Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 3)

[kimone2004 2]

Hi Kimone!! Kisses to you, Richie and the twins!

Have a great weekend everyone!

Hi. You have a great weekend too. I haven't been here in ages and trying to catch up. Wow, have I missed a bunch....

[phatmadame81 0]

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers!!!!

Interviewed this mawnin.....I'll let him post his experience

But I'll spread the news We were

APPROVED !!!! My man is coming home ya'll

CONGRATS

[wynterstail 0]

Kelly

Sorry things are sucking. Advice is what you ask for when you know the answer and wish you didn't. I wish I could say this stuff is out of the ordinary and unexpected...it's the curse of the Caribbean. I think the bottom line is you sound very very unhappy. Even if NOTHING was really going on (but I doubt that), the fact that it's upsetting to you and he apparently doesn't care, is enough. My girlfriend here with the yard husband just went through a similar big blow out--after a birthday card came in the mail for him, complete with perfumed photograph of a girl. I mean, why would he even give her his address?? Again, the story of she's just a friend. THe condoms in the car? Oh, someone else left them there. Why he isn't home until 3, 4, 5 a.m.? Well, he fell asleep on someone's couch and/or he was drinking and didn't want to drive.

Wish there was some nicer answer, but my experience is: if it walks like a duck, and looks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it's usually...a duck.

Now, having said all that, I wouldn't say that's an automatic deal breaker; if he's good to you, you are generally happy, etc., it could certainly be worth letting things shake out a little and seeing what happens. But if fidelity is your first priority--his actions don't bode very well, do they?

Ann

In the closet, hiding? What's up with that?

At this point he should be on his hands and knees kissing your toes and begging for forgiveness.....Kelly, you know what you need to do.....and what you choose to do is 100% your choice and business. Do what your gut tells you to do. Life is too short to spend any time of it with regrets......

"I" KNOW that he SHOULD, but he's not !!!! That just reassures me that I AM doing the right thing. I printed what you've ALL said and I said to him (cause he THINKS I'm saying goodbye because of YOU all and your influence) ...I said, these are postings from MATURE, responsible adults ...some married and some getting married and you MAY learn something from what they've written. Although it's TOO LATE for us....

So he's reading and then says, I never told you about a girl that I work with. I said, no.....he said, yeah I have and I said, well you may have said you TALK with people at your work, but you NEVER mentioned anyones name called SWEETS ....and he said, oh well, I never said her name to you!!!!

DAG, he just does NOT get it. Don't worry, I'm not calling anyone. That's not my style and I KNOW it goest both ways......him AND her !!! What matters is HE allowed it.

He keeps thinking that this chic SLIPPING her number in his pocket is acceptable......and he says, what was I supposed to do? He said, I didn't put her number in my phone, because you keep checking my phone and I said, but keeping a NUMBER IN YOUR POCKET WAS OKAY?????????????????????????????? Without even TELLING me about it????

I was like, I'm done....call someone that you can stay with SOON!!!!!!! It's over and he said, yeah I'm not going to fight you about this. You want it over it's over!!!

Oh my Still catching up...

[BelwinMills 0]

Thanks!

Frustrated, pissed, ready to LOSE my mind, etc etc etc I'm TRYING to keep that "happy face" in front of my son, because if he sees me pissed off at Craig, those that have kids know, they go into PROTECT mommy mode !!!!!

A long time ago I was in a relationship like this... I lived with a guy for 8 months. He signed up for the military army reserves so he could go to school on a fasfa anyways.... This women kept calling my house phone and she would hang up when I would answer. I felt that she was being very immature. He meet her at school as she was to tutor him. Right tutor him in late night 101.. Why I was taking care of house and bills he was off having fun. She called one night to tell me she was seeing him. But I never wanted to talk to her. I kicked him out the next day on his bike. He could only get his things out in one hour the rest of his items went in the trash. I understand the trust thing and other girls number. I would never ever go back to this. Sorry this is happening to you. The girl actual kept calling me every day and leaving me messages crying that she was pregant. I would just laugh I thought it was funny. I explained to her once he was lazy and going to use you. I had moved and a year and a few months later after the incident she found my new address and wrote me how crappy her life was. I was like how the hell did she find my address since its unlisted. Sux to be her... My advice if you have a feeling its pretty good that its happening.

Everybody has good advice on this topic too.

