My husband wants to divorce me but he is the one who is having an affair. What is my chances if I have a CR1 visa?

[maybelle 0]

Thanks bertie. What upsets me most is she's even a filipina. Anyway thanks so much for the support.

Upset? poor decision? Do you know what is sacrifice means? My mom has to-because I have to follow where my husband is based. I cannot just throw the blanme on my mom on a decision that I made for my life. This is my mistake that is why I am seeking advice & honestly I have no more room for blame now.I have enough already.Because If i want to.. I have lots of people to blame but i chose to stay in the problem and find for solutions. Sorry but i'm just pissed off with your comment. And even a 3 year old kid know that canada and USA are 2 different countries...

thank you so much but if I go home i'm afraid I will banned to come back here in the US. And One thing more my family is in canada, before my approval for my visa to US my mom cancelled her petition for me to go there so there wont be any conflict in my US visa application before.

Major mistake on you mothers part.

You should also be upset with her for making such a poor decision.

Canada and USA are 2 different countries.........

You have to ignore THAT one...he likes to stir things up and upset people just as he has upset you. I hope you can forget his immature comments. You show more maturity than some on here...and I wish only the best for you.

[Ban Hammer 13,458]

Hi... hope u feel okey. hay naku wag mo pansinin yang naga advise sa iyo ng walang kwenta..

kaya ka nag post d2 para mag give ng advice d yung mag insulto..

tallcoolone? well..ganon talaga sya mag post.. i remember doon sa isang post din,, d maganda ang comment nya..

hindi ko rin ang gusto.. to be honest.. ignore him... listen to those people who is concern to you...

why he blame your mother? for what?

that is your choice right?

As if he really knows what is the real..

good luck girl.. god bless u cheer up..

happy sunday..

english only outside the regional forums please.

op - tallcoolone is a guy, usc.

[maybelle 0]

just an update:

I finally told my husband's parents what he plans to do after 2 years, that he wanted to divorce me. But as I expected it they took the side of their son, They even told me why wait for 2 years, they encourage their son to divorce me now and deport me to the philippines. And the parents started talking trash on me that was sunday night they wanted me out of the house already. I was really crying, because I cannot take anymore what they telling me. They became so rude. They hate me because I was accusing their son without any proof? #######! what proof they need? its their son who admited it, the only problem is he doesn't want to admit it to his parents. I went to a catholic immiigrant center yesterday to have an advice & counseling. They advice me to file for VAWA coz obviously what happened to me is already a domestic abuse. Not only my husband but from my inlaws. Right now i'm scheduled for a psychology doctor to document the domestic abuse.

We are planning to move out in my inlaw's place now because I cannot live with them anymore especially how they are treating after the fight. I dont feel any love anymore, and I could always hear them talking trash about me. It is even harder now, he is planning again to go home to philippines to visit the girl again. that's why he wanted to move out,so his parents wouldn't know. he is using me to get away from his parents. I know it will be harder for me but I cannot tolerate my inlaws anymore. Their son is enough to give me heart illness already. And maybe a good opportunity for me to have a lease together to prove in the future that we are married in good faith. Coz he never carried me to his tax, insurance & bank accounts. I guess he has someone advising him to.

[Rings 10]

I am so sorry about your situation. It really makes me sad. Please try to get any evidence that your relationship was entered in good faith. You will need anything you can get *hugs* we are here with you.

[Old Dominion 26]

just an update:

I finally told my husband's parents what he plans to do after 2 years, that he wanted to divorce me. But as I expected it they took the side of their son, They even told me why wait for 2 years, they encourage their son to divorce me now and deport me to the philippines. And the parents started talking trash on me that was sunday night they wanted me out of the house already. I was really crying, because I cannot take anymore what they telling me. They became so rude. They hate me because I was accusing their son without any proof? #######! what proof they need? its their son who admited it, the only problem is he doesn't want to admit it to his parents. I went to a catholic immiigrant center yesterday to have an advice & counseling. They advice me to file for VAWA coz obviously what happened to me is already a domestic abuse. Not only my husband but from my inlaws. Right now i'm scheduled for a psychology doctor to document the domestic abuse.

We are planning to move out in my inlaw's place now because I cannot live with them anymore especially how they are treating after the fight. I dont feel any love anymore, and I could always hear them talking trash about me. It is even harder now, he is planning again to go home to philippines to visit the girl again. that's why he wanted to move out,so his parents wouldn't know. he is using me to get away from his parents. I know it will be harder for me but I cannot tolerate my inlaws anymore. Their son is enough to give me heart illness already. And maybe a good opportunity for me to have a lease together to prove in the future that we are married in good faith. Coz he never carried me to his tax, insurance & bank accounts. I guess he has someone advising him to.

Hi Maybelle -- glad you went to get advice! You deserve better in life, and you'll have it. It's sad this is happening, but you can only pray for him that one day he will grow up.

[DEDixon 39]

If all that you say is true (you are a newbie and this is your first post so who really knows) then you should do whatever you can to document very very very well the vacation your husband took, document the phone calls in every way possible and if you can or you can get someone to help you, put a keystroke recorder on the PC you use at home so you'll know exactly what he is saying to the other girl. A keystroke recorder - if you don't know what it is, look it up on the net.

