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[christeen 966]

Congrats to everyone getting some movement on their cases! Maybe if they get enough of us in the case complete file, they will get off their A$$ and schedule the interviews!!!

I am a wedding photographer and I had to shoot a wedding this weekend and could not help but think... Well ya'll are so lucky cause you get to live with each other without applying for permission to do so!!! How cynical of me huh?? Then I have to edit these wonderfully happy people and could not get it out of my head how much I wish my Franco was here with me and this was done!!! I mean I need to get this process done and my husband over here as it is affecting me getting the joy out of what I do and doing a great job for my clients!!!

[Twisted K 2]

congrats donna

[Gemmie 142]

I just wanted to pop in and say a few things.

We spent 5 and a half years apart when we petitioned for me to marry and move to the US - that process took another 9 months (almost 5 months to get approved and then waiting for paperwork and interview).

I really, really understand how you feel, Donna. I think everyone here does. The pain of being apart can be unbearable at times. I had those days where I could barely stand to face the day without him - usually when he had just left me and gone back to the US. My friends would try to cheer me up by offering to drag me out, but all I wanted to do when I was out was go home and talk to him on the phone about how much I missed him. Just walking down the street was absolute torture - seeing all those happy couples together, passing our favourite places, listening to a song that played when we were together, even watching the weather change... I would cross off days on the calender and dream of our next meeting.

My family weren't the most supportive either. My dad didn't want me to leave the UK because he feels he's alone in the world since my mother died, and my only brother was angry that I was leaving. He criticized me a lot, telling me that I hadn't thought about any of it, that me and my hubby wouldn't last once we were together, and that all I cared about was myself. This has changed a bit as I've kept in regular contact with them, but he still releases some frustratuin; just the other day he told me that he didn't see the point in me getting a green card anyway, as I was stuck in this town and couldn't explore the US - he doesn't seem to understand that I'm here for reasons beyond America. Hopefully one day he will.

Anyway, I moved to the US in June, so it's been 4 months now since we've been officially "together". I can assure you that it's true what they say; the moment you get that big hug at the airport, you DO look back at the journey and think 'what was I complaining about' as it all seems a distant memory.

Congrats on your approval.. please feel free to use VJ as a release. Sometimes it's easy to feel alone when everyone is trying to stay positive and sharing good news. I know that I've felt restricted at times. No one wants to sound like a whiner... but we all are (or have been) whining, deep down, so it's good to share.

[chinese_mutt 11]

Hello everyone!!! I've been in US for more than a month now. And i just wanted to drop by and offer some comforting wods... But as soon as I started typing I couldn't find the right words. I was separated from my husband of two weeks for 5 months. We got married on our first physical meeting. He stayed wih us for approx. 4 weeks and he went back to US. There were days when I couldn't stand all the waiting BS... Somedays I slept the entire day, somedays I went out with friends but most of the days I stayed home waiting for my husband to call. It sucks... But looking back, the day that I got my visa and the day that I made iT to POE with my husband was priceless. Even now we still feel blessed and we have that bond about conquering the immigration bs.

My life here has been constant ups and downs. My hubby drives a truck and I go with him everywhere. I get nasty motion sickness and somedays all i can do is sleep and eat coz I'm too sick. We are planning on gettin out of this truck but like LGG, i'm afraid of 'looking' for a job and driving.

So... Chin up, the day will come when you are standing in the airport and know that you've finally made it home. Then real life begins. Oh, better eat all local foods now... Food here is great but you will always find something lacking in it. :-)

[mrsemcee 1]

Congrats to everyone getting some movement on their cases! Maybe if they get enough of us in the case complete file, they will get off their A$$ and schedule the interviews!!!

I am a wedding photographer and I had to shoot a wedding this weekend and could not help but think... Well ya'll are so lucky cause you get to live with each other without applying for permission to do so!!! How cynical of me huh?? Then I have to edit these wonderfully happy people and could not get it out of my head how much I wish my Franco was here with me and this was done!!! I mean I need to get this process done and my husband over here as it is affecting me getting the joy out of what I do and doing a great job for my clients!!!

you are a wedding photographer? we havent got pictures of us at the courthouse where we got married and also want ones down by kentucky lake where we went after our wedding, and i am looking for someone to take them once i arrive in the USA. where are you based? maybe you could do it for us?!!?!?!?

I just wanted to pop in and say a few things.

We spent 5 and a half years apart when we petitioned for me to marry and move to the US - that process took another 9 months (almost 5 months to get approved and then waiting for paperwork and interview).

