Yardies a home and a farrin (Part 20)

[LadyC 1]

I know I don't post much, mostly just searching to find information. But I need some help with this thing. My mom doesn't like my fiance. She doesn't like the idea that he will be coming here to live with me and he won't have a job or U. S. Citizenship. Why did this lady give one of her co-workers my phone number, trying to hook us up? Know that I am engaged. My fiance and I have talked about him coming and me having to support him time after time, and we both are ok with that. But he does know that he will have to get a job once he gets his EAD. Cause I do not plan on running the household by myself. Anyway. I feel so hurt and betrayed by my mother!!

I am the baby girl I understand that. But I am not a child anymore. I am 28 and doing big things. But that was just wrong of her. I understand she is looking out for my best interest. But DAMN, that was taking it too far.

Has anyone else had to go through this? Can anyone offer some advise?

HELP Please. I feel like cursing her out I am so mad. But I can't do that cause she is my mother. UUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!

Mamajew im sorry your mother do not respect you and your relationship. I have never had this proplem so I do not know how to help you. when I told my mother about my relationship she did the motherly thing and ask alot of questions. I told her everything about my fiance and then one day when he called me I hooked her up to the call and introduced them. They spoke and she questioned the hell out of him and after that day everything was cool. Now she calls and ask how he is doing and when he is coming. Maybe you should let them talk if the have not and they can form some type of relationship before he gets here. I would tell her my mind about giving my number to her co-worker. Tell her how upset you are in a respectful way. Some times parents just dont understand...

That is the funny thing.They have spoken a number of times. She even said that she thinks he is a nice man, but not the man for me. I think excuse me, I know her only problem is that he is already established in the U.S. She is an old school lady, stuck in her was. Well she will meet him soon enough. Cause his interview is on the 24th and prayerfully he will be here soon after that. We have come to far now to turn back.

and Nat I love that show as well. I was freaked out when I first watched it.

Well time will tell...when he gets here and show her how much he loves you and start working and doing well she will come around. In the mean time tell her to trust you and the way she raised you and give him a chance.

[MRStee 19]

I know I don't post much, mostly just searching to find information. But I need some help with this thing. My mom doesn't like my fiance. She doesn't like the idea that he will be coming here to live with me and he won't have a job or U. S. Citizenship. Why did this lady give one of her co-workers my phone number, trying to hook us up? Know that I am engaged. My fiance and I have talked about him coming and me having to support him time after time, and we both are ok with that. But he does know that he will have to get a job once he gets his EAD. Cause I do not plan on running the household by myself. Anyway. I feel so hurt and betrayed by my mother!!

I am the baby girl I understand that. But I am not a child anymore. I am 28 and doing big things. But that was just wrong of her. I understand she is looking out for my best interest. But DAMN, that was taking it too far.

Has anyone else had to go through this? Can anyone offer some advise?

HELP Please. I feel like cursing her out I am so mad. But I can't do that cause she is my mother. UUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!

I dont have a mom to fuss and argue with so first, thats good in a way that she is because it shows you care. I think you need to tell your mom in a respectful way that this is your choice and you know that she is concerned about you well being, and that if this is a mistake, please let you find out the hard way, just as I am sure she made some mistakes along the way. Try a soft approach but be firm in direct. Your mind is made up and this is what you have decided is the BEST for you at this point in your life.

Alot of times we think if we say something to our parents we are disrespecting, but know that they are adults just like we are and to get respect you have to give it as well. Don't feel bad that you are having an "adult" convo with your parents.

it shows SHE cares.

Hi lady c you getting excited?

[MsSheka 0]

Not Good

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?.../i152555D69.DTL

[NatPatBen 3]

Not Good

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?.../i152555D69.DTL

Not good at all.

[DedicatedWife 4]

thanks for all the congrats it feels great to have a date .....

You got one more congratulations coming your way from me. Best wishes!

[DedicatedWife 4]

I know I don't post much, mostly just searching to find information. But I need some help with this thing. My mom doesn't like my fiance. She doesn't like the idea that he will be coming here to live with me and he won't have a job or U. S. Citizenship. Why did this lady give one of her co-workers my phone number, trying to hook us up? Know that I am engaged. My fiance and I have talked about him coming and me having to support him time after time, and we both are ok with that. But he does know that he will have to get a job once he gets his EAD. Cause I do not plan on running the household by myself. Anyway. I feel so hurt and betrayed by my mother!!

I am the baby girl I understand that. But I am not a child anymore. I am 28 and doing big things. But that was just wrong of her. I understand she is looking out for my best interest. But DAMN, that was taking it too far.

Has anyone else had to go through this? Can anyone offer some advise?

HELP Please. I feel like cursing her out I am so mad. But I can't do that cause she is my mother. UUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!

Mamajew, Please don't cuss her out. My dad has been the one that has voiced his concerns (loudly) and some of my girlfriends have voiced their opinions as well. At first, I was crying on the phone with Den every other day. At the end of the day, you have to remember that you have to stay true to self and your relationship. You have to stay strong. It's going to be difficult enough adjusting to being together in the same country, you don't need the extra pressure. Surround yourself with positive people, family/friends, VJ, etc. and with time, your mom will get to see your fiance's character and hopefully get to know him a little better.

