How can a person jump from one person to another???

[baron555 934]

It's perfectly understandable. Since they were being cheated on, they obviously didn't have a solid relationship. So, there is no grieving over something that was never there in the first place.

And they aren't getting any younger.

Now, maybe the reason they didn't have a solid relationship to begin with, may have nothing to do with the other person. Just speculating.

[SSB 0]

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

In what way is it unfair to you?

I mean, you may not approve of what other people do in their personal lives but how can this possibly affect you? Live your own life, and give others the space to do their own thing.

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

They do. And as eeewwwy, stupid, etc that it might be it is none of my business, really.

As far as it being unfair, I fail to see why.

well it slows down the process for others who are in a real realtionship. I don't care of they jump to 6 different people if they want.... why bring them to the USA why not stay in the other country if all they are doing is looking for people online to fall in love with???

this is a public forum and just sharing my 2 cents if you don't like it don't don't reply to me thanks

Edited October 2, 2009 by SSB

[MIDUVIL 34]

hi,

Some people look for love and marriage, others look for green cards- if one feels love (even he is living in a false world) and the other side is ready to offer attentions, services, smiles- who cares? they are all satisfied. Who cares about the difference of age? the number of miles, the family separation... Not them.

And they can live long years together, if there are some respect .... and are ready to do efforts (because I saw that some foreigners are really ready to do efforts because they ''love their husband''.

If some can always say (''I love my husband") like to tell (''me, I love my husband '') TOO MUCH, even if you can think that is false- who can judge?

(I won't tell you from who I always read this sentences, they often tell it but I have to tell also that they seem to be so so kind and polite- (they said ''I love my husband'' hehehehe).

[Peikko 1,575]

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

In what way is it unfair to you?

I mean, you may not approve of what other people do in their personal lives but how can this possibly affect you? Live your own life, and give others the space to do their own thing.

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

They do. And as eeewwwy, stupid, etc that it might be it is none of my business, really.

As far as it being unfair, I fail to see why.

well it slows down the process for others who are in a real realtionship. I don't care of they jump to 6 different people if they want.... why bring them to the USA why not stay in the other country if all they are doing is looking for people online to fall in love with???

this is a public forum and just sharing my 2 cents if you don't like it don't don't reply to me thanks

No, it doesn't slow anything down. If you were to be scrutinized to establish exactly how 'real' your relationship is - that would slow down the process. The fact is that these people are allowed to have whatever rules of relationship engagement they choose so long as they conform with, yep, you guessed it USICS rules as they stand. I really don't think you would want them updated that really would make the immigration process looooooooooooooooooong.

[Chica Yeyé 41]

well it slows down the process for others who are in a real realtionship. I don't care of they jump to 6 different people if they want.... why bring them to the USA why not stay in the other country if all they are doing is looking for people online to fall in love with???

this is a public forum and just sharing my 2 cents if you don't like it don't don't reply to me thanks

It does not slow anything for anyone. That is just not true. Why people look for spouses is really not of your business, or mine. Being judgmental is not a sexy trait.

And if you don't like people replying with their own opinions, don't post. Not everyone will agree with you, or with me.

[SSB 0]

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

In what way is it unfair to you?

I mean, you may not approve of what other people do in their personal lives but how can this possibly affect you? Live your own life, and give others the space to do their own thing.

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

They do. And as eeewwwy, stupid, etc that it might be it is none of my business, really.

As far as it being unfair, I fail to see why.

well it slows down the process for others who are in a real realtionship. I don't care of they jump to 6 different people if they want.... why bring them to the USA why not stay in the other country if all they are doing is looking for people online to fall in love with???

this is a public forum and just sharing my 2 cents if you don't like it don't don't reply to me thanks

No, it doesn't slow anything down. If you were to be scrutinized to establish exactly how 'real' your relationship is - that would slow down the process. The fact is that these people are allowed to have whatever rules of relationship engagement they choose so long as they conform with, yep, you guessed it USICS rules as they stand. I really don't think you would want them updated that really would make the immigration process looooooooooooooooooong.

I know a person who filed for 3 different people and his cases were all approved before mine... mine took 8 months and that is only because I invloved a senator and a congressman.

I am just saying it not fair.... maybe the USCIS is at fault

[scandal 951]

well it slows down the process for others who are in a real realtionship. I don't care of they jump to 6 different people if they want.... why bring them to the USA why not stay in the other country if all they are doing is looking for people online to fall in love with???

this is a public forum and just sharing my 2 cents if you don't like it don't don't reply to me thanks

It does not slow anything for anyone. That is just not true. Why people look for spouses is really not of your business, or mine. Being judgmental is not a sexy trait.

And if you don't like people replying with their own opinions, don't post. Not everyone will agree with you, or with me.

Yah, what she said!

I know a person who filed for 3 different people and his cases were all approved before mine... mine took 8 months and that is only because I invloved a senator and a congressman.

I am just saying it not fair.... maybe the USCIS is at fault

My case took 10 months from I-129F filing until POE. With nothing amiss in our paperwork, no RFEs.

We did have a long AP @NVC. The system is what it is. I don't blame other filers for the system. How is it their fault?

[Peikko 1,575]

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

In what way is it unfair to you?

I mean, you may not approve of what other people do in their personal lives but how can this possibly affect you? Live your own life, and give others the space to do their own thing.

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

They do. And as eeewwwy, stupid, etc that it might be it is none of my business, really.