I really, really understand how you feel, Donna. I think everyone here does. The pain of being apart can be unbearable at times. I had those days where I could barely stand to face the day without him - usually when he had just left me and gone back to the US. My friends would try to cheer me up by offering to drag me out, but all I wanted to do when I was out was go home and talk to him on the phone about how much I missed him. Just walking down the street was absolute torture - seeing all those happy couples together, passing our favourite places, listening to a song that played when we were together, even watching the weather change... I would cross off days on the calender and dream of our next meeting.

My family weren't the most supportive either. My dad didn't want me to leave the UK because he feels he's alone in the world since my mother died, and my only brother was angry that I was leaving. He criticized me a lot, telling me that I hadn't thought about any of it, that me and my hubby wouldn't last once we were together, and that all I cared about was myself. This has changed a bit as I've kept in regular contact with them, but he still releases some frustratuin; just the other day he told me that he didn't see the point in me getting a green card anyway, as I was stuck in this town and couldn't explore the US - he doesn't seem to understand that I'm here for reasons beyond America. Hopefully one day he will.

Anyway, I moved to the US in June, so it's been 4 months now since we've been officially "together". I can assure you that it's true what they say; the moment you get that big hug at the airport, you DO look back at the journey and think 'what was I complaining about' as it all seems a distant memory.

Congrats on your approval.. please feel free to use VJ as a release. Sometimes it's easy to feel alone when everyone is trying to stay positive and sharing good news. I know that I've felt restricted at times. No one wants to sound like a whiner... but we all are (or have been) whining, deep down, so it's good to share.

oh you poor love. i know what you mean. my mum is a bit like that, she is happy for me but says she will be alone and never see me again and things like that which of course make me feel bad.. then my dad is a-whole-nother story... ugh.

i am so glad you are happy there now and hearing stories of success does spur me along for sure!

Hello everyone!!! I've been in US for more than a month now. And i just wanted to drop by and offer some comforting wods... But as soon as I started typing I couldn't find the right words. I was separated from my husband of two weeks for 5 months. We got married on our first physical meeting. He stayed wih us for approx. 4 weeks and he went back to US. There were days when I couldn't stand all the waiting BS... Somedays I slept the entire day, somedays I went out with friends but most of the days I stayed home waiting for my husband to call. It sucks... But looking back, the day that I got my visa and the day that I made iT to POE with my husband was priceless. Even now we still feel blessed and we have that bond about conquering the immigration bs.

My life here has been constant ups and downs. My hubby drives a truck and I go with him everywhere. I get nasty motion sickness and somedays all i can do is sleep and eat coz I'm too sick. We are planning on gettin out of this truck but like LGG, i'm afraid of 'looking' for a job and driving.

So... Chin up, the day will come when you are standing in the airport and know that you've finally made it home. Then real life begins. Oh, better eat all local foods now... Food here is great but you will always find something lacking in it. :-)

this gives me warm feelings... hehe the good kind i mean

[christeen 966]

I LOVE KY... I am a Tenn girl but I live way down here in South Florida now... Weather is great but I miss the Appalachain's ... Flat and swampy here But if ya wannt fly me up there, be happy to get some snappys of ya!!!

[mrsemcee 1]

yeah its a beautiful spot where andy lives.. i am thinking we will end up in nashville or somewhere bigger than his home town though, for me to find work in my field.

oooh its a shame you arent closer!

[AUS2USA 0]

Melodie and I were lucky enough to go through a separation period very early in our relationship.

We were very much in love from about a month into our relationship and we weren't too sure how we'd make it work, or if it would even work in the first place. She was from California, I was from Sydney. We met while we were both working on a Holland-America Cruise Line.

I was transferred to another ship half way through my contract which mean we had an involuntary seperation. It caught us off guard as we thought we still had AT LEAST 3 months together.

I handled it quite well, due to the fact that I was on a new ship, meeting new people and going to new ports of call. However, Melodie became very ill, couldn't eat and couldn't sing. Over the next couple of months, I would receive phone calls, emails and letters from her claiming with every inch of her being of how much she loved me. There would also be the odd indirect question about whether or not I was being faithful. I thought she was overreacting and kept telling her to calm down.

This time, the tables have turned. Initially, we had decided to stay in Australia. At the last minute, after hours, nights and days of discussing our options together, we decided that we would prefer to live in the States for her musical theater opportunities. We packed her bags and had her on a flight within 4 days of making the decision! Such a quick turn around.

