Walked out empty handed

[sara..... 371]

Beth madam,

I second this opinion, don't do anything rash that you will regret later. Cool off for some time, don't talk to him and don't rush through decision. Marriage is not like the movies, people endure and react. Please take some time before you undo everything that you have labored for. You are married less than 2 years you can always withdraw your support within two years that is why the law is putting that clause their. Think twice my sister before you finally decide. Will you call the senators to stop working for you as well? Take a lot of time my dear, it has only been days, do a lot of thinking before jumping out. Even if the embassy approved the visa you can always cancel it and he will not be allowed to enter at POE. There are better options than canceling right now knowing that it will be virtually impossible to re-file for him considering what you had dealt with this time. Just my thoughts!

I'm sorry for what you are going through Beth. It is so hard to be so far away and have to deal with all these immigration ####### and on top of it be at the receiving end of angry and hurtful words.

I don't personally know what happened but in everything please be cautious with making impulsive decisions esp when you are upset. I'm not saying stay on and bear all them emotional outburst from your husband... but you gotta give it some time for things to cool down before you decide anything permanent. WIthdrawing the file is a big big step... what if things calm down few weeks from now and you realize that you still want to work on your relationship? Then you have to start all over again? I suggest you think this through. NOBODY can tell you what is good for you but impulsive decisions have a way of biting us all back in the ####.

Take care of yourself. Give yourself some time and give your husband some time and space to work his disappointments out. With time and much self reflection, you will find the answer... remember marriage is a lot of work and only you know how much work you wanna put in it but I hope you won't ever make decision to leave or stay when you are upset and emotionally hurt and drained. Take responsibility for your part in what happened (example: promising him no AP when you know it is not in your hands) and learn from this. Remember also why you married him. REmember that you promised to love him just as he is. Remember all the good times to get you through the bad times. If after all these you still feel like it is not worth fighting for anymore, then quit and withdraw the petition.

You are a strong person. Whatever you decide on I know that you will survive.

I have decied to leave petition also , and let it process in Paris, I will be contacted if approved, then will proceed from there. Him and I both said many things, ugly things, on my part, said out of frustration, and mental exhaustion.

I will give him time to cool off, and think things out. I too need time to concentrate on my job, Some may call me a fool, but we will see. After the email I sent to Sentator, and Paris, and USCIS Washington, maybe something will be accomplished in the AP/AR mess. I just cant walk away, I will always wonder, "What if"? Time will tell, it always does.

So if all dont mind, Im sticking around, LOL Love you all, and thank you for your support in the past, and time to come.

I haven't said anything about your situation in a while Beth, but I think you are making the right decision inshallah.

I know Honey, thank you, we shall see what happens. This time Eyes WIDE open!!! and the heart, Under construction.

i have told u many times and i am still telling u......your in my prayers......what ever u decide is whats best for you and i support u not that u need my support but i just wanted u to know im here for u if u ever need it.

sara

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

Beth madam,

I second this opinion, don't do anything rash that you will regret later. Cool off for some time, don't talk to him and don't rush through decision. Marriage is not like the movies, people endure and react. Please take some time before you undo everything that you have labored for. You are married less than 2 years you can always withdraw your support within two years that is why the law is putting that clause their. Think twice my sister before you finally decide. Will you call the senators to stop working for you as well? Take a lot of time my dear, it has only been days, do a lot of thinking before jumping out. Even if the embassy approved the visa you can always cancel it and he will not be allowed to enter at POE. There are better options than canceling right now knowing that it will be virtually impossible to re-file for him considering what you had dealt with this time. Just my thoughts!

I'm sorry for what you are going through Beth. It is so hard to be so far away and have to deal with all these immigration ####### and on top of it be at the receiving end of angry and hurtful words.

I don't personally know what happened but in everything please be cautious with making impulsive decisions esp when you are upset. I'm not saying stay on and bear all them emotional outburst from your husband... but you gotta give it some time for things to cool down before you decide anything permanent. WIthdrawing the file is a big big step... what if things calm down few weeks from now and you realize that you still want to work on your relationship? Then you have to start all over again? I suggest you think this through. NOBODY can tell you what is good for you but impulsive decisions have a way of biting us all back in the ####.

