Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 20)

[*JG* 2]

U too why are you leaving us???

O.k. if all the oldie but goodies leave who will be around to help with the newbies??

Probably my hormones speaking but if I posted something negative...everyone would have responded. Not that we need a standing ovation but lasting 5 years is great in my opinion. These marriges could be very challenging.

It seems newbies are only worried about the visa not what happens after. They don't want advise from the vets. Getting the visa is the easy part. Back in the day, we would share the good, bad and the ugly. We fought, made up and kept it moving. Now people are afraid to share because of other people feelings. We all supported each other. It seems newbies only support other newbies. I have not been on here much lately but I try to support everyone.

Off my soapbox.

Amen, sister.

But, in defense, newbies think the visa is the challenging part cause they don't know better yet. It's all good. Be happy while you can and fight the challenges when you have to. No one wants their relationship not to work so they are on the love high. It's ok. We have all been there. I always hope no one has to go through the bad and ugly. But, if they do, they know the vets are here to say we've seen it all before and we've seen people survive it all. This is what they did............

Shemmy, I know how you feel. Having been through the good, the bad, and the downright nasty, I get discouraged on here sometimes. But, I keep my optimism. Not everyone is me. I still believe in love and LDRs that can work out. That's why I'm still here. Not that I would ever do it again; but I want to watch the happenings and congratulate people on their good fortune. I can't live in a world of negatives.

[JQ Smiley BOOM 3]

U too why are you leaving us???

O.k. if all the oldie but goodies leave who will be around to help with the newbies??

Probably my hormones speaking but if I posted something negative...everyone would have responded. Not that we need a standing ovation but lasting 5 years is great in my opinion. These marriges could be very challenging.

It seems newbies are only worried about the visa not what happens after. They don't want advise from the vets. Getting the visa is the easy part. Back in the day, we would share the good, bad and the ugly. We fought, made up and kept it moving. Now people are afraid to share because of other people feelings. We all supported each other. It seems newbies only support other newbies. I have not been on here much lately but I try to support everyone.

Off my soapbox.

I understand what you are saying Shemmy,

I have been watching VJ threads from last year but didnt sign up til March 09.

I remember all the fights SUS and Dada was the most intense I guess, But I hope yall fixed the relationship because the both of yall are vets on here.

I dont think Ima vet but I have started, gone through the process, and finished and now my hubby is here on his CR1 and working and VJ has been great. Now Im going through the process with my step daughter and I still ask questions but I come on her for support.

I think you all are a great set of women.

We talk about presents, music, deaths, births, kids, husbands, mother in laws and baby momma drama.

It might not be the same as 5 years ago, but some time change is good. New people coming around is good. We get new experiences and stories to hear and learn and comment on.

So Shemmy no lef us

You are what makes VJ the Super VET with out you we wouldnt have anything to help us through this journey.

Love ya girl

No Smileys cuz this is serious

Smiley soon come.

[MsSheka 0]

Good morning, everyone!

I woke up about every 30 minutes since 4am. Usually, I only do that on days I'm going to Jamaica. But today is even better than that!

BEST WISHES TO YOU AND STEVEN!

Hey Yardies......just got back to the hotel. Just letting you know that we were approved!

I saw Pam there but I left before her so I am not sure of her outcome.......im sooooo happy rite now!

CONGRATS! :dance: :dance:

[Shemmy 4]

U too why are you leaving us???

O.k. if all the oldie but goodies leave who will be around to help with the newbies??

Probably my hormones speaking but if I posted something negative...everyone would have responded. Not that we need a standing ovation but lasting 5 years is great in my opinion. These marriges could be very challenging.

It seems newbies are only worried about the visa not what happens after. They don't want advise from the vets. Getting the visa is the easy part. Back in the day, we would share the good, bad and the ugly. We fought, made up and kept it moving. Now people are afraid to share because of other people feelings. We all supported each other. It seems newbies only support other newbies. I have not been on here much lately but I try to support everyone.

Off my soapbox.

Amen, sister.

