. I thought it was funny!!

[Elizabethnhenry 0]

So...D was walking in town today and some girl tried to pick him up..she stopped him, asked where he was from and made a comment about how she loved his accent and how sexy he was.......

Okay..then the girl had the nerve to ask him if he had a girlfriend and said that she did not mind if he did!!!! He told her that he was getting married in two weeks and then she backed off..... I know he is is hot and sexy... but why are women sooo agressive........go find your own man lady!!!

Ya know!

It is amazing what some women will do.

wow that's terrible......hitting on a soon to be married man... some girls did that in algeria.. I thought it was funny!!

Didn't you give them an "icey chop'??!!! It's good when you can see humor in it and just laugh at them.

[Minfay 0]

wow that's terrible......hitting on a soon to be married man... some girls did that in algeria.. I thought it was funny!!

Didn't you give them an "icey chop'??!!! It's good when you can see humor in it and just laugh at them.

Icey Chop -- now that's funny :lol:

Good morning everyone.....Happy Thursday!!!

[kimlbs 0]

So...D was walking in town today and some girl tried to pick him up..she stopped him, asked where he was from and made a comment about how she loved his accent and how sexy he was.......

Okay..then the girl had the nerve to ask him if he had a girlfriend and said that she did not mind if he did!!!! He told her that he was getting married in two weeks and then she backed off..... I know he is is hot and sexy... but why are women sooo agressive........go find your own man lady!!!

This happens to us all the time Gets some class why don't they.

Yes...we laughed about it last night......I think it helped boost his ego...(like he needed that!!)

But..at least they tell us about it Dee.....good sign of trust!!!

Happy Thursday everyone!!!!

[nannygirl82 0]

hey everyone....hope everyone has a cool thursday...

jax congrat on your upcoming wedding...

rhonda ...good for you 3 days off!!!!

as for me working working and more working...at least i have the weekend off...hopefully going to AC to visit the 1st family i was a nanny for...the kids will soon be 6 aahh...i remember when they had just turned 3 months old...funny how time flies!!!

well i am STILL waiting for the rfe to be approved...this long wait is taking its toll on our relationship!!! you know it's my fault i didn't send in the petition before march 6th...cause you know my crystal ball was broken or i would have known....AAHH