How soon is too soon? Please help...

[kanno 0]

I got married and got my green card this year over 5 years of dating, but I'm afraid my marriage will last long.

My husband (USC) wants a divorce.

I'm devastated... I just found a job and started to feel like my life here has begun.

From this forum, there seems to be a way to remove condition on my green card without my husband, but If we get a divorce less than a year (like 8 months or so) after marriage, would I still have the chance to do that?

His family has been supportive and told me they would be willing to help me (not financially) if there is any way for me to stay.

I have known my husband all these years and can't believe this is happening... Any advice/suggestion would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.

[Rings 10]

You can still file removal of conditions, but you will need to have your divorced finalized in time. Go check out the form and it gives you instructions on what you will need in order to file as divorced.

Here is the link http://www.uscis.gov/files/form/I-751instr.pdf

[NArocks 13]

You need to make sure you show proof that it was a bonafide marriage, such as bills in both names , mail to same address etc.

[christeen 966]

If his family is supportive, they can also write letters that they know you to have entered the marriage in good faith and knew you two as husband and wife and you lived as a couple. That will help...

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation.

Here is what you need to know NOW. Everything else, including all of the details, we can talk about at a later time.

Yes, you can file for removal of conditions without your husband. The relative short time of your marriage isn't a hindrance. The one and only (or should I say "foremost") thing that counts is that you can SHOW that your marriage has been entered in good faith.

Therefore, get an empty shoebox and start collecting things that document that, from early photos, letters, copies of rental contracts, shared bank account statements, car insurance, vehicle titles, and photos, among other things.

Once your divorce is FINALIZED, you can immediately file for removal. You do not have to wait until the 90 days before your second GC anniversary.

But do this one step at a time. Start collecting evidence now.

[kanno 0]

Thanks everyone so much for your help.

So I understand that the proof of our bona fide marriage is much more important than the duration, but I was wondering if it would help in any way to try to stay married longer, or should we start the divorce process right now? The longer we stay married, the better chance I get approved?

He will wait for a while to file the divorce paper if I ask.

My green card is valid until the beginning of 2011, so I still have a plenty of time to finalize the divorce before filing for removal of my condition since I don't think our divorce will be so difficult... I have enough income to make a living on my own, and we have no kids, no property/assets that we could fight for.

We are already separated, but the lease of our apartment (my current residence) is until February 2010.

Any suggestion/advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!

[Chica Yeyé 41]

getting married longer will have no effect on your case, except of course if you guys patch things up and reconcile. Gather all your evidence and start building your Removal of Conditions packet.

Best of luck to you

[Brother Hesekiel 2,236]

If there's a way to patch up things, go for it. Otherwise note that if your divorce is not final by the time you NEED to file the I-751, you will enter the twilight zone where you will have to pull rabbits out of your hat. Wait if you like and see a chance to reconcile, but if that train has left the station, get a divorce without dragging it out to the last minute.