NVC October 2009 edition

[christeen 966]

I just had my case completed and when I talked to the operator to ask for the interview date, she told me to call back 3rd week of November! That long..! I really hope to be interviewed 1st or 2nd week of December since there will be a long non-working days in Manila in December. God help me!

yeah... that's true... let's try to call them back on nov.9(monday)... or better yet the other week... hayz... we can't do nothing but to wait... hayz...

Christeen-how long did it take for you to get the original Naples interview date after case complete???

I got login Failure around Sep 28... Then the final case complete on Sep 30... I got assigned the interview during the 2nd week of the month scheduling on Oct 13...

[FinnLove 0]

I just had my case completed and when I talked to the operator to ask for the interview date, she told me to call back 3rd week of November! That long..! I really hope to be interviewed 1st or 2nd week of December since there will be a long non-working days in Manila in December. God help me!

yeah... that's true... let's try to call them back on nov.9(monday)... or better yet the other week... hayz... we can't do nothing but to wait... hayz...

Christeen-how long did it take for you to get the original Naples interview date after case complete???

I got login Failure around Sep 28... Then the final case complete on Sep 30... I got assigned the interview during the 2nd week of the month scheduling on Oct 13...

Okay thanks! I'm wondering if I would get scheduled next week (2nd week of Nov) if my case is complete next week...oh who knows! I just want to figure out where I'm spending Xmas!!!

[david'sgirl 134]

Okay thanks! I'm wondering if I would get scheduled next week (2nd week of Nov) if my case is complete next week...oh who knows! I just want to figure out where I'm spending Xmas!!!

I know what you mean. I only have a couple of days off left for 2009 so if David cannot come at Christmas I may as well take them this month if I can. I feel like his work is the Grinch who stole Christmas because they ruined everything we planned by suddenly changing shifts and pay. It seems rather doubtful the house will be sold anytime soon as the sign only went up yesterday and the realtor has yet to list it. So even if we really got lucky and get a December interview he couldnt come. I am really tired of the uncertainty. I can't make plans. My hopes and dreams get dashed and it just is so hard all the time. If I knew when t would end I would be so much better able to cope. It is like having kids. Labor was hell but I knew it would not last orever and there would be a baby when I ws done. This process could be months, years or forever depending upon who handles our case. There are no deadlines or rhyme or reason. We are just helpless. I hate feelig this way. I love xmas and had already started planning when I got the bad news that we probably will spend our first married Christmas on separate sides of the ocean. I walked into a shop earlier that had xmas music on and left without buyin anything cos I got so emotional thinking about it.

I think maybe I should just not talk to anyone for a while cos I am too blue. Sorry for going on so long. I only meant to post a breid reply and left a novel!

[And_Sam 44]

I found a better flag!

It's a great one Scot!!

[And_Sam 44]

Okay thanks! I'm wondering if I would get scheduled next week (2nd week of Nov) if my case is complete next week...oh who knows! I just want to figure out where I'm spending Xmas!!!

I know what you mean. I only have a couple of days off left for 2009 so if David cannot come at Christmas I may as well take them this month if I can. I feel like his work is the Grinch who stole Christmas because they ruined everything we planned by suddenly changing shifts and pay. It seems rather doubtful the house will be sold anytime soon as the sign only went up yesterday and the realtor has yet to list it. So even if we really got lucky and get a December interview he couldnt come. I am really tired of the uncertainty. I can't make plans. My hopes and dreams get dashed and it just is so hard all the time. If I knew when t would end I would be so much better able to cope. It is like having kids. Labor was hell but I knew it would not last orever and there would be a baby when I ws done. This process could be months, years or forever depending upon who handles our case. There are no deadlines or rhyme or reason. We are just helpless. I hate feelig this way. I love xmas and had already started planning when I got the bad news that we probably will spend our first married Christmas on separate sides of the ocean. I walked into a shop earlier that had xmas music on and left without buyin anything cos I got so emotional thinking about it.

I think maybe I should just not talk to anyone for a while cos I am too blue. Sorry for going on so long. I only meant to post a breid reply and left a novel!

Aww Diane, don't get yourself depressed or I will get depressed too!! My husband won't be with me during the holidays but I know that we will have many many other holidays to spend together!! Keep your chin up! We are all on this long visa journey!!

[FinnLove 0]

Okay thanks! I'm wondering if I would get scheduled next week (2nd week of Nov) if my case is complete next week...oh who knows! I just want to figure out where I'm spending Xmas!!!

