Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 20)

[Eric_Jew Nug 2]

congrats Jo and Danny on you guys approval! :dance:

[LadyC 1]

Was Pam/Hearts in Jamaica approved too?

[Tosh Love 77]

Good Evening All, I am a newbie to the VJ site and still trying to figure out how to jump into the posts! !! Im loving reading all of your post, it is so encouraging to see ALL of the approval that are going on... I cant wait to start the K-1 process... But I need your help!?!?! Where do I begin, Should I hire an Attorney or go it alone? THIS ALL SEEMS SOOO intimdating!

Hello Dan-Dan. Welcome to VJ! Jump in and feel free to chime in anytime you have an opinion or comment.

[Tosh Love 77]

Good Evening All, I am a newbie to the VJ site and still trying to figure out how to jump into the posts! !! Im loving reading all of your post, it is so encouraging to see ALL of the approval that are going on... I cant wait to start the K-1 process... But I need your help!?!?! Where do I begin, Should I hire an Attorney or go it alone? THIS ALL SEEMS SOOO intimdating!

Here is a link to the flowchart for K1 if you need it. It was helpful to me.

K1 visa flow chart

[Tosh Love 77]

@ Shemmy - Congratulations on your 5 year milestone and know that your presence is much appreciated. I think if you can help or encourage one person by posting your experiences then that is enough. ..... Its such a blessing to be able to share your experiences with others and I truly appreciate you and other members on VJ. I will definitely be looking for more advise to get through this thing called "life" in the future.

I could not have said it better. Thanks Shemmy

[Tosh Love 77]

well Friday me and my 2 best friends might be going to the NYC shooting range that should be fun and scary at the same time...

I'm soooooooooooooo jealous. I need to hit the range. Where the hell is Shaunsgal? Thought we were going target shooting!!!!!

If I can put someone's face on the target. Anyway, off tmrw and back to work on Friday and then off the weekend. Thye used to have ladies' nite on Thursdays at Bulls Eye. I will call and find out so that we can go soon!

[Tosh Love 77]

I HATE the Ram's. Do not ever say anything contrary to that cause those are fightin' words!

JG I want my friendship ring back!

We will surprise all you nay sayers soon. GO RAMS!

[Tosh Love 77]

"VISA APPROVED"

"VISA APPROVED"

CONGRATULATIONS!

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

congrats jo and danny

[My4rmylife 0]

U too why are you leaving us???

O.k. if all the oldie but goodies leave who will be around to help with the newbies??

Probably my hormones speaking but if I posted something negative...everyone would have responded. Not that we need a standing ovation but lasting 5 years is great in my opinion. These marriges could be very challenging.

It seems newbies are only worried about the visa not what happens after. They don't want advise from the vets. Getting the visa is the easy part. Back in the day, we would share the good, bad and the ugly. We fought, made up and kept it moving. Now people are afraid to share because of other people feelings. We all supported each other. It seems newbies only support other newbies. I have not been on here much lately but I try to support everyone.

Off my soapbox.

would hate to see you go,.... i for one listen to everything you all say about marriage cause i know im going to need it

[MRStee 19]

Bunz, that is too crazy!!

Shemmy congrats on your 5years that is definatly something to celebrate, we will hit our 1 year mark next week! Last year it was the day before thanksgiving that I got let go from my job in New York and since then I have found a much better job, got married, bought a house.... if you had told me this last year probable wouldn't have believed it!

I am thankful that I had Vj as an outlet thru all this, I am not on here as much since our computer at home is dead and things are pretty busy in the office! But I am Thankful for all you guys!!!

Im happy for you Portland!

Who's doing something exciting this weekend? Start with Thanksgiving, I suppose.

I think Im going "In search of ......" some dayum shoes for my wedding *faints* I was NOT meant to shop

Who's doing something exciting this weekend? Start with Thanksgiving, I suppose.

I'm driving about 3 and a half hours from Atlanta to Bainbridge, Georgia to spend time with my family and my best friend and her family...she has a total of 10 kids at her house between her 5 and her 5 step-kids...damn real life Brady bunch. I'm going to eat and eat some more...kick back and watch some college football...that's about it! Nothing really special.

well Friday me and my 2 best friends might be going to the NYC shooting range that should be fun and scary at the same time...