Take care of yourself. Give yourself some time and give your husband some time and space to work his disappointments out. With time and much self reflection, you will find the answer... remember marriage is a lot of work and only you know how much work you wanna put in it but I hope you won't ever make decision to leave or stay when you are upset and emotionally hurt and drained. Take responsibility for your part in what happened (example: promising him no AP when you know it is not in your hands) and learn from this. Remember also why you married him. REmember that you promised to love him just as he is. Remember all the good times to get you through the bad times. If after all these you still feel like it is not worth fighting for anymore, then quit and withdraw the petition.

You are a strong person. Whatever you decide on I know that you will survive.

I have decied to leave petition also , and let it process in Paris, I will be contacted if approved, then will proceed from there. Him and I both said many things, ugly things, on my part, said out of frustration, and mental exhaustion.

I will give him time to cool off, and think things out. I too need time to concentrate on my job, Some may call me a fool, but we will see. After the email I sent to Sentator, and Paris, and USCIS Washington, maybe something will be accomplished in the AP/AR mess. I just cant walk away, I will always wonder, "What if"? Time will tell, it always does.

So if all dont mind, Im sticking around, LOL Love you all, and thank you for your support in the past, and time to come.

I haven't said anything about your situation in a while Beth, but I think you are making the right decision inshallah.

I know Honey, thank you, we shall see what happens. This time Eyes WIDE open!!! and the heart, Under construction.

i have told u many times and i am still telling u......your in my prayers......what ever u decide is whats best for you and i support u not that u need my support but i just wanted u to know im here for u if u ever need it.

sara

Thank you Sara, I figure "if Im thinking clearly now" that let it process, if it is approved, and he dont want it, then I truly have my answer, him and I both need time, so that is what we both have, him staying on France or going to Algeria, well its just that, in meanwhile, it can process, no harm, but I will always wonder if I withdrew it, "What would of happened"

I have instructed to be informed of all actions by Paris of the visa, so I will know what is going on at all times.

For now, I concentrate on my job, the house, starting my diet again, plenty to keep me busy. Time does heal all.

Thank you for your support and being there for me.

[And_Sam 44]

Beth madam,

I second this opinion, don't do anything rash that you will regret later. Cool off for some time, don't talk to him and don't rush through decision. Marriage is not like the movies, people endure and react. Please take some time before you undo everything that you have labored for. You are married less than 2 years you can always withdraw your support within two years that is why the law is putting that clause their. Think twice my sister before you finally decide. Will you call the senators to stop working for you as well? Take a lot of time my dear, it has only been days, do a lot of thinking before jumping out. Even if the embassy approved the visa you can always cancel it and he will not be allowed to enter at POE. There are better options than canceling right now knowing that it will be virtually impossible to re-file for him considering what you had dealt with this time. Just my thoughts!

I'm sorry for what you are going through Beth. It is so hard to be so far away and have to deal with all these immigration ####### and on top of it be at the receiving end of angry and hurtful words.

I don't personally know what happened but in everything please be cautious with making impulsive decisions esp when you are upset. I'm not saying stay on and bear all them emotional outburst from your husband... but you gotta give it some time for things to cool down before you decide anything permanent. WIthdrawing the file is a big big step... what if things calm down few weeks from now and you realize that you still want to work on your relationship? Then you have to start all over again? I suggest you think this through. NOBODY can tell you what is good for you but impulsive decisions have a way of biting us all back in the ####.

Take care of yourself. Give yourself some time and give your husband some time and space to work his disappointments out. With time and much self reflection, you will find the answer... remember marriage is a lot of work and only you know how much work you wanna put in it but I hope you won't ever make decision to leave or stay when you are upset and emotionally hurt and drained. Take responsibility for your part in what happened (example: promising him no AP when you know it is not in your hands) and learn from this. Remember also why you married him. REmember that you promised to love him just as he is. Remember all the good times to get you through the bad times. If after all these you still feel like it is not worth fighting for anymore, then quit and withdraw the petition.

