what you gonna do if something happen like this....

[enfm 0]

ok i been searching a lots for what the best answer and what supposed to be happen....

I m having a problem to my mother she is 67 years old she came from here in u.s as tourist visa i thing B2 when she got here she decided not to go back in our country which is philippines due to having financial problem and her sister's and bro. my mother was 9 years over staying and she entered 2000 or 2001. and she work illegal from the senior citizen. no paying taxes and everything and i had plenty relatives here in ca. and i came here through fiance visa and now i am going to for my citizenship on oct.

the thing is my mother had favorite daughter she was in other country and the rest of my sister and brother was in P.I they had family already and all things. to tell honestly were not understanding between me and my mother bec. all of thing are different she just always comparing me to my cousins,sister the one shes favorite, and others she talked alots for not telling the truth specially to my relatives and my sisters and bro's...one time my aunt from san jose ca they got a reunion over there and my aunt tell one from my relatives that my mother is a trouble maker which is right i dont blamed my self bec. we notice that me and my sisters & bro's she want to make a trouble for telling not the truth for one of us and were hurting our self and unti not talking each other. just bec. of my mother and were just disagreed for everything specially when we talk about something else personal. bec. it was wrong she just existing right and be comparing and helping for my sisters and brother s for not fair like helping one of my bro and one of my sister in p.i they getting jelous. i dont accept to my self this is only for jelousy how they treats for my other siblings since i m here now in u.s i dont thing about the thing to get jelous bec i know everything u can have it if u can struggle to ur self & be faithful to ur self. i just want to dont ever compare me and it make me hurt for all times. i was so depressed and sometimes confused for everything. and i know the reason why im here just bec. of her to get her legalized here. and the thing is since she still my mother i dont want to get loose for everything to her but sometimes its over. i was so confused she dont want to leave the country she dont want it..... she want to stay until she got her legalized doc. since that old not supposed to worked here in this country but asian culture it doesnt matter.

to tell honesty i want her to send it back in p.i because of her age and i think thats the good thing too for not working anymore bec. she sick it alots of pain she feel she just pretending that she strong. even u tell dont do that dont do this for your own risk and she just ignore and no care. even my relatives is there to help but not everyday not all the times i wonder if something really really bad happen i dont know what i m gonna do.

i dont know how i can start i dont want my relatives think that just bec. of her deported it was me she just plan that after my citizenship is to get the lawyer to make settle everything her papers and stay longer here...

i dont know what supposed to be i can do to her. i want something happen that other cant tell that my mother no longer stay here bec. of her status i want something lawyer can tell to her. but since i think she qualified for something else i can still petition her even over staying parents and make changes status of her. i dont know if i m wrong.

idont know. please help me about this problem

i really appreciate all the advice and thank you so much,

[Dakine 26]

If mom has family that will take care of her in her older years to me it's MUCH better if she is in the Philippines. Way to expensive here in the US to take care of older peeps.

[meowmeowmeow 1]

she should go back to the philippines

[enfm 0]

If mom has family that will take care of her in her older years to me it's MUCH better if she is in the Philippines. Way to expensive here in the US to take care of older peeps.

yeah we know that. there's alots people to takecare with her if she came back.but the thing is she doesnt want to give up and go back until her papers done yet. im so confused i want her back since she had a nicer daughter from other country and can go with her. she still can travel except here bec. we know that overstay they band 3 or 10 yrs. or 5 to 10 yrs.

i dont know what u think.

[enfm 0]

she should go back to the philippines

but how i can send in the philippines since she doesnt want it. i want her to go back even she does a good mom or bad mom. i want to go back her.

the thing is after my citizenship on oct. she think that we can set legalized her papers. i want to do the lawyer can says to her it might denied her papers or she have to go back. i dont want in my words that you have to go back bec. immigration denied something like that i want someone can says about that. because we know she's a good manipulate person she can tell not the truth to my aunt's and all my relatives here. and my thinking is my fault and blamed me that why she got deported/

[Anh map 2,098]

If you do not want to petition for your mother then it is easy, do not file the paper. Yes, you will have to say "no" to your mom. And someone may say something mean about you. Sorry, but that is what happens in family disagreements.

You cannot send her back. You can report her overstay to (ICE US Immigration and Customs Enforcement) 1-866-DHS-2-ICE as that agency would handle her removal. But there is no one that can insulate you from your decision.

Edited September 27, 2009 by Anh map