Sending Money

[Dawarig 1]

Hi everyone I send money to my fiancee is that problem in nairobi embassy, is gonna hurt the case? what do you guys think.

thanks.

[HoneyHummingbird 3]

Hi everyone I send money to my fiancee is that problem in nairobi embassy, is gonna hurt the case? what do you guys think.

thanks.

I don't see why it would be a problem per se but it may throw up a caution sign. Depending on the circumstances such as how long you guys have known each other, how much, how soon after meeting did you send it, how you met...etc... On the other hand if these things seem solid they may see the financial assistance as showing how invested the two of you are (like a joint account).

Because I met my fiance online, we agreed very early on that I would not be sending him money. I have only sent him money 2tx. On his birthday (something small, adequate amount for a gift) and the other was to speed up the mailing of the immigraton documents because when he sent them he forgot to send 1 document. Other than that I haven't sent him anything.

Not saying 1 way or the other is right because any way you look at it....... its how right or wrong the person looking at it feels about it.

[ddartt1 2]

Hi Dawarig

I don't think it should be a problem, my fiance (now my husband) sent me money every month when i was in Kenya and on the day of my interview, I took the Moneygram receipts to the embassy but they never asked for them.

Edited October 12, 2009 by ddartt1

[HoneyHummingbird 3]

Hi Dawarig

I don't think it should be a problem, my fiance (now my husband) sent me money every month when i was in Kenya and on the day of my interview, I took the Moneygram receipts to the embassy but they never asked for them.

I agree with you but I have heard that the embassies in Africa are more suspect of the US woman African man hookup.

[ddartt1 2]

Hi Dawarig

I don't think it should be a problem, my fiance (now my husband) sent me money every month when i was in Kenya and on the day of my interview, I took the Moneygram receipts to the embassy but they never asked for them.

I agree with you but I have heard that the embassies in Africa are more suspect of the US woman African man hookup.

HoneyHummingbird i know you are trying to be helpful but why would they be treated different from others? Anyway Dawarig has given some good reasons for sending his fiance some $$.

Edited October 12, 2009 by ddartt1

[katie & sifa 25]

Is this something that needs to be disclosed at the interview at all? I send my fiance money on occasion because the organization he works for is incredibly corrupt and sometimes "runs out of money." I work for a non-profit and I'm not exactly rolling in it myself, but I have enough to send him a little here and there when I talk to him and all he's eaten is bananas for 5 days with no sign of a paycheck in sight! I see how this can seem suspicious but I didn't think it was something that needs to be brought up at all during the interview...

[Cherish86 0]

I hope this isnt a porblem either... I have only sent him money once but this whole process is super expensive and the money there is nothing compared to the money here....not that I have much!! But I can see myself having to send money for the whole visa process... Are they just concerned about money being sent for non visa expenses?

[ForeverAmen 0]

Hello Everyone!

I agree with all of the feedback given. Both pros and cons. On the flip side, please allow me to express the following (out of love) .... Be careful about habits you start prior to your SO arrival. Too often individuals send SO money, the SO arrives here in the USA, and does not fully understand the sacrifices you were making to send them money. With that being said, it adds to the 'adjustment factor' in that you (USC) now expect/hope your SO will help with household expenses, but you've already gotten them use to receiving money from you. For some, the sacrifices made prior to a SO's arrival, appears to not be appreciated. I can't say for sure in all cases. But I Not everyone is the same. Just be careful.

[ForeverAmen 0]

Edited December 8, 2009 by Boaz

[ForeverAmen 0]

Hello Everyone!

I agree with all of the feedback given. Both pros and cons. On the flip side, please allow me to express the following (out of love) .... Be careful about habits you start prior to your SO arrival. Too often individuals send SO money, the SO arrives here in the USA, and does not fully understand the sacrifices you were making to send them money. With that being said, it adds to the 'adjustment factor' in that you (USC) now expect/hope your SO will help with household expenses, but you've already gotten them use to receiving money from you. For some, the sacrifices made prior to a SO's arrival, appears to not be appreciated. I can't say for sure in all cases. Not everyone is the same. Just be careful.

Sorry for the typo.

[Kanja 201]

It depends the country...My fiance is in Sierra Leone a country that is at the lowest on the United Nations Human Development Index which equals extreme poverty...it is normal for anyone to be sending loved ones money from abroad because they know the conditions..

[Cherish86 0]

Yes this is true! And that what i meant. Surely people know the conditions in Africa. I sent $40 and that was like soooooooo helpful to him because our dollar is strong. I just cant watch someone I love struggle so bad...