I know what you mean. I only have a couple of days off left for 2009 so if David cannot come at Christmas I may as well take them this month if I can. I feel like his work is the Grinch who stole Christmas because they ruined everything we planned by suddenly changing shifts and pay. It seems rather doubtful the house will be sold anytime soon as the sign only went up yesterday and the realtor has yet to list it. So even if we really got lucky and get a December interview he couldnt come. I am really tired of the uncertainty. I can't make plans. My hopes and dreams get dashed and it just is so hard all the time. If I knew when t would end I would be so much better able to cope. It is like having kids. Labor was hell but I knew it would not last orever and there would be a baby when I ws done. This process could be months, years or forever depending upon who handles our case. There are no deadlines or rhyme or reason. We are just helpless. I hate feelig this way. I love xmas and had already started planning when I got the bad news that we probably will spend our first married Christmas on separate sides of the ocean. I walked into a shop earlier that had xmas music on and left without buyin anything cos I got so emotional thinking about it.

I think maybe I should just not talk to anyone for a while cos I am too blue. Sorry for going on so long. I only meant to post a breid reply and left a novel!

Well, I know that sucks, but it'll be your last Xmas apart!!!!! It's hard for me to make plans too. I can't book a flight to Finland for Xmas because we don't have our interview date, and by the time I book it it'll probably cost thousands! This takes a toll on us, but remember-it's only a short period of time in the life we'll spend with our foreign loves!!!!! You need to talk to people if you're feeling blue. Too bad you live so far away or I'd kidnap you for a girls' night out! Hang in there Diane-it'll get better. I promise!

[david'sgirl 134]

Aww Diane, don't get yourself depressed or I will get depressed too!! My husband won't be with me during the holidays but I know that we will have many many other holidays to spend together!! Keep your chin up! We are all on this long visa journey!!

I know what you mean. I only have a couple of days off left for 2009 so if David cannot come at Christmas I may as well take

Well, I know that sucks, but it'll be your last Xmas apart!!!!! It's hard for me to make plans too. I can't book a flight to Finland for Xmas because we don't have our interview date, and by the time I book it it'll probably cost thousands! This takes a toll on us, but remember-it's only a short period of time in the life we'll spend with our foreign loves!!!!! You need to talk to people if you're feeling blue. Too bad you live so far away or I'd kidnap you for a girls' night out! Hang in there Diane-it'll get better. I promise!

Thanks girsl. I am going to see if taking a break from Visa journey helps any. I've raised two kids on my own and I work full time and take care of the houseand all of my own bills even though it is a real struggle most of the time. I have always forced myself to put on my big girl panties and deal with whatever I had to deal with cos my kids needed me to be strong for them. I am usually able to handle a lot of stress but it seems that maybe I have finally found my breaking point. I feel so completely undone about the holidays. It had been my goal, my target, the thing that gave me hope and in one fell swoop I lost that and any hope of us being together for interview. It is all starting to unravel. Apparently not every consulate gives interview after you get approved so even though we are getting closer to approvral is will be like three months before he gets an interview. Hopefully the house sells in tht time but if it doesnt then there will be more waiting. When he goes home after Thanksgiving it will be outr longest time spnt apart since we met and I will have no idea when we might se each other again. No way to know when to ask for time off at work which must be submitted in advance, no way to plan for anything. I need a deadline, a goal, a target. I need something tangible to look forward to because those milestones are the only thing keeping me from completely falling to pieces. I have never felt so desperately alone in my life. I miss my husband and need him so much. This policy of keeping families divided is ridiculous. Once people are approved they should be required to interview within a week or two. It is unfair to keep husband's and wives apart for extended periods of time. I think rather than bringing everyone down I will just try and pull myself together and put on a happy face before I post anymore. This is just so unbeleivably hard. I'm a complete mess these days. It seems so hopeless. I hope you get good news soon.

[FinnLove 0]

David's Girl-PM me if you need to, and I'll talk to you on the phone too if you want! I think we're all in the same boat, and I can relate to the single mom, taking care of a house stuff also. You need to hang in there, because in the big picture of our relationships, this is just a bleep in the timeline. What helps me is all the stuff I have to do with updating my house, cleaning my garage, and throwing myself into my job (and if I didn't have to sleep, I'd work it 24/7 right now-it's that busy!). I also try to get together with friends and also try to exercise daily. That helps keep the stress level down. I'm going on 3 1/2 months without seeing my Finn, and it's very hard.

Don't feel you need to stop posting because you feel you're bringing us down. We're here to help each other and support each other!

You're spending Thanksgiving together. That'll be great!!!!!!

I don't know what else to say, except be strong. Know that you have a husband that loves you dearly (as shown on this board!). It's hard having this all out of our control, but you have to look towards the future and how you will be together and not have to deal with all of this anymore...

