Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 20)

[Caramel 3]

Does anyone know how to make a Jamican fruit cake??? I think fruit cake is just nasty but my man likes it and I am going to attempt and make one for him once he is here so I better start trying now.

You know how many ingrediants in fruit cake? I would find an international store and buy it. Way too much work.

And, I think you have to let it sit a while for the rum to ferment or whatever it does, right?

Mi mada mek dem.

[DaDa 1]

I’m still not talking to Mrs. Palmer but can someone tell her hat I really enjoyed her adjustment story. See that is how life is there are some good with the bad. I really commend these men. You figure they work their rasses off in JA to take care of their families and you would think that when they get here they would enjoy some relaxation. Shoot I would but they don’t. They want to get right back to work and get upset when they can’t work right away… It amazes me but that is what makes them men. So even though you feel bad you should also feel good knowing your hubby and anent no slouch he just wants to take care of his wife.

It sounds like you are handling it just fine and yes I know you need some me time when you first walk in the house. It’s like you just need a minute to relax. You need time to go from your work attitude to your home attitude. Even thought it may have hurt his feelings I like that you were honest. Communication is key. I always tell people whether it will hurt me or not just tell me.

Jut think when he starts working he’ll understand more because he’ll need the same thing too.

YOU ARE TALKING TO ME DADA!!! I'M GONNA VJ STALK YOU TIL YOU DO! Wait...is it considered stalking you if I tell you about it!?! Communication has been our biggest savior. That and learning patience.

Tap making me laugh I'm tryna stay angry here....

Tap.. Tre memba yuh taught me dat word?

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Ladies...mi haffi mek a run...soon come...

DADA....

Edited December 4, 2009 by Mrs. Palmer

[DaDa 1]

Oooooh Oooooh! I just thought of something--I'm gonna see if I can find some affordable and/or free tai chi classes to get back into. I loved practicing tai chi, and did so competitively when I lived in Maryland....(off to do my research)

there you go...I use to do YOGA but,well, di bending n all was easy...but lawd...the GAS release did a kill everybadi innah di class so mi get shame n no go back --- I took 6 classes though...

I really did wanna drink my wata .. Now my computer screen has it.

Edited December 4, 2009 by DaDa

[TRELAWNY PARISH 10]

Oooooh Oooooh! I just thought of something--I'm gonna see if I can find some affordable and/or free tai chi classes to get back into. I loved practicing tai chi, and did so competitively when I lived in Maryland....(off to do my research)

there you go...I use to do YOGA but,well, di bending n all was easy...but lawd...the GAS release did a kill everybadi innah di class so mi get shame n no go back --- I took 6 classes though...

I really did wannna drink my wata .. Now my computer screen has it.

tap laugh aftah mi ooman u have no idea how embrassing dat was I thought the woman behind me got blown into the wall she was about 90lbs...

[dillon 6]

Thanks dillon!

You are more than welcome! Make it work!

[phillyfashionista 8]

Well, while I'm waiting for DADA to get to business () I'll give you a brief update on how hubby and I are adjusting. First let me say that I truly am thanking God that I finally have my husband here. I know he is my blessing, my king, and I look forward to doing so much with him as time goes on. With that being said, it's beginning to get a little more tense around the house. My husband has been here since 11/1, and unfortunately we still haven't received his greencard in the mail yet, so he still hasn't been able to go out and look for work. We know for a fact that there are a few places hiring within walking distance (I live a mile and half from a major shopping center in the area), but it feels like we're stuck in regards to applying since there's no telling when the card will come in. Unfortunately because he's stuck at the house most of the day, he's become incredibly antsy. And before you guys say anything, I'm trying to put myself in his shoes. This is a man that is used to working and taking care of his entire family, and now, he is able to contribute very little financially to the household, and this is definitely taking its toll on him. He does help out in alot of other ways (cooking, cleaning, taking care of Kingston, laundry, etc) but he told me that he gets tired of seeing me walk out of the door every morning to go to work, and he isn't able to do so I do my best to convince him that hopefully it won't be much longer, and it breaks my heart to come home and see him just looking at me with sad eyes because he feels like he's not doing enough. So, that's the major stuff we're trying to work through. That, and me having to get used to the fact that there's no more real "me" time when I get home from work anymore. Before, I could come home and unwind a little bit, let my mind rest and get myself back together before I moved on to the next task, but no more. Now, because my husband is there by himself all day, he demands all of my attention when I get home. And while most days I don't mind, on a couple of occasions lately I told him that I needed some time to relax first, and I think it hurt his feelings. I just keep trying to remember to be patient, and to remember that this won't last forever. Aside from that, he really seems to like the NC area. He went bowling for the first time last night, and ended up having a good time (will post some pics on FB). Of course we've gone out to shopping centers, gone to movies, out to the bars, enjoyed friends, and have gone out to listen to some good live reggae music. We hope to be able to do much more when he starts working. He hasn't complained of missing home much, and has been able to talk to his mother and brothers on a fairly consistent basis. I also make sure that he calls his family in NY at least once or twice a week, and right now we're hoping to plan a trip there in the spring Long story short, there have been a couple of bumps...but he hasn't blown up any appliances, there's been no blood shed, and there are enuff sexy parties a gwaan to make everyting irie! We're anxiously looking forward to the arrival of the GC though so we can keep moving forward with school and work. Good luck to everyone whose hubbys/so's are coming soon or just got here.