You are a strong person. Whatever you decide on I know that you will survive.

I have decied to leave petition also , and let it process in Paris, I will be contacted if approved, then will proceed from there. Him and I both said many things, ugly things, on my part, said out of frustration, and mental exhaustion.

I will give him time to cool off, and think things out. I too need time to concentrate on my job, Some may call me a fool, but we will see. After the email I sent to Sentator, and Paris, and USCIS Washington, maybe something will be accomplished in the AP/AR mess. I just cant walk away, I will always wonder, "What if"? Time will tell, it always does.

So if all dont mind, Im sticking around, LOL Love you all, and thank you for your support in the past, and time to come.

I haven't said anything about your situation in a while Beth, but I think you are making the right decision inshallah.

I know Honey, thank you, we shall see what happens. This time Eyes WIDE open!!! and the heart, Under construction.

i have told u many times and i am still telling u......your in my prayers......what ever u decide is whats best for you and i support u not that u need my support but i just wanted u to know im here for u if u ever need it.

sara

Thank you Sara, I figure "if Im thinking clearly now" that let it process, if it is approved, and he dont want it, then I truly have my answer, him and I both need time, so that is what we both have, him staying on France or going to Algeria, well its just that, in meanwhile, it can process, no harm, but I will always wonder if I withdrew it, "What would of happened"

I have instructed to be informed of all actions by Paris of the visa, so I will know what is going on at all times.

For now, I concentrate on my job, the house, starting my diet again, plenty to keep me busy. Time does heal all.

Thank you for your support and being there for me.

Beth I'm here for you too!

[UmmSqueakster 54]

I wonder how common it is to get cold feet right at that cusp of the visa process?

I know it definitely happened to us - I went to Egypt around the time of AbuS' interview and had a crisis of OMGosh, after 5 years of talking about our life together, we might actually have to live together. What are we going to do??? Do we really want to go through with this???

And then again after he arrived, we both had OMGosh, what the heck are we doing moments, complete with colorful language and hurtful jabs.

Through all of that, I've learned that it's important to not say things in the heat of the moment, and to step back before making any decisions. Yeah, both very obvious things, but so much easier to say then to actually impliment

Hope things improve for you both

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

Hi Paris....

I hope you're working things out with HIM too... not just allowing the petition to resolve itself and then go to him with what you've got. Are you working it out with him? talking to him? And when you talk to him do you sense that you're both at a place of understanding and trust?

I think that this is a key thing... it should NEVER just be about the petition and whether or not it is approved.

I hope you're keeping yourself well... I find now is the time to lean on your friends a bit and talk to them about what's going on. Guide yourself always but let your friends be there for you.

All the best,

LGG

Ive emailed him a couples of times today on matters he needs to know, and sent a I love you text, now leaving it alone for a couple of days, I too need time to chill out my German/Swedish temper. He needs time, Ive leared that over the years, give him space and he will come around.

Ive got enough today to keep me busy with work, after work, getting my hair cut and colored, "again", I need that change.

[LOLAs 1]

that is a wise decision. This VISA process can drive one nuts, the best part is that as a USC you still has that power to reverse everything even when he gets here, so why won't you take the risk considering what you have invested. Keep your eyes open and be alert, good luck

Hi Paris....

I hope you're working things out with HIM too... not just allowing the petition to resolve itself and then go to him with what you've got. Are you working it out with him? talking to him? And when you talk to him do you sense that you're both at a place of understanding and trust?

I think that this is a key thing... it should NEVER just be about the petition and whether or not it is approved.

I hope you're keeping yourself well... I find now is the time to lean on your friends a bit and talk to them about what's going on. Guide yourself always but let your friends be there for you.

All the best,

LGG

Ive emailed him a couples of times today on matters he needs to know, and sent a I love you text, now leaving it alone for a couple of days, I too need time to chill out my German/Swedish temper. He needs time, Ive leared that over the years, give him space and he will come around.

