She Reject my Visa

[^KK^ 3]

sorry to hear this...

[Donna A 4]

im sorry for what happened. my advise would not to hurry up and find someone new (unless she is here in the usa) overseas as it could cause a red flag later. u know questions like, u cancelled this k-1 and here it is a month later ur filing a new one for someone else. so waiting a little bit might be a good idea even though you dont have too.

[DouglasFiel 53]

The IMBRA waiver would be more difficult to get if she actually made it to the USA and then you did not marry... That would raise more concern that

you are exploiting the girl. in your case,,, should not be any problems.

Regards,

[Rosie and David 1]

Don't think for a minute that she can rub your nose it anything.

The answer is yes with a Waiver for you to petition someone.

my hope is that it will take the two years for find care for and learn about the new someone.

As for your OLD GIRLFRIEND guess what one to the quesitons they may ask and have asked before is:

Has someone ever Petitioned in your behalf before!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If they DO she will be SHOCKED and Surprised .... hehehe will she have an answer or speechless??

Rosie and David

[thepizzadude 26]

Hello every one, This would be Tom without Judy on this post. I have sad news,

Judy has decided not to go to the interview. This comes as a shock to me, but to some of you saw this coming.

Her reason is simple, One of her past boyfriends came back. And to keep it short. Money was involved.

She still wants to be friends. I still do talk to her.

But she is telling me now that I have to wait 2 years before I can file another Petition for someone else.

And for her it's 6 months for someone to file a petition on her behalf......IS THIS TRUE?

My orignal posts were under the name of Hoping2..

Tom

I would like to add: She was using the 2 year wait period to rub in my face, that all she had to wait was 6 months.

And this other relationship with her past boyfriend had been going on since last June. Hiding it from me. I also was sending her money to help with her support all this time.

I have not cancelled the petition for her as I still have hope for her. But now after finding out about her past boyfriend.

I think it is best to cancel the petiton. But she is still trying to hang onto me. Maybe in case her past boyfriend doesn't show..

I feel used over this and will be more cautious in the future.

Well I am sorry to hear about your troubles, but if you wanna be vindictive. Do NOT cancel the petition let it die its own natural death and NOBODY can file for here for a long period of time

[SuperDuper! 230]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you.

But, the problem I have with these kinds of posts (and there are MANY) is that you you are already worried about whether (and when) you can apply for a different person.

What ever happened to giving some time to getting past the current relationship and then when you're ready, getting involved with someone else? And WHY would you not try to meet someone in your own country to make things simpler on everyone?

I realize everyone here on VJ has married (or plans to marry) someone from a foreign country (including myself), but I certainly didn't plan it that way. I would much rather have met and married someone in my home country of Canada, but when I met my husband online, it was not a planned thing.

I just don't get it!!!

RAYnman,

Please don't be shocked or surprised about someone who gets "Jilted at the Embassy." Just know that it really sucks and hurts like hell.

One of the ways for a man to remedy the pain and loss of time and money invested, is to just move on and search online again for another woman. With foreign brides, it is much easier to do this and find the right one, than it is with american women.

Right away, then, the concern is about the USCIS immigration rules, whether or not a man will be able to petition another bride, file an IMBRA waiver, have a waiting period, etc. So if these feelings are foreign to you, then I am glad you did not have to experience them. Just know that some people do, and move right away to find another bride in search of the peace, love and happiness that we all desire.

To the OP: You don't have to wait a predetermined length of time to file another petition, or even file an IMBRA waiver. What you do is write a (short) explanation, one page or less, of exactly what happened and why your previous petition was not used, what she did, and that you are withdrawing your affidavit of support. SSend copies of the letter to the USCIS, NVC and USEM. And include the letter in your next visa petition with the language that you wish this letter of explanation TO BE CONSTRUED as a request for IMBRA waiver if such a waiver is necessary.

Sorry that she flaked out on you, dude. You are in good company. It happens to the best of us.

[SSB 0]

Well I am sorry to hear about your troubles, but if you wanna be vindictive. Do NOT cancel the petition let it die its own natural death and NOBODY can file for here for a long period of time

I like your thinking!!!!

[Gerjoel 0]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you.

But, the problem I have with these kinds of posts (and there are MANY) is that you you are already worried about whether (and when) you can apply for a different person.

What ever happened to giving some time to getting past the current relationship and then when you're ready, getting involved with someone else? And WHY would you not try to meet someone in your own country to make things simpler on everyone?

I realize everyone here on VJ has married (or plans to marry) someone from a foreign country (including myself), but I certainly didn't plan it that way. I would much rather have met and married someone in my home country of Canada, but when I met my husband online, it was not a planned thing.

I just don't get it!!!

wow thats a very good point!! yes you dont deserve her and yes..kinda to early to think about a replacement if in fact the relationship was genuine to begin with.

[SuperDuper! 230]

Well I am sorry to hear about your troubles, but if you wanna be vindictive. Do NOT cancel the petition let it die its own natural death and NOBODY can file for here for a long period of time

I like your thinking!!!!

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Sorry, but this thinking is an irrational position and not based in fact. You can't "cancel" a petition once it has been approved by the USCIS. You can withdraw your affidavit of support and give the USCIS info on any misleading or deceit on behalf of your beneficiary. That way, she will have questions to answer at her next embassy interview.

It is important for the petitioner to notify in writing the USCIS, NVC, USEM of exactly what happened so the man's slate is cleared in case he wants to file another petition. You don't just do nothing and end up screwing yourself.