Now that sounds like some fun. What a way to blow off some steam...

Who you rooting for? Oh, and btw.....yea! another football lover. No offense girls; but the rest are mostly lame about sports.

Im a football fan too... just not college...

[MRStee 19]

what i wanna know is why are they so vicious with their attacks on each other

in the past couple weeks, we have had a couple murders which have something to do with jealous lovers

and the manner of death is always gruesome

slitting the throat, multiple stab wounds, wild stuff

Right???? Just a violent world!

[MRStee 19]

speak on that!! alot of folks stay together for the sake of staying together and are MISERABLE.. i will marry 5 times b4 i do that! (hopefully this is my last tho LOL)

I hear you some think I’m crazy for leaving my husband but I wasn’t happy and now I’m moving on. I really agreed with what Lady C sent out the other day. My hubby was a season he was not made to be permanent. I thought of staying for the kids but kids today aren’t dumb they can tell when someone is miserable and I have first hand knowledge of it. My parents were married for 36 years but they were miserable!! I never wanted to get married because of them and I had to get out of my marriage to avoid my kids from growing up the same way. I don’t want my kids to have the same outlook. I want them to see marriage as a good thing not hell no I don’t want to get married I might end up like my momma. Life is too short to be miserable. I am a firm believer in that.

Ladies I hope that starting with our generation we get back on the right foot. Marriage is not valued the way is used to be. I personally think the main thing missing from marriages is communication and compromise. In a marriage you have to remember to be a team. Sometimes you have to bend to make your mate happy but it shouldn’t be one person bending you both have to bend especially in the bedroom. Wait that’s not what I was getting at that must be the cob webs talking but anyway just try your best to compromise and work things out together.

In my next marriage I’m hoping my husband and I practice not going to bed mad. I think if you can work out your problems before going to bed it makes it better. Of course sometimes there will be a need to go to bed mad. Sometimes its best to say nothing and calm down before you say something hurtful but I hope that is not practiced too often.

MsTee I’m glad you and Steve made up I was about to get you!!!!

Lmaoooooooooooooooo cause he lets me sleep with the tv on , but wait, why did I toss and turned the other night because I felt like something wasn't right? Woke up and the dayum window was shut!!!! Awww hells naw, I need some air to breathe! lol

JG you are right when you say what is a day or two, heck what is a week or two in the bigger scheme of things

i think sometimes being on this board gets you so caught up in a race to see your case finished quickly that you freak out when something takes a day longer than its supposed to when really and truly a day is nothing

i have had to learn to run my own race, still learning

I came on this board after we were approved but before interview so I didn't really check stuff at all. It made the wait a lot easier.

You know what's funny is that now when I am delayed in something, I think, well hell I waited a month or longer to see Andre. Or I waited 3 months for this or that. On and on. Now, a day or a week or whatever just doesn't seem that long. The visa journey taught me patience.

I second that especially after you basically told me to calm down! lol

[My4rmylife 0]

"VISA APPROVED"

"VISA APPROVED"

congrats

Oh yeah....tomorrow will be Damien's 5th year in the States . We will celebrate all weekend

this is great .... hope you have a great time

Who's doing something exciting this weekend? Start with Thanksgiving, I suppose.

well thanksgiving im cooking and stuff ..friday im working and then saturday im off ot Jamaica

[MRStee 19]

Oh hell no, I give you mad props because it takes strength to leave a marriage and move on...relationships are difficult. The women in my family are all old school...they never divorced...my Grandparents were married 50 plus years but my Grandmother tells us all that Granddaddy was not perfect and they had their moments...they worked through it though. Back then a lot stayed because they had too....not us new age women. Life is too short to be in an unhappy marriage or union. I love my man but trust I refuse to be unhappy and out here looking like "boo-boo da fool" one too many times!

Its not necessarily looking like boo-boo da fool, its about self-worth and peace of mind... You have to love yourself enough to let go and move on. Can't be worrying about feeling like a failure, or like your out to prove something. My friends always laughed at me because they would be like what happened to so in so? I would just say, I kicked that azz to the curb lol