But, in defense, newbies think the visa is the challenging part cause they don't know better yet. It's all good. Be happy while you can and fight the challenges when you have to. No one wants their relationship not to work so they are on the love high. It's ok. We have all been there. I always hope no one has to go through the bad and ugly. But, if they do, they know the vets are here to say we've seen it all before and we've seen people survive it all. This is what they did............

Shemmy, I know how you feel. Having been through the good, the bad, and the downright nasty, I get discouraged on here sometimes. But, I keep my optimism. Not everyone is me. I still believe in love and LDRs that can work out. That's why I'm still here. Not that I would ever do it again; but I want to watch the happenings and congratulate people on their good fortune. I can't live in a world of negatives.

Thanks. Yeah, maybe I am different....I wanted to know everything and learn from other people's relationship even before Damien came. Even to this day...it's still adjustment.

[MsSheka 0]

Mawning Yardies busy busy busy..today is Shemmy's birthday he turns 7 ....i am also getting everything ready for tomorrow i have a big menu

[*JG* 2]

U too why are you leaving us???

O.k. if all the oldie but goodies leave who will be around to help with the newbies??

Probably my hormones speaking but if I posted something negative...everyone would have responded. Not that we need a standing ovation but lasting 5 years is great in my opinion. These marriges could be very challenging.

It seems newbies are only worried about the visa not what happens after. They don't want advise from the vets. Getting the visa is the easy part. Back in the day, we would share the good, bad and the ugly. We fought, made up and kept it moving. Now people are afraid to share because of other people feelings. We all supported each other. It seems newbies only support other newbies. I have not been on here much lately but I try to support everyone.

Off my soapbox.

Amen, sister.

But, in defense, newbies think the visa is the challenging part cause they don't know better yet. It's all good. Be happy while you can and fight the challenges when you have to. No one wants their relationship not to work so they are on the love high. It's ok. We have all been there. I always hope no one has to go through the bad and ugly. But, if they do, they know the vets are here to say we've seen it all before and we've seen people survive it all. This is what they did............

Shemmy, I know how you feel. Having been through the good, the bad, and the downright nasty, I get discouraged on here sometimes. But, I keep my optimism. Not everyone is me. I still believe in love and LDRs that can work out. That's why I'm still here. Not that I would ever do it again; but I want to watch the happenings and congratulate people on their good fortune. I can't live in a world of negatives.

Thanks. Yeah, maybe I am different....I wanted to know everything and learn from other people's relationship even before Damien came. Even to this day...it's still adjustment.

I think it always will be. I'm not even in one anymore and dealing with what I hear about him is still an adjustment. I get it.

I wanted to know everything too. But, I'm a realist. You live and you learn.

[Shemmy 4]

I understand what you are saying Shemmy,

I have been watching VJ threads from last year but didnt sign up til March 09.

I remember all the fights SUS and Dada was the most intense I guess, But I hope yall fixed the relationship because the both of yall are vets on here.

I dont think Ima vet but I have started, gone through the process, and finished and now my hubby is here on his CR1 and working and VJ has been great. Now Im going through the process with my step daughter and I still ask questions but I come on her for support.

I think you all are a great set of women.

We talk about presents, music, deaths, births, kids, husbands, mother in laws and baby momma drama.

It might not be the same as 5 years ago, but some time change is good. New people coming around is good. We get new experiences and stories to hear and learn and comment on.

So Shemmy no lef us

You are what makes VJ the Super VET with out you we wouldnt have anything to help us through this journey.

Love ya girl

No Smileys cuz this is serious

Smiley soon come.

Not gone yet...it's just not the same. I realize things change. Trust me, I am not the only who feels this way...that's why the other vets are not around which is sad.

BTW - I believe once you have a visa in hand...you are a vet IMO. One visa journey is not any better than another.

[LadyC 1]

I understand what you are saying Shemmy,

I have been watching VJ threads from last year but didnt sign up til March 09.

I remember all the fights SUS and Dada was the most intense I guess, But I hope yall fixed the relationship because the both of yall are vets on here.

I dont think Ima vet but I have started, gone through the process, and finished and now my hubby is here on his CR1 and working and VJ has been great. Now Im going through the process with my step daughter and I still ask questions but I come on her for support.