Ive got enough today to keep me busy with work, after work, getting my hair cut and colored, "again", I need that change.

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

Hi Paris....

I hope you're working things out with HIM too... not just allowing the petition to resolve itself and then go to him with what you've got. Are you working it out with him? talking to him? And when you talk to him do you sense that you're both at a place of understanding and trust?

I think that this is a key thing... it should NEVER just be about the petition and whether or not it is approved.

I hope you're keeping yourself well... I find now is the time to lean on your friends a bit and talk to them about what's going on. Guide yourself always but let your friends be there for you.

All the best,

LGG

Ive emailed him a couples of times today on matters he needs to know, and sent a I love you text, now leaving it alone for a couple of days, I too need time to chill out my German/Swedish temper. He needs time, Ive leared that over the years, give him space and he will come around.

Ive got enough today to keep me busy with work, after work, getting my hair cut and colored, "again", I need that change.

QUESTION: I emailed Paris to use the Chronopost envelope we left with them to send his passport since he needs it, but no tracing on it, no movement, would embassy of used another means then the Chronopost we left them?

I cant see them just placing it in a envelope and send regular mail, with no required signature or tracking on it. Or much less them paying for it to be sent with signature required at time of delivery.

[Kenza 1]

QUESTION: I emailed Paris to use the Chronopost envelope we left with them to send his passport since he needs it, but no tracing on it, no movement, would embassy of used another means then the Chronopost we left them?

I cant see them just placing it in a envelope and send regular mail, with no required signature or tracking on it. Or much less them paying for it to be sent with signature required at time of delivery.

No, they will send it in the Chronopost envelope you provided them with. Unless you wrote down the wrong tracking number, if it's sent, you should be able to track it.

[chinese_mutt 11]

Have faith that all things will work out for your own good.

I'm glad you didn't decide to cancel the petition today out of anger, frustration, or hurt.

I literally gave a sigh of relief for you. You don't want the "what if" hanging over your head for the rest of your life.

Give it some time, I'm sure he will come around. If not, then decide from there.

[Peace be still 6]

May ALLAH lead you to your destiny.

[howitis 0]

MENA, I need you help, as you know we interviewed in Paris, we were told, we are not denied, or approved, but we walked out empty handed, no slip of any kind, no slip of AP or AR , nothing, if someone is in AP or AR, are they given a slip of any kind?

My husband has deceided to stay in France for a while. Also please tell me your thoughts of my signature, they know his french card expires Friday, why did they say, If visa is issued he can pick up in France or Algeria.

Since he interviewed while card was active, would they still give him a visa in FRANCE? since he card will expire soon?

Its confusing.

HELLO, THE FACT THAT HIS CARD IS EXPIRED IS A BIG PROBLEM FOR YOU. HE IS CONSIDERED AN ILLEGAL IMMIGRANT AND IN BREACH OF FRENCH LAW WHILST HE IS IN FRANCE ILLEGALLY. THIS IS A CRIMINAL OFFENCE, HE CAN BE CHARGED BY THE POLICE IF THE USA DEPT. OF IMMIGRATION CONTACT FRENCH AUTHORITIES. IF HE IS CHARGED, HE WILL NEVER BE ALLOWED TO IMMIGRATE TO THE USA OR ANY OTHER COUNTRY, AND HE WILL CERTAINLY NEVER BE ALLOWED TO RENEW HIS FRENCH PAPERS.

I KNOW THE FRENCH LAW VERY WELL. I HAVE LIVED IN FRANCE.

BEST THING IS THAT HE RETURNS TO ALGERIA, YOU FOLLOW HIM. THEN APPLY FOR VISA FOR USA ONCE IN ALGERIA.

[sandinista! 1,816]

i love it when people only read and respond to the first post of an 8 page thread.

[Nagishkaw 510]

howitis should be howitisnt.

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

howitis should be howitisnt.

Oh Nagi, you always make me laugh and put a smile on my face Dearheart!!!!!!!!!! XOXOOXO

[RAKASA 0]

Oh! The spelling & grammatical errors in this thread just keeps me in stitches!