[Dakine 26]

You can withdraw your affidavit of support

USEM never got the affidavit o fsupport as ske didn't have a interview.

I cancelled my first petition.

[SSB 0]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you.

But, the problem I have with these kinds of posts (and there are MANY) is that you you are already worried about whether (and when) you can apply for a different person.

What ever happened to giving some time to getting past the current relationship and then when you're ready, getting involved with someone else? And WHY would you not try to meet someone in your own country to make things simpler on everyone?

I realize everyone here on VJ has married (or plans to marry) someone from a foreign country (including myself), but I certainly didn't plan it that way. I would much rather have met and married someone in my home country of Canada, but when I met my husband online, it was not a planned thing.

I just don't get it!!!

RAYnman,

Please don't be shocked or surprised about someone who gets "Jilted at the Embassy." Just know that it really sucks and hurts like hell.

One of the ways for a man to remedy the pain and loss of time and money invested, is to just move on and search online again for another woman. With foreign brides, it is much easier to do this and find the right one, than it is with american women.

Right away, then, the concern is about the USCIS immigration rules, whether or not a man will be able to petition another bride, file an IMBRA waiver, have a waiting period, etc. So if these feelings are foreign to you, then I am glad you did not have to experience them. Just know that some people do, and move right away to find another bride in search of the peace, love and happiness that we all desire.

To the OP: You don't have to wait a predetermined length of time to file another petition, or even file an IMBRA waiver. What you do is write a (short) explanation, one page or less, of exactly what happened and why your previous petition was not used, what she did, and that you are withdrawing your affidavit of support. SSend copies of the letter to the USCIS, NVC and USEM. And include the letter in your next visa petition with the language that you wish this letter of explanation TO BE CONSTRUED as a request for IMBRA waiver if such a waiver is necessary.

Sorry that she flaked out on you, dude. You are in good company. It happens to the best of us.

GOOD ADVICE RIGHT THERE.....

[ChuckandRhean 0]

Hello every one, This would be Tom without Judy on this post. I have sad news,

Judy has decided not to go to the interview. This comes as a shock to me, but to some of you saw this coming.

Her reason is simple, One of her past boyfriends came back. And to keep it short. Money was involved.

She still wants to be friends. I still do talk to her.

But she is telling me now that I have to wait 2 years before I can file another Petition for someone else.

And for her it's 6 months for someone to file a petition on her behalf......IS THIS TRUE?

My orignal posts were under the name of Hoping2..

Tom

Obviously,after reading ur succeeding reply posts, I could tell that both of you(Tom and Judith) arent decided yet what u really want out of life,as of presstime(half-hearted hanging on to each other ). The girl cannot possibly have the best of both worlds,not two guys same time...oops!Tom ,its sad to note but, infidelity came into place in your relationship right before you knew it. Moving on is your best option.Technically,I agree to Itzallgood.Put everything into writing and let the proper authorities(USCIS,NVC,USEmbassy) know bout your case.

[Mountain Climber 186]

Hello every one, This would be Tom without Judy on this post. I have sad news,

Judy has decided not to go to the interview. This comes as a shock to me, but to some of you saw this coming.

Her reason is simple, One of her past boyfriends came back. And to keep it short. Money was involved.

She still wants to be friends. I still do talk to her.

But she is telling me now that I have to wait 2 years before I can file another Petition for someone else.

And for her it's 6 months for someone to file a petition on her behalf......IS THIS TRUE?

My orignal posts were under the name of Hoping2..

Tom

I would like to add: She was using the 2 year wait period to rub in my face, that all she had to wait was 6 months.

And this other relationship with her past boyfriend had been going on since last June. Hiding it from me. I also was sending her money to help with her support all this time.

I have not cancelled the petition for her as I still have hope for her. But now after finding out about her past boyfriend.

I think it is best to cancel the petiton. But she is still trying to hang onto me. Maybe in case her past boyfriend doesn't show..

I feel used over this and will be more cautious in the future.

Tom, you seen to be taken in by a heartless individual who used you horribly. Happens every day, between foreign spouses, same country spouses, same sex spouses....and so on. Dont be sucked back in by her, for goodness sake. She sounds very manipulative , and luckily for you...uniformed about the rules.

Good luck, take time to heal.....get yourself out there and have some fun...you deserve it.

Sorry to hear about your problem but I think I would run, not walk away from this woman. Good luck in moving on with your life. There is definitely someone better out there for you to spend the rest of your life with.

Edited October 2, 2009 by Mountain Climber

[Jasman0717 9]

Sounds like this is the person you would want to stay away from

[Gary and Alla 3,694]

Hello every one, This would be Tom without Judy on this post. I have sad news,

Judy has decided not to go to the interview. This comes as a shock to me, but to some of you saw this coming.

Her reason is simple, One of her past boyfriends came back. And to keep it short. Money was involved.

She still wants to be friends. I still do talk to her.

But she is telling me now that I have to wait 2 years before I can file another Petition for someone else.

And for her it's 6 months for someone to file a petition on her behalf......IS THIS TRUE?

My orignal posts were under the name of Hoping2..

Tom

And you take immigration advice from her?

No, you can file a new petition for another woman tomorrow, even today! If you do so within 2 years of this last one, you need to apply for a waiver, which typically are granted. There is no limit on her. If anything, SHE will have a more difficult time getting a VISA than any new fiancee of yours.

As a consolation gift for yourself, buy a plane ticket to Kiev, Ukraine.

Edited October 2, 2009 by Gary and Alla