Tamisha

Mrs P I am so glad to see that B is adjusting well, I totally understand about the GC issue as we went for months without it. However it gave us time to adjust to all the changes of living together 24/7 and him coming to a new country. I know he is ready to support the family as that is what he is used to but everyone needs a break especially in this migration situation. I realized that everything happens according to God's plan and when he starts working it will be the "right" time for not only him but for the both of you. For the time being enjoy each other, trust me he has a many years (till 63 is it when he can retire LOL) to jump on that daily grind we call employment. Enjoy yuh man!

LOL @ him not blowing up any appliances

[finesse 3]

JaP - whappen now? spill di beans...

[JAPrincess 27]

Oooooh Oooooh! I just thought of something--I'm gonna see if I can find some affordable and/or free tai chi classes to get back into. I loved practicing tai chi, and did so competitively when I lived in Maryland....(off to do my research)

there you go...I use to do YOGA but,well, di bending n all was easy...but lawd...the GAS release did a kill everybadi innah di class so mi get shame n no go back --- I took 6 classes though...

I really did wanna drink my wata .. Now my computer screen has it.

I got some VJ wata fi yuh DaDa

[finesse 3]

Ladies...mi haffi mek a run...soon come...

DADA....

a run? wha dat mean? to di batroom?

[DaDa 1]

Oooooh Oooooh! I just thought of something--I'm gonna see if I can find some affordable and/or free tai chi classes to get back into. I loved practicing tai chi, and did so competitively when I lived in Maryland....(off to do my research)

there you go...I use to do YOGA but,well, di bending n all was easy...but lawd...the GAS release did a kill everybadi innah di class so mi get shame n no go back --- I took 6 classes though...

I really did wannna drink my wata .. Now my computer screen has it.

tap laugh aftah mi ooman u have no idea how embrassing dat was I thought the woman behind me got blown into the wall she was about 90lbs...

Ladies tell me why?? Why did I try and drink some more water while reading this reply? Then I put my head down so hard I almost bumped it off the desk…

Well is it something that can be smoothed out or it might put a permanent dent in tings?

I'll know more next week DaDa

LOL @ yuh update!

JAP (((hugs))) I'm praying everything works out o.k. fi yuh!!!!

[phillyfashionista 8]

Philly, sorry bout your friend

Be there for her as best you can so far away (((hugs)))

To all the people curling up with your men tonight... GIVE THANKS!!!

I'm still hugging my cell phone

Awwe sweetie I remember those days..... but soon come!

trust me I give thanks every minute of the day for my good good Husband

Exactly mamajew --- most of his time was spent at the gym and in class until he was able to work fulltime. He did little side jobs here and there...I remember when he got his first check he just handed it to me...I laughed and said...thanks! -- now, wah bout the others after dis yah one mi ago get dem tu?

PHILLY

wha'ppen tuh yuh earlier yuh dash weh from mi

Oooooh Oooooh! I just thought of something--I'm gonna see if I can find some affordable and/or free tai chi classes to get back into. I loved practicing tai chi, and did so competitively when I lived in Maryland....(off to do my research)

there you go...I use to do YOGA but,well, di bending n all was easy...but lawd...the GAS release did a kill everybadi innah di class so mi get shame n no go back --- I took 6 classes though...

