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[angelwalkin 0]

My husband and I were married almost two years agao in Cairo Egypt. I stayed there six months and had all his paper work done and he was here in the states in six months. Well now that he has been here for almost a year, things are not working out. He loves women and stays out till 5 a.m. he would not even answer his phone. He even went so far as to get a under age girl drunk. So I told him he had to leave the house. He is now living with another woman. It has been a weak and he will not even say he is sorry. He is suppose to be Muslim and pray, but he has lost God. He does not pray and just thinks of having fun. I need some help. My parents and I signed for him to come over, and we do not want to in his mess of a life. He is having to go to court and everything. I wanted to work it out, but he will not. So I need a divorce and I can do that. But, are we still his sponsers? He is living with another woman. Any advise you can give me would be great! I have written a letter to his parents and I am going to send it off. They would kill him if they knew what he did to me. Someone anyone give me some info. angelwalkin13@yahoo.com I thank you ahead of time. I can not beleive this has happened.

[rsn 135]

My husband and I were married almost two years agao in Cairo Egypt. I stayed there six months and had all his paper work done and he was here in the states in six months. Well now that he has been here for almost a year, things are not working out. He loves women and stays out till 5 a.m. he would not even answer his phone. He even went so far as to get a under age girl drunk. So I told him he had to leave the house. He is now living with another woman. It has been a weak and he will not even say he is sorry. He is suppose to be Muslim and pray, but he has lost God. He does not pray and just thinks of having fun. I need some help. My parents and I signed for him to come over, and we do not want to in his mess of a life. He is having to go to court and everything. I wanted to work it out, but he will not. So I need a divorce and I can do that. But, are we still his sponsers? He is living with another woman. Any advise you can give me would be great! I have written a letter to his parents and I am going to send it off. They would kill him if they knew what he did to me. Someone anyone give me some info. I thank you ahead of time. I can not beleive this has happened.

A bit of advice: don't ever put any personal information on a public forum. Ever. This is asking for all sorts of trouble. People can respond to you just fine on VJ. I removed your email address from your quoted text and I suggest you ask a moderator to remove it from your original post as well.

As far as support, you and any co-sponsors are still on the hook, even if you divorce your husband and he is living with someone else. I wish I had better news for you.

[Krikit 1,165]

Moving from K-1 Process to Effects of Major Changes.

[Anh map 2,098]

The I-864 sponsorship obligation does not end with divorce.

[Dakine 26]

You and your parents will still be responsible for him even after divorce until he gets his US citizenship, leaves the US or has 40 quarters of work.

If he is breaking the law he may be deported. Depends on the crime or crimes.

[angelwalkin 0]

My husband and I were married almost two years agao in Cairo Egypt. I stayed there six months and had all his paper work done and he was here in the states in six months. Well now that he has been here for almost a year, things are not working out. He loves women and stays out till 5 a.m. he would not even answer his phone. He even went so far as to get a under age girl drunk. So I told him he had to leave the house. He is now living with another woman. It has been a weak and he will not even say he is sorry. He is suppose to be Muslim and pray, but he has lost God. He does not pray and just thinks of having fun. I need some help. My parents and I signed for him to come over, and we do not want to in his mess of a life. He is having to go to court and everything. I wanted to work it out, but he will not. So I need a divorce and I can do that. But, are we still his sponsers? He is living with another woman. Any advise you can give me would be great! I have written a letter to his parents and I am going to send it off. They would kill him if they knew what he did to me. Someone anyone give me some info. I thank you ahead of time. I can not beleive this has happened.

A bit of advice: don't ever put any personal information on a public forum. Ever. This is asking for all sorts of trouble. People can respond to you just fine on VJ. I removed your email address from your quoted text and I suggest you ask a moderator to remove it from your original post as well.

As far as support, you and any co-sponsors are still on the hook, even if you divorce your husband and he is living with someone else. I wish I had better news for you.

So my husband said he will write a letter stating he does not wish us to be his sponsers and that he wants to be on his own. What good will that do? I am going crazy here. I knew this man for 7 years and now I do not know who or what he has become. Do I need a lawyer wil that help?