[bquillera30 0]

ok guys lets cross our fingers for whole bunch of us have log in fails pleaseeeeeeeee

[And_Sam 44]

David's Girl-PM me if you need to, and I'll talk to you on the phone too if you want! I think we're all in the same boat, and I can relate to the single mom, taking care of a house stuff also. You need to hang in there, because in the big picture of our relationships, this is just a bleep in the timeline. What helps me is all the stuff I have to do with updating my house, cleaning my garage, and throwing myself into my job (and if I didn't have to sleep, I'd work it 24/7 right now-it's that busy!). I also try to get together with friends and also try to exercise daily. That helps keep the stress level down. I'm going on 3 1/2 months without seeing my Finn, and it's very hard.

Don't feel you need to stop posting because you feel you're bringing us down. We're here to help each other and support each other!

You're spending Thanksgiving together. That'll be great!!!!!!

I don't know what else to say, except be strong. Know that you have a husband that loves you dearly (as shown on this board!). It's hard having this all out of our control, but you have to look towards the future and how you will be together and not have to deal with all of this anymore...

I am in agreement with Finn too Diane!! We are all in the same boat together! You can PM or call me if you need too...

I still have my youngest son at home so he takes up a bit of my time even though he is at the age that moms aren't cool anymore (not that I ever was!!). It's been June since I have gotten to kiss or see my husband's sweet face unless it's through yahoo or skype! You just keep on drudging through this journey until you get to the end! Plenty of times I would focus until I got home and was able to at least see him through my webcam. Remember, you have made it this far and you will make it to the end!!!

ok guys lets cross our fingers for whole bunch of us have log in fails pleaseeeeeeeee

PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!! Fingers and toes and eyes crossed!!!

[david'sgirl 134]

Thanks girls. I was just having a bad day. We all have em.

The AVR has changed so apparently someone finally looked in thier In box. We sent the DS-230 Weds and then Fri they said they didnt have it but I have a signature and a time it arrived. So I sent an email and now the AVR says it was recieved. I hope that it won't be long now until we get a case complete. I hope you have good news this week. Thanks for being nice when I was being so silly. I'm embarassed for posting when I'm sad. I feel like such a drama queen!

[redmen99 1]

Thanks girls. I was just having a bad day. We all have em.

The AVR has changed so apparently someone finally looked in thier In box. We sent the DS-230 Weds and then Fri they said they didnt have it but I have a signature and a time it arrived. So I sent an email and now the AVR says it was recieved. I hope that it won't be long now until we get a case complete. I hope you have good news this week. Thanks for being nice when I was being so silly. I'm embarassed for posting when I'm sad. I feel like such a drama queen!

No worries. We have all been there once or twice in this process. And we may be there again. We are all here to support each other, celebrate with each other and be there when a friend needs a shoulder to cry on. I'm glad you are feeling better!

[david'sgirl 134]

ok guys lets cross our fingers for whole bunch of us have log in fails pleaseeeeeeeee

From your mouth to God's ears!

[david'sgirl 134]

Thanks girls. I was just having a bad day. We all have em.

The AVR has changed so apparently someone finally looked in thier In box. We sent the DS-230 Weds and then Fri they said they didnt have it but I have a signature and a time it arrived. So I sent an email and now the AVR says it was recieved. I hope that it won't be long now until we get a case complete. I hope you have good news this week. Thanks for being nice when I was being so silly. I'm embarassed for posting when I'm sad. I feel like such a drama queen!

No worries. We have all been there once or twice in this process. And we may be there again. We are all here to support each other, celebrate with each other and be there when a friend needs a shoulder to cry on. I'm glad you are feeling better!

Thanks. I was actually considering quietly slinking away when my sweet hubby asked me if I had called secret agent Finn for a chat. I wondered what he was talking about. He said you are getting support and offers to pm ad chat so go back on. I was surprised and grateful to find we've got some new friends. I do feel rather sheepish though...

Edited November 9, 2009 by david'sgirl

[FinnLove 0]

Thanks girls. I was just having a bad day. We all have em.

The AVR has changed so apparently someone finally looked in thier In box. We sent the DS-230 Weds and then Fri they said they didnt have it but I have a signature and a time it arrived. So I sent an email and now the AVR says it was recieved. I hope that it won't be long now until we get a case complete. I hope you have good news this week. Thanks for being nice when I was being so silly. I'm embarassed for posting when I'm sad. I feel like such a drama queen!

No worries. We have all been there once or twice in this process. And we may be there again. We are all here to support each other, celebrate with each other and be there when a friend needs a shoulder to cry on. I'm glad you are feeling better!

Thanks. I was actually considering quietly slinking away when my sweet hubby asked me if I had called secret agent Finn for a chat. I wondered what he was talking about. He said you are getting support and offers to pm ad chat so go back on. I was surprised and grateful to find we've got some new friends. I do feel rather sheepish though...

ha The Scot is so funny!!! Glad you're not slinking away...