I really did wannna drink my wata .. Now my computer screen has it.

tap laugh aftah mi ooman u have no idea how embrassing dat was I thought the woman behind me got blown into the wall she was about 90lbs...

HUSH haaaaa :rofl:

[finesse 3]

Well, while I'm waiting for DADA to get to business () I'll give you a brief update on how hubby and I are adjusting. First let me say that I truly am thanking God that I finally have my husband here. I know he is my blessing, my king, and I look forward to doing so much with him as time goes on. With that being said, it's beginning to get a little more tense around the house. My husband has been here since 11/1, and unfortunately we still haven't received his greencard in the mail yet, so he still hasn't been able to go out and look for work. We know for a fact that there are a few places hiring within walking distance (I live a mile and half from a major shopping center in the area), but it feels like we're stuck in regards to applying since there's no telling when the card will come in. Unfortunately because he's stuck at the house most of the day, he's become incredibly antsy. And before you guys say anything, I'm trying to put myself in his shoes. This is a man that is used to working and taking care of his entire family, and now, he is able to contribute very little financially to the household, and this is definitely taking its toll on him. He does help out in alot of other ways (cooking, cleaning, taking care of Kingston, laundry, etc) but he told me that he gets tired of seeing me walk out of the door every morning to go to work, and he isn't able to do so I do my best to convince him that hopefully it won't be much longer, and it breaks my heart to come home and see him just looking at me with sad eyes because he feels like he's not doing enough. So, that's the major stuff we're trying to work through. That, and me having to get used to the fact that there's no more real "me" time when I get home from work anymore. Before, I could come home and unwind a little bit, let my mind rest and get myself back together before I moved on to the next task, but no more. Now, because my husband is there by himself all day, he demands all of my attention when I get home. And while most days I don't mind, on a couple of occasions lately I told him that I needed some time to relax first, and I think it hurt his feelings. I just keep trying to remember to be patient, and to remember that this won't last forever. Aside from that, he really seems to like the NC area. He went bowling for the first time last night, and ended up having a good time (will post some pics on FB). Of course we've gone out to shopping centers, gone to movies, out to the bars, enjoyed friends, and have gone out to listen to some good live reggae music. We hope to be able to do much more when he starts working. He hasn't complained of missing home much, and has been able to talk to his mother and brothers on a fairly consistent basis. I also make sure that he calls his family in NY at least once or twice a week, and right now we're hoping to plan a trip there in the spring Long story short, there have been a couple of bumps...but he hasn't blown up any appliances, there's been no blood shed, and there are enuff sexy parties a gwaan to make everyting irie! We're anxiously looking forward to the arrival of the GC though so we can keep moving forward with school and work. Good luck to everyone whose hubbys/so's are coming soon or just got here.

Tamisha

hang in there mrs p! rewind my life by 2 years and i know exactly what yuh feeling. take one day at a time. before yuh knoa it, di man wi ave him own job, im own car, im own money, im own friends, and im own routine....and den yuh can breath again. ie juss temporary mi gyal.......

[DaDa 1]

Oooooh Oooooh! I just thought of something--I'm gonna see if I can find some affordable and/or free tai chi classes to get back into. I loved practicing tai chi, and did so competitively when I lived in Maryland....(off to do my research)

there you go...I use to do YOGA but,well, di bending n all was easy...but lawd...the GAS release did a kill everybadi innah di class so mi get shame n no go back --- I took 6 classes though...

I really did wanna drink my wata .. Now my computer screen has it.

I got some VJ wata fi yuh DaDa

As I run...... Nooooo mammmmmmmm

[NatPatBen 3]

ROFL @ Tre's yoga story.

Competitive tai chi??

That, and me having to get used to the fact that there's no more real "me" time when I get home from work anymore. Before, I could come home and unwind a little bit, let my mind rest and get myself back together before I moved on to the next task, but no more. Now, because my husband is there by himself all day, he demands all of my attention when I get home. And while most days I don't mind, on a couple of occasions lately I told him that I needed some time to relax first, and I think it hurt his feelings. I just keep trying to remember to be patient, and to remember that this won't last forever.

Been (and still am) there.

Steven wasn't liking my internet time when I'd get home, so I started staying a few minutes later at work if I wanted to catch up online.