I think you all are a great set of women.

We talk about presents, music, deaths, births, kids, husbands, mother in laws and baby momma drama.

It might not be the same as 5 years ago, but some time change is good. New people coming around is good. We get new experiences and stories to hear and learn and comment on.

So Shemmy no lef us

You are what makes VJ the Super VET with out you we wouldnt have anything to help us through this journey.

Love ya girl

No Smileys cuz this is serious

Smiley soon come.

Not gone yet...it's just not the same. I realize things change. Trust me, I am not the only who feels this way...that's why the other vets are not around which is sad.

BTW - I believe once you have a visa in hand...you are a vet IMO. One visa journey is not any better than another.

Shemmy I understand where you are coming from. "COME SEE ME AND COME LIVE WITH ME ARE TWO DIFFERENT THINGS"I know once G gets here there will be lots of ups and downs. He has to get use to me and my kids and we have to do the same. I have been on my own for so long I am set in my ways. I will have to adjust al itte and not be too picky. In every relationship there are ups and downs people just have to respect each other and try and work things out. I am glad I found VJ and my Yardie friends when I did. You guys helped me through the Visa process and I know when I need to Rant and Rave I can do it and you guys will help too. Some of the Yardies I speak to on the phone and have gotten close with so if there are things that I don't want to put on VJ and I need help with I can call them. Marriage is a work in progress....Shemmy Congrats on your 5 years

Edited November 25, 2009 by LadyC

[phillyfashionista 8]

Oh yeah....tomorrow will be Damien's 5th year in the States . We will celebrate all weekend

Congrats Shem that is wonderful, did the years seem to fly by for you? for me it seems like I'm an old married lady LOL but of course a happy one

We "celebrate" everything...well at least acknowledge milestones. Marriage is hard enough when you weigh in adjusting from a long distance relationship to marriage, one adjusting to a new country, blending families, dealing with cultural and age differences, etc....makes it more challenging. It's not easy.

I know that's right Shem marriage is a challenge on all fronts but its worth it.

yardies are pics really that important?

i'm starting to look through our evidence and we have cards and letters and envelopes and reciepts and phone records

but we don't have alot of pics together

are they really that important?

Girl I took a whole photo album of pics and evidence and he didn't ask to see anything at all only asked my Hubby questions. Take what you can, always better to be safe than sorry

[DedicatedWife 4]

U too why are you leaving us???

O.k. if all the oldie but goodies leave who will be around to help with the newbies??

Probably my hormones speaking but if I posted something negative...everyone would have responded. Not that we need a standing ovation but lasting 5 years is great in my opinion. These marriges could be very challenging.

It seems newbies are only worried about the visa not what happens after. They don't want advise from the vets. Getting the visa is the easy part. Back in the day, we would share the good, bad and the ugly. We fought, made up and kept it moving. Now people are afraid to share because of other people feelings. We all supported each other. It seems newbies only support other newbies. I have not been on here much lately but I try to support everyone.

Off my soapbox.

Hey Shemmy,

Congrats on your 5 year anniversary! That is a milestone honestly. I am a Newbie and this site has been a tremendous support. I'm not on here as much as I should be but all of the people on the thread have given me some valuable advice and opinions. I'm sorry that some of the others have left the thread but anything that you bring to the thread is needed. You never know what your situation or experience can do for someone who like you said might not have any idea of what to do. Right now my focus is on getting him here and getting that Visa in hand but we've already faced a very difficult hurdle in our relationship early on. Sometimes we all need to come to a safe place and get some honest advice. Reconsider not visitng as much...I know I'm going to need some advice on how to make it last 5 plus years...and you would be a great person to ask!!!!

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

but shemmy why do you think ppl are only interested in the visa and not the relationship

there are so many spirited discussions about relationship issues

[phillyfashionista 8]

Good Evening All, I am a newbie to the VJ site and still trying to figure out how to jump into the posts! !! Im loving reading all of your post, it is so encouraging to see ALL of the approval that are going on... I cant wait to start the K-1 process... But I need your help!?!?! Where do I begin, Should I hire an Attorney or go it alone? THIS ALL SEEMS SOOO intimdating!