As far as it being unfair, I fail to see why.

well it slows down the process for others who are in a real realtionship. I don't care of they jump to 6 different people if they want.... why bring them to the USA why not stay in the other country if all they are doing is looking for people online to fall in love with???

this is a public forum and just sharing my 2 cents if you don't like it don't don't reply to me thanks

No, it doesn't slow anything down. If you were to be scrutinized to establish exactly how 'real' your relationship is - that would slow down the process. The fact is that these people are allowed to have whatever rules of relationship engagement they choose so long as they conform with, yep, you guessed it USICS rules as they stand. I really don't think you would want them updated that really would make the immigration process looooooooooooooooooong.

I know a person who filed for 3 different people and his cases were all approved before mine... mine took 8 months and that is only because I invloved a senator and a congressman.

I am just saying it not fair.... maybe the USCIS is at fault

Well fair, that's a good question. It is fair but that fairness is rationalized by using proportional response to given trends in visa abuse. In other words, yes getting a gc takes longer if you come from some parts of the world as apposed to other parts of the world. Your name may trigger a name check also (which I would imagine is not so much unfair as indiscriminate). The fact is the same rules are used to scrutinize the validity of your relationship as are used to scrutinize every other relationship. Oh, and I simply do not believe that anyone got three different fiances approved in less than 8 months.

Edited October 2, 2009 by Madame Cleo

[SuperDuper! 230]

How can people jump from one person start the immigration process then find out they are being cheated on and then jump to another person and try to start the immigration process again???

It's unfair to the ones who have a real relationship with our sig other....

You will find the answer already covered in the thread you already participated in.

http://www.visajourney.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=221177

[bhajishah 4]

thats what the neediness of naricissistic personality disordeer and borderline personality disorder affects a person..ITS ALL ABOUT THEM and thier needs. who cares what others think feel or do.. and what in the hell does real love have to do with it!!! Just get me a pretty young thing so i can looki and fel like a man!!!

[HYENA 4]

THere's nothing wrong with getting a new fridge or a wife soon as you can; people pay good money for both!

[SuperDuper! 230]

I made that exact point in another topic today. I don't understand how some people treat finding a spouse like going "shopping".

After a relationship fails, there should be a grieving period and time to get to know yourself and try to figure out what went wrong and how to keep it from happening again. Then, once the healing has happened, you can consider the option of a new relationship.

It's not like when a fridge breaks down, you head out to the store to find a "replacement".

And I thought you got some very definitive answers in that thread. So tell us what your conclusion is. We would love to know where the truth lies.

[Brit Abroad 166]

Guess every one of us is different. We feel emotions differently. As my best friend once said .. if the worst thing that's ever happened to someone is that Daddy won't give them the keys to his Rolls Royce, then it's still the worst thing that's happened to that person, and the scale by which they measure other events in their lives.

Some people grasp life eagerly with both hands and run with it. Others let life shake them around and accept it. We're all different, we make different choices. Some people just want SOMEONE in their life. When it doesn't work out with the one they're currently with, they look for someone else to be their beacon of hope. Just be glad you have found the person of your dreams and the feelings are mutual.

Try not to judge, because I'm sure we've all got our foibles lurking in the darkness.

[NickD 202]

For some people, it has nothing to do with falling in love, finding your soulmate, or even shopping around for a better piece of meat.

It deals with missing the security and guidance offered by the USCIS that they dreadfully miss. Here you have very professional and knowledgeable people of the highest standings guiding you with prudence on what you can or cannot do.

I kind of miss that guidance and understanding myself, don't you? The excitement of walking out to your mailbox waiting for a letter is all gone. Hell, now, it's just bills and unsolicited #######. The suspense of not knowing whether your spouse will be here tomorrow is also gone, could be he/she would be deported the next day due to some hangup, so you make the best of that day.

All we have left now is memories of how the USCIS kept us apart for months while they played around, but at least, that is something to hang unto.

Dealing with the USCIS in some aspects was a game to see if you could outwit them, but you need an IQ of at least two to do that. So you study and read all the regulations and have fun trying to figure out which idiot wrote those.

Guess some people just miss dealing with the USCIS and want to go through all again and maybe even again. Also some people also starve or beat themselves to death to keep them purified.

Anyone here miss dealing with the USCIS?

If I met a gal and kept on looking, just kept on looking. Should be angry at my gal, she stole my heart, and when she had to go back, left a big painful hole in my chest. Kind of view the USCIS in that respect, but also kind of miss their guidance and have renewed faith in our government looking out after me. Like sh!t!

[S and S 12]

For some people, it has nothing to do with falling in love, finding your soulmate, or even shopping around for a better piece of meat.

It deals with missing the security and guidance offered by the USCIS that they dreadfully miss. Here you have very professional and knowledgeable people of the highest standings guiding you with prudence on what you can or cannot do.

I kind of miss that guidance and understanding myself, don't you? The excitement of walking out to your mailbox waiting for a letter is all gone. Hell, now, it's just bills and unsolicited #######. The suspense of not knowing whether your spouse will be here tomorrow is also gone, could be he/she would be deported the next day due to some hangup, so you make the best of that day.

All we have left now is memories of how the USCIS kept us apart for months while they played around, but at least, that is something to hang unto.

Dealing with the USCIS in some aspects was a game to see if you could outwit them, but you need an IQ of at least two to do that. So you study and read all the regulations and have fun trying to figure out which idiot wrote those.

Guess some people just miss dealing with the USCIS and want to go through all again and maybe even again. Also some people also starve or beat themselves to death to keep them purified.

Anyone here miss dealing with the USCIS?

If I met a gal and kept on looking, just kept on looking. Should be angry at my gal, she stole my heart, and when she had to go back, left a big painful hole in my chest. Kind of view the USCIS in that respect, but also kind of miss their guidance and have renewed faith in our government looking out after me. Like sh!t!