Wuv, true Wuv...and borders

[Bens_girl 0]

Hello all! My Name is Queenie (for real) and this is my story.

Ben is American. I'm Canadian. Been seeing him for a few years now. We've gotten serious in the last couple years, despite the distance and everything else that goes with it. I tried to bring him over the Canadian border for a visit and wasn't prepared properly for the event. I only wanted him to stay for 2 months, and they found every excuse to kick him out. They even put a Ban on him, he cant visit me for a year, and you know how terrible that is when you already got distance. We are not rich people, so whatever money we can come up with is a miracle in of itself. Oh, I was engaged at the time this happened, but that wasn't good enough. anyhow...

Last month on a visit I married him. I guess the stress of the border incident got to us and the fact we love each other so much and cant stand this distance between us. Sadly, when my visit was up (a few weeks) I had to go home, because I didn't know about any K-1 visa options. Heck, I still don't know enough about this process.

But what we really want is to be together, but he wants to move to Canada, and I'm not sure we can do that in our current situation. My idea is maybe I go to the states for a while, like 6 months, and see if that helps bring him to Canada later. I'm kind of at a loss here. I miss him and he misses me and the stress of that is unbearable. Then I gotta stare at all these papers that in my mind, are just red tape controlling my marriage. Seems rather unfair. I'm sure you've all felt it, so for once I wont be alone in my misery over all this. But if you have advice I would appreciate it, because I am not very good with red tape.

Thanks all.

[marliesandjames 0]

Hello all! My Name is Queenie (for real) and this is my story.

Ben is American. I'm Canadian. Been seeing him for a few years now. We've gotten serious in the last couple years, despite the distance and everything else that goes with it. I tried to bring him over the Canadian border for a visit and wasn't prepared properly for the event. I only wanted him to stay for 2 months, and they found every excuse to kick him out. They even put a Ban on him, he cant visit me for a year, and you know how terrible that is when you already got distance. We are not rich people, so whatever money we can come up with is a miracle in of itself. Oh, I was engaged at the time this happened, but that wasn't good enough. anyhow...

Last month on a visit I married him. I guess the stress of the border incident got to us and the fact we love each other so much and cant stand this distance between us. Sadly, when my visit was up (a few weeks) I had to go home, because I didn't know about any K-1 visa options. Heck, I still don't know enough about this process.

But what we really want is to be together, but he wants to move to Canada, and I'm not sure we can do that in our current situation. My idea is maybe I go to the states for a while, like 6 months, and see if that helps bring him to Canada later. I'm kind of at a loss here. I miss him and he misses me and the stress of that is unbearable. Then I gotta stare at all these papers that in my mind, are just red tape controlling my marriage. Seems rather unfair. I'm sure you've all felt it, so for once I wont be alone in my misery over all this. But if you have advice I would appreciate it, because I am not very good with red tape.

Thanks all.

Hi Queenie!

I think your best bet is to file for an I-130 and become an American citizen for a while.After that you can still move back to Canada.