[MRStee 19]

Not Good

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?.../i152555D69.DTL

Awwww dayum

I know I don't post much, mostly just searching to find information. But I need some help with this thing. My mom doesn't like my fiance. She doesn't like the idea that he will be coming here to live with me and he won't have a job or U. S. Citizenship. Why did this lady give one of her co-workers my phone number, trying to hook us up? Know that I am engaged. My fiance and I have talked about him coming and me having to support him time after time, and we both are ok with that. But he does know that he will have to get a job once he gets his EAD. Cause I do not plan on running the household by myself. Anyway. I feel so hurt and betrayed by my mother!!

I am the baby girl I understand that. But I am not a child anymore. I am 28 and doing big things. But that was just wrong of her. I understand she is looking out for my best interest. But DAMN, that was taking it too far.

Has anyone else had to go through this? Can anyone offer some advise?

HELP Please. I feel like cursing her out I am so mad. But I can't do that cause she is my mother. UUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!

Mamajew, Please don't cuss her out. My dad has been the one that has voiced his concerns (loudly) and some of my girlfriends have voiced their opinions as well. At first, I was crying on the phone with Den every other day. At the end of the day, you have to remember that you have to stay true to self and your relationship. You have to stay strong. It's going to be difficult enough adjusting to being together in the same country, you don't need the extra pressure. Surround yourself with positive people, family/friends, VJ, etc. and with time, your mom will get to see your fiance's character and hopefully get to know him a little better.

I agree!

[LadyC 1]

I know I don't post much, mostly just searching to find information. But I need some help with this thing. My mom doesn't like my fiance. She doesn't like the idea that he will be coming here to live with me and he won't have a job or U. S. Citizenship. Why did this lady give one of her co-workers my phone number, trying to hook us up? Know that I am engaged. My fiance and I have talked about him coming and me having to support him time after time, and we both are ok with that. But he does know that he will have to get a job once he gets his EAD. Cause I do not plan on running the household by myself. Anyway. I feel so hurt and betrayed by my mother!!

I am the baby girl I understand that. But I am not a child anymore. I am 28 and doing big things. But that was just wrong of her. I understand she is looking out for my best interest. But DAMN, that was taking it too far.

Has anyone else had to go through this? Can anyone offer some advise?

HELP Please. I feel like cursing her out I am so mad. But I can't do that cause she is my mother. UUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!

I dont have a mom to fuss and argue with so first, thats good in a way that she is because it shows you care. I think you need to tell your mom in a respectful way that this is your choice and you know that she is concerned about you well being, and that if this is a mistake, please let you find out the hard way, just as I am sure she made some mistakes along the way. Try a soft approach but be firm in direct. Your mind is made up and this is what you have decided is the BEST for you at this point in your life.

Alot of times we think if we say something to our parents we are disrespecting, but know that they are adults just like we are and to get respect you have to give it as well. Don't feel bad that you are having an "adult" convo with your parents.

it shows SHE cares.

Hi lady c you getting excited?

MsTee as soon as it turns November 1st I will be bursting at the seams..You only have a few more days left until your boo gets here. Are you ready?

[LadyC 1]

Not Good

http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?.../i152555D69.DTL

Not good at all.

I read the book Shower Posse and It was good..I learned alot and because I lived in Brooklyn I knew a few of the ppl in the book. Some of my friends defend him ...

[My4rmylife 0]

:dance: INTERVIEW IS NOVEMBER 30TH AT 8 AM :dance:

YAY......we definitely gotta link up Jess!!!!

hello everyone ... finally got back online now im searching for a flight .... imso happy

I hope u find a reasonable one........i was the same way sooooo excited!!!

yes hays we must ill be down on sunday ...

yeah ill be down from the 11/24-12/2

good we will link up and bunz i would love to meet you too

[My4rmylife 0]

I know I don't post much, mostly just searching to find information. But I need some help with this thing. My mom doesn't like my fiance. She doesn't like the idea that he will be coming here to live with me and he won't have a job or U. S. Citizenship. Why did this lady give one of her co-workers my phone number, trying to hook us up? Know that I am engaged. My fiance and I have talked about him coming and me having to support him time after time, and we both are ok with that. But he does know that he will have to get a job once he gets his EAD. Cause I do not plan on running the household by myself. Anyway. I feel so hurt and betrayed by my mother!!

I am the baby girl I understand that. But I am not a child anymore. I am 28 and doing big things. But that was just wrong of her. I understand she is looking out for my best interest. But DAMN, that was taking it too far.

Has anyone else had to go through this? Can anyone offer some advise?

HELP Please. I feel like cursing her out I am so mad. But I can't do that cause she is my mother. UUUUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!!!

sorry to hear what your going through...

[NatPatBen 3]

I read the book Shower Posse and It was good..I learned alot and because I lived in Brooklyn I knew a few of the ppl in the book. Some of my friends defend him ...

Author please?

[LadyC 1]

I read the book Shower Posse and It was good..I learned alot and because I lived in Brooklyn I knew a few of the ppl in the book. Some of my friends defend him ...

Author please?

Shower Posse: The Most Notorious Jamaican Crime Organization (Hardcover)

By ~ Duane Blake (Author)

The author is the son of the Leader of the Shower Posse Vivian Blake and Dudus is the son of Vivian Blake Right Hand Man

[MRStee 19]

good morning everyone

[LadyC 1]

Good Morning Yardies.....Whats for Breakfast?