Which way to go and questions?

[jake61 0]

Hello:

I am about to make my first trip to Ukraine to see the woman with which I have been communicating. I am 61 and she is 54. We are pretty serious. Depending on when I go over to see here we may also go to her nieces for Xmas. I will be staying with her, in her apartment for 25 days.

I understand the increased total fees for the K-1 and the increased wait time for K-3/Cr-1.

I have heard there is no formal engagement with an engagement ring over there like there is here in the states. Is this true?

If it is true there is no engagement period over there, is there another way to formally commit over there before marriage?

My aim is to make the visa wait time more tolerable for her. That she has some assurance and peace of mind.

Do most eastern european women seem to settle doen after the first meeting?

Say I take the needed documents with me to marry over there. My question is this, if we decide to marry in Ukraine what is the wait time for the local marriage license, etc and process in Nikolaev?

While I was writing this my passport arrived and now she wants me to come over to see here November 6 instead of the Xmas holiday when she would have 10 days off. She is very anxious for us to be together. I have convinced her that we should sleep on it because we do not have to decide today. I think it would be better over the holidays, but I also do not want her to cool off. I have asked her how she will tolerate the 6 months of wait during the visa. She has not answered.

We are giving Skype a try tomorrow evening.

Anybody got any answers, opinions or ideas?

Jake

Edited October 26, 2009 by jake61

[gensdad515 2]

Hi Jake, Everyone's life is their own and they make their own decisions. I do not know more information then what you have posted so I can only base my comments on what I have read. I am a skeptic and very cautious. I would like to meet the person ' in person' before I would jump to make any hasty decisions. Just a couple of questions.

Why would the visa time be untolerable just for her ? IS she giving you a time limit on how long she would wait ?

See under the requirements for K3 and K1, but for one I beleive that for you to get married overthere you'd have to stay a bit of time, I beleive more than just a couple of weeks.

I researched both and I thought that the K1 would be the one that would take the least amount of time and the one that would be the easiest later since the rest of the interviews would be here.

Sorry but I can not help with European customs don't know enough.

There's more than enough info in both the k1 and k3 pages and links

Wish you the best of luck.

J.

Hello:

I am about to make my first trip to Ukraine to see the woman with which I have been communicating. I am 61 and she is 54. We are pretty serious. Depending on when I go over to see here we may also go to her nieces for Xmas. I will be staying with her, in her apartment for 25 days.

I understand the increased total fees for the K-1 and the increased wait time for K-3/Cr-1.

I have heard there is no formal engagement with an engagement ring over there like there is here in the states. Is this true?

If it is true there is no engagement period over there, is there another way to formally commit over there before marriage?

My aim is to make the visa wait time more tolerable for her. That she has some assurance and peace of mind.

Do most eastern european women seem to settle doen after the first meeting?

Say I take the needed documents with me to marry over there. My question is this, if we decide to marry in Ukraine what is the wait time for the local marriage license, etc and process in Nikolaev?

While I was writing this my passport arrived and now she wants me to come over to see here November 6 instead of the Xmas holiday when she would have 10 days off. She is very anxious for us to be together. I have convinced her that we should sleep on it because we do not have to decide today. I think it would be better over the holidays, but I also do not want her to cool off. I have asked her how she will tolerate the 6 months of wait during the visa. She has not answered.

We are giving Skype a try tomorrow evening.

Anybody got any answers, opinions or ideas?

Jake

[jake61 0]

To bad this forum doesn't let you edit later or delete posts. I probably should have worded my post differently.

Sorry for the confusion.

I know all the visa info. I was looking for some opinions on the K-1 verse K-3 verses CR-1 particulars and why a person would marry there if it takes longer to bring them back to the states.

No, there is no time limit she has placed on anything.

Of course it bothers me we are apart. But it seems to be bothering her more. I was inquiring for peoples ideas on coping with being apart in an effort to help her. How people have devised different methods for coping. Some way to help her feel more secure and confident in this entire process. She has no family alive for support except a niece in distant Moscow, she lives in southern Ukraine.

Jake