[trillium13 84]

So my husband said he will write a letter stating he does not wish us to be his sponsers and that he wants to be on his own. What good will that do? I am going crazy here. I knew this man for 7 years and now I do not know who or what he has become. Do I need a lawyer wil that help?

You're still responsible for him. I assume he has his conditional (2yr) GC?

Also agree with the above poster that you shouldn't leave your email address posted here, or on any public forum.

Edited October 19, 2009 by trillium13

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

So my husband said he will write a letter stating he does not wish us to be his sponsers and that he wants to be on his own. What good will that do? I am going crazy here. I knew this man for 7 years and now I do not know who or what he has become. Do I need a lawyer wil that help?

He has no say in the matter. The contract is between you and the government. Your parent's contract is between them and the government. The contract expires when one of the following events occurs:

• He accumulates 40 quarters (10 years) of Social Security work credits.
• He becomes a US citizen.
• He loses his legal residency and leaves the US.
• He dies.
• The sponsor who signed the I-864 dies.

A lawyer cannot change this, either.

Seriously, unless he applies for means tested benefits of some kind it's unlikely you'll have any repercussions from being his sponsor. It can affect any future visa petitions you file, since you will have to declare that you've previously sponsored an immigrant.

I'm sorry this happened to you. Some Muslim men have the belief that it's not how you live that determines your fate in the afterlife, but how you die. They selectively choose ayat in the martial Surah's to justify their behavior. Perhaps a talk from a knowledgeable Imam will help him turn his life around. Good luck!

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

My husband and I were married almost two years agao in Cairo Egypt. I stayed there six months and had all his paper work done and he was here in the states in six months. Well now that he has been here for almost a year, things are not working out. He loves women and stays out till 5 a.m. he would not even answer his phone. He even went so far as to get a under age girl drunk. So I told him he had to leave the house. He is now living with another woman. It has been a weak and he will not even say he is sorry. He is suppose to be Muslim and pray, but he has lost God. He does not pray and just thinks of having fun. I need some help. My parents and I signed for him to come over, and we do not want to in his mess of a life. He is having to go to court and everything. I wanted to work it out, but he will not. So I need a divorce and I can do that. But, are we still his sponsers? He is living with another woman. Any advise you can give me would be great! I have written a letter to his parents and I am going to send it off. They would kill him if they knew what he did to me. Someone anyone give me some info. I thank you ahead of time. I can not beleive this has happened.

A bit of advice: don't ever put any personal information on a public forum. Ever. This is asking for all sorts of trouble. People can respond to you just fine on VJ. I removed your email address from your quoted text and I suggest you ask a moderator to remove it from your original post as well.

As far as support, you and any co-sponsors are still on the hook, even if you divorce your husband and he is living with someone else. I wish I had better news for you.

So my husband said he will write a letter stating he does not wish us to be his sponsers and that he wants to be on his own. What good will that do? I am going crazy here. I knew this man for 7 years and now I do not know who or what he has become. Do I need a lawyer wil that help?

Doesn't matter. You are still his sponsors and are responsible for him if he goes on welfare. Also in a divorce agreement he can demand and receive "alimony" in the amount of 125% of the poverty guideline from you and/or your parents as you signed an agreement to provide him with that. This is usually far more than a person can get in alimony in other divorce cases. Seems he isn't wise to this if he is making this offer. My guess is an attorney will wise him up.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

My husband and I were married almost two years agao in Cairo Egypt. I stayed there six months and had all his paper work done and he was here in the states in six months. Well now that he has been here for almost a year, things are not working out. He loves women and stays out till 5 a.m. he would not even answer his phone. He even went so far as to get a under age girl drunk. So I told him he had to leave the house. He is now living with another woman. It has been a weak and he will not even say he is sorry. He is suppose to be Muslim and pray, but he has lost God. He does not pray and just thinks of having fun. I need some help. My parents and I signed for him to come over, and we do not want to in his mess of a life. He is having to go to court and everything. I wanted to work it out, but he will not. So I need a divorce and I can do that. But, are we still his sponsers? He is living with another woman. Any advise you can give me would be great! I have written a letter to his parents and I am going to send it off. They would kill him if they knew what he did to me. Someone anyone give me some info. I thank you ahead of time. I can not beleive this has happened.