If you document all this, it shows he didn't enter the marriage in good faith, but you did.

Be quiet, don't nag, be sweet and start collecting information. You could need it later to prove your case.

Oh and please be careful not to get pregnant - a baby from this marriage will be a baby without a father.

[loveaboo 0]

If all that you say is true (you are a newbie and this is your first post so who really knows) then you should do whatever you can to document very very very well the vacation your husband took, document the phone calls in every way possible and if you can or you can get someone to help you, put a keystroke recorder on the PC you use at home so you'll know exactly what he is saying to the other girl. A keystroke recorder - if you don't know what it is, look it up on the net.

If you document all this, it shows he didn't enter the marriage in good faith, but you did.

Be quiet, don't nag, be sweet and start collecting information. You could need it later to prove your case.

Oh and please be careful not to get pregnant - a baby from this marriage will be a baby without a father.

Sorry for the delayed reaction...

Maybelle, I feel sorry you are experiencing that.

I agree with DEDixon's post above. I also think that the sooner you'll be able to get out of that relationship, the sooner you'll be able to move on with your life, the better.

Goodluck to you!!! I hope everything works out for the best.

[Pinay Wife 47]

Maybelle, you are beautiful. His loss, not yours. You deserve someone who will treat you better.

Hugs to you

Edited October 14, 2009 by Pinay Wife

[gennyangel 3]

just an update:

I finally told my husband's parents what he plans to do after 2 years, that he wanted to divorce me. But as I expected it they took the side of their son, They even told me why wait for 2 years, they encourage their son to divorce me now and deport me to the philippines. And the parents started talking trash on me that was sunday night they wanted me out of the house already. I was really crying, because I cannot take anymore what they telling me. They became so rude. They hate me because I was accusing their son without any proof? #######! what proof they need? its their son who admited it, the only problem is he doesn't want to admit it to his parents. I went to a catholic immiigrant center yesterday to have an advice & counseling. They advice me to file for VAWA coz obviously what happened to me is already a domestic abuse. Not only my husband but from my inlaws. Right now i'm scheduled for a psychology doctor to document the domestic abuse.

We are planning to move out in my inlaw's place now because I cannot live with them anymore especially how they are treating after the fight. I dont feel any love anymore, and I could always hear them talking trash about me. It is even harder now, he is planning again to go home to philippines to visit the girl again. that's why he wanted to move out,so his parents wouldn't know. he is using me to get away from his parents. I know it will be harder for me but I cannot tolerate my inlaws anymore. Their son is enough to give me heart illness already. And maybe a good opportunity for me to have a lease together to prove in the future that we are married in good faith. Coz he never carried me to his tax, insurance & bank accounts. I guess he has someone advising him to.

time to gather your strength and take the advice of DEdixons. 2 years is short. To live in a house with people against you is really hard. Go with the plan of moving out at least it lessens your burdens ( i hope) and the only thing you have to go through is your husband.

Wish i could meet you sometimes when you are available.

[maybelle 0]

I don't know dear, coz if I am, why am I not enough for him.

Maybelle, you are beautiful. His loss, not yours. You deserve someone who will treat you better.

Hugs to you

[JANETandLYLE 11]

Not to sound negative, but apparently he is a player. No one will ever be enough for a player. He wants more than one and apparently is not ready for any comittment to any lady.

[loveamerica 0]

sorry to hear this

[Scott and Mhay 57]

It's good that you got advice from places that can actually help you with legal laws. There are many programs out there to help people in your situation with little or no cost to you since your job probably doesnt pay a lot.

sorry to hear this....but yes they are right...even verbally...it is domestic abuse. As long as all this is documented like you are doing now, you wont get deported because you are being abused. You are on the right track now. Hang in there, things will get better.

[beth 4]

My advise. Call the hotline for Abuse Women and Children and if you can pack your things and go to Domestic violence shelter. Or if you cant leave just ask about counseling. This is my first step when my ex has an affair and he was very mean to me. Even his family treat me like an alien.

When I filed my I-751 I attached Certification from the shelter and this helps me alot specially for the divorce. the domestic advocates will get you a free lawyer. Now I got my justice. Never spent even single cent on my application for removing condition and divorce and I got child support and alimony too.

[beth 4]

check this number : 1800-799-7233 or 1800-787-3224

u can ask help anytime. the advocate will connect you to the nearest domestic abuse shelter.

I remember that time I didn't have any money or car so the shelter sent a taxi and police officer to escort me. I know the feeling girl. I been on that situation and its not easy. Be strong, you are in USA. Law here are strong against abuse. I am not physically abused I didn't have any police call or record of abuse but I still won my case.

Be encouraged, If you will go to the shelter, they will provide u with everything u need for 3 months. Just ask any help you can get.

Send me a message if you have question. I am happy to help.

I am in Florida and here adultery is not a ground for divorce. I didn't have any lawyer too because public attorneys office says my case is not priority because I am not physically abuse. But i represented myself and WIN. All you need is your story and supporting documents. Now, If your planning to scape make sure you gather all the documents. Hide it in a safe place. Because that will be your strong evidence ok.