Hey Dan Dan, ((((waving))))

VJ is a great place to educated yourself on the process and learn of others experiences. IMO you do not need an attorney and I know the other members agree as well. All the tools you need are right here, and of course we are here to assist in any way we can as well. don't be intimidated we have your back

I made it through the storm with my Kindergarten class yesterday lol They showed me mercy!

Just made me think of my 7 year old nephew, he refuses to call Steve.. "uncle Steve" I don't even think he really addresses him. Just talks to him. Kids are so peculiar at times...

You girl I know that was a good feeling!

girl yes kids sure can be, no worries he will get used to "uncle Steve" he is just feeling him out I'm sure.

just reconfimed my flight im getting so excited and nervous at the same time...

I know it girl, the countdown is on

Good morning, everyone!

I woke up about every 30 minutes since 4am. Usually, I only do that on days I'm going to Jamaica. But today is even better than that!

Yes it is Nat I am so happy for you, this has been a wonderful journey for you and its just beginning have a fabulous day sweetie

welcome dan dan.. no lawyer needed.. YOU GOT THIS!

Wishing you the best today nat and steve!

bunz.. ALL we have are pics lol i agree w/ jg.. we have to just go w/ what we got and pray God's will be done..

Roger is not worried at all , and i am just a little, i mean, there's not much we could bring when he doesn't have a ssn..

you guys will be just fine, is he coming to the interview?

that's me and hubby too

he says we are in love and we have nothing to worry about

i'm sure roger feels the same

this year is really ending on a high note for alot of us

i hope this carries over into the 2010

It will Bunz nuh worry yuhself, we will be shpping in NYC sooner than you think Canal st here we come!

Hey Yardies......just got back to the hotel. Just letting you know that we were approved!

I saw Pam there but I left before her so I am not sure of her outcome.......im sooooo happy rite now!

CONGRATS, FEVA soon come

My yardie threads days are coming to an end. I wish everyone luck with approvals, marriages, babies, etc.

Whats wrong Shem? Is everything ok?

[thisislove 0]

portland.. I MIIISSSSS YOU.. hows the house coming?

shemmy.. i feel ya, believe me, i just take some breaks and come back refreshed and ready fi chat

im like you b4 roger came, i was asking all these questions and ppl would be like "quit being negative, everything will be fine" but i wanted to absorb as much info as possible.. not to EXPECT mine to go the same, but to be PREPARED.. i think that is why adjustment has gone so well SO FAR..

ive always said i will never feel bad about sharing info on the board even if its not well received.. good or bad, it could help someone else..

its a lil hard when everyone is at different points of this journey.. you don't want to be sourpuss, but u don't want to act like its all roses either..

im sorry i missed your news bout damien last night.. i really don't catch up anymore.. CONGRATULATIONS girl..

you are right.. you guys are a milestone in itself! BE BLESSED..

[BunzTheMagicSnail 2]

i think shemmy just needs a break

it gets that way every now and then

[DedicatedWife 4]

portland.. I MIIISSSSS YOU.. hows the house coming?

shemmy.. i feel ya, believe me, i just take some breaks and come back refreshed and ready fi chat

im like you b4 roger came, i was asking all these questions and ppl would be like "quit being negative, everything will be fine" but i wanted to absorb as much info as possible.. not to EXPECT mine to go the same, but to be PREPARED.. i think that is why adjustment has gone so well SO FAR..

ive always said i will never feel bad about sharing info on the board even if its not well received.. good or bad, it could help someone else..

its a lil hard when everyone is at different points of this journey.. you don't want to be sourpuss, but u don't want to act like its all roses either..

im sorry i missed your news bout damien last night.. i really don't catch up anymore.. CONGRATULATIONS girl..

you are right.. you guys are a milestone in itself! BE BLESSED..

Hi This Is Love:

yeah we all need the experience and advice that you have to share. It is much needed even if we don't always comment on it, you never know when you are blessing someone with some knowledge in their situation!