Now, it's me, claiming with ever inch of my being, how badly I love and miss her. And, yes, I questioned her being faithful. I was confused as to why she wasn't doing the same back to me. Then, only last night, I remembered about our first separation.

You see, when 2 people are together, everything is perfect. You wake up to the person you love, you talk/eat/live with that one person. Once it comes for that person to leave, you're stuck in the same position, only, you're missing the most important thing to you. Your S/O. You're still living in the same house, going to the same job, hanging out with the same people. You've lost your S/O in the physical sense.

However, for the one that leaves to another country, they are going back to family, old friends, looking for new jobs etc etc etc. They have so much to keep them busy and distracted, whereas we have nothing.

So, if any of you are worried in any way, shape or form, and you hadn't thought of this, then I hope this helps!

What has helped me was moving home, meeting new friends so on and so forth.

Good luck my fellow depressed-members and remember... Your husband/wife loves you dearly, and wouldn't be going through this process if they didn't. They have a lot on their plate to keep them going. You need to do the same, otherwise it can be detrimental on your mental health, as well as your partner's emotional feelings. Don't let this petty process get in the middle of what really matters- you and your significant other!!!

[sachinky 465]

I couldn't have agreed with you more, Aus2USA.

[Twisted K 2]

Melodie and I were lucky enough to go through a separation period very early in our relationship.

We were very much in love from about a month into our relationship and we weren't too sure how we'd make it work, or if it would even work in the first place. She was from California, I was from Sydney. We met while we were both working on a Holland-America Cruise Line.

I was transferred to another ship half way through my contract which mean we had an involuntary seperation. It caught us off guard as we thought we still had AT LEAST 3 months together.

I handled it quite well, due to the fact that I was on a new ship, meeting new people and going to new ports of call. However, Melodie became very ill, couldn't eat and couldn't sing. Over the next couple of months, I would receive phone calls, emails and letters from her claiming with every inch of her being of how much she loved me. There would also be the odd indirect question about whether or not I was being faithful. I thought she was overreacting and kept telling her to calm down.

This time, the tables have turned. Initially, we had decided to stay in Australia. At the last minute, after hours, nights and days of discussing our options together, we decided that we would prefer to live in the States for her musical theater opportunities. We packed her bags and had her on a flight within 4 days of making the decision! Such a quick turn around.

Now, it's me, claiming with ever inch of my being, how badly I love and miss her. And, yes, I questioned her being faithful. I was confused as to why she wasn't doing the same back to me. Then, only last night, I remembered about our first separation.

You see, when 2 people are together, everything is perfect. You wake up to the person you love, you talk/eat/live with that one person. Once it comes for that person to leave, you're stuck in the same position, only, you're missing the most important thing to you. Your S/O. You're still living in the same house, going to the same job, hanging out with the same people. You've lost your S/O in the physical sense.

However, for the one that leaves to another country, they are going back to family, old friends, looking for new jobs etc etc etc. They have so much to keep them busy and distracted, whereas we have nothing.

So, if any of you are worried in any way, shape or form, and you hadn't thought of this, then I hope this helps!

What has helped me was moving home, meeting new friends so on and so forth.

Good luck my fellow depressed-members and remember... Your husband/wife loves you dearly, and wouldn't be going through this process if they didn't. They have a lot on their plate to keep them going. You need to do the same, otherwise it can be detrimental on your mental health, as well as your partner's emotional feelings. Don't let this petty process get in the middle of what really matters- you and your significant other!!!

[mrsemcee 1]

this is SOOO me right now.

andy and i fell in love on the internet, like a lot of people here i guess.. and we shared many photos as we met on an internet photo sharing site. anyway, before we met, and we were already in love, andy would ask me things like if other guys tried to crack on to me, or hit on me as you guys might say, and i would be like hell no, and i wouldnt touch them anyway and joke about it...

anyway after we met, we married within a week, things were awesome and we stayed together for 3 months in the usa then he came here to australia for 5 months on the back of that, so we spent only 4 weeks apart in 8 months.

anyway since he has left to go back to the usa, and its been over 3 months now since i have seen him, every time he goes out at night, i think about all those girls in the usa which were at the pubs and places we would go to, those in particular who tried to tell me that it wouldnt last etc etc, you know, the bitchy kind, that i didnt even care about when i was there, but now i worry about them and i dont know, i get paranoid.

i know he loves me and would never REALLY do anything to harm that, but i feel so helpless so far away, and its taken me til this week actually, to realise that i was being silly and like you said, he wouldnt be doing this unless he loved me with all his heart.

anyway mike, thank you for this story... *big hugs*

xxxxxx

Melodie and I were lucky enough to go through a separation period very early in our relationship.