Kelly totally sorry this is happening. I hope things get better for you down the road.

It's $14 a week if you attend meetings but you don't have too. You can also join online.

Mindy - they have excellent Core receipes and more infor on weightwatchers.com.

I joined online and its cheaper and you can attend meeting now with your pass card. I just realized they have bunchs of recipes on their for the point system or the core receipes. I bought two books to help me out dinning out and the points for all the foods. Oh I aslo bought a cookbook and then I was like hmm I didn't need to spend the money on this book when I can get a lot of receipes online.

I am one of those who follow the guidlines but am only loss 1/2 a pound a week. Hopefully on my fifth week I will get that red book mark for 5 pounds. Almost there .4 to go ahahah. I just dropped my curves membership to cause thats not helping and I am just going to workout at a normal gym for now on where I burn more calories.

Today I got an after school job teaching 3rd grade two days a week with the after school program. This will help me get money for all this visa work. I was adding the cost up and just amazed on all the work and cost of it all. Not looking foward to it..

Have a good night everyone!

[thndrdancr 0]

Kelly, my heart really goes out to you. So sorry you have to experience this pain. Hugs to you.

Jill

[Jonesie 1]

Home computer finally fixed...catching up (yes I know it's late )

[Jonesie 1]

Okay...mi yeye a hot mi (tiyad to rass) so I'll catch up tomorrow...but from what I read on this page, congrats to Savanah and Phil, and my heart goes out to you Kelly

Edited October 14, 2006 by Jonesie

[davis1026 0]

I have not been on VJ in a while and I am trying to catch up as well!!

[luvtravlin 0]

Hi Everyone,

THANK YOU again for all of your support, advice, suggestions and opinions. I truly truly appreciate it !!!!

After the "coming out of the closet", we had hours upon hours upon hours of talking. This is in NO way shape or form brought us completely back to where we NEED to be......but yesterday he was back to the same ole same ole ...."a" you know what !!!

I am preparing to get my s**t together, try my best to proceed with an anulment. My lawyer friend gave me some really good information and I'll start making the calls on Monday.

Thanks again everyone.

Have a great weekend. It's cold as ......well, you know what here in Maryland !!!!

[Jamaica to CT 0]

Hi Everyone,

THANK YOU again for all of your support, advice, suggestions and opinions. I truly truly appreciate it !!!!

After the "coming out of the closet", we had hours upon hours upon hours of talking. This is in NO way shape or form brought us completely back to where we NEED to be......but yesterday he was back to the same ole same ole ...."a" you know what !!!

I am preparing to get my s**t together, try my best to proceed with an anulment. My lawyer friend gave me some really good information and I'll start making the calls on Monday.

Thanks again everyone.

Have a great weekend. It's cold as ......well, you know what here in Maryland !!!!

Take care Kelly

Michele

[shermike 1]

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers!!!!

Interviewed this mawnin.....I'll let him post his experience

But I'll spread the news We were

APPROVED !!!! My man is coming home ya'll

congratulations!

[Jamaica to CT 0]

Please vote in my poll posted in this forum.

Everyone have a great weekend

Edited October 14, 2006 by Jamaica to CT

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Hey guys...I just wanted to know if anyone in the DC/MD/VA area would be interested in hooking up maybe sometime next weekend? If not next weekend, maybe the weekend after? I know there are several of us up here, and I just think it would be cool for us to meet in person, kick back, and have a good time. And if your "boos" are here--bring them too!! Let me know what you think.

Tamisha

[BelwinMills 0]

Hi Everyone,

THANK YOU again for all of your support, advice, suggestions and opinions. I truly truly appreciate it !!!!

After the "coming out of the closet", we had hours upon hours upon hours of talking. This is in NO way shape or form brought us completely back to where we NEED to be......but yesterday he was back to the same ole same ole ...."a" you know what !!!

I am preparing to get my s**t together, try my best to proceed with an anulment. My lawyer friend gave me some really good information and I'll start making the calls on Monday.

Thanks again everyone.

Have a great weekend. It's cold as ......well, you know what here in Maryland !!!!

Kelly,

Stay strong and all the best with things going on.

[tali 0]

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers!!!!

Interviewed this mawnin.....I'll let him post his experience

But I'll spread the news We were

APPROVED !!!! My man is coming home ya'll

Congratulations!!!

DITTO Brings back memories

Congratulations !!!!!!!!!!!!