A bit of advice: don't ever put any personal information on a public forum. Ever. This is asking for all sorts of trouble. People can respond to you just fine on VJ. I removed your email address from your quoted text and I suggest you ask a moderator to remove it from your original post as well.

As far as support, you and any co-sponsors are still on the hook, even if you divorce your husband and he is living with someone else. I wish I had better news for you.

So my husband said he will write a letter stating he does not wish us to be his sponsers and that he wants to be on his own. What good will that do? I am going crazy here. I knew this man for 7 years and now I do not know who or what he has become. Do I need a lawyer wil that help?

Doesn't matter. You are still his sponsors and are responsible for him if he goes on welfare. Also in a divorce agreement he can demand and receive "alimony" in the amount of 125% of the poverty guideline from you and/or your parents as you signed an agreement to provide him with that. This is usually far more than a person can get in alimony in other divorce cases. Seems he isn't wise to this if he is making this offer. My guess is an attorney will wise him up.

Family courts don't have the jurisdiction to enforce the "support" clause of the I-864. I have never ever heard of a family court ordering spousal support be paid by someone's parents.

What has been done successfully is a petition to the family court to use the I-864 as the basis for determining how much spousal support should be paid, but this approach won't work in every state. Many states have convoluted formulas which are codified in law, and the courts are bound to use these formulas to determine how much, if any, spousal support is to be paid. He generally wouldn't be able to bring any action outside the family court (in a civil court, for example) because he isn't a party to the I-864 contract.

If her husband is working, then it's very unlikely an attorney will recommend he pursue support, with or without the I-864. Her earnings are obviously below the poverty level if she needed a co-sponsor, and forcing the court to adjudicate support may backfire, and they may end up ordering him to pay support. This depends very much on the state they are in, and how much discretion the judge has in determining support.

[ya fallaha! 0]

She's been married less than two years so it sounds like he's only got his conditional GC. Wouldn't her sponsorship end once this GC expires?

[bhajishah 4]

ahh just divorce the playboy bum. let ALLAH sort em out!!

Let everyone know youfiled for divorce, his family, immigration etc.

then run away.

[trillium13 84]

She's been married less than two years so it sounds like he's only got his conditional GC. Wouldn't her sponsorship end once this GC expires?

He can apply to remove conditions without her. If the original marriage was in good faith he will probably get his 10 year GC, and she's still responsible.

[JimVaPhuong 4,863]

She's been married less than two years so it sounds like he's only got his conditional GC. Wouldn't her sponsorship end once this GC expires?

The sponsorship doesn't end until one of the events I outlined in my previous post occurs:

• He accumulates 40 quarters (10 years) of Social Security work credits.
• He becomes a US citizen.
• He loses his legal residency and leaves the US.
• He dies.
• The sponsor who signed the I-864 dies.

Getting his unconditional green card will not end the sponsorship. If he stays in the US and maintains his LPR status (never becomes a US citizen), and never accumulates 40 quarters of work credits, then the sponsorship could conceivably last for the rest of her life (unless he dies first).

[ya fallaha! 0]

Thanks! Yeah I'm a little rusty with the info. I had no idea. Interesting. Man I feel bad for the OP.

She's been married less than two years so it sounds like he's only got his conditional GC. Wouldn't her sponsorship end once this GC expires?

The sponsorship doesn't end until one of the events I outlined in my previous post occurs:

• He accumulates 40 quarters (10 years) of Social Security work credits.
• He becomes a US citizen.
• He loses his legal residency and leaves the US.
• He dies.
• The sponsor who signed the I-864 dies.

Getting his unconditional green card will not end the sponsorship. If he stays in the US and maintains his LPR status (never becomes a US citizen), and never accumulates 40 quarters of work credits, then the sponsorship could conceivably last for the rest of her life (unless he dies first).