We were very much in love from about a month into our relationship and we weren't too sure how we'd make it work, or if it would even work in the first place. She was from California, I was from Sydney. We met while we were both working on a Holland-America Cruise Line.

I was transferred to another ship half way through my contract which mean we had an involuntary seperation. It caught us off guard as we thought we still had AT LEAST 3 months together.

I handled it quite well, due to the fact that I was on a new ship, meeting new people and going to new ports of call. However, Melodie became very ill, couldn't eat and couldn't sing. Over the next couple of months, I would receive phone calls, emails and letters from her claiming with every inch of her being of how much she loved me. There would also be the odd indirect question about whether or not I was being faithful. I thought she was overreacting and kept telling her to calm down.

This time, the tables have turned. Initially, we had decided to stay in Australia. At the last minute, after hours, nights and days of discussing our options together, we decided that we would prefer to live in the States for her musical theater opportunities. We packed her bags and had her on a flight within 4 days of making the decision! Such a quick turn around.

Now, it's me, claiming with ever inch of my being, how badly I love and miss her. And, yes, I questioned her being faithful. I was confused as to why she wasn't doing the same back to me. Then, only last night, I remembered about our first separation.

You see, when 2 people are together, everything is perfect. You wake up to the person you love, you talk/eat/live with that one person. Once it comes for that person to leave, you're stuck in the same position, only, you're missing the most important thing to you. Your S/O. You're still living in the same house, going to the same job, hanging out with the same people. You've lost your S/O in the physical sense.

However, for the one that leaves to another country, they are going back to family, old friends, looking for new jobs etc etc etc. They have so much to keep them busy and distracted, whereas we have nothing.

So, if any of you are worried in any way, shape or form, and you hadn't thought of this, then I hope this helps!

What has helped me was moving home, meeting new friends so on and so forth.

Good luck my fellow depressed-members and remember... Your husband/wife loves you dearly, and wouldn't be going through this process if they didn't. They have a lot on their plate to keep them going. You need to do the same, otherwise it can be detrimental on your mental health, as well as your partner's emotional feelings. Don't let this petty process get in the middle of what really matters- you and your significant other!!!

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

this is SOOO me right now.

andy and i fell in love on the internet, like a lot of people here i guess.. and we shared many photos as we met on an internet photo sharing site. anyway, before we met, and we were already in love, andy would ask me things like if other guys tried to crack on to me, or hit on me as you guys might say, and i would be like hell no, and i wouldnt touch them anyway and joke about it...

anyway after we met, we married within a week, things were awesome and we stayed together for 3 months in the usa then he came here to australia for 5 months on the back of that, so we spent only 4 weeks apart in 8 months.

anyway since he has left to go back to the usa, and its been over 3 months now since i have seen him, every time he goes out at night, i think about all those girls in the usa which were at the pubs and places we would go to, those in particular who tried to tell me that it wouldnt last etc etc, you know, the bitchy kind, that i didnt even care about when i was there, but now i worry about them and i dont know, i get paranoid.

i know he loves me and would never REALLY do anything to harm that, but i feel so helpless so far away, and its taken me til this week actually, to realise that i was being silly and like you said, he wouldnt be doing this unless he loved me with all his heart.

anyway mike, thank you for this story... *big hugs*

xxxxxx

Melodie and I were lucky enough to go through a separation period very early in our relationship.

We were very much in love from about a month into our relationship and we weren't too sure how we'd make it work, or if it would even work in the first place. She was from California, I was from Sydney. We met while we were both working on a Holland-America Cruise Line.

I was transferred to another ship half way through my contract which mean we had an involuntary seperation. It caught us off guard as we thought we still had AT LEAST 3 months together.

I handled it quite well, due to the fact that I was on a new ship, meeting new people and going to new ports of call. However, Melodie became very ill, couldn't eat and couldn't sing. Over the next couple of months, I would receive phone calls, emails and letters from her claiming with every inch of her being of how much she loved me. There would also be the odd indirect question about whether or not I was being faithful. I thought she was overreacting and kept telling her to calm down.

This time, the tables have turned. Initially, we had decided to stay in Australia. At the last minute, after hours, nights and days of discussing our options together, we decided that we would prefer to live in the States for her musical theater opportunities. We packed her bags and had her on a flight within 4 days of making the decision! Such a quick turn around.

Now, it's me, claiming with ever inch of my being, how badly I love and miss her. And, yes, I questioned her being faithful. I was confused as to why she wasn't doing the same back to me. Then, only last night, I remembered about our first separation.

You see, when 2 people are together, everything is perfect. You wake up to the person you love, you talk/eat/live with that one person. Once it comes for that person to leave, you're stuck in the same position, only, you're missing the most important thing to you. Your S/O. You're still living in the same house, going to the same job, hanging out with the same people. You've lost your S/O in the physical sense.

However, for the one that leaves to another country, they are going back to family, old friends, looking for new jobs etc etc etc. They have so much to keep them busy and distracted, whereas we have nothing.

So, if any of you are worried in any way, shape or form, and you hadn't thought of this, then I hope this helps!

What has helped me was moving home, meeting new friends so on and so forth.

Good luck my fellow depressed-members and remember... Your husband/wife loves you dearly, and wouldn't be going through this process if they didn't. They have a lot on their plate to keep them going. You need to do the same, otherwise it can be detrimental on your mental health, as well as your partner's emotional feelings. Don't let this petty process get in the middle of what really matters- you and your significant other!!!

Morning all,

Im so depressed today, missing my hsuband ever so much today. I hate being alone. Coming home to a empty house, eating alone, and the weekends are the worst. Even though we are so close, it seems still so far. The waiting, and waiting gets to you so very often, seems hopeless. Even venting dont help anymore. I just want to see my hubby.

[mrsemcee 1]

hey paris,

yeah the closer we get, it gets so much harder huh? well i think so anyway. i was just talking to my husband on the phone, as usual, and i felt so sad and frustrated.. but somehow he keeps his spirits up most of the time. its times when he is down too that hurt the most koz i dont know how to make it better.

i was all ok, then the bloody IV bill wouldnt process for him, and it turns out his mother, who is paying it for us, was asking him to print EVERY screen on the fricken thing, even before payment, so it was timing out every time, and i told him to tell her she doesnt need to do that, only needs the receipt at the end but nooooo she wanted to print every screen so i had a bit of a yelling match down the phone with him koz shiiittt its one thing, you know? one thing, and she somehow likes to make every part of the process longer than it should be.

dont get me wrong im sooo grateful for the financial help but if it means my husband is always going to be under her thumb, even at age 36, GOD HELP ME!

ugh. lucky im strong and once i get there, that will STOP. she knows it too from when i was last there. i think sometimes she is sick and twisted and enjoys the bloody games....

sorry for all the bloody's.. its an aussie thing hahahaha

[Beth/ Paris Heart 2]

• hey paris,

  yeah the closer we get, it gets so much harder huh? well i think so anyway. i was just talking to my husband on the phone, as usual, and i felt so sad and frustrated.. but somehow he keeps his spirits up most of the time. its times when he is down too that hurt the most koz i dont know how to make it better.

  i was all ok, then the bloody IV bill wouldnt process for him, and it turns out his mother, who is paying it for us, was asking him to print EVERY screen on the fricken thing, even before payment, so it was timing out every time, and i told him to tell her she doesnt need to do that, only needs the receipt at the end but nooooo she wanted to print every screen so i had a bit of a yelling match down the phone with him koz shiiittt its one thing, you know? one thing, and she somehow likes to make every part of the process longer than it should be.

  dont get me wrong im sooo grateful for the financial help but if it means my husband is always going to be under her thumb, even at age 36, GOD HELP ME!

  ugh. lucky im strong and once i get there, that will STOP. she knows it too from when i was last there. i think sometimes she is sick and twisted and enjoys the bloody games....

  sorry for all the bloody's.. its an aussie thing hahahaha

  Hi Donna,

• No problem with the 'bloodys" my husband says it a lot, the Algerian, living in France, married to the Texan, well Im a California girl transplant actually who lived all over, "Marine military brat" LOL
• Also understand the Under the thum thing, down fall of my former marriage, YEAP........ anyways.
• One day we will have a good laugh over this journey, and God please let it come soon........... for now Dumpling we take it day by day, and nervous break-down- day by day!!! PERSONAL TIP: Keep bottle of wine in frig while on this journey
• Big hugs!!!

[mrsemcee 1]

hahahah i prefer scotch

probably got that from my sailor grandfather

ugggggh.. i guess the thing is, when i AM there, he is so not under the thumb, but when im not.. he is.

it shits me to no end.. you get it

x